New relationships bring new experiences
When a relationship breaks down, it allows a space for new ones that are fundamentally better for us in our current situation in life, to develop.
Even though they will never take the place of someone who holds a very special place in your heart, they will bring new experiences and will be good for you in new and different ways.
You may feel as though you will never feel that way about someone again, but I promise you will fall in love again (probably more than once).
Relationships are such a great vehicle for learning. Our partners can teach us about what we need and want in a relationship. They can also show us what we definitely do not want. I’ve spoken to many people who have learned that one – I don’t want to be with someone who works long hours, or I don’t want to meet anyone who is too religious. It’s amazing how we seem to know what we don’t want.
A healthy and loving relationship can show us what we want and deserve. In a relationship that is not so healthy, we quickly learn which flaws we can deal with, and which flaws we can’t.
Everyone you enter into a relationship with will come with their own set of baggage and flaws, just as you do. Undoubtedly, some of these flaws will get under your skin more than others. Even a similar flaw may not bother you in one partner, but combined with other flaws in another, it may be too much to handle.
Some of your own flaws might make a certain partnership basically incompatible. That doesn’t mean that you or your mismatched partners are broken or unlovable; it just means that it probably isn’t going to be a blissful relationship.
All of our previous relationships have lessons for us and we can look back on our experiences and notice the good and the bad with them. Hopefully we can make better decisions with these things in mind.
A quote I found recently
“Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by mean of good luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness & sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without this small test, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. It would be safe & comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.
The people that you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience, help to create who you are and who you will become Even the bad experiences are learned from. In fact, they are the most poignant ones.
If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious when you open your heart. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love & how to open your heart & eyes to things.”
So, there’s a moral here: People come into our lives to teach us something. People come and people go and people make a difference. And it’s okay that they’re not in our lives anymore.