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Surround yourself with the kind of people you want to meet

Surround yourself with the kind of people you want to meet

“Just have patience, the perfect person will come along when the time is right.”

If you’ve been single for a while, I’m sure you have heard this many times. You probably don’t enjoy hearing it. We have all become accustomed to having what we want, when we want it.

If you  find yourself at a green light with a driver in front who is day dreaming, how many seconds do you wait before you toot the horn? And waiting for someone to answer a phone call when you’re kept waiting is another top frustration.

But when it comes to finding a partner, they are absolutely right -when the time is right, your person will come into your life.

The best plan is to lead your day-to-day life in a way where you’re enjoying yourself, surrounding yourself with and meeting the kinds of singles you want to meet so that you’re not always ‘on the hunt.’ Then you won’t have that desperate vibe of being at a venue only to meet your next date.”

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Are you living your dream life? I’m not talking about material possessions you wish you had. Take time to think about your decisions and where  you’re headed in the important areas of life, such as your social life. If there is even a single thing you could do right now to make your life better, go for it. Take control of your life and actively design it as you go along.

Being single and having friends who are a happily dating or married can leave you feeling like a 3rd wheel. It can make you want love more than anything in the world, and it’s natural to feel lonely or sad if you can’t find it. But love yourself and love spending time solo, and finding ways to stay interested and excited about life without a significant other. This will make you feel even better when that special person comes along!

“Never say someone completes you.
You have to feel complete all on your own.
Instead, look for someone to complement your completeness”

Love yourself and enjoy yourself this weekA Table for Six
Margaret Newitt
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Dating goals, actions & amazing outcomes

Dating goals, actions &  amazing outcomes

If you set goals every year about your social life, but haven’t been able to reach them, you are not alone. But fortunately, there’s a way that could make the difference. You won’t be all talk and no action any longer.

Set a timeline for your goals and let’s call it S.M.A.R.T. Business consultants have used this acronym for many years and it’s proven to work, if you follow the guideline. So why not use it in the most important area of your life-your goals of finding wonderful, supportive friends and/or a partner who wants a real, long term relationship.

How to attract the perfect person for YOU

Dating goals, actions & amazing outcomes

Just because you haven’t reached your goals of finding new interesting people to spend time with, or dating people who make you feel alive and vibrant doesn’t make you bad, lazy or incapable. You just needed the best tools to help you.

Specific
If you set a vague goal like “I want to start meeting more eligible Singles”, how will you know when you have reached your goal?

More specific goals provide you a guide on how to get there. Breaking it down into steps will stop you from feeling overwhelmed.

Questions like these will get you on the path.

Who:               Who is involved?
What:              What is it that I want to accomplish?
When:             Establish a time frame to have attained the goal.
Where:           What are your requirements and constraints.
Why:               Your specific reasons and purpose of accomplishing the goal.

These questions will lead you to ask yourself questions like these.

Do I want to meet a lot of single people or focus on meeting a partner?

What activities do I enjoy where I could potentially meet other Singles I would enjoy meeting?

How much time do I have to spend sourcing potential singles before I meet them?

How much time do I want to spend attending events etc. meeting Singles?

What could I do to give myself a better chance of meet desirable Singles? Such as a new hairdo or loosing some weight.

Measurable
Establish a way of measuring if you are on track to attain your goal. How many and how much are great questions to ask yourself.

How many events will I attend per month?

How many follow up coffee or drinks dates will I have?

What other steps have I taken this month to present myself in my best light?

Attainable
Now that you have defined the desires that are most important to you, you’ll start to imagine yourself attaining them. You’ll think of ways to make them happen.

If you know you can attend one singles event weekly, and you start doing so, you’ll notice that your confidence will grow. You’ll feel like you are on track and your goal is attainable.

Realistic
A realistic goal is something you are willing and able to work towards. It may be a high or low goal.

You may want to simply expand your social circle to include three new friends this year. (That would be great, wouldn’t it?) Or a high goal may be to meet your potential life partner in six weeks.

