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Where are you going? Who is going with you?

Where are you going? Who is going with you?

The words of Neale Donald Walsch who became well know from his writing of the series of books called “Conversation with God” are resonating with me at the moment. In order to hopefully pass on some useful information, I have sought out his writings on the subject of relationships. His words on this topic are clear.

The “Conversations with God” books tell us that the purpose of relationships is not to find someone to meet all of our needs, or to make us happy, but to experience ourselves in an extraordinary way. As a person who has no needs! The most important step to take is one that most people have never taken or thought too much about. We must decide who we are and who we choose to be. Not only in a significant relationship, but also to all of life.

Where are you going? Who is going with you?

Where are you going? Who is going with you?

Without having made this decision, life can be like aimlessly bumping into people and situations; becoming discontented, angry, disillusioned or frustrated.

These books announce “Masters enter into relationships – not as someone who seeks to receive, but as someone who seeks to give.” This doesn’t mean necessarily to give money or gifts, but to seek to freely give the essence of who they really are.

Walsch writes “The true and only purpose of relationship is to announce and declare, express and fulfill, experience and become who you really are…there can be only two questions that are asked with regard to human relationships:

1. Where are am I going?

2. Who is going with me?

But very few people understand romantic relationships in this way.

Walsch writes,  “The first person that I have to be truly loving with, is myself. Loving oneself does not mean being selfish. It means loving yourself enough to be authentically YOU even if it looks like doing so will cause others to depart.”

His writings say that when you speak your truth, some may depart from your life, but others will join you in a new and powerful way because they resonate with who you are. They are people who have the same intentions and the same goals and they feel a harmony with you. They may not be the same as you in certain ways. Something that is very important, he writes, is that people cannot know (and nor can you) whether or not they are compatible unless they know who you are in your truthful self.

Walsch invites us to love ourselves enough to speak our deepest truth to everyone whose life we touch. He goes on ” The willingness to lose another rather than hold them in your life under false pretenses is the highest act of love. And the irony of all this is that having the courage to share what it is that you are certain will drive the other person away—is very often precisely what inspires them to stay. For they then know that they are not living with an “image” of you, but with a reality. A truth. The authentic article. The real thing.”

In his article, Walsch finishes by inviting us to “Just tell the truth. Say the words that will be welcomed, and the words that you know will not. Be brave. Be courageous. Be authentic. Be truthful. And in so doing, be the essence of love itself.”

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Margaret Newitt
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Are you prioritising your dating life?

Are you prioritising your dating life?

What is the most important area of your life? Is your love life as important as watching your favourite show on TV or your 40-50 hour a week job? Sometimes I think it must not be. I know you’re busy and have your priorities. If you were at the end of your life and looking back, would you wish you had worked more hours or would you regret not making your personal life a priority?

Are you prioritising your dating life?

Are you prioritising your dating life?

Any goal you set for yourself has a formula for success. Failure is never that you don’t know how to achieve the goal. It’s that you won’t take the necessary steps to make it happen.

Are you prioritising your dating life?

Are you prioritising your dating life?

Dating isn’t that intricate or difficult. There’s a basic formula that will lead to meeting a loving partner.    

1. Choose an avenue for meeting suitable singles (find something you enjoy along the way)
2.  Ask as many questions as possible about how other singles have achieved dating success through the service.
3. Ask for  advice from the singles organisation or study up on the best dating tips and behaviour.
4. Spend some time and a little money on making the most of your appearance. (Everyone has attractive qualities. It’s a matter of drawing attention to them)
5. Know what your boundaries are that are non-negotiable.
6. Outside of your non-negotiables, be open to whom you date.
7. Be open to catching up with a potential partner a 2nd (or 3rd) time.
8. Date your potential partners and give them a real chance (Don’t dismiss them without seeing the possible gem)
9. Continue dating until you find someone who’s worthy of your love and life.
That’s it!

If you’re ready for this approach to meeting singles and finding one of the good gals/guys, click on the link to our Membership Enquiry Form and I will call you to talk about how we can help you.

