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Are you ready for a new relationship?

Are you ready for a new relationship?

Relationships are not black and white. Is the old relationship really dead? Should I be going out to meet someone else? Or should I just wait to see how my old relationship pans out? Sometimes we struggle to know when is the time to take the step to see who else is out there for us.

Are you ready for a new relationship?

Are you ready for a new relationship?

You may be missing the companionship of the opposite sex and would like to take the plunge and start meeting new people. It is important that you have dealt with any relationship baggage before you return to the dating scene. Perhaps you could ask yourself the following questions to learn if you are ready to move on, or are still dealing with a past relationship.

Are you able to speak of the past relationship without feeling angry or bitter about the way it ended. This kind of reaction may be a turn-off to potential new love interests and may indicate you are still grieving.

If your ex contacted you to rekindle the relationship how would you respond? If your immediate response is to take him/her back, you might not be ready to participate in a new healthy relationship.

Do you talk about the relationship or your ex a lot? If you find yourself in conversations with your friends or family that lead to a story involving your ex, the situation is still very much  at the forefront of your mind and you may need to take more time to heal any hurt caused by the breakup.

Can you speak of the relationship in a positive way? Recounting stories, accepting the relationship for what it was, realising what you may have learnt from this relationship is a strong sign that you are moving on. If you still get anxious or upset when you see your ex or look at a photo, you might need more time to heal.

Everyone’s journey is different and we all take different amounts of time to grieve. But do encourage yourself to let go and move on. Once you feel you are ready, try going out and having fun without it needing to result in a relationship straight away. Give yourself positive self talk and remember that good things still await you and you will find that someone special at the right time.

Our A Table for Six dinners are a great way to ease yourself back into the singles social scene. There’s no pressure and you will be able to practise enjoying the company of a lot of different people. We’re here to serve you and to help ease you back into dating.

Check out our upcoming dinners here

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

 

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She is attracted to you when…

She is attracted to you when…

You may be meeting her for the first time, or you could have been on a few dates already, but how do you know if she is into you? Here are a few simple things you can watch out for that will give you some hints.

Is she responding or ignoring?
When you send a text, or leave a voicemail, does she respond to your attempts at communication? If she does, that a good sign. With modern technology, it’s easier than ever to filter out people that we don’t want in our lives. If she wants to avoid you, it isn’t very hard. However, if she replies, responds and even initiates communication with you, it’s a clear sign that there is interest and attraction.

She is attracted to you when...

She is attracted to you when…

Who has her attention?
If a woman is into you, she won’t be spending a lot of time texting, checking or talking on her mobile phone while on a date with you. If there is an important call she needs to take, she will excuse herself and explain it is family, work or something that can’t be put off.
Otherwise, if she spends any time throughout the date being distracted by her phone, there’s a good chance she isn’t really attracted to you.

Does she see the funny side of it?
This one is probably the biggest, clearest sign that she is attracted to you. Humour doesn’t lie. It’s also one of the biggest attractors for women. If she laughs at your jokes, it is a clear sign that there is a connection between the two of you, because humour is a very personal thing. It also shows that she can relax around you a bit.

Is she chasing you?
Our aim is to get her to be as proactive in attracting you. Getting her to chase you a little too by phoning you, or suggesting a next outing is a step up from her responding to your calls. If she does, you don’t need to wonder if she is into you. She definitely is.

What does her body tell you?
Our body language doesn’t lie. A large part of our communication is nothing to do with the words we say. Rather, body language and tonality say far more than words ever could. When you are together, is she angled toward you a lot of the time? Or is her body turned away from you? Does she ever touch you? How does she react when you touch her? Analysing her body language is one of the surest ways for you to tell if she is into you.

She may not be doing all of these things, but if she is ticking some of these boxes, it’s a good sign that she likes you a lot.

Want to meet genuine, attractive single women in a small, relaxed group at dinner? We can help you meet the right women and have an opportunity to get to know them a little  at dinner. You can let them see how great you are, and amazing outcomes will happen.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
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A Second meeting?

A second meeting?

Do you have friends who are in happy relationships and all coupled up? Most of us do.

Instant attraction?
They usually have an interesting story to tell about how they came to be together. If they haven’t shared their story with you, ask them to do so. Very often you will find that they didn’t have an instant attraction. They may have met a few times before there were any sparks flying.