Time Frame
Without an end date to your goal, there is no sense of urgency. The date you wish to accomplish your goal will fuel you to act on things that you sometimes may want to delay till later.

Here’s an example of a vague goal:

I want to meet more Singles and a partner.

Here’s an example of a specific goal:

I want to meet a life partner by 30th June. I will attend two singles events and will follow up with four people I meet every week for six months.

Hope this helps you attain everything you wish for yourself this year.

Start enjoying the dating journey this weekA Table for Six
Margaret Newitt
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Last chance for dinners this year

Last chance for dinners this year

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The dinners this weekend are the last ones for this year. I hope you’ll join in on a dinner this Saturday. We will be on leave next week 11 to 19 December for a much anticipated break.

Last chance for dinners this year

Last chance for dinners this year

We are truly grateful to you for choosing us to go on your (singles) journey with. You are  our  highly valued customers and it has been a sincere pleasure serving you this year.

We hope that you have enjoyed the dinners and learned a little about being single, and about yourself as well. We will continue our efforts to meet your expectations in the future as well. Meanwhile, your unwavering support and patronage is what gets us out of bed in the morning. Each one of you is to be congratulated for being pro-active, positive and for stepping outside of your comfort zone to make a difference in your lives.

Your honest suggestions and feedback on restaurants has helped us shape our service to best fit our members.

The first dinners in the New Year will be 7 January and we will be adding quite a few new restaurants for you to enjoy. We look forward to having you out to dinner meeting our fabulous members again in the New Year.

We send you the warmest wishes your way for this Christmas season.

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A new partner or friends before Christmas? 42 sleeps to go.

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 42 sleeps to go.

Like to meet a new partner or friends before Christmas? I know you probably don’t really want to hear that it is only 42 days to Christmas (about 3628800 seconds). Has another year really gone so quickly? Can it really be so close to another Christmas?

Did you make a resolution at New Year that you would meet a new partner and make some changes in your social life this year? Somehow work and other commitments always take a lot of our time. We have the best intentions to be proactive and take steps to go out and meet some new people whose company we enjoy….but didn’t quite take the steps needed to do so.

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 73 Days to go.

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 42 Days to go.

The good news is that there is still enough time to meet some wonderful new people before Christmas at our A Table for Six dinners! And there will be lots of other singles with the same intention.

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 73 Days to go.

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 42 Days to go.

It’s perfect timing to join our Spring dinners. You’ll have a great time, meet singles and make new connections. You may just even meet the one you will introduce to your family and friends on Christmas day.

Here’s what Rosie said:

I’ve met a wonderful man

5 out of 5, reviewed on Nov 08, 2016
The concept of A Table for Six is fantastic. For me the fact I get to dine in lovely Sydney restaurants and meet new people outside my network was enough to have me join.

Before I started I was certain it was time for me to start dating but with a hectic schedule, two children and not at all interested in online dating I knew A Table for Six was for me.

Margaret is lovely and made me feel very comfortable and calmed any nerves I had about trying this new idea.

After attending four dinners, I can confidently say, I thoroughly enjoyed every dinner. It was always a respectful and fun environment, everyone was so happy to be meeting. Although we were all meeting for the first time it often felt like we were old friends coming together.

On my fourth dinner was when I met a wonderful man. I knew from the moment I met him there was something special between us. He has a far more elaborate and romantic story.

After a few weeks Margaret connected us and we went on our first date, that was in June 2016.

We are now in a healthy, happy relationship. I am with a man I feel connected to on so many levels. Truly wonderful. I’ve recommended Table of Six to many friends in fact a friend who I had recommended to before I began ATFS, met her man on the second dinner and that was two years ago, they are still going strong!

This works and it will for you too.

Thank you Margaret. I’m grateful to say I found a wonderful man and I couldn’t be happier.

Meet our genuine singles at our relaxed, fun dinners this week.A Table for Six
Margaret Newitt
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Everyone you meet is amazing

Everyone you meet is amazing

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Does it seem to you that some people are just always happy and enjoying themselves? Does it seem as though they have the perfect life? Well guess what? They do! But here’s the most interesting and exciting revelation. So can you!

