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Be true to you, they will be delighted

A little maturity is a good thing because hopefully we have gained some wisdom and learned from life experiences. Like most of us, I wish I could go back and tell my younger self that there is nothing wrong with the way I am and it’s ok if some people don’t like me or “get me”.

Today, in my business life, I believe that A Table for Six provides a service that can help all singles improve their social lives, meet new friends or a partner. But I have learned that not everyone will be a good fit for our dinners, may not see the value in them, or it could just be a matter of not being the right timing for them. Understanding this makes it easier to wish them well and invite them to contact us again if or when they are ready.

In our personal lives, seeking the approval of others can become a top priority. We can all relate at least a little to the desire to be well-liked. Most of us want to feel accepted, respected, and appreciated.

I’ve learned it’s actually a good sign if there are some people who don’t accept or agree with me. It’s not ok to be rude, inconsiderate or disrespectful. It’s about releasing our stress about other people’s opinions.

Once we are comfortable not being liked by everyone, it allows us to be true to ourselves. It also gives us the power to say no. Though people are basically good at heart, it is human nature to test other people’s boundaries. When you’re willing to risk being disliked, you’re able to say no when you need to. Your yeses and nos shape your future, so chose them wisely.

It teaches us to be kind and compassionate without having any expectations from others. It’s easy to offer compassion to someone who treats you with respect and kindness. It can be much more difficult to do and say what you know is right when people strongly oppose your views.

Trying to be liked by everyone will have you spreading yourself very thin by trying to keep them all happy. It is much better to spend our time enriching our own and other’s lives  instead of constantly worrying about other’s perceptions.

If you really want to be liked, then stop trying to be liked and start being you. Surround yourself with people who love and support you. They enjoy you most when you are being you and doing what you do best. Appreciate them and give them lots of love. Around them, you’ll feel a warm, fuzzy sense of belonging.

“What other people think of you is not our business. If you start to make that business your business, you will be offended for the rest of your life.” Deepak Chopra

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311
Lic no 3338670

If you don’t have a belief in yourself, how do you expect others to?

Self confident people just seem to know that no matter what life throws at them, they have the ability to work through it and cope well. When things aren’t going well they still see it in a positive light.

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Can you grow your self confidence? Can you become excited about this quest for self confidence? Self confidence is everything.

Are you tired of feeling tongue tied at that critical moment?  Or of realising you talked too much and ruined a perfect moment. Lack of self confidence is one of the top reasons we miss out on connecting with possible new friends or a partner.

Do you think you’ve either got it (self confidence) or you haven’t go it? Or can you grow your self confidence?

To do so, it’s the same procedure you use to gain skills in any field. Every day, read or watch some advice in this area. There’s plenty of books on this subject and also some fantastic Utube videos online.

Every day do things to grow it. Test yourself by stretching and trying some things you haven’t had the confidence to do before. Do you think the top surfers could ride those huge waves the first time they took their board into the waves?

Confidence is the most important skill when it comes to success in any area of your life. Spend time with people who build you up and encourage you. Move away from people who drag you down.

“Low self-confidence isn’t a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered–just like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better.” –Barrie Davenport

If you don’t have a belief in yourself, how do you expect others to?

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Margaret Newitt
Franchisor
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.om.au
1300 885 311
Lic no 3338670

Have you decided you are not dating right now?

When we were children , we had big dreams. We believed we could be anything  we wished and could have anything we desired.
What happened to those dreams?
Life inevitably sends us knocks. And then fear and doubt chip away at our dreams until they’re reduced to memories and wishes that might have been.
There are always choices. Every day we are sent opportunities, but we don’t always recognise them.
There is always a choice of which path to take. Take the same path you are familiar with and know what to expect. Or another path that is unknown and may be uncomfortable.
There’s no right or wrong. But  to never try something new or different is to play small and to rob life of the excitement of changes and challenges.

