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Stop cheating yourself out of love

Stop cheating yourself out of love

“A year from now you may wish you had started today”
Today you woke up with the desire to finally make a change in your social and dating life. You felt motivated, inspired and ready to take the first step.
You decided to take yourself out to where you could meet some likely singles for a new relationship.
Suddenly you found out that things seem a bit more complicated, confusing and unfeasible.
You start to realise that it may not be easy or fast to meet people you relate to, have the same values as you, or want the same commitment in a relationship.
Eventually, you arrive at the point when you don’t feel like “conquering your dating life” today. However, you are sure that you’ll be ready to nail it in a while. Some day soon you will sort it out. Just not today…
Sound familiar?

Stop cheating yourself out of love

Stop cheating yourself out of love

Committing to big goals is hard and it’s no wonder why.  Putting off decisions to take a situation in hand is a common frailty of the human condition.
We are all bad at committing to the activities that require major, effort time and talent.
When it is hard to see the finish line, our desire to take action gradually vanishes. Then, procrastination comes into play.
Embrace the truth. You can achieve anything you desire. The only thing that is stopping you are your laziness, reluctance, and the lack of discipline. And, the major obstacle is the tendency to procrastinate.
Do you have a goal to meet genuine singles who would like a long term relationship?

I’m sure you have a goal to meet interesting, inquiring, engaging single people.
However, just like millions of people, you decide it is too hard and put off doing anything about it. You postpone the beginning till “someday” trying to convince yourself that there will be a better time. The weather will be better. I will have finished my studies. My children will have left home.
For many people, later often means never.
There is no doubt, you might still get there one day. However, it’s going to happen much later. The secret to meeting your new friends and partner is ridiculously simple: start now.
It’s ok to be a little slow. Because being slow is better then being stagnant. Take a look back and think how much of your precious time you have wasted over the last few years by not taking some action.
Now think how much different your life could be now if you hadn’t been procrastinating, having negative thoughts, complaining to our friends and family and feeling sorry for yourself.
Stop cheating yourself now. There will never be a better time to start. The best time is now.
Here is a powerful quote by Karen Lamb.
“A year from now you may wish you had started today”
Meet her/him at our dinners here
If you would like some more insight into how you can meet genuine, attractive singles  at our A Table for Six, call me on 1300 885 311 and I will be happy to encourage, and inspire you.
Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

 

How Singles have the Best time at Christmas

How Singles have the Best time at Christmas

If you notice that you are not really looking forward to the Christmas season, then something is trying to tell you to make a shift and reclaim this time of year.

Your life might not exactly look like the TV ads of happy families…most of them don’t. But you can decide you are going to have a happy holiday season by focusing on the positive and appreciating the good things in your life.

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Dr Wayne Dyer has the following suggestions to gain the most out of the Christmas season:

I’ll let the holidays flow, rather than trying to make them fit into a fixed schedule.
I’ll remember that people are more important than things.

I’ll relax my expectations for myself and others this year.

I’m going to live in the present moment and enjoy each activity for itself instead of always thinking about what is ahead of me.

I’m going to approach the holidays with a sense of joyful anticipation and wonder, just like I did when I was a child.

There are always many things to be grateful for. Sometimes it is a matter of being deliberate in your thinking to discover appreciation, excitement, joy and peace. Decide to have the happiest holiday season this year.
The lyrics to Leonard Cohen’s anthem remind us that light magically comes through the cracks of imperfection “Ring the bell that still can ring. Forget your perfect offering. There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.”

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You may not be single by Valentine’s Day if you set our matchmakers to work.
Merry Christmas Greetings

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

 

 

To risk, to find love

To risk, to find love
Do you believe you are a risk taker?
Below is a beautiful poem I  read again this week. I keep a copy of it and look at it often. It always reminds me listen to myself. To connect with the part of me that is trying very hard to get out, but fear of embarrassment, failure or rejection is holding back. To listen to my inner voice that is telling me to be, or do something more.
All of us have a part that is begging to get out. We have a message to share, a unique skill or talent that isn’t being shared with the world. They are not being expressed because we have chosen a less risky pursuit and so they are lying dormant.
Letting this part of you shine through will guide you towards good risk.