Pop psychology, spiritualists and mystics have been trying to tell us for many years that our attitude is everything and that it determines our view on the world and also the way we experience our life. But, most people still believe that reality (the external world), shapes and determines how we experience our life and the world. It determines how we feel, what we think, the way we perceive things and our way of being (our internal world and ourselves).

But, now, the sciences such as Biology and Physics also have  proven what pop psychology has been sprouting for years. It is our own thoughts, feelings, the way we see and perceive things around us that dramatically shape and determine our so-called reality.

I’m sure it took a long time for people in Columbus’s time to believe that the planet was round. Copernicus’ generation would have struggled for a long time to believe that the earth isn’t the centre of the universe, and that the planets revolve around the sun. So, it will take some time yet before “we” comprehend Heisenberg’s Uncertainty Principle – It is the unavoidable tendency of humans to influence particles, just by our observing them.

I’m not sure about you, but I’m always excited when I remind myself that I have the ability to change the way my life experiences pan out. That’s so much more empowering than feeling as though I’m just powerless and have to deal with outside forces and whatever live throws at me.

Everyone you meet is amazing

Everyone you meet is amazing

How does this relate to our social life, dating, and ultimately connecting with a loving partner? As Tony Robbins exclaims “Change your state of being to achieve a different outcome.” There are lots of ways to do this. Too many for this story. So, if you are not getting the outcome you’d like, give yourself one of the greatest  gifts you can give yourself. Adopt a positive attitude, see life as an adventure and maintain a curiosity and fascination for life. Life is a product of the observer’s intent.

Here’s a link to a Ted Talk on this subject by Shawn Achor: The secret to better work. It’s short, sweet and funny. Enjoy!

“The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge but imagination.” ~Albert Einstein

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Decide to shape your own thought and experience this week,
Margaret Newitt
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10 things that shouldn’t be repeated in relationships

10 things that shouldn’t be repeated in relationships

We have all made mistakes in relationships. Sometimes our mistakes have a catastrophic effect on our lives. And sometimes we can see with clarity what went wrong quiet quickly.

10 things that shouldn't be repeated in relationships

10 things that shouldn’t be repeated in relationships

But to have successful relationships, the important thing is to recognise our destructive patterns, make different choices, and then keep our awareness focused so that we don’t go back to making bad choices.

In his book “Never Go Back”, author Dr Henry Cloud lists ten insights that will keep us from sabotaging our lives in a repeating pattern. His method is based on grace, instead of making ourselves feel guilty for past mistakes.

Dr Cloud lists these insights as things never to return to;

Return to what has worked. We should never go back to something that ended and expect different results.

Do anything that requires them to be someone they are not. We should ask ourselves questions. Does this suit me? Is this sustainable? Why am I really doing this?

Try to change another person. We can only ever change ourselves, never another person. People will learn their own lessons in their own time as part of their journey.

Believe you can please everyone. When we chase the goals of others instead of pursuing our own dreams, we are not being guided by our instinct. Whatever you do, it should come from who you are and your unique gifts and talents.

Choose short-term comfort over long-term benefit. Successful people understand that they may need to step outside their comfort zone and experience some “pain”. They understand it will give them a long-term benefit and follow through.

Trust someone or something that appears flawless. We are all attracted to perfection, exceptional or high performing people. But life and people are rarely perfect. If someone or something appears to have no flaws, proceed with caution.

Take their eyes off the big picture. There will always be days when we loose sight of our overall aims and goals. Move on and refocus. The whole story is written over weeks, months and years, not a single day.

Neglect to do due diligence. Always take the time to take a look into the background and find out the details. You owe it to yourself.

Fail to ask why they are where they find themselves. To regularly ask themselves what part they are playing in the current situations in their lives, is one of the most important characteristics of successful people. They understand they are not victims, but create their own circumstances.

