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New relationships bring new experiences

New relationships bring new experiences

When a relationship breaks down, it allows a space for new ones that are fundamentally better for us in our current situation in life, to develop.

Even though they will never take the place of someone who holds a very special place in your heart, they will bring new experiences and will be good for you in new and different ways.

New relationships bring new experiences

New relationships bring new experiences

You may feel as though you will  never feel that way about someone again, but I promise you will fall in love again (probably more than once).

Relationships are such a great vehicle for learning. Our partners can teach us about what we need and want in a relationship. They can also show us what we definitely do not want. I’ve spoken to many people who have learned that one – I don’t want to be with someone who works long hours, or I don’t want to meet anyone who is too religious. It’s amazing how we seem to know what we don’t want.

A healthy and loving relationship can show us what we want and deserve. In a relationship that is not so healthy, we quickly learn  which flaws we can deal with, and which flaws we can’t.

Everyone you enter into a relationship with will come with their own set of baggage and flaws, just as you do. Undoubtedly, some of these flaws will get under your skin more than others. Even a similar flaw may not bother you in one partner, but combined with other flaws in another, it may be too much to handle.

Some of your own flaws might make a certain partnership basically incompatible. That doesn’t mean that you or your mismatched partners are broken or unlovable; it just means that it probably isn’t going to be a blissful relationship.

All of our previous relationships have lessons for us and we can look back on our experiences and notice the good and the bad with them. Hopefully we can make better decisions with these things in mind.

A quote I found recently

“Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by mean of good luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness & sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without this small test, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. It would be safe & comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.
The people that you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience, help to create who you are and who you will become Even the bad experiences are learned from. In fact, they are the most poignant ones.
If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious when you open your heart. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love & how to open your heart & eyes to things.

So, there’s a moral here: People come into our lives to teach us something. People come and people go and people make a difference. And it’s okay that they’re not in our lives anymore.

Be grateful for all of your relationships this week
Margaret Newitt
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How to attract the prefect Person for YOU!

How to attract the prefect Person for YOU

Some people believe that to find a perfect partner, they need to find someone who shares the same interests, hobbies, falls within a certain age group or looks a certain way.

How to attract the perfect person for YOU

How to attract the perfect person for YOU

How to attract the perfect person for YOU

How to attract the perfect person for YOU

Of course, nobody is perfect. Everyone has some flaws or baggage if they have lived a life. But to find someone who has the right attitude with a few flaws is more realistic. For a relationship to survive in the medium to long term, it is more important to share most of the same values.

When our members join A Table for Six, we do take information on these interests and also their values. Some people have spent more time on deciding what is important in a car than their relationship. So take some time to list your top ten values . Then when you meet someone, you have a gauge to go by. Don’t expect them to be 10’s on every single item on your list, at least a 6 and preferable an 8 or 9.

Some of the more common core values might be;

  • They believe that family is very important.
  • They believe that maintaining a healthy work/life balance is important.
  • They believe that honesty is of utmost important and trust must be earned.
  • They believe, or don’t believe in God or have an affiliation with a religious institution.
  • They believe in maintaining a healthy body.
  • They have a belief in being responsible in handling finances.

These are also values you might list as important to you;
Loving, nurturing, fit, inspiring, positive, motivated, fun-loving humorous, creative, honest, consistent, open-minded, committed, loyal, dependable, adventurous, passionate, respectful, athletic, educated, respected.

To really know if someone you meet has these values may take time. It is very well if they say they have them, but  a core value is only a core value if the person lives by them, at least most of the time.

So what do you want? It’s good to have high standards, but who do you need to become to attract the person with these qualities you have listed? Is it time to look within yourself and ask if you are someone a person with these values would be attracted to? This is the real question and where the biggest opportunity of change lies! It can also be hardest. Start putting a plan together for your life. Contact us for a no obligation chat about your social/dating future.

“For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.”
— Audrey Hepburn

Become the person you want to attract this week
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Don’t look back and regret the love you didn’t let in

Don’t look back and regret the love you didn’t let in

If you have a belief that life should always be perfect, you will often be disappointed. When you realise that people and situations are rarely perfect, you can start to appreciate people and the situations in your life for what they are. It is our imperfections that make us interesting. We often warm to people when they share some of their weaknesses more than people who try to portray themselves as never making a mistake.

Don’t look back and regret the love you didn’t let in

Don’t look back and regret the love you didn’t let in

Mistakes help us to learn. Give yourself a break. Let go of the idea that you, your life, your relationships, your health, your fitness need to be perfect. Think of your life as a journey filled with endless playful exploration. It is better to truly be yourself, living your life honestly, happily and less than perfectly. Let go of any expectations that society tries to put you on.

