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Let your best light shine and get the date

Portrait of amorous dates looking at one another outside

Whether you’re just dipping your toes into the meeting singles pond for fun or you want to find the right person to spend your life with, be honest about who you  are. The advice is exactly the same for men and women. Smile, open your mind and listen just as much as you talk. Try to focus on what you could gain from interacting with people, rather than what might be missing. The more you seek out the positive elements in people, the more you will find them. Our A Table for Six dinners are a fantastic took to use to practice your dating skills and to learn about being single again. But most importantly, you will meet singles who are interested in genuine friendships and relationships.

If you are a little shyer or more introverted, here are some tips to make yourself more approachable and to increase the number of dates you get.

Have an open posture, face the people or person and make sure your arms are uncrossed.

Smile and make eye contact with people. Especially those you are interested in.

Try to ensure you are in the middle of any groups and not stuck in a corner.

Ensure you speak to people with at least a “Hello.”

The most important thing to remember is to focus on making others feel comfortable. I always remind myself that they may be more nervous or uncomfortable than I am. This helps to forget about your own anxiousness and they will really appreciate your interest in them.

If you are a little shy, remember that people can’t get to know who you are unless you let them. Know you are fantastic and others will too.

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Smile, connect, listen and engage this week.A Table for Six
Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311
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If you don’t have a belief in yourself, how do you expect others to?

Self confident people just seem to know that no matter what life throws at them, they have the ability to work through it and cope well. When things aren’t going well they still see it in a positive light.

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Can you grow your self confidence? Can you become excited about this quest for self confidence? Self confidence is everything.

Are you tired of feeling tongue tied at that critical moment?  Or of realising you talked too much and ruined a perfect moment. Lack of self confidence is one of the top reasons we miss out on connecting with possible new friends or a partner.

Do you think you’ve either got it (self confidence) or you haven’t go it? Or can you grow your self confidence?

To do so, it’s the same procedure you use to gain skills in any field. Every day, read or watch some advice in this area. There’s plenty of books on this subject and also some fantastic Utube videos online.

Every day do things to grow it. Test yourself by stretching and trying some things you haven’t had the confidence to do before. Do you think the top surfers could ride those huge waves the first time they took their board into the waves?

Confidence is the most important skill when it comes to success in any area of your life. Spend time with people who build you up and encourage you. Move away from people who drag you down.

“Low self-confidence isn’t a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered–just like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better.” –Barrie Davenport

If you don’t have a belief in yourself, how do you expect others to?

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Build your self confidence this week,
Margaret Newitt
Franchisor
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.om.au
1300 885 311
Lic no 3338670

You are braver than you believe!

You’re living in a beautiful apartment in the French quarter in Paris. You’re waking up with the man/woman of your dreams. Around the walls of the apartment, are paintings in various stages of completion. The aroma of freshly baked pastries from the local boulongerie is wafting through the window. Today, together you’ll be exploring a new part of Paris you haven’t yet discovered. You’ll be taking your easels and brushes to spend time painting, only interrupted for coffee and  Beef Bourguignon.

Is it possible to make this life, or your own version of your dream life a reality?

Here’s my top tips for singles who are on the brink and want to build a better social/dating life? They’ve gotten to the point where they know they have to make a change. What are the best action items?

  1. The first and most important thing is to  believe that you can make that change. Our subconscious beliefs are driving our decisions all day every day even though we aren’t always conscious of it. Your thoughts and beliefs are precious. So guard them very carefully. Make sure that you are feeding them with examples of others who have achieved what you desire. Find the best role models (not just average, but extraordinary ones) you possibly can and put their photos and stories everywhere you will see them several times a day.

2. Another great tool is to have a great mantra. Something you can repeat to yourself every time you interact with people who are potential friends or partners. We all have a “chatter box” who incessantly talks to us in our own head. Why not train that “chatterbox” to work in our favour? An example may be “With my head up and an open heart, my life and love are revealing to me.”

Ask yourself what you would like to create. What is your friendship/love intention? Would you like to have a new circle of friends who share your interests? Would you like to meet a new best friend to share your holidays, movies, dinners with? Would you like to meet a partner who wants to move to Paris with you to spend your lives painting the romantic scenery?

