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A new romance? It’s never too late

A new romance? It’s never too late

No matter whether you’re 35 or 75, it’s never too late to fall in love again. Just ask some of our members who have been surprised how they have found love and it has taken them by surprise.

A new romance? It’s never too late

A new romance? It’s never too late

listen to the stories of people’s lives when they join A Table for Six. Everyone has such an interesting story to tell. Here is an example “I’ve been single for a while now and I’m quite comfortable. My friends are wonderful and I enjoy my work. I love my home and I’m very grateful for my  family. Overall I’ve become very good at being single. But sometimes I really miss having a partner to share my life with. Someone to talk, snuggle and grow with. I’m afraid that after a divorce, it may be too late for me.”

I also listen to the stories of the members who have found what they were hoping for, long after they they thought that was possible.  Does this happen by accident or is it just good luck. Or is there something special they had done or changes they had made to connect with a partner at any age?

There is often a similar theme. They are people who had come to terms with the idea they may not ever find a special someone again. But, they had also done some inner work on themselves that meant they felt worthy of love. They had also reached a point where they were ready to accept a partner as he/she is and were ready to be accepted unconditionally by him/her.

They see their new relationship as peaceful with less drama. They have learnt from all of their previous experiences in their past relationships. Is their new love someone who is identical to them? No, but they share values and a commitment to bring out the best in each other. Each one is dedicated to the development of the other.

One couple I checked in with recently told me that their first year was hard. She was cleaning and tidying while he didn’t clean or pick up. He loved to watch some TV while she didn’t watch at all. Then they refocused on loving each other a lot and that’s the most precious thing in the world. She accepted him the way he is and didn’t worry about the little things. He was more considerate of her love of neatness, and made more effort to help out. She joined him to watch some TV that interested her too. He remembered to show his appreciation to her.

“As you follow this path, you will find that compassion and acceptance replace fear, negative judgement, and worry. You will approach dating with curiosity, fascination, and a light heart, wanting only what is good for yourself and another person. Instead of choosing a partner based on images, pretense, and roles, you will be able to join your journey with another and learn what it means to create a spiritual bond that is flexible and expansive for both.”

from “If the Buddha dated by Charlotte Kasl

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
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Top 5 first Date Ideas To Take a Special Woman

Top 5 first Date Ideas To Take a Special Woman

Once you have met a special woman at dinner and it’s time for a first date, here’s the top 5 first date ideas to take a special woman to help you stand out from the crowd (according to askmen.com)

5. A trip to the local art gallery (for the artsy girl)
4. Local music show – Conversation is important on a first date, but a combo of conversation and pleasant distraction and setting a fun relaxed mood is golden.

Top 5 First Date Ideas To Take A Special Woman

Top 5 First Date Ideas To Take A Special Woman

3. Play tourist – Take your date on a touristy excursion around your hometown and see the city from a different perspective.
2. Ice skating – A great date for women who love to be active. No matter if she doesn’t know how to skate, a great opportunity for holding hands.
1. Try new cuisine – Sharing new experiences together is a great way to build a connection. Try something a little adventurous, a new ethnic cuisine, something neither of you have tried before.

 

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Do you need a nudge to make a change this year?

Do you need a nudge to make a change this year?

2017 is almost half way through. We have had a lot of success partnering our members up so far this year. We also heard from members who met through other means, but they said  that attending our dinners gave them the confidence in their lives that made all the difference. Our members tell us that they enjoy the dinners so much because they find them relaxed, and fun. The pressure they feel with internet dating isn’t there at our dinners. It’s all about the group enjoying some single company and conversation over dinner.

I never tire of hearing the members feedback and hearing of their enjoyment. We love to hear the good stories from our happy members.

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Do you ever feel as though there is someone out there that you could be deeply connected to-Someone that you haven’t met yet?

If you’re like most people who are single (and would prefer not to be), in spite of this wonderful sense of possibility, you also struggle with the challenge of how to bring this beloved person into your life. You may feel disappointed, frustrated, confused and even pain sometimes because they are not in your life yet.
I’m not usually a country music fan, but I caught a few lines of a song by Adam Brandt called “There will be love” that says it all. ” There will be love in our lives, just as long as we are willing to try.”

