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How to stay positive until Mr/Ms Right comes along

“I’ve been single for a few years now. My friends have set me up a few times. I’ve tried dating all sorts of people. I’m starting to think that my ideal partner doesn’t exist. Who would want to date me anyway?” Does this sound like you?

How to stay positive

It’s easy for people to say to you “Just stay positive and believe.” But that’s not always so easy. Especially when you’ve put yourself out there to ask someone out and they knocked you back or they decide they want to be just friends.

A good way to think about it is “Would you date yourself?”  To keep yourself going and to stay positive, list all of your best qualities. Don’t be stingy! Include everything you can possibility think of. Little children love me…..I’m a great cook……..I make people feel at ease…My ears are very cute……

List as many things as you can possibly think of. Be lavish in your praise for yourself. Once you realise what a good catch you are, you’ll become more attractive to others. Write your list and add to it every time you think of something else to add. Ask your friends to contribute as well. You’ll be surprised what they will say that you hadn’t even thought of. Keep the list somewhere you can see it everyday to remind you that anyone would be lucky to have you as a partner.

How to stay positive

You can also use this opportunity to recognise anything about yourself that could do with some tweaking. If you have some true friends who can be straight with you, they may point out some behaviour that could be holding you back in this quest. If their intentions are for your betterment, listen and take on board their comments.

It’s never about the girls or guys out there. It’s always about you and where your focus is. Be certain about your value and others will recognise it too.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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ONLINE DATING vs Meeting at our Dinners. Meet the best singles at A Table for Six

ONLINE DATING vs Meeting at our Dinners. Meet the best singles at A Table for Six
Online dating has been tried by 51% of Australians. Or so, some recent statistics I read claimed.  Most of the people I speak to fall into one of two different camps. There are the people who just can’t bring themselves to put their photo and profile on the online dating sites. The thought of “advertising” themselves as available is just too unsavoury. And if they are in certain work positions, it makes it even more out of their comfort zone. The others are people who have tried online dating, but for one reason or another, it doesn’t suit them. Your membership with A Table for Six is discreet. No photos on the internet and we only pass on your contact details if you give permission for us to do so.

ONLINE DATING vs Meeting at our Dinners. Meet the best singles at A Table for Six

ONLINE DATING vs Meeting at our Dinners. Meet the best singles at A Table for Six

Would you enjoy having your dinners all organised for you?
Some people find the whole process of online dating very time consuming. Going through profiles, taking the time to contact people with varying results. But a very common story I hear is that if they do finally meet someone in person for coffee, they are very often nothing like the profile or photo displayed on the online dating sites. Or else, after communicating for quite some time, when meeting, there was just no chemistry. At A Table for Six, we do all the organising of the dinners, and send the confirmation details once we have a suitable group organised. You get to just go along and enjoy meeting like minded singles .

Avoid the scammers on online dating sites
Of course, unfortunately there are the stories of people who have been taken advantage of by people praying on vulnerable singles hoping to find a special someone on the Online Dating sites. One particular lady told me that even though she now knew that the person she had been communicating with for 18 months was a scammer, she was still missing his messages. He had groomed her for a long time,  knowing just the right things to say to her. Luckily, she eventually had some alarm bells ringing when he continued to ask her to send more money and she reported it to police. But she had already sent a substantial amount of money to him.

Meet singles who are looking for genuine relationships, just like you
The focus when attending our dinners is to go out and enjoy a fun, social evening in a relaxed environment. You should expect to enjoy chatting with other singles on a wide range of interesting topics while savouring delicious food and drinks.  Because of the more relaxed group situation, everyone can relax and be themselves. Many times people have told me they met someone at dinner and had a connection, but if they had looked at a profile and photo online, they would most likely have discarded them. So many things are not definable when viewing profiles on the online dating sites. The way someone speaks, their mannerisms, their kindness and concern for others, their quirky sense of humour are only apparent when meeting in person in a relaxed situation such as our singles dinners.

