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Dating getting you down? How to stay positive

Dating getting you down? How to stay positive.

Dating shouldn’t be too hard in 2018. There are so many apps and online dating sites, meet ups and singles bars.
Then why does it seem to be so challenging?

Dating getting you down? How to stay positive

Dating getting you down? How to stay positive

There is a French saying “Trop de choix tue le choix” (too much choice kills the choice). At a certain point as psychologist Barry Schwartz notes in his book The Paradox of Choice, “choice no longer liberates, but debilitates”.

You find someone nice looking. They seem to be pretty “normal” fun and bright. Your heart sings a little song. You exchange texts and messages. And then…silence!

You go on a first date and it goes well. There seems to be a connection. Conversation flows easily. You both agree to catch up again. And then…silence!

It’s only natural to feel disappointed and you might decide that dating is too hard and there are no decent, genuine singles out there.

Don’t hold on to that feeling. Let it go! It won’t serve you. There are plenty of wonderful quality people to date. And, you only need one. One that makes your heart sing.

As much as we don’t like to hear this, our state of mind and beliefs draw experiences to us. So, it’s crucial to hold on to positive beliefs about dating and every aspect of our lives.

Each date that you go on has something to teach us as well. If you do a little review after each date, looking for the positive that has come out of the experience, you will draw more positive into your next date.

Maybe the date helped you to determine things that are important to you. Maybe the date helped you to realise something you could do differently when choosing someone you would date.

Or maybe they just let you know about a great new restaurant, or a show that is coming up.

If you can stay open, curious and positive, you will always learn something and you will be well on your journey to true love.

Find out about how you can meet genuine singles in a fun atmosphere at our dinner introductions

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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There’s never a better time than now to let love in

There’s never a better time than now to let love in
For singles, every day represents a defining point. Your life can be astounding, or just another day. Life can be rich with adventure, love and experience. Or, it can be mundane and predictable. This drastic contrast is the end result of our thoughts, and life choices.

Singles who have an amazing life have worked to attain it. They have spent time developing their life in the direction they wish it to travel. They have expanded their mental and physical horizons. They have maintained an attitude of curiosity and wonder and they see the glass as half full. They have spent some time doing inner work and are consciously aware.

Singles who have an amazing life have worked to attain it

Singles who have an amazing life have worked to attain it

Singles may rationalise their inaction . Our inner voices may sound very reasonable when they try to talk you out of moving out of your comfort zone. Have you noticed any of these lurking in your mind? (from Let love In by Debra Bernt)

Procastinator. I’ll start dating next month, next year when I lose weight, when I fix myself, when my kids grow up.
Worrier. I’m afraid of rejection. Online dating is dangerous.
Skeptic. There is no use in trying. There is no one out there for me. I will never meet anyone.

Judgement. .All the good men/ women are taken. It is not worth my time to try. Stay away!
Beginner. I don’t know the first thing about dating, and I am not ready to put myself out there.

When singles are lazy about improving their dating life, nothing happens. You have the ability to draw the right person to you, but this won’t happen if you don’t leave the house. Your opportunities to meet someone greatly increase when you go places that other singles frequent.
Break the cycle, there is never a better time than now to make changes in your life. Be open to new opportunities this week.

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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Choose a new empowering perspective

Choose a new empowering perspective

Many of our members have found themselves unexpectedly single.  Perhaps, like me, they lost someone through illness. Or their relationship ended because they grew apart. In any of these situations, there is a period of grief.

The end of any relationship means the end of a whole phase of your life. The end of shared happiness, fears and plans for the future. Every relationship has its own story and every ending is hard in its own way.

This week, I am going to focus on my perspective about the loss of my relationship. I am going to ask myself this question, “Does my perspective serve me and who I am becoming?”

In my case, it is very reasonable to feel disbelief, sadness and anger. But does that empower me to become more peaceful and accepting? I can be sad and angry about the sudden loss of Reg. I can ask why and what if, but will that help me create acceptance and a peaceful mindset?