To risk, to find love

To risk, to find love

Is it time to risk, to find love?
 Take some good risk in the area of your social or dating life. Contact us now to connect with other singles for fun, relaxed dinners and lasting genuine relationships.
“To Risk”
by William Arthur Ward
To laugh is to risk appearing a fool,
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out to another is to risk involvement,
To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.
To place your ideas and dreams before a crowd is to risk their loss.
To love is to risk not being loved in return,
To live is to risk dying,
To hope is to risk despair,
To try is to risk failure.

But risks must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing.
He may avoid suffering and sorrow,
But he cannot learn, feel, change, grow or live.
Chained by his servitude he is a slave who has forfeited all freedom.

Only a person who risks is free.
The pessimist complains about the wind;
The optimist expects it to change;
And the realist adjusts the sails.

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Take some good risk this week for your dating life.

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

How to stay positive until Mr/Ms Right comes along

“I’ve been single for a few years now. My friends have set me up a few times. I’ve tried dating all sorts of people. I’m starting to think that my ideal partner doesn’t exist. Who would want to date me anyway?” Does this sound like you?

How to stay positive

It’s easy for people to say to you “Just stay positive and believe.” But that’s not always so easy. Especially when you’ve put yourself out there to ask someone out and they knocked you back or they decide they want to be just friends.

A good way to think about it is “Would you date yourself?”  To keep yourself going and to stay positive, list all of your best qualities. Don’t be stingy! Include everything you can possibility think of. Little children love me…..I’m a great cook……..I make people feel at ease…My ears are very cute……

List as many things as you can possibly think of. Be lavish in your praise for yourself. Once you realise what a good catch you are, you’ll become more attractive to others. Write your list and add to it every time you think of something else to add. Ask your friends to contribute as well. You’ll be surprised what they will say that you hadn’t even thought of. Keep the list somewhere you can see it everyday to remind you that anyone would be lucky to have you as a partner.

How to stay positive

You can also use this opportunity to recognise anything about yourself that could do with some tweaking. If you have some true friends who can be straight with you, they may point out some behaviour that could be holding you back in this quest. If their intentions are for your betterment, listen and take on board their comments.

It’s never about the girls or guys out there. It’s always about you and where your focus is. Be certain about your value and others will recognise it too.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

A Table for Six

ONLINE DATING vs Meeting at our Dinners. Meet the best singles at A Table for Six

ONLINE DATING vs Meeting at our Dinners. Meet the best singles at A Table for Six
Online dating has been tried by 51% of Australians. Or so, some recent statistics I read claimed.  Most of the people I speak to fall into one of two different camps. There are the people who just can’t bring themselves to put their photo and profile on the online dating sites. The thought of “advertising” themselves as available is just too unsavoury. And if they are in certain work positions, it makes it even more out of their comfort zone. The others are people who have tried online dating, but for one reason or another, it doesn’t suit them. Your membership with A Table for Six is discreet. No photos on the internet and we only pass on your contact details if you give permission for us to do so.

ONLINE DATING vs Meeting at our Dinners. Meet the best singles at A Table for Six

ONLINE DATING vs Meeting at our Dinners. Meet the best singles at A Table for Six

Would you enjoy having your dinners all organised for you?
Some people find the whole process of online dating very time consuming. Going through profiles, taking the time to contact people with varying results. But a very common story I hear is that if they do finally meet someone in person for coffee, they are very often nothing like the profile or photo displayed on the online dating sites. Or else, after communicating for quite some time, when meeting, there was just no chemistry. At A Table for Six, we do all the organising of the dinners, and send the confirmation details once we have a suitable group organised. You get to just go along and enjoy meeting like minded singles .

Avoid the scammers on online dating sites
Of course, unfortunately there are the stories of people who have been taken advantage of by people praying on vulnerable singles hoping to find a special someone on the Online Dating sites. One particular lady told me that even though she now knew that the person she had been communicating with for 18 months was a scammer, she was still missing his messages. He had groomed her for a long time,  knowing just the right things to say to her. Luckily, she eventually had some alarm bells ringing when he continued to ask her to send more money and she reported it to police. But she had already sent a substantial amount of money to him.