Anything that we do for the first time can be scary or difficult. It can never be as scary once you have faced your fears. One thing that we don’t think about is that there’s only one first time.
Every time we take a step out of our comfort zone to do something we haven’t done before, we always learn more than we expected to.

How do I know if I am taking the easy road? How do I know if I am choosing not to date right now?

Do you regularly do any of these activities to meet singles?

  • go to the niche places where you could meet singles. Join clubs, take classes, volunteer or do any of the things that would put singles in front of you?
  • start conversations or say a friendly “Hi” to people you meet as you go about your daily life?
  • attend social events to increase your chances of meeting someone new?
  • plan some social events with your friends and see who shows up. Make it clear new people are welcome?
  • accept every invitation to a party, wedding or gathering you are given?
  • attend community groups that services other people with a similar interests?
  • talk to people in your local coffee shop?

Without trying some new places to meet singles, you have decided you are not dating at the moment.

When we venture to places we have never been before, doing something we haven’t done before, our experience of the world expands. Usually we learn a lot more about ourselves and how we have been holding ourselves back.

Our A Table for Six dinners are a great way to meet singles, make friends or meet a partner. Explore new opportunities and make your dreams come true.

Opportunity dances with those on the dance floor.” — Anonymous

Blessings

Margaret Newitt

www.atableforsix.com.au

1300 88 53 11

Lic no 3338670

Here’s the formula to meeting a loving partner.


What is the most important area of your life? Is your love life as important as watching your favourite show on TV or your 40-50 hour a week job? Sometimes I think it must not be. I know you’re busy and have your priorities. But if you were at the end of your life and looking back, would you wish you had worked more hours or would you regret not making your personal life a priority?

Any goal you set for yourself has a formula for success. Failure is never that you don’t know how to achieve the goal. It’s that you won’t take the necessary steps to make it happen.

Dating isn’t that intricate or difficult. There’s a basic formula that will lead to meeting a loving partner.

 

  • Choose an avenue for meeting suitable singles (find something you enjoy along the way)

 

  • Ask as many questions as possible about how other singles have achieved dating success through the service.

 

  • Ask for  advice from the singles organisation or study up on the best dating tips and behaviour.

 

  • Spend some time and a little money on making the most of your appearance. (Everyone has attractive qualities. It’s a matter of drawing attention to them)

 

  • Know what your boundaries are that are non-negotiable.

 

  • Outside of your non-negotiables, be open to whom you date.

 

  • Be open to catching up with a potential partner a 2nd (or 3rd) time.

 

  • Date your potential partners and give them a real chance (Don’t dismiss them without seeing the possible gem)

 

  • Continue dating until you find someone who’s worthy of your love and life.

 

That’s it!

blessings

Margaret Newitt

Franchisor

www.atableforsix.com.au


Millions of people have happy relationships- why shouldn’t you?

If you have been single for a while, perhaps you have registered on an online dating site. Or maybe you have been out with your girlfriends or mates hoping to meet someone. You got excited at first when you received a lot of messages on the online site. You even met a few people for coffee or a drink. But they weren’t anything like you were expecting them to be. Or you may have dated a couple of them for a while.

But after knowing them for a time, you found that the information they had given wasn’t exactly true. They said they were financially stable, but then you found out they had nothing but debts. They said they were ready for a real relationship, but they actually were still living with their ex.

So you decided

Dating means disappointment

Dating means hurt

Dating is hard work

So you decide to take a well deserved break from dating.

You fill up your life with friends, family, work and travel. – another two years pass by.

You notice your friends are finding their special partner so you decide to dip your toe in the water of dating again.

But your previous experience tells you that relationships cause pain.

Don’t build your conclusions on a narrow field of experience. Millions of people have happy relationships. And if some people can be blissfully happy, why shouldn’t you be?

It’s true that dating involves some luck, timing, chemistry, similar goals and values. But people fall in love everyday. So if it hasn’t happened to you yet, it means that you need to meet more people.