Here is my favourite after-dinner recent feedback
Can I start by saying thank you for the guidance and professional approach from membership right through to the days leading to the arranged dinner.
An exciting and nervous time pre dinner but it all felt very comfortable from the time I sat down and joined such a beautiful group of people. Though I did arrived late as the traffic was very heavy due to an accident , the group where happy to wait till I arrived to order.
The restaurant I’d rate a 7 , food was delicious and the atmosphere was fabulous, we all enjoyed the belly dancing.
I rate my whole dining experience an 8, we where all enjoying each others company and sharing in conversation. It really felt like we’ve known each other for long time.
I sat next to P and naturally engaged in more conversation as the night went on , we had so much to say and really enjoyed his company and sharing our common work industry.
I wasn’t sure what to expect but if this is an indication of what’s ahead I’m even more excited for what’s planned for future dinning experiences. It shows the careful selection and the quality of people that joins A table for Six .
I look forward to my next dinner .

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A Table for SixMargaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 62 sleeps to go

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 62 sleeps to go

Like to meet a new partner or friends before Christmas? I know you probably don’t really want to hear that it is only 62 days to Christmas (about 5,356,800 seconds). Has another year really gone so quickly? Can it really be so close to another Christmas?

Did you make a resolution at New Year that you would meet a new partner and make some changes in your social life this year? Somehow work and other commitments always take a lot of our time. We have the best intentions to be proactive and take steps to go out and meet some new people whose company we enjoy….but didn’t quite take the steps needed to do so.

The good news is that there is still enough time to meet some wonderful new people before Christmas at our A Table for Six dinners! And there will be lots of other singles with the same intention.

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 62 sleeps to go

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 62 sleeps to go

Even if you are not quite ready for a relationship, don’t just hope and wait that something will change before Christmas. Get provactive, take charge of the situation. Come along to our dinner introductions.

It’s perfect timing to join our Spring dinners. You’ll have a great time, meet singles and make new connections. You may just even meet the one you will introduce to your family and friends on Christmas day.

Here’s what Rosie said:
“I’ve met a wonderful man
5 out of 5, reviewed on Nov 08, 2016
The concept of A Table for Six is fantastic. For me the fact I get to dine in lovely restaurants and meet new people outside my network was enough to have me join.

Before I started I was certain it was time for me to start dating but with a hectic schedule, two children and not at all interested in online dating I knew A Table for Six was for me.
Margaret is lovely and made me feel very comfortable and calmed any nerves I had about trying this new idea.
After attending four dinners, I can confidently say, I thoroughly enjoyed every dinner. It was always a respectful and fun environment, everyone was so happy to be meeting. Although we were all meeting for the first time it often felt like we were old friends coming together.
On my fourth dinner was when I met a wonderful man. I knew from the moment I met him there was something special between us. He has a far more elaborate and romantic story.
After a few weeks Margaret connected us and we went on our first date, that was in June 2016.
We are now in a healthy, happy relationship. I am with a man I feel connected to on so many levels. Truly wonderful. I’ve recommended Table of Six to many friends in fact a friend who I had recommended to before I began ATFS, met her man on the second dinner and that was two years ago, they are still going strong!
This works and it will for you too.
Thank you Margaret. I’m grateful to say I found a wonderful man and I couldn’t be happier. ”

Meet our genuine singles at our relaxed, fun dinners this week.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

Nervous about a first dinner? Keep reading!

Nervous about a first dinner? Keep reading!

Nervous about a first dinner? Keep reading!

Nervous about a first dinner? Keep reading!

There are few things as exciting as your first dinner with A Table for Six. The newness, the uncertainty, and the possibilities are huge. This could be the night you meet a prospective partner, or your new best friend. It can be enough to make even a very confident person feel a little rattled. What should you wear? What should you talk about?

Meeting face to face over a meal is a tried and tested successful way of meeting. And you know that the people you are meeting at our dinners enjoy it too. Conversation will normally flow continuously and if you run out of things to talk about, there are enough people in the group to ensure you don’t have to feel under pressure to talk all the time.

Don’t hesitate to ask questions, as long as they are not too personal. Personal questions are best left until you know someone a little better. Remember to share your experiences as well, it is a two-way game. It’s good to find something you have in common, even if it is the brand of toothpaste you use or the type of music you enjoy. It’s good to find a connection.

Topics that are always suitable are any recent movies you have viewed, the latest app you have on your iphone or places you have traveled to recently. While the weather is good to fall back on, it is a bit overused.

