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“In Sickness And In Health”

“In Sickness And In Health”

Have you said those words? If so, when you did, I’m sure you said them with the very best of intentions.

When considering if you are interested in dating, getting to know and perhaps marrying a partner, do you really think about what those words mean?

“In Sickness And In Health”

“In Sickness And In Health”

Some of the more common considerations made are if they could bring offspring into the reunion. Or, what is their extended family like.? Perhaps their financial situation and their temperament.

Yet, few people really consider something that is a vital question – can I suffer with this person?

Suffering is an inevitable part of life. No one escapes it in the long run. As we get older we come to know that suffering is not a rare occurrence. It is a common aspect of life.

Sorrow comes in many forms, yet it is guaranteed to come. Something that is important to consider is that not everyone suffers well.

Some people are unable to face the realities of life that are difficult. Some are easily overcome by life’s difficulties and are unable to cope at all.

Those who are able to put these difficulties into perspective, know they can count on themselves to deal with it, and simply put one foot in front of the other are an inspiration.

Who do you want beside you when the doctor says “I’m sorry there is nothing we can do.”

On whose shoulder do you want to lean when you tragically lose a family member?

With whom do you want to lay beside when you don’t know whether your child will ever come home?

When the world seems a crazy place, in whose eyes do you want to look?

Find someone who suffers well. You may be more attracted to a beautiful smile than someone who shows quiet determination. You may think it is more important to have interests in common than to have a quiet internal strength.

When challenges appear, you will appreciate someone by your side who believes in you, someone who encourages you and continues to have hope no matter what is put in front of you.

Having someone beside you who knows that suffering will come and go will make a huge difference. The best partner to have will confront sorrows with you. They will be able to laugh and cry with you. And, most importantly, they will offer support and hope in all of life’s challenges.

The best possible thing you can get out of a relationship is that you’re with someone who encourages you to be the best version of yourself every day.” ~Nishan Panwar

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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9 Points-So You Impress Her

9 Points-So You Impress Her

Are you ready for a relationship? Fortunately, the feedback we receive from the women who attend our dinners is mostly that they are very impressed with the calibre of men they meet at our dinners.

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9 points-So You Impress Her

Here are nine tips about what women notice about you when they meet you for the first time and ongoing.

Some of these are common sense, and others might be surprising to you. They are suggestions so that you are not eliminated by something you did that can be off putting.

Being late
Make an effort to be on time rather than show up late. It shows that you respect the other angles you are meeting including her.

Being a cheapskate
Our members know that everyone pays enough to cover their own food and drinks at our dinners. But, don’t pull out the  calculator or argue over small amounts. It gives the impression that you are not a generous person.

Dominating the conversation
Don’t ramble on about yourself without even pausing long enough for anyone else to speak. If you interrupt other people’s conversation or don’t give others an opportunity to speak, they won’t be encouraged to want to see you again.

Coming on too Strongly
You may be very impressed with a woman at dinner. You really like her and want to see her again. But you will blow it if you come on too strongly at the table. Just be cool. Show you are interested by asking her questions and allowing her to voice her views too. Let her see the man that you are by sharing enough about yourself.

Talking about exes
Talking about your exes, shows you are not yet over them. It doesn’t matter if you are speaking about them in a positive or negative way. Topics such as how long your previous relationship was, are only natural. Be careful not to criticise or praise your ex’s too much. People will believe you are not yet ready for a new relationship.

Poor treatment of restaurant staff
The way in which you communicate with restaurant staff, and the other singles at the table can be either a big turn off, or a huge plus. Women will consider it a give away as to how you may treat her, your level of patience and consideration for other people.

Bad Phone Etiquette
Your phone should be on silent and out of sight during dinner. If there are important reasons such as children, it is fine to check a couple of times during the dinner. Otherwise, let the calls wait until after the dinner. Being too distracted by your phone can give the impression that you are not interested in them.

Bad Hygiene
This one sounds basic, but is very important.Check your fingernails are clean and short. Brush your teeth and wear deodorant. On the other end of the scale, it’s best not to be too heavy on the aftershave or cologne.

Not caring about their safety after dinner
Do the kind thing and enquire if she would like to be walked to her car or public transport. Be sensitive enough to gauge if she would prefer you to do so, or prefer to go it alone. Being thoughtful enough to ask is the important thing here.

One of the good things about attending our dinners, it that you are able to showcase who you are, rather than being judged by a photo and profile. So, don’t miss your opportunity to let them see how friendly, thoughtful and respectful you are.The right women will be attracted to you and want to see you again…Success!

