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A new romance? It’s never too late

A new romance? It’s never too late

No matter whether you’re 35 or 75, it’s never too late to fall in love again. Just ask some of our members who have been surprised how they have found love and it has taken them by surprise.

A new romance? It’s never too late

A new romance? It’s never too late

listen to the stories of people’s lives when they join A Table for Six. Everyone has such an interesting story to tell. Here is an example “I’ve been single for a while now and I’m quite comfortable. My friends are wonderful and I enjoy my work. I love my home and I’m very grateful for my  family. Overall I’ve become very good at being single. But sometimes I really miss having a partner to share my life with. Someone to talk, snuggle and grow with. I’m afraid that after a divorce, it may be too late for me.”

I also listen to the stories of the members who have found what they were hoping for, long after they they thought that was possible.  Does this happen by accident or is it just good luck. Or is there something special they had done or changes they had made to connect with a partner at any age?

There is often a similar theme. They are people who had come to terms with the idea they may not ever find a special someone again. But, they had also done some inner work on themselves that meant they felt worthy of love. They had also reached a point where they were ready to accept a partner as he/she is and were ready to be accepted unconditionally by him/her.

They see their new relationship as peaceful with less drama. They have learnt from all of their previous experiences in their past relationships. Is their new love someone who is identical to them? No, but they share values and a commitment to bring out the best in each other. Each one is dedicated to the development of the other.

One couple I checked in with recently told me that their first year was hard. She was cleaning and tidying while he didn’t clean or pick up. He loved to watch some TV while she didn’t watch at all. Then they refocused on loving each other a lot and that’s the most precious thing in the world. She accepted him the way he is and didn’t worry about the little things. He was more considerate of her love of neatness, and made more effort to help out. She joined him to watch some TV that interested her too. He remembered to show his appreciation to her.

“As you follow this path, you will find that compassion and acceptance replace fear, negative judgement, and worry. You will approach dating with curiosity, fascination, and a light heart, wanting only what is good for yourself and another person. Instead of choosing a partner based on images, pretense, and roles, you will be able to join your journey with another and learn what it means to create a spiritual bond that is flexible and expansive for both.”

from “If the Buddha dated by Charlotte Kasl

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Why some men almost always get the woman’s number

Why some men almost always get the woman’s number

I’m sure you have heard the dating advice about the “Fear of Failure”. Should you ask the woman for her number?

This traditional Chinese proverb offers some wisdom.
“He who asks is a fool for five minutes, but he who does not ask is a fool for ever.”

Maybe you’ve heard this quote by Wayne Gretzky, former National Hockey League superstar.
“One hundred percent of the shots you don’t take don’t go in.”

One guy decides to use this wisdom and asks and fails…over and again.

Guy number 2 decides not to ask for any woman’s number. Even though he meets women he finds attractive and have shown interest in him.

Why some men almost always get the woman’s number

Why some men almost always get the woman’s number

The moral of the story? You can’t win if you don’t try…true enough!
Or “Don’t let the fear of failure hold you back”.

Guy number one didn’t lose anything by asking. But he probably felt a bit deflated. He might have decided there was something wrong with the women he was meeting. However, if he continues to keep asking, he is certain to eventually get a number and a date.

Let me ask you a question!

Would you tackle a crocodile the same way more than once if it meant you came off worse?

Or borrow money from the mafia to pay your debts more than once?

There would be serious consequences!

People who try to do this, don’t live very much longer.

So, fear of failure is a very healthy thing!

But, there is another guy in this story… Guy number three.

Guy number three realises that attractive women get asked for their number or a date a lot. He needs to stand out. How to get the positive response he is looking for? He doesn’t want to waste his time. He wants to meet his special woman sooner.

There are many ways to stand out from the crowd (of men) and impress when asking for a contact number or date.

When you meet a woman you are attracted to…listen and observe! First, listen for her name. If you missed it, there is nothing wrong with asking her again. Call her by her name when you are speaking. It will help you remember it, and she will like it too.

Listen to the things she is interested in. There are a myriad of clues in there to help you in the future.