Wondering what to wear to our dinners? I’m sure you would like to make a good impression. It is important to dress appropriately for the venue you are attending. Wear something you really love and that makes you feel good too. Girls don’t overdue the makeup or show too much flesh (a little bit is a good thing). Guys no jeans or tee shirts. A button up shirt and dress pants make a much better impression.

Your first dinner, and every dinner after that is always exciting. Mixed with the right amount of  good attitude and realism, it will be a fabulous experience. Make you dinners more enjoyable and fun using the tips and suggestions mentioned here.

Other recent blogs you may enjoy:

My #1 Most Important Ever Dating Tip

Forgive yourself, you’re smarter now

This one very important thing we can control

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

 

Dating life not working?

Dating life not working?

Face what isn’t working in your dating life
Our lives improve only when we take chances…and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves.”
~Walter Anderson

Is your dating life not working and you wish to be more successful, you have got to stop, take a deep breath, and have a think about what is really going on here. If you continue going to the same places or meeting up with the same people, will you have a different more positive result? Most likely not! If you spend most of your time at work and only go out with your old friends occasionally, are you going to meet  new interesting singles? Most likely not!

Dating life not working?

Dating life not working?

The first step is to get out of denial and face up to what isn’t working in your life. Are you resigned to the fact that most of your friends are married or in relationships and too busy to go out with you? Are you in denial about the lack of fulfilment in the area of your relationships in your life?

I have worked with thousands of singles, and I have noticed those that have the most success share a similar attitude and take certain actions. They face their circumstances squarely and often realise that they are the ones holding themselves back from what they really want. They have a look at what is and isn’t working and take appropriate action, no matter how uncomfortable or challenging it may be.

Doing more of what doesn’t work won’t make it work any better.”
~Charles J Givens

Time to take action
Make a list of what isn’t working in your social and dating life. Ask your close friends and family what they believe is not working for you. It’s amazing how we can see so clearly what isn’t working for others, and yet remain totally blind to our own situations.
What action steps can I take to get my relationships to work the way I would like?

Do you need to end an old relationships that isn’t working? Update your image with a new hairdo or outfits? Free up some more time for social outings? Organise your finances so that you can participate in events and outings? Adjust your expectations and judgements of others? Or, most importantly, give yourself permission to love and be loved?

It’s time to take one action and follow through with it. then take another action and another until you gain the social and dating life you dream of.

If you would like to meet genuine, fun-loving singles over dinner, you will love our A Table for Six dinners.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six

Hayley missed out on someone special

Hayley missed out on someone special

As you probably know, we follow up with our members after they attend a dinner to ask “Is there anyone you met that you would like to catch up with again?”

Recently, a new female member (let’s call her Hayley) attended her first dinner, had a wonderful time and met people whose company she enjoyed very much. (that was her feedback to me)

One of the gentlemen (let’s call him Cory) she met at that dinner sent a contact request for her phone number to make contact and perhaps see each other again soon. He said they had enjoyed chatting a lot at the dinner and seemed to have an easy flow of conversation and similar outlook about many topics.

Hayley missed out on someone special

Hayley missed out on someone special

Hayley responded to the contact request and said “I also found Cory great company, I enjoyed our conversation and was even surprised that I felt an attraction to him. I didn’t expect that to happen. However, I don’t wish to pass my number to him. It was my FIRST dinner. I have many more men to meet and check out.”

When on this journey we call life, we are always on the move forward.  I have noticed that this has happened quite a few times before.  Not surprisingingly, Hayley most probably won’t meet Corey again. She will meet many other men at dinner, but may never meet another one where the attraction and connection is the same.

When something feels good, here and now, give it a chance. Don’t wait for something better to come along. Sometimes amazing things evolve, sometimes they don’t. But what I know for sure is that good things don’t wait for us. They too have a life of their own, and while we’re busy trying to make up our mind and/or waiting for the perfect thing to come along, they move on.

“Opportunity dances with those already on the dance floor.” by H. Jackson Brown Jr

Stop cheating yourself of love

Stop cheating yourself of love

A year from now you may wish you had started today

Today you woke up with the desire to finally make a change in your social and dating life. You felt motivated, inspired and ready to take the first step.

You decided to take yourself out to where you could meet some likely singles for a new relationship.