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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Do you find these things confusing about women?

Do you find these things confusing about women?

There are plenty of things that men find confusing about women. There are the mood swings, mixed messages and nightmare shopping trips.

Do you find these things confusing about women?

Do you find these things confusing about women?

Here are some things that men told me they find mysterious and totally confusing about women.  Have you experienced any of these?

1. They can go to the shops all day and look at things they have no intention of buying. Why do they do this? Men go directly to the shop to buy what they need and then go home.

2. When a woman holds up two dresses, maybe a black dress and a red dress and asks: “Which dress should I wear this evening?” You reply the red one and then she says she thinks she would prefer the black one, so you say: “Ok, wear the black one,” and then she says obviously you don’t like it. It’s like banging your head up against a brick wall! I think she looks great in either and don’t really care which dress she wears. And, why did she ask me when she made up her own mind anyway?

3. When they go to the toilet together as a group. Why do they do that? What are they talking about?

4. They want you to be around then all the time and they don’t like it if you go out with your mates or spend too much tine at the gym. but it’s OK for them to go out or on holidays with their girlfriends.

5. The amount of makeup they put on their faces, when they look naturally gorgeous without any. And why does it take so long for women to get ready?

6. Why is she upset when I say she “looks nice”? Why are they attracted to bad guys? And why are my shoes so important? Why can’t a guy go out in his comfortable footwear?

7. I don’t understand it when she says “I’m fine” while she is crying. Either tell me what’s wrong or get on with it.

8. Why do women say one thing and mean the complete opposite? Why do they talk so much? How can they have so much to say – and it’s always about the same stuff?

9. Why do they need to decode and analyse everything you say and every text message? Such as how long it is and how many kisses there are. It doesn’t mean anything!

10. Their whole thought processes. How do women get to their decisions? The way they deal with their emotions is confusing to me. As a man, if I’m angry, I’m angry, and I know I’m angry and what I’m angry at. Women can be angry and have no reason why. They don’t even know what they are angry or emotional at. They can start out at the beginning of the day angry because they are running late and at the end of the day it is because you left the toilet seat up. Not the best analogy, but I think it makes the point. Men think in mostly black and white. Women have a thousand shades of grey. I love women…Mothers, sisters, friends…but a lot of the time, I have absolutely no idea what is going on in their heads.

The last point perfectly sums up what many men are confused about. They find it very difficult to work out what and how women are thinking.

Interestingly, men seem to think that women are playing games. Women often think that men are the ones playing games.

I have to admit as a woman myself, I do sympathise after hearing the answers and can understand how the female of the species can seem confusing to men. We often say one thing and mean another. Hopefully, it is worth the confusion.

Men and women communicate in different ways. We will always find each other frustrating and fascinating. But, that is what makes life exciting.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

5 secret things women look for at A Table for Six

5 secret things women look for at A Table for Six

5 secret things women look for at A Table for Six

5 secret things women look for at A Table for Six

Would you like to know what women are really checking out about the men at our A Table for Six singles dinners?

Some of the things that the women are taking note of when they meet you at dinner may surprise you. Or maybe you already know.

How you interact with everyone at the table including the other men.
It is an opportunity for them to gauge how you act in social situations. Are you considerate and inclusive in your conversations with everyone at the table?

How you interact with the restaurant staff.
Do you joke around in a “brighten their day and make their job easier way”? Do you treat them with respect and courtesy?

How you deal with settling the bill at the end of the evening.
Are you generous by including a small tip? Are you organised by bringing along cash to put in your share?

Your general attitude to life in your conversations.
Are you upbeat and mostly positive in your conversations? Do you speak negatively about ex-partners or women in general?

Your appearance
Are your fingernails clean? Are your clothes clean, appropriate and fairly up to date in fashion. Do you put in some effort to keep some sense of fitness and health?

I’m sure these are the things that you are taking note of when you meet women at dinner as well. It works both ways. Either way, we appreciate that you have dressed up nicely and come to dinner to meet our lovely female members.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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Set yourself apart as a gentleman

Set yourself apart as a gentleman

The basic fundamentals of dating and courting a woman have not really changed over time. Your goal should be to set yourself apart from other men she has met and dated by showing a woman that you are genuinely interested in her, and that you will continue to  put in an effort to do so – not only on the first few weeks of dating, but for the long term (potentially forever).