Meet singles who are looking for genuine relationships, just like you
The focus when attending our dinners is to go out and enjoy a fun, social evening in a relaxed environment. You should expect to enjoy chatting with other singles on a wide range of interesting topics while savouring delicious food and drinks.  Because of the more relaxed group situation, everyone can relax and be themselves. Many times people have told me they met someone at dinner and had a connection, but if they had looked at a profile and photo online, they would most likely have discarded them. So many things are not definable when viewing profiles on the online dating sites. The way someone speaks, their mannerisms, their kindness and concern for others, their quirky sense of humour are only apparent when meeting in person in a relaxed situation such as our singles dinners.

Here is my favourite after-dinner recent feedback
Can I start by saying thank you for the guidance and professional approach from membership right through to the days leading to the arranged dinner.
An exciting and nervous time pre dinner but it all felt very comfortable from the time I sat down and joined such a beautiful group of people. Though I did arrived late as the traffic was very heavy due to an accident , the group where happy to wait till I arrived to order.
The restaurant I’d rate a 7 , food was delicious and the atmosphere was fabulous, we all enjoyed the belly dancing.
I rate my whole dining experience an 8, we where all enjoying each others company and sharing in conversation. It really felt like we’ve known each other for long time.
I sat next to P and naturally engaged in more conversation as the night went on , we had so much to say and really enjoyed his company and sharing our common work industry.
I wasn’t sure what to expect but if this is an indication of what’s ahead I’m even more excited for what’s planned for future dinning experiences. It shows the careful selection and the quality of people that joins A table for Six .
I look forward to my next dinner .

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Make a change to our relaxed, fun dinners this week.

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A Table for SixMargaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 62 sleeps to go

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 62 sleeps to go

Like to meet a new partner or friends before Christmas? I know you probably don’t really want to hear that it is only 62 days to Christmas (about 5,356,800 seconds). Has another year really gone so quickly? Can it really be so close to another Christmas?

Did you make a resolution at New Year that you would meet a new partner and make some changes in your social life this year? Somehow work and other commitments always take a lot of our time. We have the best intentions to be proactive and take steps to go out and meet some new people whose company we enjoy….but didn’t quite take the steps needed to do so.

The good news is that there is still enough time to meet some wonderful new people before Christmas at our A Table for Six dinners! And there will be lots of other singles with the same intention.

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 62 sleeps to go

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 62 sleeps to go

Even if you are not quite ready for a relationship, don’t just hope and wait that something will change before Christmas. Get provactive, take charge of the situation. Come along to our dinner introductions.

It’s perfect timing to join our Spring dinners. You’ll have a great time, meet singles and make new connections. You may just even meet the one you will introduce to your family and friends on Christmas day.

Here’s what Rosie said:
“I’ve met a wonderful man
5 out of 5, reviewed on Nov 08, 2016
The concept of A Table for Six is fantastic. For me the fact I get to dine in lovely restaurants and meet new people outside my network was enough to have me join.

Before I started I was certain it was time for me to start dating but with a hectic schedule, two children and not at all interested in online dating I knew A Table for Six was for me.
Margaret is lovely and made me feel very comfortable and calmed any nerves I had about trying this new idea.
After attending four dinners, I can confidently say, I thoroughly enjoyed every dinner. It was always a respectful and fun environment, everyone was so happy to be meeting. Although we were all meeting for the first time it often felt like we were old friends coming together.
On my fourth dinner was when I met a wonderful man. I knew from the moment I met him there was something special between us. He has a far more elaborate and romantic story.
After a few weeks Margaret connected us and we went on our first date, that was in June 2016.
We are now in a healthy, happy relationship. I am with a man I feel connected to on so many levels. Truly wonderful. I’ve recommended Table of Six to many friends in fact a friend who I had recommended to before I began ATFS, met her man on the second dinner and that was two years ago, they are still going strong!
This works and it will for you too.
Thank you Margaret. I’m grateful to say I found a wonderful man and I couldn’t be happier. ”

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

Why are Singles getting hurt badly?