Forget their inner life determines their outer success. Who we are on the inside and the beliefs we hold about ourselves largely contribute to our external circumstances.

Achievers recognise the mistakes they are making and to decide to never repeat them. Don’t worry; there are always more lessons to learn.

Use what talents you posses.
The woods would be very silent
if no birds sang except those that sang best.”
~Henry Van Dyke

Let your unique gifts and talents shine this week,
Margaret Newitt
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Single and out of practise

Single and out of practise

Because I offer a service to singles, I come into contact with people who are at different stages in their lives when it comes to relationships. They’ve had a variety of experiences in their lives, and they are working through dealing with them.

It makes no difference; I’m still going to be someone who doesn’t listen to the negativity. I’m not going to agree with you when you say that all the good ones are taken, or that everyone has too much baggage. Your mates/girlfriends might let you wallow in this line of thinking, but I won’t allow you to.

Single and out of practise

Single and out of practise

You won’t wow everyone, but that’s ok and perfectly normal
All you will ever get from me is encouragement to step outside of your comfort zone. That comfort zone is your worst enemy, not me. I’m going to  encourage you to put on your best outfit, stand tall, get your attitude right and go out and wow some new people. You won’t wow everyone, but that’s ok and perfectly normal.

Don’t worry if some people don’t recognise your beautiful heart. They’re not meant to be in your life right now. The one or ones who do see your authentic beauty are the ones who have also lifted their spirit to the realms where you now dwell.

Our dinners and events are simply a vessel for you to use to facilitate your growth and to expand your social circle. They are designed just for you to use to learn how it feels to be a single person in a mixed group again.

There’s so much to learn when you’ve been out of the single scene for a long period of time. You’re out of practise. You’ll learn you’re not the only one who feels way out of their depth. Those who are very honest with themselves will admit they are frightened of being hurt, taken advantage of, made to feel inadequate, not good enough or invisible.

We all know the real truth. It is inside of us. You just need to listen. Your inner guide will protect you from being hurt if you stay quiet for long enough to hear what it is telling you.

There’s no better investment you can make than in yourself! So, if you want to change how your life is going around relationships, start investing your time, energy, focus and even some dollars to improve it.

Poor me, or there’s no great men/ladies out there, or I don’t have time, or I don’t know where to go, just isn’t acceptable anymore.

My focus is always on  what we can offer our members and the broader Singles community. The people I love to work with know there’s only so much time on this planet, and consistent positive action every day is what will lead them to their dreams.

Come along and meet our amazing, pro-active singles who never let a set-back stop them from working towards their relationship dreams.

The pessimist complains about the wind; the optimist expects it to change; the realist adjusts the sails.” ~William Arthur War

Take action for your future this week,
Margaret Newitt
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You can laugh at dating worries…if you follow this simple plan

You can laugh at dating worries…if you follow this simple plan

When you are setting out of your house on an evening out, are you excited and looking forward to having some fun and connecting with new interesting people? Or, does the little voice in your head sabotage you before you even arrive by whispering that you won’t meet anyone you like?

Are you doing your part to maximise your own happiness?

Are you doing your part to maximise your own happiness?

If you set your intention before you arrive at your destination – if you decide that you are looking forward to meeting people with interesting stories to tell – if you see yourself having a great time – you are setting yourself up to succeed. You will be laying the groundwork for making new friends, dating and even falling in love to happen.

But if you set out expecting that the man or woman of your dreams will be there with outstretched arms waiting for you, you are setting yourself up to be disappointed and also missing out on a real gem.

Are you doing your part to maximise your own happiness?

Are you doing your part to maximise your own happiness?

We have all been guilty of judging. It’s a natural human trait. But it is self sabotaging behaviour. You meet some new people and make a judgement about them because of their hairstyle or the colour of their shoes. This moment of judgement could stop you from getting to know them and you could be missing out on a wonderful friendship.

Judging others is really only hurting ourselves. It’s no reflection on the other person.