We have a standard “contact request” message we send. But, what if you asked us to send something special like this?

“Cassandra, I know you love Italian food. “I know this place..it’s not far from your area… they make  the absolute best beef ragu with the most delicious tomato and red wine sauce. The beef is so tender it melts in your mouth. And they have the coldest beer anywhere on earth. Would you like to go there with me sometime soon?”

OR

“Felicity, you mentioned you love jazz music! My favourite jazz band play a fantastic night of  soul soothing and booty-shaking tunes. Would you like to join me for an evening of toe-tapping and great music and atmosphere?”

There is no guarantee this will have the desired response, but maybe she will be very impressed that you took interest in her and what she had to say. It could be a refreshing change.

Why not try this next time you meet a single woman at dinner that you find attractive? We will be delighted to send your personalised contact request.

Our goal is that you have the best possible experience at our dinners and events and especially that you have the best possible chance of getting a contact number of that special woman you met.

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Margaret Newitt
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This one very important thing we can control

This one very important thing we can control

“Your future depends on many things, but mostly on you” ~Frank Tyger

That’s hard to hear isn’t it? We can’t really blame our parents, our upbringing, the economy or anyone else. It would be so much easier if we could. We’ve all heard people complaining that they didn’t  have the upbringing or the opportunities. Possibly we’ve even gone down that road ourselves at times.

But, you know, in reality, it’s a very good thing. The people I’ve observed who have overcome a situation, or become successful in any area of their life, have had one thing in common. They have been persistent in developing the skills they needed to  get there. They didn’t waste their energy blaming a lack of opportunity, or other people. They just kept going. Sure, they failed at times.

This one very important thing we can control

This one very important thing we can control

Remember when you see a man at the top of a mountain, he didn’t fall there.”~Unknown

I think it is pretty exciting when you think about it. There are a lot of things in life that we don’t have control over. But, this one very important thing we do. Our own future in in our own hands and it will take some patience, perspiration and mostly perseverance. And at least we know it’s possible.

Would you like to make a change in your Single/Social life? If you would, we are passionate providing opportunities for you to meet like-minded singles who would like to have genuine friendships and genuine relationships. Come on over to our website www.atableforsix.com.au and register interest. Or, email me on info@atableforsix.com.au

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Top 5 first Date Ideas To Take a Special Woman

Top 5 first Date Ideas To Take a Special Woman

Once you have met a special woman at dinner and it’s time for a first date, here’s the top 5 first date ideas to take a special woman to help you stand out from the crowd (according to askmen.com)

5. A trip to the local art gallery (for the artsy girl)
4. Local music show – Conversation is important on a first date, but a combo of conversation and pleasant distraction and setting a fun relaxed mood is golden.

Top 5 First Date Ideas To Take A Special Woman

Top 5 First Date Ideas To Take A Special Woman

3. Play tourist – Take your date on a touristy excursion around your hometown and see the city from a different perspective.
2. Ice skating – A great date for women who love to be active. No matter if she doesn’t know how to skate, a great opportunity for holding hands.
1. Try new cuisine – Sharing new experiences together is a great way to build a connection. Try something a little adventurous, a new ethnic cuisine, something neither of you have tried before.

 

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Are you a repairable writeoff?

Are you a repairable writeoff?

My husband decided it was time for a different motorbike. To make space in the garage, that meant selling the one he had owned for some time.

He was happy that it didn’t take very long before he had someone interested in buying the outgoing bike. His excitement about buying the new one was pretty evident. He couldn’t talk about anything else.

The prospective buyer came around, inspected and approved the bike my husband was selling. The buyer put down a substantial deposit and said he would be back in a few days with the balance of the amount owing and to collect his purchase.

As you can imagine, my husband was visualising his new bike in the garage, planning trips he would take on his new set of wheels. He could hardly sleep because of his excitement.

Are you a repairable writeoff?

Are you a repairable writeoff?