Set yourself apart as a gentleman

Set yourself apart as a gentleman

Does this sound like too much work and effort to you? Think about this: The right woman will love and care for you and will always exceed or match your efforts. Both of you making an effort together makes the dream work. It is far more rewarding and you will have much more fulfillment by putting an effort into one relationship with a special woman you truly love, than it is to put short term effort into always meeting a new woman a few months later because you didn’t put in the effort and attention your special woman deserved.

As a gentleman dating in the modern era, you can easily set yourself apart by how you carry yourself, your presentation, and very importantly, how you treat others. To make a good impression, hold higher standards for yourself than most of the male population. Being a male is a matter of birth, being a man is a matter of age, but being a gentleman is a matter of choice.

But let’s cut to the chase, what can you do, realistically, in today’s dating world to attract a mature woman who is tired of playing games?

Stay humble
If you want people to have a high opinion of you the key is not to tell them how brilliant you are.

Bragging to a woman on a first date about a recent promotion, or your brand new car, and how many properties you own, may seem like harmless ways to share good news.

However, self-promotion often backfires. Men often get the trade-off between self-promotion and modesty wrong. A man will mention his money as a means of winning a woman over. Unfortunately, sometimes this works. But most of the time, a woman requires so much more from a man than an impressive bank statement, and the kind of man who talks about his money at length, probably doesn’t have much else.

In modern times, women make their own money and have their own possessions. They  are not always impressed by yours. Sure, she will want to know you have some ambitions and want to match her efforts in life, but bragging about who you’ve met or what you drive or where you live, will send her running in the opposite direction.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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The most interesting guy she had met! Why?

The most interesting guy she had met! Why?

One of my male members told me about this experience. He had only been talking to this woman for part of the time at dinner. She said “You are the most interesting man I’ve met lately.”  He was confused, he hadn’t told her very much about himself.

He said “How is that possible?” It made her laugh and she realised he was right.

The most interesting guy she had met! Why?

The most interesting guy she had met! Why?

He wanted to know why she felt that way, so he prodded. Eventually she said “Because you ask really unique questions”.

The way you listen and get to know someone is one thing that can make a person interesting. If you know how to ask powerful questions that challenge a girl or make her think in a new way, she will think the conversation is interesting and project that on to you!

Next time you’re getting to know a girl at dinner (or anywhere else), don’t waste your time asking the same old questions that every other guy asks her like “What do you do for a living? Where are you from?” etc. You’ll get to those eventually.

Next time, ask interesting questions like “If you could be anywhere right now where would it be?” or “When was the last time you laughed so hard you almost peed?” They love answering those types of questions.

When she is enjoying telling you about something she loves to do, ask her “What’s that like?”

Try to engage her passionate and emotional side rather than her rehearsed answers she has given many times before. When you can get a girl to express her feelings about a certain subject, she will feel a connection with you on an emotional level.

That’s a powerful start and she will remember how you made her feel.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

Relationship break-up? Best way to move forward

Relationship break-up? Best way to move forward

Relationship breakups are never easy. The end of a relationship with someone you really care about can cause more pain than most events in your life.
Even if you were the one to instigate the breakup, you will most likely feel a whole range of emotions during the coming weeks and months.
Maybe you can look back now and clearly see the signs that trouble was coming. Or maybe, you still can’t work out how this happened.
Men don’t tend to acknowledge their emotions and feelings and are even less likely to discuss them. So there’s a lot less written about about their side of the situation.
But they certainly feel the range of emotions from disbelief, anger, sadness, loss, depression but sometimes relief.
Studies show that men  might even be affected more by breakups than women.
There are a lot of different variations of breakups. And every relationship is unique. Here are some coping strategies to help single men through those bleak, dark days after a breakup.

Relationship break-up? Best way to move forward

Relationship break-up? Best way to move forward

Feel the emotions and move through the pain

From childhood, men are discouraged from showing their emotions. “Be a man” and “big boys don’t cry” are phrases meant to hold those feelings in and don’t dare show them. During a relationship breakup, a man may have such strong emotions it overwhelms the instinct to suppress them. Instead of trying to hold them in, just allow them to wash over you. Feel them and know that you are going to feel bad for some time. It is better to really feel those emotions and work through them. To push them down will mean that they will manifest in a different (worse) way.
It may be tempting to cover up your feelings in temporary distractions such as drinking, drugs or working too much. This may help to distract you from the pain temporarily, but it may prolong the healing process that is necessary to move forward.

Don’t go all out to try to get her back

If your partner did the breaking up, you may feel tempted to go all out to win her back with flowers, poems and gifts. Unfortunately this may just come across as desperate. They could just need some space and showering them with over the top gestures will just make them feel pressured. If they are truly the one for you, no such huge gestures will be needed. You can’t force someone to want to spend their life with you or love you.

