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Relationships-The most important experience in our lives

Relationships-The most important experience in our lives

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Relationships are the most important experience in our lives. Without relationships, we are nothing. They let us know who we are. We can only experience who we are in relationship to something or someone else.

Relationships - The most important experience in our lives

Relationships – The most important experience in our lives

In relationships we also define and recreate who we are. We might decide that we are smarter, bigger, better at singing, happier etc. than another. We define and recreate who we are in relationship to who you are.

Relationships - The most important experience of our lives

Relationships – The most important experience of our lives

Here’s an interesting observation-we cannot recreate ourselves as anything that we can’t see in another. That’s interesting! We can only see in ourselves qualities or behaviours that we are willing to see in another. Anything we don’t recognise in another, we will never find in ourselves. Or, only what we see in another can we see in ourselves.

Once we understand this, we also understand that our main function in a relationship is to seek and find all of the best and highest qualities of another. Our role is to help empower others to be the best they can be. Whatever that may be for them.

So what partners do for each other is to discover and bring out, the best in each other. We are not in a partnership to take, but to recognise and encourage each other for who we really are. We understand the importance of this and see that it is our very reason for being.

Now, being in a relationship becomes a much richer experience. We now don’t need to focus on what we can get out of it. Our focus can now be on what we can give or how we can empower our partner.

That doesn’t mean that we become victims or allow them to treat us badly. Staying in a dysfunctional relationship is not what it is about. But it is giving to another and allowing ourselves to experience a love with no conditions. It is wanting for your partner what they want for themselves and the amazing thing is that once you say, “I choose for you what you choose for you” they will always want to be with you. Isn’t that what we all look for? Someone who only wants for us what we want for ourselves.

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10 things that shouldn’t be repeated in relationships

10 things that shouldn’t be repeated in relationships

We have all made mistakes in relationships. Sometimes our mistakes have a catastrophic effect on our lives. And sometimes we can see with clarity what went wrong quiet quickly.

10 things that shouldn't be repeated in relationships

10 things that shouldn’t be repeated in relationships

But to have successful relationships, the important thing is to recognise our destructive patterns, make different choices, and then keep our awareness focused so that we don’t go back to making bad choices.

In his book “Never Go Back”, author Dr Henry Cloud lists ten insights that will keep us from sabotaging our lives in a repeating pattern. His method is based on grace, instead of making ourselves feel guilty for past mistakes.

Dr Cloud lists these insights as things never to return to;

Return to what has worked. We should never go back to something that ended and expect different results.

Do anything that requires them to be someone they are not. We should ask ourselves questions. Does this suit me? Is this sustainable? Why am I really doing this?

Try to change another person. We can only ever change ourselves, never another person. People will learn their own lessons in their own time as part of their journey.

Believe you can please everyone. When we chase the goals of others instead of pursuing our own dreams, we are not being guided by our instinct. Whatever you do, it should come from who you are and your unique gifts and talents.

Choose short-term comfort over long-term benefit. Successful people understand that they may need to step outside their comfort zone and experience some “pain”. They understand it will give them a long-term benefit and follow through.

Trust someone or something that appears flawless. We are all attracted to perfection, exceptional or high performing people. But life and people are rarely perfect. If someone or something appears to have no flaws, proceed with caution.

Take their eyes off the big picture. There will always be days when we loose sight of our overall aims and goals. Move on and refocus. The whole story is written over weeks, months and years, not a single day.

Neglect to do due diligence. Always take the time to take a look into the background and find out the details. You owe it to yourself.

Fail to ask why they are where they find themselves. To regularly ask themselves what part they are playing in the current situations in their lives, is one of the most important characteristics of successful people. They understand they are not victims, but create their own circumstances.

Forget their inner life determines their outer success. Who we are on the inside and the beliefs we hold about ourselves largely contribute to our external circumstances.

Achievers recognise the mistakes they are making and to decide to never repeat them. Don’t worry; there are always more lessons to learn.

Use what talents you posses.
The woods would be very silent
if no birds sang except those that sang best.”
~Henry Van Dyke

Let your unique gifts and talents shine this week,
Margaret Newitt
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Let your best light shine & get the date

Let your light shine & get the date

Let your light shine & get the date

Let your best light shine & get the date
Whether you’re just dipping your toes into the meeting singles pond for fun or you want to find the right person to spend your life with, be honest about who you  are. The advice is exactly the same for men and women. Smile, open your mind and listen just as much as you talk. Try to focus on what you could gain from interacting with people, rather than what might be missing. The more you seek out the positive elements in people, the more you will find them.