Although most men appear to be playing it cool, some are genuinely unsure of themselves. Many men need a little encouragement from a woman to know that you are interested.

A second meeting?

A second meeting?

Friends first
We receive requests for contact numbers after our dinners as you know. It’s a fantastic gauge that the dinner was a success and people made connections. There’s the obvious ones where a man requests a lady’s number or a lady requests a man’s number. But also many times it is for friendship as well. When single, it’s very important to have single friends to spend time with.

Once we receive  a reply we pass the contact number on to the person who asked for it. But sometimes the answer is a no.

Why not catch up for a drink?
All of our members have an interesting story to tell. Why not at least catch up for a coffee or a drink? It’s a good idea to meet for a brief catchup the first time. That way if there isn’t a connection you can go your own ways. But, you may find that you have more in common that you first thought.

If your happily coupled up friends hadn’t gotten together after their first meeting they wouldn’t be together today. Say yes to another catch up.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
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Avoid doing this..It makes you look desperate

Avoid doing this..It makes you look desperate

No woman wants to think she is dating a man who is desperate. She wants you to be secure, not clingy. She doesn’t want you to idealise her, she wants you to see her for the unique person she is. She wants to know that you are choosing her because you think she is special and not just because you are desperate for a girlfriend.

Avoid doing this...It makes you look desperate

Declaring your feelings too soon
If you are stuck in  the “friend zone” and you are a “nice guy”, it is tempting to profess your feelings outright, without any flirting or creating attraction. You are nervous about flirting, creating physical contact or moving to a more intimate relationship.

You just pretend to be an amazing friend. You are sure that if you hang around for a while, you will build a romantic connection automatically. But, when romance doesn’t happen, you resort to an outright declaration of love.

You promise that you will be the best boyfriend she ever had and will treat her better than any man ever has. You let her know how much you care for her and how fond of her you are. You are sure that this will convince her that you are the perfect man for her.

Sadly, an essential ingredient will be missing. Attraction is an emotion a woman must feel through having flirty fun with you. Your bold, cheeky actions are what will make her feel attracted to you.

There are two outcomes if you declare your feelings without that flirting first. The girl may let you down gently, not wanting to hurt your feelings saying “I don’t want to ruin our friendship.” Or, and much less likely, she agrees to try it out because she you do care about her and you are thoughtful and polite. Before too long she realises she just doesn’t have that attraction for you and ends the relationship.

Want to meet genuine, attractive single women in a small, relaxed group at dinner? We can help you meet the right women and have an opportunity to get to know them a little  at dinner. You can let them see how great you are, and amazing outcomes will happen.

Check out our upcoming dinners here

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

 

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Men- you need to know this

Men- you need to  know this
Do you want that woman to give you her number and actually catch up with you again? Well, you need to get her permission before you even ask.
Talk with her about the things you are passionate about. Find out hers, and find ones that you both share.

Men- you need to know this

Men- you need to know this

This will get her excited to share new experiences with you. It’s much easier for a woman to say ‘yes’ to catch up with you again when there is a clear reason. She needs to be able to justify to herself (and her friends) why she wants to see you again and to know that she is making a good choice.
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If you have already talked about a great cycling spot with a beautiful view along the way, your antique MG car you love to take for drives, or a fantastic band who have a show coming up, you are painting a picture in her mind. Then, it’s much easier to say:

‘I’d love you to see my car, come for a drive next weekend, or ‘So, we are definitely seeing that show next week.’ and then pullout your phone.

Instead of…

“Do you want to catch up some time? or “I would like your number to meet up again sometime.”

Which invitation do you think she is more likely to agree to? Which one makes it more difficult to say no to”?

She is no fool, she knows what’s at stake. She just needs a reason to say yes. So, plant the seed of excitement and anticipation early on, you won’t need to try so hard to sell her on the idea of spending time together – she will do it herself.
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If you would like some more insight into how this could work for you, call me on 1300 885 311 and I will be happy to encourage, and inspire you.

 

 

Her checklist… but not your bank balance

Her checklist… but not your bank balance

It’s that exciting time at the beginning of a new relationship. Neither of you know what is going to happen. It’s full of giddy excitement,  but you are both also unsure and full of questions.

Would you like to know some of the important things she is taking notice of about you to decide if you are a good guy?