Why are Singles getting hurt badly?

Why are Singles getting hurt badly?

Why are Singles getting hurt badly?

There seems to be quite a number of people who don’t like the dating game anymore. Every now and again they decide they should be doing something about meeting people. They subscribe to an internet dating site again. Even though they don’t like the process and know the number of scammers, married people and players that are using it. They are not excited about it at all.

They feel frustrated and disappointed about the situation. Unfortunately, it’s a vicious circle. Anytime you feel negative and defensive, the likelihood of a positive, happy outcome is slim. Each time, they become more resigned and cynical about the process.

To have a different outcome and experience, you need to take personal responsibility to make the journey more enjoyable of yourself.

Find a different way to meet suitable singles. Go out to singles events and places where likeminded singles go and enjoy yourself. Our A Table for Six dinners will take the pressure off. Go with the mindset that you will have a great time, even if you don’t meet a possible partner.
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Be your authentic self. The way you speak, act and express yourself should be congruent with how you live your life. This will be rewarding to you. If you are always adapting yourself in an attempt to impress the people you are meeting, you will feel exhausted and unappreciated.

Here’s something else that in today’s society is mega important! The way people treat each other!

How you treat other people and the way they treat you will have a huge effect on the outcome of your happiness and relationships.

I hear a lot of stories of experiences that singles have had with online dating interactions. There are a lot of people out there treating each other poorly. Surely they don’t realise the gravity of their actions, or they would not do it…but the result is still the same.

People are getting badly hurt. This results in people loosing trust. Next time they meet someone they want to protect themselves from being hurt again. They are defensive, hold back their feelings and misinterpret the actions of others…this, in turn, hurts someone else.

It’s a cycle where men and women mistreat each other. Awareness is the key. Communication and honesty will mean that even if a relationship doesn’t work out, you will be able to move on from it without bringing hurt and mistrust with you.

Dating should be a beautiful process. Meeting and getting to know people with basic courtesy and respect.

The expectation of our A Table for Six members is that they always treat each other in a courteous, respectful manner. Fortunately, the feedback I receive is that they are also very supportive of each other…how refreshing!

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six

Ghosting in dating. Why not be kind?

Ghosting in dating. Why not be kind?

For those of you, like me, who are not familiar with it, here is a definition

Ghosting is stopping all communication after:

You have organised a first date by setting the time and place, then you hear nothing again.

You have been on a number of dates.

You have been in an exclusive relationship. Whether it be for weeks, months or years.

You have been referring to each other as girlfriend/boyfriend or similar.

You have ever had a conversation about getting engaged, getting married.

You have talked about moving in together.

You have been planning your next holiday together.

Internet dating has certainly provided a medium to reach and communicate with huge numbers of singles. Sadly, it has also created a culture of not caring or considering other singles.

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Of course there are times when you have been seeing someone and it becomes clear to you that this relationship isn’t working for you. The important thing is to treat the other person with kindness and respect.

If you don’t feel that you can speak to them face to face, at least write them a letter (old school, I know), or send them an email letting them know that you are not continuing the relationship.

Ghosting in dating. Why not be kind?

Ghosting in dating. Why not be kind?

It doesn’t need to be long winded or drawn out. It just needs to be kind.

“HI …, It was good to meet you and to get to know you, but I don’t think we are a match after all. I wish you all the best”

If you simply disappear, they will be left wondering why you disappeared. They will wonder you are ill, or even dead. It will also quite likely have a negative affect on their self confidence and opinion of women/men.

Something I don’t understand is why are people so afraid to be kind?

If you want to cool the relationship and take it back a notch, let them know and explain the way you feel.

If you want to end the relationship altogether, be upfront and let them know.

Think about this, If you don’t give them some sort of explanation, they will be consumed with trying to figure out what went wrong. That’s the way we are programmed. Not knowing what happened can drive them crazy and also cause them damage.