The morning came of the day when the sale was to be finalised. A phone call from the purchaser came in, to confirm his arrival later that day we presumed. Wrong! The purchaser had conducted an online search that uncovered that the bike was “a repairable write-off”. The sale was off. This was a complete surprise to my husband. It wasn’t disclosed when he had purchased this bike. It didn’t show any visible signs of any repair and it performed well every time he rode it.

However, it had been labelled… “A repairable write-off” “Mild structural damage to the front.”

This made me think about humans and the collisions/disasters that we go through. Particularly in regard to relationships. The devastating breakups, the long drawn out divorces, the betrayals and the sad losses of dear loved ones.

When we meet someone new, we usually can’t see any visible signs of any disasters of their past.    However, their performance or behaviour is where we can see glimpses into their past, or see the results of a lot of repairs.

As humans, we are all completely repairable. In fact, in our case, we can be a much improved version of ourselves after going through disappointment, sorrow, loss, grief and despair.

After losing a precious loving partner, we can learn to value and appreciate every moment with a loved one. We can learn from our mistakes we made in previous relationships. With enough honest self reflection, we can clearly see why an unhappy  relationship ended. We can be more aware of our own behaviour and also notice the bad choices we have previously repeated in choosing a partner.

I’m sure you have all met people who are still in need of more repairs. There are even some people who don’t believe they had any part in their disasters. It was completely the fault of the other party.

The most amazing people are the ones who have been through some tough times and have come out the other side much wiser and smarter. If we are involved in a number of accidents, then we are the common denominator. Its time to take a different approach to gain a different outcome.

Of course, repairs are always ongoing…small cracks appear and need to be attended to. Fill them with love and compassion for yourself and also for all the other “repairable write-offs”.

P.S. My husband rode the bike he wanted to sell to the buyer’s home to return his deposit. The buyer had second thoughts and decided he wanted to buy it anyway… AND the shiny new one is in our garage. I have a happy man.

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Margaret Newitt
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Do you need a nudge to make a change this year?

Do you need a nudge to make a change this year?

2017 is almost half way through. We have had a lot of success partnering our members up so far this year. We also heard from members who met through other means, but they said  that attending our dinners gave them the confidence in their lives that made all the difference. Our members tell us that they enjoy the dinners so much because they find them relaxed, and fun. The pressure they feel with internet dating isn’t there at our dinners. It’s all about the group enjoying some single company and conversation over dinner.

I never tire of hearing the members feedback and hearing of their enjoyment. We love to hear the good stories from our happy members.

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Do you ever feel as though there is someone out there that you could be deeply connected to-Someone that you haven’t met yet?

If you’re like most people who are single (and would prefer not to be), in spite of this wonderful sense of possibility, you also struggle with the challenge of how to bring this beloved person into your life. You may feel disappointed, frustrated, confused and even pain sometimes because they are not in your life yet.
I’m not usually a country music fan, but I caught a few lines of a song by Adam Brandt called “There will be love” that says it all. ” There will be love in our lives, just as long as we are willing to try.”

If any of that sounds familiar to you, we have helped people who thought they would never have success in dating again. Perhaps you need a nudge in the right direction, or you fear you are the least likely to succeed in dating.
Just remember, you don’t need to change anything externally about yourself or your life.  You only need to let go of those obstacles you have that are holding you back. Instead of spending another year hoping for love that doesn’t show up, you can contact us so that we can organise to have you out and meeting our fabulous members at dinners as soon as this weekend. You’ll be amazed by how quickly it can happen.

If you have goals to achieve in 2017 and one of them to to make a difference to your social/dating life, I want to invite you to make a commitment to yourself… A commitment that you’ll make this year the one you look back on as the year you made a change in your life.

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Margaret Newitt
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“In Sickness And In Health”

“In Sickness And In Health”

Have you said those words? If so, when you did, I’m sure you said them with the very best of intentions.

When considering if you are interested in dating, getting to know and perhaps marrying a partner, do you really think about what those words mean?

“In Sickness And In Health”

“In Sickness And In Health”

Some of the more common considerations made are if they could bring offspring into the reunion. Or, what is their extended family like.? Perhaps their financial situation and their temperament.