If any of that sounds familiar to you, we have helped people who thought they would never have success in dating again. Perhaps you need a nudge in the right direction, or you fear you are the least likely to succeed in dating.
Just remember, you don’t need to change anything externally about yourself or your life.  You only need to let go of those obstacles you have that are holding you back. Instead of spending another year hoping for love that doesn’t show up, you can contact us so that we can organise to have you out and meeting our fabulous members at dinners as soon as this weekend. You’ll be amazed by how quickly it can happen.

If you have goals to achieve in 2017 and one of them to to make a difference to your social/dating life, I want to invite you to make a commitment to yourself… A commitment that you’ll make this year the one you look back on as the year you made a change in your life.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

“In Sickness And In Health”

“In Sickness And In Health”

Have you said those words? If so, when you did, I’m sure you said them with the very best of intentions.

When considering if you are interested in dating, getting to know and perhaps marrying a partner, do you really think about what those words mean?

“In Sickness And In Health”

“In Sickness And In Health”

Some of the more common considerations made are if they could bring offspring into the reunion. Or, what is their extended family like.? Perhaps their financial situation and their temperament.

Yet, few people really consider something that is a vital question – can I suffer with this person?

Suffering is an inevitable part of life. No one escapes it in the long run. As we get older we come to know that suffering is not a rare occurrence. It is a common aspect of life.

Sorrow comes in many forms, yet it is guaranteed to come. Something that is important to consider is that not everyone suffers well.

Some people are unable to face the realities of life that are difficult. Some are easily overcome by life’s difficulties and are unable to cope at all.

Those who are able to put these difficulties into perspective, know they can count on themselves to deal with it, and simply put one foot in front of the other are an inspiration.

Who do you want beside you when the doctor says “I’m sorry there is nothing we can do.”

On whose shoulder do you want to lean when you tragically lose a family member?

With whom do you want to lay beside when you don’t know whether your child will ever come home?

When the world seems a crazy place, in whose eyes do you want to look?

Find someone who suffers well. You may be more attracted to a beautiful smile than someone who shows quiet determination. You may think it is more important to have interests in common than to have a quiet internal strength.

When challenges appear, you will appreciate someone by your side who believes in you, someone who encourages you and continues to have hope no matter what is put in front of you.

Having someone beside you who knows that suffering will come and go will make a huge difference. The best partner to have will confront sorrows with you. They will be able to laugh and cry with you. And, most importantly, they will offer support and hope in all of life’s challenges.

The best possible thing you can get out of a relationship is that you’re with someone who encourages you to be the best version of yourself every day.” ~Nishan Panwar

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
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9 Points-So You Impress Her

9 Points-So You Impress Her

Are you ready for a relationship? Fortunately, the feedback we receive from the women who attend our dinners is mostly that they are very impressed with the calibre of men they meet at our dinners.

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9 points-So You Impress Her

Here are nine tips about what women notice about you when they meet you for the first time and ongoing.

Some of these are common sense, and others might be surprising to you. They are suggestions so that you are not eliminated by something you did that can be off putting.

Being late
Make an effort to be on time rather than show up late. It shows that you respect the other angles you are meeting including her.

Being a cheapskate
Our members know that everyone pays enough to cover their own food and drinks at our dinners. But, don’t pull out the  calculator or argue over small amounts. It gives the impression that you are not a generous person.

Dominating the conversation
Don’t ramble on about yourself without even pausing long enough for anyone else to speak. If you interrupt other people’s conversation or don’t give others an opportunity to speak, they won’t be encouraged to want to see you again.

Coming on too Strongly
You may be very impressed with a woman at dinner. You really like her and want to see her again. But you will blow it if you come on too strongly at the table. Just be cool. Show you are interested by asking her questions and allowing her to voice her views too. Let her see the man that you are by sharing enough about yourself.

Talking about exes
Talking about your exes, shows you are not yet over them. It doesn’t matter if you are speaking about them in a positive or negative way. Topics such as how long your previous relationship was, are only natural. Be careful not to criticise or praise your ex’s too much. People will believe you are not yet ready for a new relationship.

Poor treatment of restaurant staff
The way in which you communicate with restaurant staff, and the other singles at the table can be either a big turn off, or a huge plus. Women will consider it a give away as to how you may treat her, your level of patience and consideration for other people.

Bad Phone Etiquette
Your phone should be on silent and out of sight during dinner. If there are important reasons such as children, it is fine to check a couple of times during the dinner. Otherwise, let the calls wait until after the dinner. Being too distracted by your phone can give the impression that you are not interested in them.