Looking back, I have this to regret, that too often when I loved, I did not say so.
~ David Grayson

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Margaret Newitt
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Let Love In

Let Love In

For singles, every day represents a defining point. Your life can be astounding, or just another day. Life can be rich with adventure, love and experience. Or, it can be mundane and predictable. This drastic contrast is the end result of our thoughts, and life choices. Singles who have an amazing life have worked to attain it. They have spent time developing their life in the direction they wish it to travel. They have expanded their mental and physical horizons. They have maintained an attitude of curiosity and wonder and they see the glass as half full. They have spent some time doing inner work and are consciously aware.

Friends at a party sitting around a dinner table raising their glasses in a toast and congratulations as they celebrate a special occasion

Let Love In

Singles may rationalise their inaction . Our inner voices may sound very reasonable when they try to talk you out of moving out of your comfort zone. Have you noticed any of these lurking in your mind? (from Let love In by Debra Bernt)

  Procastinator. I’ll start dating next month, next year when I lose weight, when I fix myself, when my kids grow up.
Worrier. I’m afraid of rejection. Dating is dangerous.
Skeptic. There is no use in trying. There is no one out there for me. I will never meet anyone.
Judgement. Men/women suck. They are not worth my time. Stay away!
Beginner. I don’t know the first thing about dating, and I am not ready to put myself out there.

When singles are lazy about improving their dating life, nothing happens. You have the ability to draw the right person to you, but this won’t happen if you don’t leave the house. Your opportunities to meet someone greatly increase when you go places that other singles frequent.

Break the cycle, there is never a better time than now to make changes in your life. Be open to new opportunities.

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Margaret Newitt
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Are you reaching your dating goals?

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Are you reaching your dating goals?
Your dating goals can be elusive. Have you ever made a decision about something in life that you would like to achieve? Have you defined a dating goal you are determined to reach? Then I’m sure you are familiar with the fears and roadblocks that emerge that stop most people.

Your dating goals

Your dating goals

What if we treated these stumbling blocks as part of the process? You could treat them for what they are, just something to handle, rather than letting them stop you.

Think about it. As soon as you say your dating goal is to meet a new life partner, the next moment thoughts arise such as I’ve tried to meet someone before and didn’t meet anyone suitable or I’ll have to go out to events and meet strangers start to pop into your mind. You might have thoughts like There are no decent men/women who are single out there or I could get my heart broken again. These thoughts are your fears stepping in. They are all the reasons why you shouldn’t even start on this goal.

Your dating goals

Your dating goals

You may have a fear of failure, a fear of rejection, or a fear of making a fool of yourself. These fears are very normal and are merely a part of the process.

The universe is sure to throw a roadblock up for you. My children are all now off my hands, but now one of them needs your attention because of ill health or My working hours had become less stressful, but now my boss is sick and I have to step up. These roadblocks are simply real world circumstances. There will always be a reason not to go for your dreams if you let them.

You may even venture out to some singles events. Perhaps you haven’t met any potential partners. Or, you meet someone who seems perfect, and they have no interest in you. Here’s a saying I love to use “The Universe has something much better in store for me.”

See these obstacles as the very things that have been holding you back. Once you can see the subconscious thoughts and feelings that are holding you back, you can face them and deal with them. Once you do, you will be much better prepared for the next exciting venture in your life.

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Margaret Newitt
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Starting over after a breakup or a long relationship

Starting over after a breakup or a long relationship

I often speak to singles who have come out of a long relationship. Sometimes it is quite recently and other times it has been some years. They are not sure if they are ready to go out to our singles dinners to meet people again.

Starting over after a breakup or a long relationship

Starting over after a breakup or a long relationship

Starting over can be a very tough thing to do. But most of us have to face this in our lives in one way or another. Taking control of new circumstances such as the death of a loved one or the estrangement of a partner is important in turning your life around.

One of the most important things to do is to give yourself new things to do to keep your mind busy. Your mind is a beautiful tool, so don’t allow it to dwell on the past too much as that will stop you enjoying the present. You don’t need to destroy the past, but to put it away until we are healthy enough to deal with what happened.