Yet, few people really consider something that is a vital question – can I suffer with this person?

Suffering is an inevitable part of life. No one escapes it in the long run. As we get older we come to know that suffering is not a rare occurrence. It is a common aspect of life.

Sorrow comes in many forms, yet it is guaranteed to come. Something that is important to consider is that not everyone suffers well.

Some people are unable to face the realities of life that are difficult. Some are easily overcome by life’s difficulties and are unable to cope at all.

Those who are able to put these difficulties into perspective, know they can count on themselves to deal with it, and simply put one foot in front of the other are an inspiration.

Who do you want beside you when the doctor says “I’m sorry there is nothing we can do.”

On whose shoulder do you want to lean when you tragically lose a family member?

With whom do you want to lay beside when you don’t know whether your child will ever come home?

When the world seems a crazy place, in whose eyes do you want to look?

Find someone who suffers well. You may be more attracted to a beautiful smile than someone who shows quiet determination. You may think it is more important to have interests in common than to have a quiet internal strength.

When challenges appear, you will appreciate someone by your side who believes in you, someone who encourages you and continues to have hope no matter what is put in front of you.

Having someone beside you who knows that suffering will come and go will make a huge difference. The best partner to have will confront sorrows with you. They will be able to laugh and cry with you. And, most importantly, they will offer support and hope in all of life’s challenges.

The best possible thing you can get out of a relationship is that you’re with someone who encourages you to be the best version of yourself every day.” ~Nishan Panwar

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Margaret Newitt
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Are you a go getter who creates a life they love?

Are you a go getter who creates a life they love?

I had a question recently.

Question. Hi Margaret, I  need a change in my life. I’m 43 and I think I’ve missed the boat. I feel insecure about getting out there and meeting people again after a long relationship. It just seems easier to give my attention to my work, and spend my time with my family and friends. Any advice?

In one of my favourite books “The Artist’s Way” by Julia Cameron, she asks “Do you know how old I will be by the time I learn to really play the piano/ act/ paint/ change my social life, meet lots of like-minded singles and a loving partner?” By the way, I added the last bit about changing your life and meeting a partner etc!

Are you a go getter who creates a life they love?

Are you a go getter who creates a life they love?

The answer. The answer to this question….The same age you will be if you don’t.

Feedback -I’d happily do it again. Here’s some feedback that came in last week from a gorgeous lady who attended her first dinner. (And she made a new friend already)

“Hi Margaret,

I had a lovely night on Saturday and found all the group good company and
very pleasant to talk to and we had plenty to talk about. I have to admit I
was very nervous and walked past the restaurant several times before I went
in. My fears were quickly laid to rest and I would happily do this again. I
give the dinner enjoyment  10/10.
The restaurant and meal was alright. We
weren’t hurried and were able to stay until quite late.
Thank you again for organising a great group of people.”

Name withheld

If you believe it, you will see it. Don’t listen to the women who say “all the good men are taken” or the men who say “I can’t find any good women”. These are self-fulfilling beliefs. If you believe there is a shortage of good partners out there, that will be your experience. If you believe there are lots of interesting, classy, kind people for you to meet and choose from, your experience is going to be amazing!

This is your life and I’d love to help. Have you put off something else in your life and now you want to go back and tell your younger self to just do it? If so, I want to hear from you, so that you are congratulating yourself in twelve, six or three months time for being a go getter who creates a life they love. As Nike says “Just do it!”

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Margaret Newitt
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9 Points-So You Impress Her

9 Points-So You Impress Her

Are you ready for a relationship? Fortunately, the feedback we receive from the women who attend our dinners is mostly that they are very impressed with the calibre of men they meet at our dinners.

Boy gives girl a gift. wooden background

9 points-So You Impress Her

Here are nine tips about what women notice about you when they meet you for the first time and ongoing.

Some of these are common sense, and others might be surprising to you. They are suggestions so that you are not eliminated by something you did that can be off putting.