Quality sleep helps in moving forward

Sleep can be affected. Your mind is going crazy and can be out of control going over what went wrong. Those conversation you had or wished you had. And what you wish you had done differently. iTunes have a lot of recordings that are effective in helping to replace that mind chatter with peaceful sounds to help you drift off and to get some quality sleep.

Do something for yourself

The temptation to wallow in self pity or sadness can be strong. You are going to have to really take strong positive steps to use this time to your own long term advantage. It’s a good time to take up a new interest. Perhaps something you always wanted to do but couldn’t while you were in the relationship. Doing something creative, like playing a musical Instrument can be therapeutic. Even if you are not normally the creative type. If you would prefer to be more active, it is a good time to be more focussed on fitness. Being active has proven positive effects on mental and emotional well being.

Enjoy being single
There is a positive side to being single. There will come a time when you move from being miserable to realising some of the sacrifices you made in the relationship to keep the harmony. Make the decision to do something you wouldn’t have done when you were in the relationship. Go out with your mates to an all you can eat bar b que meat meal, go and watch some of the fight championships or stay in and watch Batman films.  It’s about enjoying your new single status. It’s making the most of an otherwise painful situation.You may even feel empowered when you realise that you now have the freedom to do the things that make you happy.

Buy a gift for yourself

Spoil yourself by purchasing something that makes you happy. No need to empty your savings account, but sometimes when you are feeling low a hit of retail therapy can give you a boost. Maybe you have put off upgrading your golf clubs, or buying that motorbike you’ve dreamed of owning. Recognise and acknowledge that you can make you own choices to do what makes you happy.

Get away

Taking a holiday away after a relationship breakup is truly expressing your new freedom. It will be different for each man, but the beauty is that you alone can choose. You don’t need to take anyone else’s wishes  into consideration. Take a road trip with no bookings or definite plans. Take a hiking holiday in the wilderness to reconnect with nature. Take some time to find the real you who could be a little wiser now.

Take a step back to look at the failed relationship objectively. Try not to blame anyone. I’m sure you can recognise there were things you could have done differently too. We are all just doing the best we can with what we know at the time. One day you may look back and recognise that the things you have learned from this failed relationship have enabled you to learn and grow and to enjoy a new amazing relationship. When you know more, you can do better.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
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Why isn’t she interested?

Why isn’t she interested?

The secret is to ask the right questions. They will feel special and know you are interested.

It doesn’t matter whether you’re meeting people to make new friends, or date an amazing woman…

They can tell if you are genuinely interested in them.

Humans are reciprocal beings. When you give interest, you get interest.

You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” – Dale Carnegie

Women want to know that you find them (specifically) interesting. They want to know that there’s SOMETHING other than just being an attractive woman that attracted you.

Why isn't she interested?

Why isn’t she interested?

Because everyone wants to feel special. When you make them feel that way, they’ll want to do the same for you.

Important steps
Your mindset – Reset your measure of success from obtaining an outcome to simply being curious about people.

Have a curiosity date (or two).

When you are meeting new people, your only goal is to answer this question about them:

“Who are they?”

Stay mindful of your goal. Plan ahead what you would like to know about people you meet. Make sure they are things you actually care about. If it doesn’t really interest you, you won’t be engaged and they will be able to tell you are not being genuinely interested.

You’re trying to get a better understanding of their personality, interests, and overall character.  Have a few questions brainstormed in advance that you could ask.

What are their favorite books, movies, TV shows, comedians, or musicians?
What’s the best place they’ve traveled to? Or, where are they most excited to visit?
Would they rather live in the country or the city?
What do they love or hate about their current job? What’s their dream job instead?
What’s their favorite way to exercise?
What did they want to be when they were a kid?
What scares them?
What’s the biggest change they made in the last year?
Are they close with their family?
What’s something most people don’t know about them?
If they were to die tomorrow, how would they spend their last day?

Some additional tips to help with your curiosity night:

If you can’t remember what to ask, remember the four topics that are always guaranteed to get people to open up.

Ask them about their DREAMS, RECREATION, OCCUPATION and FAMILY.

It’s best to start out with lighter questions and progress to more personal questions as time progresses. They will feel uneasy if the first question you ask is too personal.

Instead of asking “Do you like to read?” Ask an open ended question that will require them to open up about themselves. “What is your favourite type of book?”

You want to learn about their emotions and motivations. So, don’t just ask cold, bare facts. Another example, don’t just ask do they have a family. Ask what is the best thing about their family.

