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Do you need a nudge to make a change this year?

We had a lot of success partnering our members up last year. Our testimonial page has a list of many happy couples that have met via A Table for Six. We also heard from members who met through other means, but they said  that attending our dinners gave them the confidence in their lives that made all the difference. Our members tell us that they enjoy the dinners so much because they find them relaxed, and fun. The pressure they feel with internet dating isn’t there at our dinners. It’s all about the group enjoying some single company and conversation over dinner.

 

I never tire of hearing the members feedback and hearing of their enjoyment. We love to hear the good stories from our happy members.


Do you ever feel as though there is someone out there that you could be deeply connected to-Someone that you haven’t met yet?

If you’re like most people who are single (and would prefer not to be), in spite of this wonderful sense of possibility, you also struggle with the challenge of how to bring this beloved person into your life. You may feel disappointed, frustrated, confused and even pain sometimes because they are not in your life yet.
I’m not usually a country music fan, but I caught a few lines of a song by Adam Brandt called “There will be love” that says it all. ” There will be love in our lives, just as long as we are willing to try.

If any of that sounds familiar to you, we have helped people who thought they would never have success in dating again. Perhaps you need a nudge in the right direction, or you fear you are the least likely to succeed in dating.
Just remember, you don’t need to change anything externally about yourself or your life.  You only need to let go of those obstacles you have that are holding you back. Instead of spending another year hoping for love that doesn’t show up, you can contact us so that we can organise to have you out and meeting our fabulous members at dinners as soon as this weekend. You’ll be amazed by how quickly it can happen.

If you haven’t finalised your list for 2013 yet, I want to invite you to make a commitment to yourself… A commitment that you’ll make this year the one you look back on as the year you made a change in your life.

Another good news story from A Table for Six

Here’s another good news story from our A Table for Six dinners.

S told me she had dated a lot in her 20’s and felt there were plenty of guys to choose from. She settled down and married and was in her marriage for 20 odd years until it broke up for various reasons. She found herself single again and in her late 40’s. S found the dating scene at this age to be very different than when he was in her 20’s. Yes there were men to date, but having the checklist she had in her 20’s just wasn’t realistic now. She didn’t want to date anyone who had dependent children, didn’t have the same interests as she had or didn’t share the same religious beliefs. This proved to be very unsuccessful for S.

Eventually S realised that she could have a strict checklist and be lonely or she could become more realistic and be open to meeting men who could offer her genuine love and commitment even though they might not fit the exact profile she had in mind. S decided to be open to the men she met who were gentlemen and showed interest in her. We noticed the change in her feedback from dinners and about 4 months ago she met R at a dinner. They have been dating since then and they let us know that they are very serious about their relationship and very in love. If S had kept to her list, he would never have got to know R. They have differences but their core values are the same.

We are happy for them and look forward to hearing how their relationship progresses. We love hearing about and passing on our good news stories.

Opposites attract or similar perspective successful long term relationship?

We’ve all heard the saying “opposites attract”. It has always been an interesting one because we all know long term happy couples who seem to be opposites and others who seem to be very much alike.

Well a report I have read in a phychology magazine does throw some light on the subject. According to the report, the key to a happy, healthy relationship is choosing someone who is, quite frankly, a lot like you – a person who validates your existing views and habits rather than trying to change them.

Reports have repeatedly underscored the role of homogany – shared values, personality traits, economic background, and religion, as well as closeness in age – in romantic success. The more a couple shares a similar perspective, says Glenn Wilson, a psychologist at Gresham College in London, the less conflict there’s likely to be in their relationship.

Wilson  developed a compatibility questionaire that reveals a wide range of preferences regarding lifestyle, politics, child-rearing, morality and finances. He found that partners whose answers are comparable are more likely to report satisfaction with their love lives.

But, regardless of how well the two score on compatibility tests, you need to feel a spark of attraction – something that can come from the differences between your partner’s interests and passions and your own. (Such as you like photography and cooking, she likes hiking) “Homogany” is important for long-term satisfaction, but differences in interests really makes a difference in terms of chemistry,” says Givertz. “When couples are overly similar it can be a little bit of a brother-sister relationship- really predictable, without a lot of novelty.”

So what is the happy medium? Seek out a partner whose passions differ enough to expand your experience, but with whom you are aligned on important big-picture issues like how to show affection, what constitutes a moral life, and how to raise children.

How important is a woman to a man?

Having a successful relationship means relating to the other gender. If you are a man that means relating to women and if you are a woman that means relating to men. Male/female differences and similarities are very complicated.

Most of us don’t really have a very good understanding of why and how the other gender behave the way they do. We judge them by how our gender thinks.

How often have we girls been involved in or overheard a group of girls complaining about their men? I’m not so sure that men do this as often as we girls do. The main reason that this is such a common topic of conversation is that they feel like their behaviour doesn’t match the fairytale image they had in their head.

Speaking with so many single people who become members of a Table for Six prompted me to do some study on male/female behaviour. What I have learned is fascinating and great news for both genders.