Use our dinners as a fantastic tool
Our A Table for Six dinners are a fantastic tool to use to practice your dating skills and to learn about being single again. But most importantly, you will meet singles who are interested in genuine friendships and relationships.

Are you a little shy?
If you are a little shyer or more introverted, here are some tips to make yourself more approachable and to increase the number of dates you get.

Have an open posture. face the people or person and make sure your arms are uncrossed.

Smile and make eye contact with people. Especially those you are interested in.

Try to ensure you are in the middle of any groups and not stuck in a corner.

Ensure you speak to people with at least a “Hello.”

Focus on others  
The most important thing to remember is to focus on making others feel comfortable. I always remind myself that they may be more nervous or uncomfortable than I am. This helps to forget about your own anxiousness and they will really appreciate your interest in them.

If you are a little shy, remember that people can’t get to know who you are unless you let them. Know you are fantastic and others will too.

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What is the most necessary trait for a happy relationship?

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What is the  most necessary trait for a  happy relationship?

Good looks and money?
A new relationship guide by Dr Tashiro, a psychology professor, writes that singles looking for long-lasting love should limit their list on their checklist to only three. He writes that good looks and money should not be included in that list.

Dr Ty Tashiro writes in his book “The Science of Happily Ever After”, that the problem is that singles want everything in a potential partner and that results in them ending up with nothing.

What is the most necessary trait for a happy relationship?
He says that personality traits should be concentrated on and that the “agreeable” trait is the key to sustainable love and desire. Being agreeable will show up as someone who is forgiving, cooperative, good-natured, flexible, trusting, soft-hearted and tolerant.

The quality that is the worst for relationship sustainability
Alternatively, a partner who has a quality of “Neuroticism” is someone who is prone to anxiety, depression, embarrassment, emotional instability and insecurity. Dr Tashiro says that people with this trait are the worst for relationship sustainability.

What is the single most necessary trait for a long term happy relationship?

What is the single most necessary trait for a long term happy relationship?

From his own research Dr Tashiro reiterates that good looks are not a a predictor of satisfying relationships, nor do they correlate to happier marriages. In fact, there is “no reliable association between physical attractiveness and relationship satisfaction,” he writes.

Does money help?
In regard to money, his research has shown that it does not keep a relationship buoyant, at least over a certain point.

Money does make a difference on the lower end of the scale, but for those above $75,000 there seems to be diminishing returns on happiness in marriage. “Once this threshold is crossed, there is no significant association between more wealth and higher levels of psychological well-being”, Dr Tashiro writes.

Only 1 in 3 will find long lasting love
He encourages singles to be more realistic in their expectations to improve the odds of finding a compatible mate. Dr Tashiro states that society’s fairy-tale view of romance where 88% of adults believe in “soul mates” – has contributed to the fact that although 90% of people will marry in their lifetimes, only one in three will find long-lasting love.

He says that many women will search for a man who is handsome, tall and makes good money, but only about one percent of the suitors they are likely to meet will fit into this category.

Time to rethink our views?
Dr Tashiro states that his book is about making smarter choices and learning to weed out the undesirable traits and rethinking our views about what really matters in a romantic partner.

Our A Table for Six dinners are a great tool to use to meet singles face to face in a relaxed environment. You’ll have an opportunity to interact and also observe other singles interacting in a social situation with no pressure. They are also a lot of fun.

Here’s another story I wrote on this topic –

What is most important in a partner?

4 Things that will damage a relationship

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Margaret Newitt
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Why is it often lost? Men and women want the same closeness in a relationship

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Men and women are wired differently and fear and shame can cause a loving close relationship to become disconnected. This interesting information is from a book called “Why women talk and men walk” by Patricia Love and Steven Stosny.

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Research and clinical experiences show that men and women clearly want the same closeness and connection from a relationship. So why do many couples end up feeling like they have lost that closeness they felt early in their relationship?

The male – female disconnection is the biggest factor in the soaring divorce rate. Some 80% of divorcees say they “grew apart” – tragic and unnecessary.