When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself. ” ~ Wayne dyer

If you find yourself slipping into that mode of noticing negative things, be committed to looking for opportunities that bring you pleasure. The delicious food, a spectacular view or the person you just met who gave you a tip about real estate. Notice the lovely smile on the person with the purple shoes.

And that person with the very different hairstyle, could be the most interesting person in the room. (There’s only a week between a bad and a good haircut)

Be committed to looking for opportunities this week
Margaret Newitt
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Your beliefs about dating can help you or hurt you

Your beliefs about dating can help you or hurt you

Are you are holding on to negative beliefs about finding new friends, meeting a suitable partner and dating? Your mind is very powerful. The stories you tell yourself can either hold you back and prevent positive change in your life or they can allow new wonderful people to come into your life and new relationships to blossom. Even the most optimistic of us can be guilty of this at times.

Your beliefs about dating can help you or hurt you

Your beliefs about dating can help you or hurt you

It’s always interesting when speaking to new potential members. Many have reached a point where they know they need to be proactive and are ready and open to what (and whom) will come into their lives and where it may take them.

Others have created problems and scenarios in their own mind before they have even stepped out the door for their first dinner. YOUR beliefs can either help or hurt you!

Your beliefs about dating can help you or hurt you

Your beliefs about dating can help you or hurt you

For example,  “I’m not good at meeting new people. ” or “I will never meet anyone as lovely as my late husband/wife.”

Limiting thoughts and beliefs create the same problems that repeat themselves in different relationships. Habitual negative thoughts run on autopilot,  and if you believe them, you can’t change your life and solve the same problems that can keep arising in different relationships and situations.

Your thoughts determine your feelings, and your behaviours and actions are determined by your thoughts. With negative thoughts running unchecked in your mind, it’s difficult to feel good about yourself. When your behaviour and actions come from feeling bad about yourself, you won’t get good results.

In order to achieve a different result, stop and check those negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones that are just as true or even more true.

An example would be, if you believe there are no good men/women out there, you’ll continue attracting men/women who are not good for you. When you stop this negative thought and replace it with one that serves you,  you’ll open up the possibility to attract  a wealth of new friends and even a partner to share your life.

Start meeting new people and expect to have an enjoyable time, meeting interesting people and don’t quit on yourself.

If you don’t like how things are, change it! You’re not a tree.” ~Ji Rohn

Fill your mind with thoughts and beliefs that serve you this week
Margaret Newitt
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What sort of people will I meet at dinner?

What sort of people will I meet at dinner?

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It’s a famous question and it’s asked often.

It is exactly the same I question I would ask if I was inquiring about becoming a member of a Singles group!

What exactly is it that they are looking for? We all know there’s plenty of singles out there who we wouldn’t want to spend out time with. Lately, I’ve been asking more questions of the people who do join our members. What exactly is it that they are looking for?

What sort of people will I meet at dinner?

What sort of people will I meet at dinner?

Here are some of the answers they have given.
They hate Singles who lie about wanting a real, long term relationship.

They need opportunities to meet Singles in an environment where there’s no pressure and it’s all about having fun and making new connections first.

They crave meeting people and having that feeling of “Ah, these people really get me.”

They haven’t been able to figure out where to find all the decent Singles who have dealt with their baggage and have an open heart.

They struggle to deal with Singles who just want to be able to tick off their list of requirements.

They secretly yearn to meet someone who makes the journey seem like the time is right, the place is right and the connection is definitely right.

They are looking for their new best friend.

They want to have that special connection with a partner who treats them with love and kindness, expressed through kind thoughts, loving words and kind actions.

They are totally over spending weekends alone, going to bars, internet dating or meeting people with no manners or consideration.

They are totally into positive, pro-active people and having lots of amazing stories to tell when they are 90.

They are ready right now for new beginnings in dating, creating new friendships and opportunities for romance and love.

These are the answers I will give from now on when new Singles inquiring, ask me that famous question “What sort of people will I meet at dinner?

Do any of these resonate with you? Are there any others you would add to our list?

Is that the sort of person you are?

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