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Her check list...but not your bank balance

Her check list…but not your bank balance

How you treat your Mum
How you treat your Mum is an indication of how you will treat her if it becomes a long term relationship. Nobody wants a Mummy’s boy, but do you treat your Mum with respect and genuine concern? What is your general attitude to her and do you help her when she needs it? Your new date is thinking about these things and if she would want to be treated this way.

What are your friends like?
If your mates are sweet and supportive, she will be impressed. If they are mean to each other or mostly only share common interests like gambling, heavy drinking or strip clubs, it will most probably be a turn off.

Who stays in his life?
If you keep friends in your life for many years, you probably have wonderful qualities that these people want to be around. If you are constantly ditching your old friends for new ones, then she may decide that you could have some toxic elements in your life.

Do you fight fair?
When you are in the intoxicating early part of your relationship, you most likely won’t have had a fight yet. But, you are sure to have one before too long. The best couples in the world fight…it’s healthy. The difference is how you fight. If you are nasty during a fight, use name calling, become aggressive and scary, she will be considering if you are who she is looking for. A good guy can disagree without disrespecting.

How she feels
She is going to be thinking about how you make her feel. Do you make her feel special and important? Are you considerate and thoughtful? Of course, a little bit of excitement and unpredictability is well received too.

Do you come across as rock solid and someone she could rely on? She will think you are spectacular if you inspire her to be a better person and bring out the best in her.

Meet her at our dinners here

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311
Lic no 3338670

 

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Ask for his number. It is easy

“No” is just a word. It doesn’t mean anything else about you!

If you asked someone for a contact to catch up again and they said “No,” don’t make it mean anything about you. There are many reasons why they may have declined. Most often it is because of something in their life. Perhaps they lack the self-confidence to put themselves in a position where they could become vulnerable. By vulnerable I mean letting someone close to them. Their ex-partner may have come back into the scene. Or they may be still healing from a past relationship.

Ask for his number. It is easy

Ask for his number. It is easy

The important thing is that you remain optimistic and open to possibility. I’d like to extend an invitation to you to ask more often when you meet someone appealing. 100% of the people you don’t ask will not say “Yes.” So ask, and if they say “No,” it doesn’t mean anything about you.

Remember that we will do the asking for you as part of our personal service to you. When we send our request for feedback, just let us know who you would like to see again and we will follow up for you.

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311
Lic no 3338670

What most men don’t understand about women

What most men don’t understand about women

Why do some men get a a ‘Yes please’ pass my number on and others continue to get a ‘No thank you, he seemed very nice but i was not attracted to him’?

I notice a similar theme happening. The men who don’t get the number are mostly very nice, genuine guys. They’ve come along to dinner with their neat haircut, their fresh clean shirt and clean fingernails. They have their friendly guy smile and answer politely when it is their turn to speak or someone asks them a question.

What most men don't know about women

What most men don’t know about women

Men are programmed to, basically, mate with almost any girl who shows up with nice hair, not too fat and anything better than a ’plain’ face.

Women, on the other hand, have a whole host of things they are looking for. No woman wants to imagine herself with a ‘regular, average man’ even if she is, in fact, a regular average woman. Every woman wants a man like she sees in the movies or reads about in romance books….unfair? Yes!

When an average man goes out, he usually goes like this:
1. Regular, average (boring) clothes,
2. Regular, average (boring) conversation,
3. Regular, average (boring) friendly vibe and
4. No idea how to run the date or manage it, instead hoping that somehow everyone will work out on its own.

  • Imagine if you were going for a job interview and it went like this:
    -Show up to interview in baggy, oversized, average suit
    -Talk about whatever comes to mind, generally average boring work experience, with no forethought or focus on highlights like accomplishments and achievements
    -Have an average, unassuming, regular vibe
    -Come in with no plan for the interview, simply assuming he’ll just “wing it” and hoping he gets the job.

Do you think the job interview would go better is you:
-Show up in crisp, powerful clothes,
-Have well-thought out responses to interview question and insightful comments and queries to make and ask back
-Have a vibe of being excited, a go-getter, and an achiever
-Arrive with a definite plan for how the interview will go-who gel will begin it, how he will manage the middle, and how he will close it at the end.

Of course it would and so will your dinner dates.
Dress with style
Stop looking and acting like a friendly, nice guy.
Be interesting and have a plan.