Surround yourself with your friends and family. If they haven’t already surrounded you with their love and support, go and see them yourself. They will provide comfort and remind you how wonderful you are.

Starting to date again and meeting new singles after a breakup could be a little like getting back into the job market. Waiting too long can have people wondering if there’s something wrong with you. But the longer you wait, the harder it can be to get back into the world of meeting new people.

The healthiest thing to do is to go out and meet other singles. It’s perfectly fine to be honest and let people know you are testing the waters. Many others have been through something similar and will understand how you are feeling. Our A Table for Six singles dinners are designed to give you the opportunity to go out and meet in a friendly pressure free environment.

The decision to date again is a deeply personal one that only you can make. But rest assured that love walks on earth in many forms, and this may be an opportunity to teach another human being what it means to be truly loved.

Margaret Newitt
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Have you decided you are not dating right now?

Have you decided you are not dating right now?

When we were children , we had big dreams. We believed we could be anything  we wished and could have anything we desired.
What happened to those dreams?
Life inevitably sends us knocks. And then fear and doubt chip away at our dreams until they’re reduced to memories and wishes that might have been.
There are always choices. Every day we are sent opportunities, but we don’t always recognise them.
There is always a choice of which path to take. Take the same path you are familiar with and know what to expect. Or another path that is unknown and may be uncomfortable.
There’s no right or wrong. But  to never try something new or different is to play small and to rob life of the excitement of changes and challenges.

Have you decided you are not dating right now?

Have you decided you are not dating right now?

Anything that we do for the first time can be scary or difficult. It can never be as scary once you have faced your fears. One thing that we don’t think about is that there is only one first time.
Every time we take a step out of our comfort zone to do something we haven’t done before, we always learn more than we expected to.

How do I know if I am taking the easy road? How do I know if I am choosing not to date right now?

Do you regularly do any of these activities to meet singles?

Go to the niche places where you could meet singles. Join clubs, take classes, volunteer or do any of the things that would put singles in front of you?
Start conversations or say a friendly “Hi” to people you meet as you go about your daily life?
Attend social events to increase your chances of meeting someone new?
Plan some social events with your friends and see who shows up. Make it clear new people are welcome?
Accept every invitation to a party, wedding or gathering you are given?
Attend community groups that services other people with a similar interests?
Talk to people in your local coffee shop?

Without trying some new places to meet singles, you have decided you are not dating at the moment.

When we venture to places we have never been before, doing something we haven’t done before, our experience of the world expands. Usually we learn a lot more about ourselves and how we have been holding ourselves back.

Our A Table for Six dinners are a great way to meet singles, make friends or meet a partner. Explore new opportunities and make your dreams come true.

“Opportunity dances with those on the dance floor.” — Anonymous

Margaret Newitt
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Simple powerful techniques to use at A Table for Six

Simple powerful techniques to use at A Table for Six

Why is it that some people are able to connect with a lot of people when they meet, and others struggle to make any connections at all? We’ve all met these popular people. Everyone is attracted to them like moths to a flame. Do you think that those people that everyone wants to talk to and spend time with are just lucky? Were they born with a happy disposition and do they never feel a little low or angry or upset?

Simple powerful techniques to use at A Table for Six

Simple powerful techniques to use at A Table for Six

I think that most people feel a whole range of emotions from  happy, positive, creative, a sense of wonder right through to negative, complaining and on bad days even sad and angry. You may have thought that the process of thinking is random and spontaneous and that you just experience your thoughts rather than decide on them. But if you become conscious of your thoughts, you can notice where they wander and you may be surprised at how negative they are.

Most of us believe that we are mostly positive people who see the glass half full. But it is only when we consciously take note of our inner voice and our thoughts that we can recognise that we aren’t really as positive as we thought.

One thing is for sure, if there is an area in your life where you are left wanting, then this is an area where you need to take control of your thoughts.