Female orientated attempts are often aimed at “talking” to her man. But this is often a huge failure. Because their problem is not about “communication.” It’s about disconnection. They are disconnected because they have poor communication; they have poor communication because they are disconnected. In a new relationship, when they felt connected, they talked for hours on end. She exposed vulnerable feelings to him, he responded with protectiveness and support. She fell in love because she felt emotionally connected to him, and her belief that he would be there for her quelled all her fears.

He fell in love because he felt emotionally connected to her. She made him feel important and successful as a lover, protector and provider, which reduced any threat of feeling inadequate.

The best chance of saving a disconnected relationship is to return to this state of mutually soothing and empowering connection.

Though powerful and pervasive, your fear and shame are not the deepest or most important things about you. Much deeper is the compassionate, loving part of you that was so active when you were a child and when you were first in love. It’s still there, although hidden beneath resentment that can make you fight and fear and shame that can make you resentful. Know that the warm glow is still within you, waiting to ignite your spirit.

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Meet at dinner? 8 good reasons

  • Who will I meet at dinner? Before you attend our dinners, remind yourself that you may meet the man/woman of your dreams. But, even if you don’t, he/she may live next door to them. Or, you never know, he/she may invite you along to meet a group of their friends with lots of interesting singles. Someone at dinner may just inspire you to get involved with a hobby or interest you have been putting off for so long. They may inspire you to book that trip to Europe you have been dreaming of.
    It’s important to be pro-active in  going out to meet at dinner, but it’s not possible to know how a partner may appear to you. The most important thing is to remember that even if you don’t meet a partner at a particular dinner, it will lead to new, diverse, interesting experiences you would never have enjoyed and discovered if you hadn’t attended.Mid age couples enjoying meal
    This is who you will meet at dinner.

    They are tired of Singles who lie about wanting a real, long term relationship.

    They need opportunities for Singles to meet at dinner where there’s no pressure and it’s all about having fun and making new connections first.

    They crave meeting people and having that feeling of “Ah, these people really get me.”

    They haven’t been able to figure out where to find all the decent Singles who have dealt with their baggage and have an open heart.

    They struggle to deal with Singles who just want to be able to tick off their list of requirements.

    They secretly yearn to meet someone who makes the journey seem like the time is right, the place is right and the connection is definitely right.

    They are looking for their new best friend.

    They want to have that special connection with a partner who treats them with love and kindness, expressed through kind thoughts, loving words and kind actions.

    “Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”
    — A.A. Milne
    Do any of these resonate with you?
    Are there any others you would add to our list?
    Is that the sort of person you are?

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Do you need a nudge to make a change this year?

We had a lot of success partnering our members up last year. Our testimonial page and Reviews have a list of many happy couples that have met via A Table for Six. We also heard from members who met through other means, but they said  that attending our dinners gave them the confidence in their lives that made all the difference. Our members tell us that they enjoy the dinners so much because they find them relaxed and fun. The pressure they feel with internet dating isn’t there at our dinners. It’s all about the group enjoying some single company and conversation over dinner.
I never tire of hearing the members feedback and hearing of their enjoyment. We love to hear the good stories from our happy members.

Do you ever feel as though there is someone out there that you could be deeply connected to? Someone that you haven’t met yet?

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If you are like most people who are single (and would prefer not to be), in spite of this wonderful sense of possibility, you also struggle with the challenge of how to bring this beloved person into your life. You may feel disappointed, frustrated, confused and even pain sometimes because they are not in your life yet.

I’m not usually a country music fan, but I caught a few lines of a song by Adam Brandt called “There will be love” that says it all. ” There will be love in our lives, just as long as we are willing to try.”

If any of that sounds familiar to you, we have helped people who thought they would never have success in dating again. Perhaps you need a nudge in the right direction, or you fear you are the least likely to succeed in dating.

Just remember, you don’t need to change anything externally about yourself or your life.  You only need to let go of those obstacles you have that are holding you back. Instead of spending another year hoping for love that doesn’t show up, you can contact us so that we can organise to have you out and meeting our fabulous members at dinners as soon as this weekend. You’ll be amazed by how quickly it can happen.

If you haven’t finalised your list for 2016 yet, I want to invite you to make a commitment to yourself… A commitment that you’ll make this year the one you look back on as the year you made a change in your life.