So, I’m going to as myself, “How can I see this differently?

I was lucky to have such a wonderful relationship. We had a lot of good times. He taught me a lot about what is really important in relationships.

The important thing is not to come up with a rose-coloured glasses interpretation that feels too unrealistic. A new perspective that feels empowering will help you move forward to how you would like your life to be.

If you had a  relationship break up and you didn’t want to, it can be a bitter pill to swallow. You wonder how they could so easily turn their back on you and all that you shared. Getting stuck in  the “how could they? ” and the “they didn’t realise what they had” will stop you from seeing the big picture.

Change your thinking from “If only we had done this differently” to “What can I learn from this and take with me into a future relationship?”

Maybe you stopped getting to know each other and spending special time together. Maybe you both forgot to prioritise each other and to being a team. There will be a lesson in the ending of the relationship that you can apply in your life and future relationships.

I know I won’t achieve that mindset all of the time. If I can change my perspective even for  a little while, I know I am headed in the right direction.

“It’s not only moving that creates new starting points. Sometimes all it takes is a subtle shift in perspective, an opening of the mind, an intentional pause and reset, or a new route to start to see new options and new possibilities.” — Kristin Armstrong

I hope you can adopt an empowering mindset about relationships this week.

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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Some universal truths about relationships

Some universal truths about relationships

I find it difficult to write about myself and my journey through grief and learning to live in a whole new world with out my partner Reg. My own life was not a tropic I included very often in my blogs. But, everything changed recently.
And many have shared that they are following my journey. I would like to let you know that I am doing as well as can be expected.
Friends and family lovingly let me know that I have to go through this journey. I do understand that it can’t be avoided. And, I utilise any tool that could help me. The ones I have turned to so far are, meditation, listening to uplifting podcasts and audio-books, repeating affirmations out loud, making sure I eat healthy and getting quite a bit of exercise each day. Of course, surrounding myself with loved ones is one of the best treatments.
One of our members kindly drew my attention to a recent article in the newspapers written by Kerrie Sackville. She had started dating again after divorce and made some interesting pointers. I’m sure many of them will resonate with you.

You can’t heal a broken person with your love. They must heal themselves.
– You need to pay attention to your instincts. If something feels wrong to you it probably is.
– The most important thing you can do for your love life is to be okay with yourself.
– You need to really enjoy your partner’s company. If you don’t then there’s no point in staying together. And if you do, then most other things become bearable.
–  A wicked sense of humour can be a great aphrodisiac.
– The more interests and friends you have of your own, the more you will bring to your relationship.
– You can be perfectly happy with your partner and still be attracted to others.
– You never need to apologise for your partner’s bad behaviour. They are responsible for themselves.
– If someone goes cold on you, you can’t force them to fall back in love with you. It is out of your hands.
– Great sex can keep a relationship going long after its expiry date.
– It really helps if you like each other”s friends and family.
– If you find yourself physically repulsed by your partner, it’s all over.
-There is no painless way to end a relationship with someone who doesn’t want to go. They’re still going to be horribly hurt and you’re going to have to suck it up.
-You can’t be “friends” with an ex while still in love with them.
– The way you feel about yourself when you are with your partner will tell you everything you need to know about your relationship.
– Men can be such a pain in the arse. But gosh, they’re endearing.

 If you would like to read the full article, here is a link.


Margaret Newitt

www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
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With courage, gratitude and acknowledging the beauty of each day

With courage, gratitude and acknowledging the beauty of each day

First of all, I would like to give my heartfelt thanks to everyone who has sent messages of condolence on the passing of my partner Reg on 20 April. Your personal messages have been a comfort during a time of great upheaval as I come to terms with Reg’s loss. The support of my family and friends has been wonderful. There has been so much love.