3. Don’t limit yourself. Your mantra should come from a place of pure possibility. Even if you may think it’s not possible. Remember your brain doesn’t know the difference between reality and something that we clearly, strongly imagine. Adding clear images, sounds and even smells to your imagined new life will assist in drawing it to you sooner. This allows the brain to rehearse the situation we want to create. Top sports people use this technique to  mentally see themselves getting  a hole in one, or making that high jump.

Changing your life may not be easy, but after going through a huge change in my own life, I can tell you, it’s worth the effort. You need to be brave and to guard your thoughts and who you listen to.

One of the reasons I love being able to offer singles the opportunities to meet, is to be a witness to so many brave people who step up and take a stand for themselves and their lives. I can tell you, most have never regretted following the voice of hope in their hearts.

“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”
— A.A. Milne

PS. Did this story resonate with you? Or, got a question that you’d like to see me address in the future? Email me to share your question. Your questions or comment will be anonymous of course. :)

Dream big this week,
Margaret Newitt
Franchisor
www.atableforsix.com.au
Ph 1300 885 311
info@atableforsix.com.au
Lic no 3338670

Your lizard brain could be holding back your social/dating life

Some of us are our own worst enemies!

It’s not totally our own fault. It’s partly the fault of our lizard brain.

Knowing is not enough!

Most people know what they should do to give themselves the best opportunity to meet new singles and a new partner. But few people actually do what they know.  Knowing is not enough! You must take action. (These great words are from Tony  Robbins)

Your lizard brain takes over your rational thinking.

How do you deal with procrastination and why do we fight with it?

The lizard brain is a physical part of your brain.  Think of the times when you feel fear or rage. That’s your lizard brain taking over your rational thinking. It’s that voice in the back of your head telling us to be careful, so slow and compromise on our happiness.

We make a new Years resolution to lose weight or to make a big change in our social lives. Then we eat too much, or we decide to stay home or just hang out with our usual group of friends. It’s that lizard brain again. It hates change and achievement and risk.

You’ll always have your lizard brain. It won’t go away. If we didn’t have it, we would live totally reckless lives. So the trick is to ignore the part that is irrational and to listen the part that will keep us safe and let us survive.

What is the worst that can happen?

The best way to do this is take a few moments to think rationally about the situation. If I continue to take this action, what is the worst thing that could happen? Usually, it isn’t nearly as bad as what we imagined. It’s also smart to visualise a positive outcome. This is the opportunity to override your amygdala. But, if you are being pursued by a big, scary animal, your lizard brain will be very useful.

What can you do to hold yourself accountable?

Tell some friends what you intend to do. That’s social accountability. “I’m going to attend social events where I have the opportunity to meet like-minded singles.” They will help you past those times when procrastination sets in.

“Don’t allow the enemy to steal your dreams through doubt, fear and procrastination. Take action today!”

~John Di Lemme

Life can be so much more exciting and fulfilling when you err on the side of going for it, taking action and choosing adventure.

What are the ways you’ve allowed fear to hold you back from what you want in life? Have you ever tried to flex your courage muscles only to be stopped by your fear of failure, or feeling stupid? What did you learn? I’d love to hear from you.

Show that lizard brain who’s the boss this week!

Margaret Newitt

Franchisor

www.atableforsix.com.au

info@atableforsix.com.au

1300 885 311

Lic no 3338670

Why do people join A Table for Six?

Ever wondered what is the top reason that attracts people to A Table for Six?

Every day we speak to people who find themselves single again perhaps after long relationships. They may have dabbled on the internet dating sites and taken themselves along to some large group singles events. Their well meaning friends and family may have organised blind dates for them. Often this leads them to search for a way of meeting other singles in a friendly, no-pressure environment.
Yes, the top reason that people give is that they value meeting people who are prepared to show up in person. People who will spend a few hours contributing to a fun evening enjoying a delicious meal, a glass of wine and some great conversation. These are very different people than the ones who are only prepared to hide behind a profile on an internet site. The people who attend our dinners and events are people who are socially confident. We are all much more than a photo and a profile, and meeting people over dinner allows our fellow diners to get to know us on a different level.
The great restaurants we offer are another top reason that brings people along to our dinners. We continually update and change the restaurants we offer so you never tire of sampling restaurants that are the best value for money, best ambiance and best food. Come and meet some more of our fearless members.