Don’t just ask what they do for a living, ask what drives them to go every morning, what is their biggest challenge, and where they would like to go from there.

When they say something that impresses you, give them a real compliment.

Remember their name. People love to hear their own name and feel special when you remember it.

Your old mindset of “How can I be good enough for this person? has now changed to “Is this someone I want in my life based on what I’m learning about them?” and this cultivates a mindset of abundance.

It forces you to make an honest evaluation of people and takes them off that pedestal. You will no longer feel desperate to fit their mold and you will have the courage to walk away from those who aren’t a good fit for you.

You will grow in confidence. In turn, that confidence attracts not only more people, but the right people.

Now that you have people interested in you. Don’t forget to treat them the same way you treat those closest to you.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
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The Single Best Way to Meet women – By Far

The Single Best Way to Meet Women – By Far

Do you know that, as a man the numbers are in your favour at our “A Table for Six” dinners?

A notorious bank robber of 1920’s, 30’s and 40’s America called Willie Sutton kept robbing banks over and over again. The reason he was so famous is because he would inevitably get caught, escape and continue to rob again.

After having a long career as a thief, he was asked why he kept robbing banks even though he knew he would inevitably be caught again.

“Because that’s where the money is.”

What Willie did was morally wrong. But there is something we can learn from him. He understood his chosen profession.
A Table for Six is where the genuine, relationship ready single women are…

Put the odds in your favour of meeting genuine single women
Do you have the information that can help you stop wasting time with judgemental, dismissive women? Do you know how you can put the odds in your favour of meeting genuine single women?

The Best Way to Meet Women - By Far

The Single Best Way to Meet Women – By Far

Online dating sites don’t disclose their ratio of male to female subscribers. But, single men tell me their experiences show the odds are against them on these sites. They send messages (kisses) to women they find interesting and attractive. Often the women lack the manners to even bother to reply.

If you have spent anytime on online dating sites, this will be no surprise to you.

The numbers are skewed in the single man’s favour at our singles dinners.
Here’s the important information for you! The ratio of men to women who understand the value of attending our A Table for Six dinners is skewed in the single man’s favour. You can meet new ladies each week, “in the flesh”.

Single women are comfortable in the small group situation in a restaurant and feel relaxed with no pressure. That is a big reason why they are so attracted to our singles dinners.

Get a huge advantage by attending our dinners
The single men who are in the know about this, understand they have a huge advantage by attending our dinners. They can meet single women face to face, who are interested in a special relationship and genuine partner.

Take the guess work out of meeting a special woman
The singles dinners are perfect for the busy single man! The dinners are coordinated for you. You can sit down for dinner with three single women who you know for sure are single and interested in a relationship. You will meet different women each time and the groups are compatible with you in mind. It takes the guess work out of meeting a special woman.

Why not go where the genuine, single women are?

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She won’t tell you this

She won’t tell you this

You are not imagining it. Women don’t always tell you exactly what they want.

But that doesn’t mean you have to stay in the dark.

There’s a logical way to shed some light on what women want when it comes to approaching, flirting, and getting a woman’s number.

She won't tell you this

She won’t tell you this

With a little help, you will know how to essentially read a woman’s mind in these crucial areas so you can know what she wants, without her actually saying it to you.

One of the things you should never expect a woman to tell you is when to approach her. She might tell you.  But if you expect it, you could be missing out on a a potentially great connection.

You can never expect a woman to say, “I’d like you to approach me now.”
Even if she really wants you to approach her, she is not likely to come over and let you know.
She doesn’t want to be approached by every man. Only the ones she feels comfortable around, if not attracted to. As long as you are relaxed, that’s important. Even if she isn’t attracted to you, or has a boyfriend, she’ll still feel flattered.

What is the best way to approach her and make sure it goes well?
The most important thing is you have the attitude of, “I’m just going to say “Hi”. With no huge expectations. Whatever happens is great.

If she responds negatively, there are 3 possible reasons.
1. She’s not as nice as she looks.
2. She’s having a bad night.
3. I came off wrong because I’m still learning how to approach well.

That’s it! No other reasons.  It’s definitely not “Oh, i guess I’m just very unattractive!”

None of those reasons is personal to you. They are either about her, or your skill level. And that is able to be improved.

You may have some room for improvement in the way you behave, the way you present yourself, but some of the reasons don’t have anything to do with you in particular. It is very important for your success that you don’t take rejections that have nothing to do with you personally.

Every second you spend worrying about them is a second you could invest in approaching another woman who wants to get to know you.

Don’t forget to smile at her!

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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