We think that men are a certain way and their behaviour is set and always the same. But what if men were responding to women? What if what women are doing is causing a man to fall in love with them or keep a distance?

A man’s motivation (the ones we should trust) are duty, obligation and honour. If that isn’t their motivation then steer clear of them. Most women don’t know how much a man is compelled to make a woman happy. He judges himself by his ability to make a woman happy. It is more important to him than a promotion at work or any sporting achievement. The approval of his woman is better than anything for a man.

Women don’t know how much we mean to men – Our beauty, admiration, love and our willingness to let men give us pleasure. We need to let them know they made us happy. Our receptiveness to his contributions to us will make him feel valued. But our culture has changed women to concentrate on productivity because that is what is valued by society. We find it harder to be in tune with being receptive to a man’s contributions. Society has changed women to a certain extent in their ability to to receive gifts, pleasure, compliments, care and attention. Women being receptive allows men to be men.

The most attractive quality in a woman to a man is self-confidence. The more confident you are the more attractive you are to him and the more he will want to please you. You don’t need to change yourself. He will love your curves.

Notice the men who are charmed and enchanted by you. Then consciously set them up to succeed. Then relax and most importantly appreciate his efforts.

Hi I’m Mark and I had been going to T46 for over 2 years before I met my lovely bride-to-be.

Hi I’m Mark and I had been going to T46 for over 2 years before I met my lovely bride-to-be.

We met on a Saturday night and having gone through my usual pattern of being excited in the lead-up, followed by feelings of uncertainty trying to find excuses about why I should not go, I arrived on time.  It was a great restaurant and once inside, I knew it would be fun.  It was a good group and because most of us had not driven – we could have a few drinks without worrying about driving (these dinners were always a lot of fun).

At the end of the evening, I called my son to pick me up – it came as no surprise that he had hooked up with mates and was far too busy.  So as the group parted, we worked out who was going in which direction. It turned out that the girl beside me (who seemed very pleasant) lived in the next suburb and she agreed to share a taxi.  It was a wonderful ride home –we sat well apart and chatted.  The ride was over in a flash – she smiled, said good night and was gone.  It was a long weekend so I didn’t have my chance to see if she was interested until Tuesday – a long wait.

As it turned out, she was just as keen to meet up again.  We met up the next weekend to go into the city. When she saw me on the train station, she gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek – and we have not looked back from that moment……………..she calls me her taxi guy.

We have been together 15 months and will be married this week….it was her first and only dinner.

Great outcomes from our dinners


This week I decided to call one of our male members who wasn’t responding to invitations to dinner. I asked if he was dating, or just too busy to go to dinner. He replied that he is happily dating a lovely lady. I have learned to ask if they met at one of our dinners, as often this isn’t mentioned. “No” was his reply. “I met her through someone I met at a dinner.”

That’s a great outcome! Attending our dinners has many different outcomes.

Here’s another feedback received this week..

Hi Margaret,
Aside from my initial nerves , I have to say I really had an awesome ‘event’ experience , owing to the gregarious natures of my dining ‘friends’!!!

I loved the Restaurant, having lived here for a long while, it was my first time  there, I can’t believe it has escaped me !!
I would rate the Restaurant a sound 8 /10.

As of my overall  enjoyment of my dining experience with these 4 eclectic people , I found it exhilarating to say the least.
I would rate my experience a sound 9 /10.

I found everyone quite lovely , X was very nice ,( I would consider seeing him again !!)

On the night though, my stand out person at the table was Y… Now he really caught my eye !! and he was SO nice and stayed with me until my lift arrived …wasn’t that cute ?
So if he wanted to get in touch ……I’d be happy to hear from him. :) :)

A and B were both wonderful too , especially A she was a really nice person , it would be great to catch up with her for a cuppa one day .

Thank you for my first dining experience with A Table For Six!
Regards (name withheld).

Inspiring feedback from our members

A Table for Six is not a new idea. In fact, we have been operating for over 10 years. But the service we offer is even more relevant than when I started over 10 years ago. Meeting compatible singles has become even more tricky. And without A Table for Six, Singles find it difficult to meet in a relaxed, fun environment.

Here, once again are some of the feedback replies we have received recently…

Hi Margaret,

My rating of the restaurant is 8
My overall enjoyment of the evening is 9

We all enjoyed the meal and friendly company.

Also I appreciate the new level of professionalism you bring.

Regards Withheld

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What can I say, Margaret?

The restaurant, having dined there on a number of previous occasions,
performed up to expectations.
The meals were tasty and well presented yet reasonable in pricing.
Service was excellent. I would be happy to award ? Restaurant a 9.87 on
this occasion!

Now we get to the better part. Although X and I were holding up the
male end of the equation, the ladies without exception were charming,
witty and good company generally. I am planning to have dinner with the
crew in some months time down the road.  The evening, overall was 9.98
(I am a tough marker and do not award perfect 10’s)
Thank you for the evening, Margaret… you put a great mix together for
the night.