Being conscious our your thoughts, and reshaping them into something positive can have a profound effect on the outcomes of your life. If you have limiting beliefs, you won’t even notice the opportunities that come your way every day.

Examples of limiting beliefs

There aren’t enough good men/ women to go around. How about- There are plenty of wonderful men/women to meet and have a successful and happy life. I am attracting them to me now.

I couldn’t enjoy the dinner, someone didn’t make it, so there weren’t 6 people there. How about – I met interesting single people who I can be friends with and whom I can expand my social circle with.  I may meet a partner through their network.

I can’t go to the dinners, I work away a lot and no one will want a relationship with me. How about- I can go and have a great time at dinner, and I can meet people who would love a friend/partner who is away sometimes. I only need one partner and they are attracted to me now.

I can’t go out and meet new people. I’m not ready to date again yet. How about – I can go to the dinners and enjoy meeting other singles. I can learn about being single and make friends.

Dating always turns out badly for me. I just have bad luck. How about – I acknowledge all the good things I have in my life. I am attracting more and more happy circumstances. I am truly lucky and blessed.

I don’t have enough money, confidence, good looks, education to succeed in dating. How about – I have all that I need to succeed. I have all the resources I need to create the great future that I want.

I won’t meet anyone I want to have a relationship with. They have to fit certain criteria and I don’t meet these people. How about – I am open to the people who come into my life. I am non-judgemental and acknowledge that a future partner may come in a different package than I imagined. I value all of the people I meet and know that a new partner is coming into my life now.

Do you recognise any of these as being a story that you have in your life? Your belief system causes the most suffering in your life. You may wish to blame your lack of money, bad relationships, bad upbringing. But it is your fear and judgement that makes you the most miserable.

When you choose to lighten your energy and make the decision to let go of despair, you can embrace your unlimited potential. That’s when your outcomes will change and so will your life.

So be mindful of your thoughts– and change them when you notice they are negative. It takes some practise, but will make an amazing difference in your life.

Margaret Newitt
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The secret advantage to connecting with a loving partner

The secret advantage to connecting with a loving partner
Does it seem to you that some people are just always happy and enjoying themselves? Does it seem as though they have the perfect life? Well guess what? They do! But here’s the most interesting and exciting revelation. So can you!

The secret to seeing everyone you meet as amazing!

The secret to seeing everyone you meet as amazing!

Attitude is everything
Pop psychology, spiritualists and mystics have been trying to tell us for many years that our attitude is everything and that it determines our view on the world and also the way we experience our life. But, most people still believe that reality (the external world), shapes and determines how we experience our life and the world. It determines how we feel, what we think, the way we perceive things and our way of being (our internal world and ourselves).

But, now, the sciences such as Biology and Physics also have  proven what pop psychology has been sprouting for years. It is our own thoughts, feelings, the way we see and perceive things around us that dramatically shape and determine our so-called reality.

The unavoidable tendency of humans to influence particles
I’m sure it took a long time for people in Columbus’s time to believe that the planet was round. Copernicus’ generation would have struggled for a long time to believe that the earth isn’t the centre of the universe, and that the planets revolve around the sun. So, it will take some time yet before “we” comprehend Heisenberg’s Uncertainty Principle – It is the unavoidable tendency of humans to influence particles, just by our observing them.

I’m not sure about you, but I’m always excited when I remind myself that I have the ability to change the way my life experiences pan out. That’s so much more empowering than feeling as though I’m just powerless and have to deal with outside forces and whatever live throws at me.

Change your state of being to achieve a different outcome
How does this relate to our social life, dating, and ultimately connecting with a loving partner? As Tony Robbins exclaims “Change your state of being to achieve a different outcome.” There are lots of ways to do this. Too many for this story. So, if you are not getting the outcome you’d like, give yourself one of the greatest  gifts you can give yourself. Adopt a positive attitude, see life as an adventure and maintain a curiosity and fascination for life. Life is a product of the observer’s intent.

Here’s a link to a Ted Talk on this subject by Shawn Achor: The secret to better work. It’s short, sweet and funny. Enjoy!