The women that you find attractive spend a lot of time and money on enhancing their appearance. They put on make-up, have an up to date hair-do, they dress up in interesting clothes that enhance and make the most of their appearance. They wear high heels. They also read books on how to do better with men, how to be successful in dating, and on how men think and what men want. Women are constantly learning how to be more attractive to men and adjusting themselves accordingly. It sounds like a lot of work doesn’t it?

A lot of men are not at all aware of this. They still dress the same way they have for years, talk about the same things with women they talk about with their mates, and hope that, despite it being the man’s responsibility to lead things forward, things will somehow magically work out on their own. The men you see in those advertisements with the muscles and edgy look, were not born like that. They have worked on it over a period of time.

Once you understand what to do to have an advantage, it is just a matter of continually working on being more attractive to women, just as women as working hard to be attractive to them.

That is how a man can become a dashing, debonair chap that women  are interested in and want to date.

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311
Lic no 3338670

Are you the mystery man?

Are you the mystery man?

Want to know one of the things that makes women shy away from you?

They feel as though you are talking about yourself too much! I know that you are probably thinking “That’s crazy. Women never stop talking.” But there is a difference. Women tend to dramatise, ramble and complain etc. However, the subjects they talk about and share too much of, tend to be their jobs, relationships and other people. That’s when men tune out.

It is better to be “interested” than “interesting”
On the other hand, men tend to talk about themselves and this causes women to tune out. When you feel the need to be witty, and captivating, remember it is better to be “interested” than “interesting’.

Are you the mystery man?

Are you the mystery man?

The ideal conversation is an equal exchange by both parties with conversation bouncing back and forth. If you go overboard trying to entertain a woman, it usually shows up as insecurity. Don’t try too hard to be the life of the party. It is a sign of attention seeking.

Ask questions and listen more than you talk
Better to take on the role of the investigator. Ask questions and listen more than you talk and try to find out as much as possible about her. Nothing too intrusive to start with. Remember that some people are touchy about disclosing  information about themselves. Ask questions like “Where were you born?” and “Where did you go to school?” After a few dates, you can ask about more personal subjects like religion, family situations and past relationships. You could also then touch on short and long term goals.

Women are intrigued by a mysterious man
Don’t tell her everything about yourself too soon. Keep a little mystery about yourself. If she asks a question, answer, but not tool much information. Keep some things to tell her later. Then ask her another question. Only disclose information about yourself little by little. Focus on getting to know her first. Women are intrigued by a mysterious man and will be more interested in you in the long term if they have to probe to find out about you.

Remember to stop talking about yourself, ask open ended questions to encourage her to talk about herself and Listen. You will have an advantage on the competition and your relationship will be off to a good start.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311
Lic no 3338670

 

 

 

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The art of love is largely the art of persistence

The art of love is largely the art of persistence

Find a partner who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on them, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep… wait for the one who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of their friends, who thinks you’re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much they care and how lucky they are to have you…. The one who turns to their friends and say, ‘that’s her.’ ~ Unknown

The art of love is largely the art of persistence

The art of love is largely the art of persistence

Do you feel like you are always dating the wrong people? I often hear from Singles who contact us that they are tired of dating the wrong people and repeating a pattern that ends in a bad relationship.

Sometimes they choose people who just aren’t available for a genuine relationship. It may be that they have not moved on from a previous relationship, or they are just not emotionally capable of a healthy relationship.

Sometimes they date people who have lied to them and falsely represented themselves. Only after dating them  for a while they discover that this person has a addiction, or isn’t as financially secure as they claimed.

If you recognise that you are continually choosing the wrong people to date, then stop and think about your pattern of behaviour. Try to understand where those choices come from, recognise them, and make different choices next time.

Your friends or family may be able to help you with this process as sometimes they can see a pattern of behaviour easier than we can ourselves. You could even seek the help of a therapist.

Most importantly, if finding a loving partner is high on your list, treat it as a priority. If you were looking for a suitable job, you wouldn’t stop applying for suitable positions. What could be more important than finding a partner who compliments you and your life? So be proactive and make smart choices that will have you out meeting potential partners.

Here is a quote that says it all…

Albert Ellis
The art of love… is largely the art of persistence.

A Table for SixMargaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311
Lic no 3338670

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