With courage, gratitude and acknowledging the beauty of each day

Many of you bravely shared your own stories of loss and grief. I know that my life is going through a huge change. I know that many of you have gone through this experience, or something different but no less challenging.

Thank you also for allowing me a little time to heal. Whilst the journey of grief can be long and unpredictable, I want to now focus on providing our dinners to you again. And now, with a new and deeper understanding of how it can feel to find yourself without a loving, life partner.

All current memberships periods will be extended by two months. Dinners are now on the events pages again for you to register your interest.

I am looking forward to getting back to what I do best…providing opportunities for you to meet like, minded singles. Not only that, but making new friendships and love connections.

with courage, gratitude and acknowledging the beauty of each day,

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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Single and out of practise

Single and out of practise
I speak with a lot of singles who are at different stages in their lives when it comes to relationships. They’ve had a variety of experiences in their lives, and they are working through dealing with them.

Single and out of practise

Single and out of practise

It makes no difference; I’m still going to be someone who doesn’t listen to the negativity. I’m not going to agree with you when you say that all the good ones are taken, or that everyone has too much baggage. Your mates/girlfriends might let you wallow in this line of thinking, but I won’t allow you to.

You won’t wow everyone, but that’s ok and perfectly normal
. All you will ever get from me is encouragement to step outside of your comfort zone. That comfort zone is your worst enemy, not me. I’m going to  encourage you to put on your best outfit, stand tall, get your attitude right and go out and wow some new people. You won’t wow everyone, but that’s ok and perfectly normal.

Don’t worry if some people don’t recognise your beautiful heart. They’re not meant to be in your life right now. The one or ones who do see your authentic beauty are the ones who have also lifted their spirit to the realms where you now dwell.
Our dinners and events are simply a vessel for you to use to facilitate your growth and to expand your social circle. They are designed just for you to use to learn how it feels to be a single person in a mixed group again.

There’s so much to learn when you’ve been out of the single scene for a long period of time. You’re out of practise. You’ll learn you’re not the only one who feels way out of their depth. Those who are very honest with themselves will admit they are frightened of being hurt, taken advantage of, made to feel inadequate, not good enough or invisible.

We all know the real truth. It is inside of us. You just need to listen. Your inner guide will protect you from being hurt if you stay quiet for long enough to hear what it is telling you.

There’s no better investment you can make than in yourself! So, if you want to change how your life is going around relationships, start investing your time, energy, focus and even some dollars to improve it.

Poor me, or there’s no great men/ladies out there, or I don’t have time, or I don’t know where to go, just isn’t acceptable anymore.

Checkout our upcoming dinners here

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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Dating worries?…not if you follow this simple plan

Dating worries?…not if you follow this simple plan

You are setting out of your house on an evening out. Are you excited and looking forward to having some fun and connecting with new interesting people?

Or, does the little voice in your head sabotage you before you even arrive by whispering that you won’t meet anyone you like?

Are you prioritising your dating life?

Dating worries?…not if you follow this simple plan

If:
you set your intention before you arrive at your destination,
you decide that you are looking forward to meeting people with interesting stories to tell,
you see yourself having a great time,
you are setting yourself up to succeed. You will be laying the groundwork for making new friends, dating and even falling in love to happen.

Expecting that the man or woman of your dreams will be there with outstretched arms waiting for you? You are setting yourself up to be disappointed and also missing out on a real gem.

We have all been guilty of judging. It’s a natural human trait. But it is self sabotaging behaviour. You meet some new people and make a judgement about them because of their hairstyle or the colour of their shoes. This moment of judgement could stop you from getting to know them and you could be missing out on a wonderful friendship.

Judging others is really only hurting ourselves. It’s no reflection on the other person.
“When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself. ” ~ Wayne Dyer

Do you notice negative things? Be committed to looking for opportunities that bring you pleasure. The delicious food, a spectacular view or the person you just met who gave you a tip about real estate. Notice the lovely smile on the person with the purple shoes.