The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge but imagination.” ~Albert Einstein
Decide to shape our own thoughts and experience this week
Margaret Newitt
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New relationships bring new experiences

New relationships bring new experiences
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Relationship breakdown
When a relationship breaks down, it allows a space for new ones that are fundamentally better for us in our current situation in life, to develop.
Even though they will never take the place of someone who holds a very special place in your heart, they will bring new experiences and will be good for you in new and different ways.
You may feel as though you will  never feel that way about someone again, but I promise you will fall in love again (probably more than once).

New relationships bring new experiences

New relationships bring new experiences

We seem to know what we don’t want
Relationships are such a great vehicle for learning. Our partners can teach us about what we need and want in a relationship. They can also show us what we definitely do not want. I’ve spoken to many people who have learned that one – I don’t want to be with someone who works long hours, or I don’t want to meet anyone who is too religious. It’s amazing how we seem to know what we don’t want.
A healthy and loving relationship can show us what we want and deserve. In a relationship that is not so healthy, we quickly learn  which flaws we can deal with, and which flaws we can’t.
Everyone comes with their own flaws
Everyone you enter into a relationship with will come with their own set of baggage and flaws, just as you do. Undoubtedly, some of these flaws will get under your skin more than others. Even a similar flaw may not bother you in one partner, but combined with other flaws in another, it may be too much to handle.
Some of your own flaws might make a certain partnership basically incompatible. That doesn’t mean that you or your mismatched partners are broken or unlovable; it just means that it probably isn’t going to be a blissful relationship.

All of our previous relationships have lessons for us and we can look back on our experiences and notice the good and the bad with them. Hopefully we can make better decisions with these things in mind. New relationships bring new experiences.

This part of a quote I found recently
“Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by mean of good luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness & sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without this small test, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. It would be safe & comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.
The people that you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience, help to create who you are and who you will become Even the bad experiences are learned from. In fact, they are the most poignant ones.
If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious when you open your heart. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love & how to open your heart & eyes to things.”

There’s a moral here: People come into our lives to teach us something. People come and people go and people make a difference. And it’s okay that they’re not in our lives anymore.
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Do you have symptoms of dating exhaustion?

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Do you have symptoms of dating exhaustion?
We have had a lot of success partnering our members up in the first part of this year. Our testimonial page has a list of many happy couples that have met via A Table for Six. We also heard from members who met through other means, but they said that attending our dinners gave them the confidence in their lives that made all the difference. Our members tell us that they enjoy the dinners so much because they find them relaxed, and fun. The pressure they feel with internet dating isn’t there at our dinners. It’s all about the group enjoying some single company and conversation over dinner.
I never tire of hearing the members feedback and hearing of their enjoyment. We love to hear the good stories from our happy members.

Do you ever feel as though there is someone out there that you could be deeply connected to-Someone that you haven’t met yet? Do you have symptoms of dating exhaustion?

Do you have symptoms of dating exhaustion?

Do you have symptoms of dating exhaustion?

If you’re like most people who are single (and would prefer not to be), in spite of this wonderful sense of possibility, you also struggle with the challenge of how to bring this beloved person into your life. You may feel disappointed, frustrated, confused and even pain sometimes because they are not in your life yet.

I’m not usually a country music fan, but I caught a few lines of a song by Adam Brandt called “There will be love” that says it all. ” There will be love in our lives, just as long as we are willing to try.”

If any of that sounds familiar to you, we have helped people who thought they would never have success in dating again. Perhaps you need a nudge in the right direction, or you fear you are the least likely to succeed in dating.

Just remember, you don’t need to change anything externally about yourself or your life. You only need to let go of those obstacles you have that are holding you back. Instead of spending the rest of the year hoping for love that doesn’t show up, you can contact us so that we can organise to have you out and meeting our fabulous members at dinners as soon as this weekend. You’ll be amazed by how quickly it can happen.

I want to invite you to make a commitment to yourself… A commitment that you’ll make this year the one you look back on as the year you made a change in your life.

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Margaret Newitt
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