Stop cheating yourself of love

Stop cheating yourself of love

Suddenly you found out that things seem a bit more complicated, confusing and unfeasible.

You start to realise that it’s going to be neither easy or fast to meet people you relate to, have the same values as you, or want the same commitment in a relationship.

Eventually, you arrive at the point when you don’t feel like “conquering your dating life” today. However, you are sure that you’ll be ready to nail it in a while. Some day soon you will sort it out. Just not today…

Sound familiar?

Committing to big goals is hard and it’s no wonder why.  Putting off decisions to take a situation in hand is a common frailty of the human condition.

We are all bad at committing to the activities that require major, effort time and talent.

When it is hard to see the finish line, our desire to take action gradually vanishes. Then, procrastination comes into play.

Embrace the truth. You can achieve anything you desire. The only thing that is stopping you are your laziness, reluctance, and the lack of discipline. And, the major obstacle is the tendency to procrastinate.

I’m sure you have a goal to meet interesting, inquiring, engaging single people.

However, just like millions of people, you decide it is too hard and put off doing anything about it. You postpone the beginning till “someday” trying to convince yourself that there will be a better time. The weather will be better. I will have finished my studies. My children will have left home.

For many people, later often means never.

There is no doubt, you might still get there one day. However, it’s going to happen much later. The secret to meeting your new friends and partner is ridiculously simple: start now.

It’s ok to be a little slow. Because being slow is better then being stagnant. Take a look back and think how much of your precious time you have wasted over the last few years by not taking some action.

Now think how much different your life could be now if you hadn’t been procrastinating, having negative thoughts, complaining to our friends and family and feeling sorry for yourself.

Stop cheating yourself now. There will never be a better time to start. The best time is now.

Here is a powerful quote by Karen Lamb.

A year from now you may wish you had started today

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If you would like some more insight into how you can meet genuine, attractive single women at our A Table for Six, call me on 1300 885 311 and I will be happy to encourage, and inspire you.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

Why can’t my love find me?

Why can’t my love find me?

When it comes to finding a beautiful relationship, there is something that we can easily forget.

You see what you give to yourself, you can give to another and what you don’t give to yourself, you can’t give to another. The best thing you can do is to develop your relationship with yourself.

Why can't my love find me?

Why can’t my love find me?

Your thought pattern should NOT be, “Please send the perfect man or women to me,” but rather, “How can I develop myself to make me the man or woman who my life partner would quickly find and deeply love.”

The way forward is not to long for the perfect love that might come to us in the future, but rather love, respect and care for the people who are around us right now.  Everyone we meet, is special and has value. Our ability to recognise the unique qualities and gifts in everyone we meet is key to our ability to both attract and keep a more intimate partner.

One of the ways to do this is to be genuinely curious and engaged in conversation with others. To give others our attention and interest is a gift that they will feel. It is quite rare to find someone who will give their undivided attention and listen. Most people are not really listening. They are deciding what they will say as soon as the other has finished speaking.

To build loving relationships, shift the focus from what you will get out of it. Focus on giving care and attention to those around you and and how they will receive value from what you offer.

To transform your life and enjoy loving relationships, focus on empathy, careful listening, curiosity and love. These are the gifts we can offer to others and the gift we can receive in warmth and gratitude.

Offer those gifts to others and also tap into your unique talents and skills to determine how you can add value to the lives of others. Soon you will see that the more you give, the more you receive in return.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au

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Insights from one of our male members

Insights from one of our male members

A guest blog from one of our male members

Meeting the opposite sex can be a tough and tricky business. Anyone who has lived long enough knows that. Even as young as four or five years old at kindergarten boys get into trouble for pushing a girl over in the playground when in actual fact it is more than likely only because he likes her.

Going to an AT46 function or dinner can be nerve racking – if you let it. For my first dinner, I arrived more than half an hour early (I have always been an impeccably punctual person). I walked up and down the street waiting for the minutes to tick by. Once I got settled and everyone had arrived and taken their place it was a great evening. We were one of the last groups to leave and the clock read later than 11pm. I got a phone number that night and not for the first time either.

Insights from one of our male members

Insights from one of our male members

The two points I am making here are that I was prepared as well as organised and that I clearly projected the confidence that attracted the lady. Confidence and the human brain are amazing things. When you tell yourself enough times that you “can’t” do something then you probably (or even definitely) can’t. Conversely, if you believe you are capable of something then you are. I am told that women love a confident man. However, there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. And getting it right can be tricky business. Everybody projects confidence in different ways.