“Eighty percent of success is showing up.”

~ Woody Allen

Blessings

Margaret Newitt

Franchisor

www.atableforsix.com.au

1300 885 311

Lic no 3338670

What has science discovered about our behaviour?

I often speak to people who say, “I am a bit too shy and nervous to meet strangers.” or “I’m not sure I would fit in with people I’m meeting.” This would suggest that these people have resigned to believing they can’t alter their perception of themselves or for that matter, their behaviour.

Science continues to make new discoveries about the brain and how we can retrain it.

In the 80’s the Dalai Lama asked a group of world class neuroscientists if the mind could change the brain. His question, at the time, was to discover if we are in fact free. Does our brain direct us, or do we direct our brain? Are we a product of our childhood conditioning and wiring? Are we stuck with our genetics? Or do we have potential for personal growth and the ability to change our behaviour to achieve a different outcome? The scientists told the Dalia Lama that the mind cannot change the brain.

That was nearly 30 years ago, and we now know that the scientists were wrong.

Scientists now know that the brain responds to the mind. Whatever you persue can be achieved by mental practice. The term for this is neuroplasticity. Neuroplasticity refers to the brain’s ability to restructure itself after training or practise. With the knowledge that change is possible, we are able to decide and focus on ways we would like to grow instead of whether or not it’s achievable.

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then is not an act, but a habit.”~ Aristotle

There are a couple of ways that are promoted as being useful to assist in making new pathways in the brain. The first one is to put ourselves in situations where we will experience achieving the behaviour we wish to develop. So that we experience success in that area. The second is that even by imagining ourselves having success in the area we are pursuing (visualisation) has the very same effect on the brain as actually carrying it out.

It all comes back to practice and the knowledge that people of any age have the ability to learn new things and form new habits. So, what are you waiting for? If you’d like to develop new ways of being, you can retrain your brain and become competent in any social situation.

Our dinners are a wonderful tool to use to develop your skill as a single person in a fun, relaxed atmosphere with no pressure. You’ll meet singles that desire genuine friendships and genuine relationships.

Blessings

Margaret Newitt

Franchisor

www.atableforsix.com.au

1300 885 311

info@atableforsix.com.au

Lic no 3338670

Be confident at A Table for Six- it’s irresistible

Maybe you’ve just come out of a long relationship and you’re not ready for dating just yet.

Most of your friends are married or in relationships. They worry about you and try to make suggestions on where to go to meet a new partner. You are getting your self together, taking up some new interests, maybe getting fit again. But you are not quite ready for a full on relationship.

Dating isn’t always about the destination. It’s also about what you learn about yourself and about people along the way. It’s about the experiences you have. Some of them will be funny, terrible or life-changing. And it’s important to know that you are on the right path and taking steps to achieve your dating and relationship goals.

Dr Wayne Dyer says “Remember that you get what you think about, whether you want it or not.” So if you’re sure that this is an unfriendly universe, you’ll look for examples to support this point of view. You’ll anticipate people attempting to cheat, judge, take advantage of, and otherwise harm you. You’ll blame the antagonistic, inhospitable cosmos for not cooperating with you in the fulfilment of your desires. You’ll point the finger at belligerent folks and bad luck for the kind of world we all live in. Since this worldview trickles down into every thought you have, you become a person persistently looking for occasions to be offended, and therefore in possession of a whole slew of excuses.”

Wayne’s favourite affirmation when feeling stuck or out of sorts is: “Whatever I need is already here, and it is all for my highest good.” Jot this down and post it conspicuously throughout your home, on the dashboard of your car, at your office, on your microwave oven, and even in front of your toilet! Remind yourself: I live in a friendly universe that will support any thing or desire that is aligned with the universal Source of all. Such a stance will be a giant step toward living an Excuses Begone! life.