How about encouraging yourself and your single friends to always make sure they give a “kind goodbye”.

Remember, that if you have had someone “ghost” you, it isn’t any reflection on you and your worth. It means they didn’t have the courage to be upfront and honest in leaving the relationship.

Showing up honestly, letting others know your needs, being open to learning about their needs, is communicating authentically and honestly. Even if you are “ghosted”, you will have the satisfaction of knowing you are an amazing person to be in a relationship with.

I am sorry if you have been the victim of being “ghosted”.  The reality is that they have “ghosted” themselves. They couldn’t or wouldn’t be a kind grownup and say “Hi …, we’ve had a great time, but I am going in a different direction.”

Now there is an opening for a new beginning.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au

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Inexperience can be dangerous

Inexperience can be dangerous

To give yourself the best chance of meeting someone suitable, it’s important to meet lots of people. If you don’t put in the ground work to ensure that you meet plenty of single people, you may desperately grab onto the first person who shows interest in you. This has a high probability that you will end up with someone who isn’t right of you…(could be why the divorce rate is so high)

Inexperience can be dangerous

Inexperience can be dangerous

If you haven’t met and spent time with with a number of singles who fall into your general age group, demographic etc, you don’t have the breadth experience to evaluate them objectively.

Know your own worth and value. It’s not about finding a “someone”. It’s important that they are compatible. Each of us is an individual with our own interests, values, goals and personalities. The likelihood of the first person you meet who is interested in you, being someone who is highly compatible is pretty slim.

Would you like to meet someone who looks after themselves physically and keeps fit? Would you like to meet someone who values education and knowledge? Is financial security important to you? Do you believe that social skills, good friends, close family are important? Then the best thing to do is to make sure that you have those qualities yourself. Like attracts like. They are not going to be interested in you if you don’t have your act together.

Our A Table for Six dinners are the perfect way to be introduced to a number of people who are more likely to have your desired qualities.

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Margaret Newitt
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How do you react to “kind”?

How do you react to “kind”?

A lot of the focus on dating is steering us away from true intimacy. There is a lot of importance placed on superficial things like looks, playing games and gimmicks to attract the best looking people.

This advice leads us to feeling insecure ourselves and encourages us to be unkind towards others and also ourselves.

But there has always been a wiser and more effective path to finding love. And it doesn’t involve supermodel looks or playing games.

How do you react to “kind”?

How do you react to “kind”?

There is a lot of focus put on the belief that immediate physical attraction is the be all and end all of finding enduring love. An extensive study conducted in 1985 by evolutionary psychologist David Buss explored the most important traits people rate in finding a mate.  His finding was clear.The quality people valued most in a potential mate was not physical attractiveness. Neither was it their wealth, youthful appearance, strength or self-confidence. People valued kindness and understanding the most.

Everywhere we are bombarded by advertisements and articles on building a better body, dressing better, or a new secret way to attract a mate. I’m guessing that you haven’t read any articles lately that give importance to kindness in dating?

There is no denying that physical attraction is tremendously important in our choice of a mate. Yet, have you ever met a man or woman who looks great, and when they open their mouth to criticise their friends, your opinion of them changes dramatically?

Someone who is physically attractive, well dressed and well groomed becomes very unattractive when they treat a waiter poorly or speak badly about someone when they leave the table.

Physical attraction has been proven to be much more complex and open to interpretation than we’ve been led to believe. Instant attraction is overemphasised in finding healthy, long lasting love. And, very attractive people struggle just as much to find true happiness in their relationships.

How can we use this information to have a better outcome in dating ourselves? There are two skills that are essential that we can use to form our guidelines for wiser dating. Firstly, we need to ensure we are operating from a foundation of kindness and understanding ourselves. The second is to be discriminating and only choose people who live by these same values. This will change your experience of dating and finding long lasting love.

Next time you are dating, try practising a little more kindness and understanding. I’m sure you will change the quality of your dates.

Require the same treatment from the people you date. Be discriminating about who you date. Choose those who have a kind and understanding nature. It will make your life happier.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six

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