If you were job hunting, you wouldn’t stop applying for positions because you hadn’t found the right position.

Our dinners will give you the opportunity to meet other singles in person in a relaxed, friendly environment. It’s time to step out, act confident and know you won’t fail.

Another good news story from A Table for Six

Here’s another good news story from our A Table for Six dinners.

S told me she had dated a lot in her 20’s and felt there were plenty of guys to choose from. She settled down and married and was in her marriage for 20 odd years until it broke up for various reasons. She found herself single again and in her late 40’s. S found the dating scene at this age to be very different than when he was in her 20’s. Yes there were men to date, but having the checklist she had in her 20’s just wasn’t realistic now. She didn’t want to date anyone who had dependent children, didn’t have the same interests as she had or didn’t share the same religious beliefs. This proved to be very unsuccessful for S.

Eventually S realised that she could have a strict checklist and be lonely or she could become more realistic and be open to meeting men who could offer her genuine love and commitment even though they might not fit the exact profile she had in mind. S decided to be open to the men she met who were gentlemen and showed interest in her. We noticed the change in her feedback from dinners and about 4 months ago she met R at a dinner. They have been dating since then and they let us know that they are very serious about their relationship and very in love. If S had kept to her list, he would never have got to know R. They have differences but their core values are the same.

We are happy for them and look forward to hearing how their relationship progresses. We love hearing about and passing on our good news stories.

What is the most important relationship in our lives?

What is the most important relationship in our lives?

Our significant other, our parents or our children may spring to mind. These relationships are significant, but there is one other relationship that is with us all of our lives.

Our relationship with ourselves has a huge impact on our lives. To have a healthy relationship with another, it is first important to love and nurture yourself.

Do you ever have the urge to spend some delicious time by yourself doing whatever it is that makes you happy? It may be reading magazines, watching a movie or going on an adventure by yourself. It’s important to know yourself and what is important to you before you can reveal yourself to the world as someone who knows what they want and believe in.

In her book Prosperity Pie, the writer asks “What if when someone asks you if you are dating anyone, you respond ‘Well I am really involved in loving myself right now’ ” How liberating!

The little voice in our head tries to tell us we are being selfish when we put ourselves first, but it is a brave and smart person who knows and understands the importance of loving and honouring yourself. Everyone around you will benefit from it too.

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be fund anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.”

Buddha

Blessings

Margaret Newitt

Franchisor

www.atableforsix.com.au

1300 885 311

Lic no 3338670

How to stay positive until Mr/Ms Right comes along

“I’ve been single for a few years now. My friends have set me up a few times. I’ve tried dating all sorts of people. I’m starting to think that my ideal partner doesn’t exist. Who would want to date me anyway?

It’s easy for people to say to you “Just stay positive and believe.” But that’s not always so easy. Especially when you’ve put yourself out there to ask someone out and they knocked you back or they decide they want to be just friends.

A good way to think about it is “Would you date yourself?”  To keep yourself going and to stay positive, list all of your best qualities. Don’t be stingy! Include everything you can possibility think of. Little children love me…..I’m a great cook……..I make people feel at ease…My ears are very cute……

List as many things as you can possibly think of. Be lavish in your praise for yourself. Once you realise what a good catch you are, you’ll become more attractive to others. Write your list and add to it every time you think of something else to add. Ask your friends to contribute as well. You’ll be surprised what they will say that you hadn’t even thought of. Keep the list somewhere you can see it everyday to remind you that anyone would be lucky to have you as a partner.

You can also use this opportunity to recognise anything about yourself that could do with some tweaking. If you have some true friends who can be straight with you, they may point out some behaviour that could be holding you back in this quest. If their intentions are for your betterment, listen and take on board their comments.

It’s never about the girls or guys out there. It’s always about you and where your focus is. Be certain about your value and others will recognise it too.

Blessings

Margaret Newitt

www.atableforsix.com.au