Regards,
Withheld

Are your choices taking you closer to your relationship goals?

We all have limiting beliefs and fears that hold us back from achieving the outcomes we would like in our lives. We may not be aware, but they are holding us back and limiting our happiness. They have control of the driver’s wheel taking us down the same old bumpy road filled with pot holes to the same dead-end. At the end of that road there’s no love in sight!

But we do have a choice~ We can decide to grab and take control of the driver’s wheel and steer our lives closer to the outcomes we would like.

Action steps

  1. Make a list of your relationship goals.
  2. Ask yourself ” Are the choices I am making today taking me closer or further away from my goals?”
  3. Bring the fears, shame, and insecurities that are controlling your life out and shine some light on them. They won’t seem nearly as powerful and may even seem a little silly!
  4. Take a firm hold of the steering wheel and let them know you are in control now and you will be protecting yourself and your future.
  5. Take one decisive action to prove you are in the driver’s seat that sets you in the right direction.
  6. Speak with me about how you can achieve the new friends and life partner of your dreams. It will be life-altering and can begin as early as this weekend. If you decide to join Platinum Introductions, you will have the benefit of coaching along the way. You will be guided and given feedback after your dinner so that we can work together towards the outcome you desire. Make the highest choice for yourself today. Your new friends and partner are waiting for you.

 

Here, once again are some of the feedback replies we have received recently…

I wonder if it is possible for you to ask X if I could have her number please?  She seemed an absolute sweetheart.

I enjoyed meeting the men very much.  I had met X previously, he was very pleasant once again.  I particularly liked Y and would love to see him again.

All the men I’ve met at the two group dinners I’ve been to so far have been extremely polite and lovely to meet.  It makes me so happy to be out with other single people and realise that there are actually some nice men out there (that are single!)  Thank you so so much for providing this brilliant service:-)

Kindest regards
Regards Withheld

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Hi Margaret
It was a great evening everyone got along well with lively and fun filled discussion.  I rate the evening as a 9.  The restaurant was great and would rate as an 8.
Would be happy to meet X for a coffee if she was interested.

Fabulous feedback received

I had a brilliant evening, thoroughly enjoyed it and didn’t want the night to end!  My first group dinner, and I was so thrilled with all the lovely people I met.  My initial apprehension and nerves quickly went out the window. I’ve just been on such a high since the dinner:-)   I found the experience to be very uplifting.

Everyone likes to feel satisfaction in the work they do. For us, it is your feedback that gives us the satisfaction that we have created something worthwhile at the dinners you attend. Making a difference to people’s life is a hugely rewarding accomplishment and one we strive for every week when putting the dinners together.

This week we have again had some 10 out of 10 ratings in the feedback from our dinners. The sample at the beginning of this article is an example which we received just this morning. She had a fantastic time.

Of course, we can do our best to put you together with other fabulous singles, but it is really up to you. So, congratulations for being such pro-active, positive people who make the most of the opportunity at dinners.

Here are some more examples of feedback received today.

I had a terrific time last night. I would say for overall enjoyment, 9/10. The meals at were fantastic, occasionally the music was slightly overpowering but I’d still rate the overall restaurant experience at 8/10.
My dinner companions were great! I wouldn’t hesitate on sharing their company again.
Thank you!

Hi Margaret the restaurant was and 8 and so was the company.  Jolly good night had by all.

Hi Margaret,

As you know this was my first evening with a Table for Six.  The weather on Saturday was extremely wet and cold to say the lest and having dinner with such lovely people was worth venturing out.  My dinner companions were absolutely lovely and  I had a thoroughly wonderful time.  I would rate my overall enjoyment at 10 out 10.   The food and service  was very good.  The restaurant is in a wonderful location and would rate the restaurant 8 out of 10.  
Thank you very much for organising the night and I’m looking forward to my next dinner with Table for Six.

 

Another wedding from A Table for Six

Margaret and MikeWhat a lovely surprise to hear news of another A TAble for Six wedding. Margaret and Mike met a couple of years ago at one of our events. Here is their story in Margaret’s words.

Margaret
I think both of us had given up hope of ever meeting anyone again.  We had
Been on our own for some time and we knew that there had to be more in
Our lives and we had been searching for some time to find a sole mate to
Complete our lives.

From that first meeting at  a lovely Sunday Lunch we knew that we had both found what we had been looking for –
After lunch we walked hand in hand along the beach (how romantic) and
It was then that we knew that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together
– it just felt right, and you know deep down in your heart when that happens.

How our life has changed in so many ways – we have never wasted a moment
We do everything together never wanting to be apart – have had many lovely
Holidays here in Australia and in the lovely romantic paradise of Bali.  Mike
Asked me to marry him in Bali in 2011 and we had that special wedding day
Here in Australia on 30th June this year surrounded by family and close friends
 and have only just returned from our honeymoon in Bali.

We sincerely thank Table for Six for bringing us together and hope that many
More members will find the peace and happiness that Mike and I have
Found in each other.

Margaret and Mike