Being late
Make an effort to be on time rather than show up late. It shows that you respect the other angles you are meeting including her.

Being a cheapskate
Our members know that everyone pays enough to cover their own food and drinks at our dinners. But, don’t pull out the  calculator or argue over small amounts. It gives the impression that you are not a generous person.

Dominating the conversation
Don’t ramble on about yourself without even pausing long enough for anyone else to speak. If you interrupt other people’s conversation or don’t give others an opportunity to speak, they won’t be encouraged to want to see you again.

Coming on too Strongly
You may be very impressed with a woman at dinner. You really like her and want to see her again. But you will blow it if you come on too strongly at the table. Just be cool. Show you are interested by asking her questions and allowing her to voice her views too. Let her see the man that you are by sharing enough about yourself.

Talking about exes
Talking about your exes, shows you are not yet over them. It doesn’t matter if you are speaking about them in a positive or negative way. Topics such as how long your previous relationship was, are only natural. Be careful not to criticise or praise your ex’s too much. People will believe you are not yet ready for a new relationship.

Poor treatment of restaurant staff
The way in which you communicate with restaurant staff, and the other singles at the table can be either a big turn off, or a huge plus. Women will consider it a give away as to how you may treat her, your level of patience and consideration for other people.

Bad Phone Etiquette
Your phone should be on silent and out of sight during dinner. If there are important reasons such as children, it is fine to check a couple of times during the dinner. Otherwise, let the calls wait until after the dinner. Being too distracted by your phone can give the impression that you are not interested in them.

Bad Hygiene
This one sounds basic, but is very important.Check your fingernails are clean and short. Brush your teeth and wear deodorant. On the other end of the scale, it’s best not to be too heavy on the aftershave or cologne.

Not caring about their safety after dinner
Do the kind thing and enquire if she would like to be walked to her car or public transport. Be sensitive enough to gauge if she would prefer you to do so, or prefer to go it alone. Being thoughtful enough to ask is the important thing here.

One of the good things about attending our dinners, it that you are able to showcase who you are, rather than being judged by a photo and profile. So, don’t miss your opportunity to let them see how friendly, thoughtful and respectful you are.The right women will be attracted to you and want to see you again…Success!

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Margaret Newitt
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Create the most wonderful luck you can dream of

Create the most wonderful luck you can dream of

Do you know someone who seems to be very lucky? They have met a wonderful partner and they are very happy and enjoying a close loving relationship.

Do you believe that they are just lucky? Most of the people I know who have had success in relationships (or in any other area of life) have not just been drawn out of a life lottery  to receive this blessing. It may appear to you that they just went out on their first evening as a single person and this perfect person just appeared. But behind every overnight success there is a lot of resilience.

Create the most wonderful luck you can dream of

Create the most wonderful luck you can dream of

You see, we all make our own luck.  Luck is about showing up in life with an open attitude. It’s about believing, connecting, seeing opportunities, showing up, being consistent, loyal, and living life fully open and boldly. Being lucky is about a whole lot of resilience and persistance.

So many people expect that they should have everything they desire straight away. We live in a quick fix society where many things are available at our fingertips. But the important things in life are worth waiting for and they don’t usually happen overnight. People don’t want to hear that a lot of preparation and persistence is needed to attain what they want.

If you go out and someone says something to upset you, you can choose how to react. You can choose to let them spoil your evening, or you can choose to let it go. You can even choose to be empathetic to them. What could have happened in their life today to make them act this way?

People who understand that they are working towards an outcome, know that we hold the power to create our own experiences and everything that happens to us. In any given moment we have the opportunity to experience a bad moment or to observe positive things and enjoy a great moment.

The person you know who seems so lucky because they went out and met their partner most likely went out on many occasions with an open, loving attitude to the people they met. They possibly didn’t always feel on top of the world. They possibly didn’t always feel like being positive and making an effort to ensure they engaged with everyone. But they know that how you act and react to to others is key to how happy you are in your life.

Create the most wonderful luck you can dream of. So go out and create the most wonderful luck you can dream of.

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Margaret Newitt
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