Don’t look back and regret the love you didn’t let in

Don’t look back and regret the love you didn’t let in

Give yourself a 2nd chance..or however many chances you need. We often don’t get things right the first time, with relationships or in any area of our life. Most of the time the only difference between winners and losers is that winners don’t quit. They make the decision to try again. Many of our A Table for Six members who have met their partner attended a number of dinners before meeting them.

Let go of the things you can’t control and don’t carry them around with you. Use any mistakes you think you have made as lessons in your journey. Every day you have a chance at a new beginning. Just because something didn’t go as you had planned, doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth your while. You’ve learned about something that doesn’t work and now you can discover what does.

Don’t look back on your life and think I should have done that. Make the most of your time today and appreciate the opportunities you have. Don’t look back and regret the chances you never took and the love you didn’t let in.

Are there some steps you have been putting off taking for your happiness? Life is a journey that’s only traveled once, so don’t waste it.

“I do not trust people who don’t love themselves and yet tell me, ‘I love you.’ There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt.”  ―Maya Angelou

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What is the story you tell about yourself?

  • What is the story you tell about yourself?
    You’re just about to ask that lady/gentleman you’ve met and really like, to join you for a drink or a walk on Sunday. But, instead you just freeze, smile, nod. You’re paralysed by the fear of getting a no.Or, you almost say yes to a friend’s invitation to meet a single friend of theirs. They’d love you to have the chance to get tho know their special friend. But, all of a sudden you’re too busy.

    What is the story you tell about yourself?

    What is the story you tell about yourself?

    Does this sound familiar? We’ve all fallen victim to worrying about that attractive lady/gentleman not liking you. Imagining people secretly laughing, or being shunned by people.

    Will anybody like it?
    Everytime I write these stories, I still think, “Will anybody like it, or gain anything from reading it”? When I share my goals for my business and how I’d like to make a difference in single people’s lives, I still fear they might think I’m lame.

    Something amazing happens
    But, when I have the courage to share my story fully and speak my truth, something amazing happens. I connect with the people who are meant to find me. The message is authentic and people can feel that and connect with it. And, I don’t have that disconnect that we feel when we compromise our story and feelings.

    Don’t let the fear of what other people think hold you back from saying what you really want to say.(unless, it is hurtful or rude)

    Nobody is thinking about you
    You might as well go ahead and accept that invitation where you’ll have an opportunity to meet interesting people. You’ll walk in feeling a little nervous. The funny thing is, that the other people are  worrying about what everyone thinks about them too. Nobody is really thinking about anyone else at all.

    Isn’t that liberating? The reality is that most people don’t really care about what you do. They’re too busy worrying about looking good themselves. You might as well go ahead and do what you want to do.

    Be your true self today

    1. Ask for that date with confidence.
    2. Accept that invitation.
    3.  Share your own story and don’t skip over the embarrassing bits. They make  you more interesting and human.
    4. Dance like no one is watching.

“I challenge you to make your life a masterpiece. I challenge you to join the ranks of those people who live what they teach, who walk their talk.” – Tony Robbins

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Margaret Newitt
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Where are you going? Who is going with you?

Where are you going? Who is going with you?

The words of Neale Donald Walsch who became well know from his writing of the series of books called “Conversation with God” are resonating with me at the moment. In order to hopefully pass on some useful information, I have sought out his writings on the subject of relationships. His words on this topic are clear.

The “Conversations with God” books tell us that the purpose of relationships is not to find someone to meet all of our needs, or to make us happy, but to experience ourselves in an extraordinary way. As a person who has no needs! The most important step to take is one that most people have never taken or thought too much about. We must decide who we are and who we choose to be. Not only in a significant relationship, but also to all of life.

Where are you going? Who is going with you?

Where are you going? Who is going with you?

Without having made this decision, life can be like aimlessly bumping into people and situations; becoming discontented, angry, disillusioned or frustrated.

These books announce “Masters enter into relationships – not as someone who seeks to receive, but as someone who seeks to give.” This doesn’t mean necessarily to give money or gifts, but to seek to freely give the essence of who they really are.

Walsch writes “The true and only purpose of relationship is to announce and declare, express and fulfill, experience and become who you really are…there can be only two questions that are asked with regard to human relationships:

1. Where are am I going?

2. Who is going with me?

But very few people understand romantic relationships in this way.

Walsch writes,  “The first person that I have to be truly loving with, is myself. Loving oneself does not mean being selfish. It means loving yourself enough to be authentically YOU even if it looks like doing so will cause others to depart.”