The organisation side of things is important too. I am a very organised person. I plan my weeks meals out the week before. I plan my business schedule and my leisure time schedule a week in advance also. If I have a date Saturday night I will pick out what I am wearing on Friday night. I will plan several days out from the date or the social event things such as how I am getting there, how much money I will take, what I will eat, how late I will stay out, and sometimes how much I will drink! Most of the dinners I have been to, I have been first to arrive. If you are running late, can’t find a park and lost, your night has not started well and could well just unravel from there. Planning is paramount.

First dates are interviews – informal ones. They are a chance to make a first impression as well as a lasting impression. Approximately three quarters of a first impression is non-verbal. i.e. appearance. Appearance is 100% in our own control. Dressing nice and looking good is easy. Whatever you say after that can be worked on. But, most of the time a member of the opposite sex has sized you up and been impressed or unimpressed before you even open your mouth.

I can back this up with personal experience. At an AT46 function earlier in the year I spent the overwhelming majority of the night speaking to a girl I would later date a few times. We had a fantastic night. She was the only girl I spoke to that night or even noticed. Yet I still got a contact request from another lady who did not even get to say hello, introduce herself or get to know me in any way. The first impression by appearance alone got her interested.

So I say – get your head sorted out (tell yourself there is a lot to like about you), have a shower and a shave, get dressed up, smile and the majority of the hard work of a first impression is done.

Good luck and all the very best.

A guest blog from one of our male members

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Margaret Newitt
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My #1 Most Important Ever Dating Tip

My #1 Most Important Ever Dating Tip

Let me give you a tip about dating and friendship that I have learned through 16 years of helping thousands of singles.

There is one quality that, above all determines success.
Is it wealth, intellectual  qualities, physical attractiveness? No, none of the above.
There is a quality that will ensure that in a year, your dating life will look entirely different.

This is a conversation about an old fashioned quality called “kindness”.

Here’s something interesting, I find that most people I speak to believe they are considerate, have a good sense of humour and they are good drivers. Interestingly, 99% of the people I speak to believe they are young for their age.

And yet, every day there’s plenty of lousy driving out there, there’s plenty of ill-humoured, mean spirited behaviour and plenty of people who really DO look their age.

The point of this is that when it comes to how we view ourselves, we are all a bit delusional; it seems that a positive outlook is a deep-seated component of our evolutionary wiring. The “self enhancement bias” is our systematic tendency to forgo rational evaluation of our own merits and abilities in favour of unrealistic attitudes that keep our ego properly inflated as to avoid sinking into the depths of despair.

So, perhaps you think you are acting in a kind way in your dating life. Maybe you could dial it up a bit more. Take it up a notch to a whole new level.

My #1 Most Important Ever Dating Tip

My #1 Most Important Ever Dating Tip

Practising radical kindness will have a side benefit as well. You will feel much better about yourself and give an energy of confidence. Confidence is also very attractive to the opposite sex. So, do this for yourself and for others.

Every day-be kind

1. Always return emails, text messages and phone calls. Even if it is to say “I’m sorry, I don’t think we have a connection, but I do wish you well for the future.”

2. Be present. The best gift of generosity you can give in your business or dating life, is to be fully present when you are with someone. Give your undivided attention to the person you are with. If you have been with someone who did this for you, you will know how special they make you feel. So, put your phone away or turn it off and be generous with your presence.

3. Show our appreciation to others who have given you the gift of their time and attention. Say “thank you” sincerely to people who have come out to spend their time with you.

4. Be generous Foster  an attitude of generosity. Be willing and even eager to invest your time, energy and attention in those you meet. Don’t be focused on deciding if they are partner material. Just give your presence without attachment or expectation.

You have opportunities to practise kindness every day of your life. Every time you send an email, make a phone call or meet singles at A Table for Six dinners. If you practise being a kind, compassionate and understanding person, you will attract the best people into your life.

No matter where you are on the kindness ladder, take it up a level and you will see the positive impact it has on your dating life and how you feel about yourself.

I see the evidence of this every week in the results that singles gain in their dating life.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six

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