If you’re not up to dating yet, just enjoy meeting friends and doing some of the things that you enjoy. Take some time to get your mojo back. Our A Table for Six small group dinners  are a great way to meet other singles and find out who you are in a single world.

And if you want to be irresistibly attractive, be confident, be real and be yourself.

Blessings
Margaret Newitt

Franchisor

www.atableforsix.com.au

1300 885 311

Lic no 3338670

Attitudes proven to give a higher likelihood of finding a partner

There are some attitudes that are proven to give us a higher likelihood of finding a long-term partner. If we embrace these attitudes, it could very well mean that we will find a “Mr or Ms Right’ a lot sooner. The attitudes that are included in this category are:

  •     When you meet someone with whom there is no chemistry, you adopt the attitude not to write them off straight away.
  •     You know how to be charming, and you’re not just saving it up for the right person. You are generous and show it to everyone you meet.
  •     You make an effort to be friendly with everyone you meet, regardless of whether they meet your expectations.
  •     You look for the good qualities in every person you meet.
  •     You know you can never have too many friends and you welcome new people into your life.

The feedback we receive after our dinners and events tells us that most of our members already know this and that’s what makes our dinners so successful.

Blessings

Margaret Newitt

www.atableforsix.com.au

The art of love… is largely the art of persistence.

Find a partner who calls you beautiful/handsome instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on them, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep… wait for the one who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of their friends, who thinks you’re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much they care and how lucky they are to have you…. The one who turns to their friends and say, ‘that’s him/her.’ ~ Unknown

Do you feel like you are always dating the wrong people? I often hear from Singles who contact us that they are tired of dating the wrong people and repeating a pattern that ends in a bad relationship.

Sometimes they choose people who just aren’t available for a genuine relationship. It may be that they have not moved on from a previous relationship, or they are just not emotionally capable of a healthy relationship.

Sometimes they date people who have lied to them and falsely represented themselves. Only after dating them  for a while they discover that this person has a addiction, or isn’t as financially secure as they claimed.

If you recognise that you are continually choosing the wrong people to date, then stop and think about your pattern of behaviour. Try to understand where those choices come from, recognise them, and make different choices next time.

Your friends or family may be able to help you with this process as sometimes they can see a pattern of behaviour easier than we can ourselves. You could even seek the help of a therapist.

Most importantly, if finding a loving partner is high on your list, treat it as a priority. If you were looking for a suitable job, you wouldn’t stop applying for suitable positions. What could be more important than finding a partner who compliments you and your life? So be proactive and make smart choices that will have you out meeting potential partners.

Here is a quote that says it all…

Albert Ellis
The art of love… is largely the art of persistence.

Blessings

Margaret Newitt

www.atableforsix.com.au

Are you prioritising your dating life?

What is the most important area of your life? Is your love life as important as watching your favourite show on TV or your 40-50 hour a week job? Sometimes I think it must not be. I know you’re busy and have your priorities. But if you were at the end of your life and looking back, would you wish you had worked more hours or would you regret not making your personal life a priority?

Any goal you set for yourself has a formula for success. Failure is never that you don’t know how to achieve the goal. It’s that you won’t take the necessary steps to make it happen.

Dating isn’t that intricate or difficult. There’s a basic formula that will lead to meeting a loving partner.

  • Choose an avenue for meeting suitable singles (find something you enjoy along the way)
  • Ask as many questions as possible about how other singles have achieved dating success through the service.
  • Ask for  advice from the singles organisation or study up on the best dating tips and behaviour.
  • Spend some time and a little money on making the most of your appearance. (Everyone has attractive qualities. It’s a matter of drawing attention to them)
  • Know what your boundaries are that are non-negotiable.
  • Outside of your non-negotiables, be open to whom you date.
  • Be open to catching up with a potential partner a 2nd (or 3rd) time.
  • Date your potential partners and give them a real chance (Don’t dismiss them without seeing the possible gem)
  • Continue dating until you find someone who’s worthy of your love and life.

That’s it!

 

If you’re ready for this approach to meeting singles and finding one of the good gals/guys, click on the link to our Membership Enquiry Form and I will call you to talk about how we can help you.

Blessings

 

Franchisor

Margaret Newitt

www.atableforsix.com.au