His writings say that when you speak your truth, some may depart from your life, but others will join you in a new and powerful way because they resonate with who you are. They are people who have the same intentions and the same goals and they feel a harmony with you. They may not be the same as you in certain ways. Something that is very important, he writes, is that people cannot know (and nor can you) whether or not they are compatible unless they know who you are in your truthful self.

Walsch invites us to love ourselves enough to speak our deepest truth to everyone whose life we touch. He goes on ” The willingness to lose another rather than hold them in your life under false pretenses is the highest act of love. And the irony of all this is that having the courage to share what it is that you are certain will drive the other person away—is very often precisely what inspires them to stay. For they then know that they are not living with an “image” of you, but with a reality. A truth. The authentic article. The real thing.”

In his article, Walsch finishes by inviting us to “Just tell the truth. Say the words that will be welcomed, and the words that you know will not. Be brave. Be courageous. Be authentic. Be truthful. And in so doing, be the essence of love itself.”

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Are you prioritising your dating life?

Are you prioritising your dating life?

What is the most important area of your life? Is your love life as important as watching your favourite show on TV or your 40-50 hour a week job? Sometimes I think it must not be. I know you’re busy and have your priorities. If you were at the end of your life and looking back, would you wish you had worked more hours or would you regret not making your personal life a priority?

Are you prioritising your dating life?

Are you prioritising your dating life?

Any goal you set for yourself has a formula for success. Failure is never that you don’t know how to achieve the goal. It’s that you won’t take the necessary steps to make it happen.

Are you prioritising your dating life?

Are you prioritising your dating life?

Dating isn’t that intricate or difficult. There’s a basic formula that will lead to meeting a loving partner.    

1. Choose an avenue for meeting suitable singles (find something you enjoy along the way)
2.  Ask as many questions as possible about how other singles have achieved dating success through the service.
3. Ask for  advice from the singles organisation or study up on the best dating tips and behaviour.
4. Spend some time and a little money on making the most of your appearance. (Everyone has attractive qualities. It’s a matter of drawing attention to them)
5. Know what your boundaries are that are non-negotiable.
6. Outside of your non-negotiables, be open to whom you date.
7. Be open to catching up with a potential partner a 2nd (or 3rd) time.
8. Date your potential partners and give them a real chance (Don’t dismiss them without seeing the possible gem)
9. Continue dating until you find someone who’s worthy of your love and life.
That’s it!

If you’re ready for this approach to meeting singles and finding one of the good gals/guys, click on the link to our Membership Enquiry Form and I will call you to talk about how we can help you.

Looking back, I have this to regret, that too often when I loved, I did not say so.
~ David Grayson

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Let Love In

Let Love In

For singles, every day represents a defining point. Your life can be astounding, or just another day. Life can be rich with adventure, love and experience. Or, it can be mundane and predictable. This drastic contrast is the end result of our thoughts, and life choices. Singles who have an amazing life have worked to attain it. They have spent time developing their life in the direction they wish it to travel. They have expanded their mental and physical horizons. They have maintained an attitude of curiosity and wonder and they see the glass as half full. They have spent some time doing inner work and are consciously aware.

Friends at a party sitting around a dinner table raising their glasses in a toast and congratulations as they celebrate a special occasion

Let Love In

Singles may rationalise their inaction . Our inner voices may sound very reasonable when they try to talk you out of moving out of your comfort zone. Have you noticed any of these lurking in your mind? (from Let love In by Debra Bernt)

  Procastinator. I’ll start dating next month, next year when I lose weight, when I fix myself, when my kids grow up.
Worrier. I’m afraid of rejection. Dating is dangerous.
Skeptic. There is no use in trying. There is no one out there for me. I will never meet anyone.
Judgement. Men/women suck. They are not worth my time. Stay away!
Beginner. I don’t know the first thing about dating, and I am not ready to put myself out there.

When singles are lazy about improving their dating life, nothing happens. You have the ability to draw the right person to you, but this won’t happen if you don’t leave the house. Your opportunities to meet someone greatly increase when you go places that other singles frequent.

Break the cycle, there is never a better time than now to make changes in your life. Be open to new opportunities.

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Margaret Newitt
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Are you reaching your dating goals?

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Are you reaching your dating goals?
Your dating goals can be elusive. Have you ever made a decision about something in life that you would like to achieve? Have you defined a dating goal you are determined to reach? Then I’m sure you are familiar with the fears and roadblocks that emerge that stop most people.

Your dating goals

Your dating goals

What if we treated these stumbling blocks as part of the process? You could treat them for what they are, just something to handle, rather than letting them stop you.