Bad Hygiene
This one sounds basic, but is very important.Check your fingernails are clean and short. Brush your teeth and wear deodorant. On the other end of the scale, it’s best not to be too heavy on the aftershave or cologne.

Not caring about their safety after dinner
Do the kind thing and enquire if she would like to be walked to her car or public transport. Be sensitive enough to gauge if she would prefer you to do so, or prefer to go it alone. Being thoughtful enough to ask is the important thing here.

One of the good things about attending our dinners, it that you are able to showcase who you are, rather than being judged by a photo and profile. So, don’t miss your opportunity to let them see how friendly, thoughtful and respectful you are.The right women will be attracted to you and want to see you again…Success!

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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Attitude is everything in finding a partner

Attitude is everything in finding a partner

There are some attitudes that are proven to give us a higher likelihood of finding a long-term partner, or even to gain so much more enjoyment from our dinners.  If we embrace these attitudes, it could very well mean that we will find a “Mr or Ms Right’ a lot sooner. The attitudes that are included in this category are:

  •     When you meet someone with whom there is no chemistry, you adopt the attitude not to write them off straight away.
  •     You know how to be charming, and you’re not just saving it up for the right person. You are generous and show it to everyone you meet.
  •     You make an effort to be friendly with everyone you meet, regardless of whether they meet your expectations.
  •     You look for the good qualities in every person you meet.
  •     You know you can never have too many friends and you welcome new people into your life.
    Attitude is everything

    Attitude is everything in finding a partner

    Take the pressure off yourself and commit to just having some fun along the way. It’s the type of attitude that men find very attractive – being happy, confident and not focused on whether they are marriage/partner material.

    Commit to having fun, and I predict you will enjoy the process and have people standing in line to spend tine with you.

    Thank you to our members who already know this. That’s what makes our A Table for Six dinners so successful.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
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Why she does not return your call

She gave you her number, you have phoned a couple of times and left a message…she isn’t returning your calls. Have you experienced this? What is going on?

Rest assured you are not the only man who met a woman, it felt like there was a spark there. She gave you her number to make contact, but now when you call or text, she never returns your call or responds in any way. Why is this happening?

Why she does not return your call

Why she does not return your call

The important thing to know is that it most probably isn’t anything about you. You should not take it personally. Once you understand this, it will set you free. You will simply move on and let her be.

Here are some of the reasons that could be the cause:

  1. You may have shared some laughs and had some things on common. She thought you were polite, but just didn’t see you as someone she would date. She wasn’t really interested in the first place.
  2. She got a bit caught up in the moment. It made her feel good to have someone interested in her. She felt something for you at the time, but now that the moment has passed, the interest isn’t there anymore. You were interesting, but she doesn’t want to take it further.
  3. You could be the right person, but the wrong time. She could have recently come out of another relationship. Her heart could have been broken, or she could still be holding a flame for someone else. She just is not ready.
  4.  A lot of women don’t like to hurt a man’s feelings. They are not sure and don’t want to lead you on. They worry about having to reject you down the track. They prefer to avoid the anxiety and decide not to go there and remain single.

Both men and women tend to take things personally. It is usually about something that is going on in their lives. It is not that you are uninteresting. If they decide not to respond to your calls, just move on to someone who thinks you are an amazing person.
No matter how good you are with women, you will ultimately come across this scenario. The more experience you have, the better you will become at recognising the warning signs. Don’t ever take it personally.

It is a numbers game. Anytime you are dealing with people, there is going to be unpredictable behaviour and outcomes. Dating makes your emotions vulnerable at anytime and if you are aware that these situations can happen, you will be better prepared. You can dust yourself off, pick yourself up and go out to meet new women.

As I look back on my life, I realise that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311
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Are you the mystery man?

Are you the mystery man?

Want to know one of the things that makes women shy away from you?

They feel as though you are talking about yourself too much! I know that you are probably thinking “That’s crazy. Women never stop talking.” But there is a difference. Women tend to dramatise, ramble and complain etc. However, the subjects they talk about and share too much of, tend to be their jobs, relationships and other people. That’s when men tune out.

It is better to be “interested” than “interesting”
On the other hand, men tend to talk about themselves and this causes women to tune out. When you feel the need to be witty, and captivating, remember it is better to be “interested” than “interesting’.