And that person with the very different hairstyle, could be the most interesting person in the room. (There’s only a week between a bad and a good haircut)

Be committed to looking for opportunities this week

Check out our upcoming dinners here

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

Millions of people have happy relationships- why shouldn’t you?

Millions of people have happy relationships- why shouldn’t you?

If you have been single for a while, perhaps you have registered on an online dating site.

Or maybe you have been out with your girlfriends or mates hoping to meet someone. You got excited at first when you received a lot of messages on the online site. You even met a few people for coffee or a drink. But they weren’t anything like you were expecting them to be. Or you may have dated a couple of them for a while.

Millions of people have happy relationships- why shouldn’t you?

Millions of people have happy relationships- why shouldn’t you?

But after knowing them for a time, you found that the information they had given wasn’t exactly true. They said they were financially stable, but then you found out they had nothing but debts. They said they were ready for a real relationship, but they actually were still living with their ex.

So you decided:

Dating means disappointment
Dating means hurt
Dating is hard work

So you decide to take a well deserved break from dating.

You fill up your life with friends, family, work and travel. – another two years pass by.

You notice your friends are finding their special partner so you decide to dip your toe in the water of dating again.

But your previous experience tells you that relationships cause pain.

Don’t build your conclusions on a narrow field of experience. Millions of people have happy relationships. And if some people can be blissfully happy, why shouldn’t you be?

It’s true that dating involves some luck, timing, chemistry, similar goals and values. But people fall in love everyday. So if it hasn’t happened to you yet, it means that you need to meet more people.

If you were job hunting, you wouldn’t stop applying for positions because you hadn’t found the right position.

Our dinners will give you the opportunity to meet other singles in person in a relaxed, friendly environment. It’s time to step out, act confident and know you won’t fail.

Check out our upcoming dinners here

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

Like to catch up? It’s a big ask

Like to catch up? It’s a big ask

Have you ever been asked out for a meal or a drink and found yourself having a dialogue in your head about what could happen if you say yes? Would they fit in with my friends? Will they really “get” me? Would they make a good mother/father?

Oops, I think we’re a bit ahead of ourselves here. We are almost asking them to validate our very existence. Like to catch up? It’s a big ask

Sometimes it’s all tied up in other things. What most of us haven’t learned is not to make it mean anymore than it is.

It’s fun when you keep it simple. Life is a contact sport. If you are asked to catch-up with someone again, say yes to a drink or a quick meeting.

Here’s a quote I read this week-“If you think a person is boring, you don’t know them well enough.”

have fun this week…

Check out our upcoming dinners here

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

Men, create attraction and relationship

Men, create attraction and relationship

Have you ever noticed, that internet dating sites out there….they show you a lot of photos of single women…

But how do you get to speak to them or meet them?

And for most single men, you send a message, but don’t get a reply?

Or, don’t have the chance to meet them!

We don’t think that is right.

Men, create attraction and relationship

Our dinners are a complete game changer, and we want to make meeting suitable women a reality for as many single men as possible.

Here’s the thing…you won’t get this service anywhere else because there is NO ONE providing an introduction service like we are.

What’s the difference?  The CORE of our service focuses on the one thing that is going to create your opportunity for attraction and relationships: Building rapport and trust face to face with the single women you meet.

A Table for Six dinner introductions have you sitting next to and across the table from three, (qualified for you) single women. so, you can easily look into their eyes, show your interest, intelligence, great personality and energy for life.

And the best part? Our dinners allow you to build relationships, without spending all day online sending message and hoping to get a reply.

Just the opposite – we co-ordinate the suitable group, and send you all the details of the where and when. It’s time savvy too…

Specially designed so that you can just enjoy going out to dinner and to meet three amazing single women at your table – every time.

Chances are, you’ve never had this kind of opportunity before. We’re changing the game and putting single men in the spotlight…It’s your time to shine.

Put the Matchmakers to work Now

Complete the enquiry form to put us to work on your dating life

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311