Think about it. As soon as you say your dating goal is to meet a new life partner, the next moment thoughts arise such as I’ve tried to meet someone before and didn’t meet anyone suitable or I’ll have to go out to events and meet strangers start to pop into your mind. You might have thoughts like There are no decent men/women who are single out there or I could get my heart broken again. These thoughts are your fears stepping in. They are all the reasons why you shouldn’t even start on this goal.

Your dating goals

Your dating goals

You may have a fear of failure, a fear of rejection, or a fear of making a fool of yourself. These fears are very normal and are merely a part of the process.

The universe is sure to throw a roadblock up for you. My children are all now off my hands, but now one of them needs your attention because of ill health or My working hours had become less stressful, but now my boss is sick and I have to step up. These roadblocks are simply real world circumstances. There will always be a reason not to go for your dreams if you let them.

You may even venture out to some singles events. Perhaps you haven’t met any potential partners. Or, you meet someone who seems perfect, and they have no interest in you. Here’s a saying I love to use “The Universe has something much better in store for me.”

See these obstacles as the very things that have been holding you back. Once you can see the subconscious thoughts and feelings that are holding you back, you can face them and deal with them. Once you do, you will be much better prepared for the next exciting venture in your life.

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Starting over after a breakup or a long relationship

Starting over after a breakup or a long relationship

I often speak to singles who have come out of a long relationship. Sometimes it is quite recently and other times it has been some years. They are not sure if they are ready to go out to our singles dinners to meet people again.

Starting over after a breakup or a long relationship

Starting over after a breakup or a long relationship

Starting over can be a very tough thing to do. But most of us have to face this in our lives in one way or another. Taking control of new circumstances such as the death of a loved one or the estrangement of a partner is important in turning your life around.

One of the most important things to do is to give yourself new things to do to keep your mind busy. Your mind is a beautiful tool, so don’t allow it to dwell on the past too much as that will stop you enjoying the present. You don’t need to destroy the past, but to put it away until we are healthy enough to deal with what happened.

Surround yourself with your friends and family. If they haven’t already surrounded you with their love and support, go and see them yourself. They will provide comfort and remind you how wonderful you are.

Starting to date again and meeting new singles after a breakup could be a little like getting back into the job market. Waiting too long can have people wondering if there’s something wrong with you. But the longer you wait, the harder it can be to get back into the world of meeting new people.

The healthiest thing to do is to go out and meet other singles. It’s perfectly fine to be honest and let people know you are testing the waters. Many others have been through something similar and will understand how you are feeling. Our A Table for Six singles dinners are designed to give you the opportunity to go out and meet in a friendly pressure free environment.

The decision to date again is a deeply personal one that only you can make. But rest assured that love walks on earth in many forms, and this may be an opportunity to teach another human being what it means to be truly loved.

Margaret Newitt
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Have you decided you are not dating right now?

Have you decided you are not dating right now?

When we were children , we had big dreams. We believed we could be anything  we wished and could have anything we desired.
What happened to those dreams?
Life inevitably sends us knocks. And then fear and doubt chip away at our dreams until they’re reduced to memories and wishes that might have been.
There are always choices. Every day we are sent opportunities, but we don’t always recognise them.
There is always a choice of which path to take. Take the same path you are familiar with and know what to expect. Or another path that is unknown and may be uncomfortable.
There’s no right or wrong. But  to never try something new or different is to play small and to rob life of the excitement of changes and challenges.

Have you decided you are not dating right now?

Have you decided you are not dating right now?

Anything that we do for the first time can be scary or difficult. It can never be as scary once you have faced your fears. One thing that we don’t think about is that there is only one first time.
Every time we take a step out of our comfort zone to do something we haven’t done before, we always learn more than we expected to.

How do I know if I am taking the easy road? How do I know if I am choosing not to date right now?

Do you regularly do any of these activities to meet singles?

Go to the niche places where you could meet singles. Join clubs, take classes, volunteer or do any of the things that would put singles in front of you?
Start conversations or say a friendly “Hi” to people you meet as you go about your daily life?
Attend social events to increase your chances of meeting someone new?
Plan some social events with your friends and see who shows up. Make it clear new people are welcome?
Accept every invitation to a party, wedding or gathering you are given?
Attend community groups that services other people with a similar interests?
Talk to people in your local coffee shop?

Without trying some new places to meet singles, you have decided you are not dating at the moment.

When we venture to places we have never been before, doing something we haven’t done before, our experience of the world expands. Usually we learn a lot more about ourselves and how we have been holding ourselves back.

Our A Table for Six dinners are a great way to meet singles, make friends or meet a partner. Explore new opportunities and make your dreams come true.

“Opportunity dances with those on the dance floor.” — Anonymous

Margaret Newitt
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