Are you the mystery man?

Are you the mystery man?

The ideal conversation is an equal exchange by both parties with conversation bouncing back and forth. If you go overboard trying to entertain a woman, it usually shows up as insecurity. Don’t try too hard to be the life of the party. It is a sign of attention seeking.

Ask questions and listen more than you talk
Better to take on the role of the investigator. Ask questions and listen more than you talk and try to find out as much as possible about her. Nothing too intrusive to start with. Remember that some people are touchy about disclosing  information about themselves. Ask questions like “Where were you born?” and “Where did you go to school?” After a few dates, you can ask about more personal subjects like religion, family situations and past relationships. You could also then touch on short and long term goals.

Women are intrigued by a mysterious man
Don’t tell her everything about yourself too soon. Keep a little mystery about yourself. If she asks a question, answer, but not tool much information. Keep some things to tell her later. Then ask her another question. Only disclose information about yourself little by little. Focus on getting to know her first. Women are intrigued by a mysterious man and will be more interested in you in the long term if they have to probe to find out about you.

Remember to stop talking about yourself, ask open ended questions to encourage her to talk about herself and Listen. You will have an advantage on the competition and your relationship will be off to a good start.

Be interested this weekA Table for Six
Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311
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The art of love is largely the art of persistence

The art of love is largely the art of persistence

Find a partner who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on them, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep… wait for the one who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of their friends, who thinks you’re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much they care and how lucky they are to have you…. The one who turns to their friends and say, ‘that’s her.’ ~ Unknown

The art of love is largely the art of persistence

The art of love is largely the art of persistence

Do you feel like you are always dating the wrong people? I often hear from Singles who contact us that they are tired of dating the wrong people and repeating a pattern that ends in a bad relationship.

Sometimes they choose people who just aren’t available for a genuine relationship. It may be that they have not moved on from a previous relationship, or they are just not emotionally capable of a healthy relationship.

Sometimes they date people who have lied to them and falsely represented themselves. Only after dating them  for a while they discover that this person has a addiction, or isn’t as financially secure as they claimed.

If you recognise that you are continually choosing the wrong people to date, then stop and think about your pattern of behaviour. Try to understand where those choices come from, recognise them, and make different choices next time.

Your friends or family may be able to help you with this process as sometimes they can see a pattern of behaviour easier than we can ourselves. You could even seek the help of a therapist.

Most importantly, if finding a loving partner is high on your list, treat it as a priority. If you were looking for a suitable job, you wouldn’t stop applying for suitable positions. What could be more important than finding a partner who compliments you and your life? So be proactive and make smart choices that will have you out meeting potential partners.

Here is a quote that says it all…

Albert Ellis
The art of love… is largely the art of persistence.

A Table for SixMargaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
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Don’t forget to celebrate your dating progress

Don’t forget to celebrate your dating progress.

So often we have a big goal in mind. We know exactly what we want.

“I want a husband/wife who I adore and who adores me.”

Maybe they are nowhere in sight just yet. However, It’s important to remember and acknowledge the progress you have made towards your big goal.

Don’t forget to celebrate your dating progress

Don’t forget to celebrate your dating progress

Six months ago, you were newly single. Not a thing planned for the weekend, except feeling sorry for yourself. All of your friends are married or in relationships, so no  possibility of a fun night out there.
But look at you now! You’ve updated your wardrobe and hairstyle. You’re feeling much more confident. You have met some new single friends at those fitness classes you’ve joined. Maybe you’ve joined A Table for Six where you’ve had some very enjoyable evenings meeting new singles over dinner. The new friends you’ve made enjoy going out for dinner, or the movies, or to that sporting game as much as you do, so your weekends are filling up quickly now.

Don’t downplay your progress. Feelings of guilt or unworthiness can take the wind out of your sails. Charles Duhigg, author of acclaimed book The Power of Habit states: “A huge body of research has shown that small wins have enormous power, and influence disproportionate to the accomplishments of the victories themselves.”

Your confidence has grown a lot because you know there are other interesting singles who are single too.

So, track your progress. Your life is a little better every day and you are making progress. Your social life is so much better than it was six months ago.  Rather than complaining that you haven’t arrived at the big goal yet, embrace your evolution.

Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” ~Martin Luther King Jr
Encourage and acknowledge yourself this week,

A Table for SixMargaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
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