Will the 6th person you date be the one?

The first person you go on a date with most probably won’t be The One. And the sixth one probably won’t be either. That’s why it’s good to keep your options open and date as many new people as possible.

To know if someone is right for you, you need to have dated a number of people and to be able to recognise when someone is “wrong” for you. You can’t make informed decisions unless you have something to compare your experience to.

It doesn’t hurt to say “yes” when your contact details are requested from someone you met at dinner. You are not leading them on when you say “yes” to catching up for a coffee or drink. It is purely giving yourself the opportunity to spend time with them and get to know them a little better.

Meeting, spending time with and dating a number of people will help you to bring your A Game when you do meet someone who can be a suitable partner for you.

After all, there are many facets of richness to be found in love. Whether you are falling in live, finding comfort in long-term love with a person, having your heart broken, happy young couple relax at home grieving the loss of a relationship, there is always value to be found in every level of love and all  our experiences with it.  Some of the feelings will be wonderful and some may even be horrendous, but it’s all good for us and all helps us to learn, grow and change.

We are never guaranteed of being protected from emotional pain or loss forever. “The practice of love offers no place of safety. We risk loss, hurt, pain. We risk being acted upon by forces outside our control.” ~ Bell Hooks from All about love:New visions-

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Would you like to meet someone who really gets you?

Do you ever feel as though you would like to meet someone who gets you? You know the feeling when you meet someone new and you really have the feeling that this person is listening and actually hearing what you are saying. You feel as though they are, if even for a moment, stepping into your shoes and experiencing your journey.

Or, would you like to meet people or a partner who appreciates what you do for them? People who acknowledge what you bring to their life? They value the time you set aside to help you move house, or even the time they happily took you out when you were feeling a little low.

Neale Donald Walsch, the author of the “Conversations with God” series of books, has this message for us: Be the source. In his “conversations”, he received this message: “I was advised by God to no longer be the Seeker, but to be the Source in the life of another of that which I had been seeking in my own life. “What flows through you, sticks to you.”

Most of us have heard the message: Do unto others, as you would have it done unto you. I think most of us interpret this as meaning that if you wish to be treated well, you should treat others well. But, Walsch interprets this to have a further meaning. “When you cause others to have the experience that you wish to have, you, too, must eventually have it.”

We have most probably read that you cannot give away that which you do not have. But it turns out that the act of giving something to another causes you to notice that you have it to give- and that you had it all along.

Walsch says that once he got this message, everything began to make sense- including the teaching that none of us is really “creating” anything, but merely noticing that is already there.

If you would like to experience a grander, more loving, more fulfilled version of yourself, this will come back to you. See the best version of another and let them know that you see it. Help them to see the grandest version of themselves by being a mirror and showing them their reflection.

Many people have listened to people who have told them they are not good enough. They have told themselves the same story and now believe it is true. If you are someone who gives others a rich experience of who they really are, you will be enriched as well.


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What if everyone was interesting and attractive?

I received an email today from one of our lovely members. She (let’s name her Sally) has noticed how much I love to send inspiring messages to our members. My motivation in sending these messages, is that someone reading may hear something they needed to hear at that time. Something that could make a difference in their lives and their experience at our A Table for Six dinners. Sometimes, it’s just a matter of timing and being open to getting a different result.

Sally was kind enough to share with me a short UTube video called “What if everyone was interesting and attractive” by English writer and life coach John-Paul Flintoff. In Sally’s own words ” This UTube movie is a wonderful reminder, I feel, that our biases affect the experience we have of the people we meet.  Before I left home for the dinner on Saturday evening I replayed ‘What if everyone was interesting and attractive’ to help me have uppermost in my mind that, in fact, that is true – each person you meet has wonderful things to share with you that you can enjoy and learn from, if your mindset is positive and open.”

As Sally said, “You can have a great evening out and be ‘in the moment’ and fully present to each person – without necessarily leaping from that to decisions about ‘partner’. I think if people are willing to put such decisions and judgements to one side, they can enjoy your service more than if they arrive at the table out to assess everyone, don’t you think!”

Please take 15 minutes to listen to this video. Oh, and did Sally enjoy the dinner? Yes, and in fact everyone at the table has responded that they had a very enjoyable evening.


Margaret Newitt


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