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Surround yourself with the kind of people you want to meet

Surround yourself with the kind of people you want to meet

“Just have patience, the perfect person will come along when the time is right.”

If you’ve been single for a while, I’m sure you have heard this many times. You probably don’t enjoy hearing it. We have all become accustomed to having what we want, when we want it.

If you  find yourself at a green light with a driver in front who is day dreaming, how many seconds do you wait before you toot the horn? And waiting for someone to answer a phone call when you’re kept waiting is another top frustration.

But when it comes to finding a partner, they are absolutely right -when the time is right, your person will come into your life.

The best plan is to lead your day-to-day life in a way where you’re enjoying yourself, surrounding yourself with and meeting the kinds of singles you want to meet so that you’re not always ‘on the hunt.’ Then you won’t have that desperate vibe of being at a venue only to meet your next date.”

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Are you living your dream life? I’m not talking about material possessions you wish you had. Take time to think about your decisions and where  you’re headed in the important areas of life, such as your social life. If there is even a single thing you could do right now to make your life better, go for it. Take control of your life and actively design it as you go along.

Being single and having friends who are a happily dating or married can leave you feeling like a 3rd wheel. It can make you want love more than anything in the world, and it’s natural to feel lonely or sad if you can’t find it. But love yourself and love spending time solo, and finding ways to stay interested and excited about life without a significant other. This will make you feel even better when that special person comes along!

“Never say someone completes you.
You have to feel complete all on your own.
Instead, look for someone to complement your completeness”

Love yourself and enjoy yourself this weekA Table for Six
Margaret Newitt
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Last chance for dinners this year

Last chance for dinners this year

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The dinners this weekend are the last ones for this year. I hope you’ll join in on a dinner this Saturday. We will be on leave next week 11 to 19 December for a much anticipated break.

Last chance for dinners this year

Last chance for dinners this year

We are truly grateful to you for choosing us to go on your (singles) journey with. You are  our  highly valued customers and it has been a sincere pleasure serving you this year.

We hope that you have enjoyed the dinners and learned a little about being single, and about yourself as well. We will continue our efforts to meet your expectations in the future as well. Meanwhile, your unwavering support and patronage is what gets us out of bed in the morning. Each one of you is to be congratulated for being pro-active, positive and for stepping outside of your comfort zone to make a difference in your lives.

Your honest suggestions and feedback on restaurants has helped us shape our service to best fit our members.

The first dinners in the New Year will be 7 January and we will be adding quite a few new restaurants for you to enjoy. We look forward to having you out to dinner meeting our fabulous members again in the New Year.

We send you the warmest wishes your way for this Christmas season.

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Are your friends holding you back from a great relationship?

Are your friends holding you back from a great relationship?

6 ways to move from single to lots of possible relationships

Do you love to get together with your friends and complain about how hard it is to meet a partner?

Are your friends holding you back from a great relationship?

Are your friends holding you back from a great relationship?

Does it regularly turn into a whinge session when you and your friends are relaxing and should be having a good time? Does the conversation almost always turns to “Where are all the decent, intelligent guys who aren’t married” or  “Why aren’t there any outgoing, fun loving, attractive ladies out there?” It’s a perfect opportunity to share stories of the strange people you met with online dating. You can compete for the best horror story about how you fell for a sweet, interesting girl/guy who seemed like real relationship material, only to find out they were married or a drug addict.

In no time at all you can work yourselves up  into a state of misery and start singing “Poor, poor pitiful me.”  Misery loves company and it is a coping strategy. But do you really think this is going to help your situation?

Why not be an example to your friends and change the dynamics next time you are together? Here are some suggestions that will put a different slant on the situation and maybe gain a different outcome.

If you say something enough times, it becomes true. If you constantly say that it’s too hard to meet suitable partners, that will be your truth because you won’t even see them when they are staring you in the face.

Challenge your friends to adopt a more positive attitude. Show your friends that having the right attitude will bring a different outcome – Knowing that your partner is out there and will arrive at the right time.

There is usually a leader in any group who takes the first step in a different direction. You can be that leader and be an inspiration to them. You can inspire your friends to dream more, learn more, do more and become more.

If there is a need to vent and get something off your chest, set a time limit. Two minutes should be the limit and then move the conversation on to the fun activities you have planned.

You can stick with “I’m picky”, “The best ones are all married” or “There’s not enough single men/women in my area”. But that isn’t leading you to your desired outcome.

Do you or your friends really make an effort to change things. Many singles say they do, but one of the biggest things keeping them in the same place is lack of action. Are you going to singles events and our fabulous dinners?

An ancient native proverb goes:

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two “wolves” inside us all.

One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?” The old Cherokee simply replied,

“The one you feed.”

Meet our genuine singles at our relaxed, fun dinners this week.A Table for Six
Margaret Newitt
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Relationships-The most important experience in our lives

Relationships-The most important experience in our lives

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Relationships are the most important experience in our lives. Without relationships, we are nothing. They let us know who we are. We can only experience who we are in relationship to something or someone else.

Relationships - The most important experience in our lives

Relationships – The most important experience in our lives

In relationships we also define and recreate who we are. We might decide that we are smarter, bigger, better at singing, happier etc. than another. We define and recreate who we are in relationship to who you are.

Relationships - The most important experience of our lives

Relationships – The most important experience of our lives

Here’s an interesting observation-we cannot recreate ourselves as anything that we can’t see in another. That’s interesting! We can only see in ourselves qualities or behaviours that we are willing to see in another. Anything we don’t recognise in another, we will never find in ourselves. Or, only what we see in another can we see in ourselves.

Once we understand this, we also understand that our main function in a relationship is to seek and find all of the best and highest qualities of another. Our role is to help empower others to be the best they can be. Whatever that may be for them.

So what partners do for each other is to discover and bring out, the best in each other. We are not in a partnership to take, but to recognise and encourage each other for who we really are. We understand the importance of this and see that it is our very reason for being.

Now, being in a relationship becomes a much richer experience. We now don’t need to focus on what we can get out of it. Our focus can now be on what we can give or how we can empower our partner.

That doesn’t mean that we become victims or allow them to treat us badly. Staying in a dysfunctional relationship is not what it is about. But it is giving to another and allowing ourselves to experience a love with no conditions. It is wanting for your partner what they want for themselves and the amazing thing is that once you say, “I choose for you what you choose for you” they will always want to be with you. Isn’t that what we all look for? Someone who only wants for us what we want for ourselves.

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Meet our genuine singles at our relaxed, fun dinners this week.A Table for Six
Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
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You can laugh at dating worries…if you follow this simple plan

You can laugh at dating worries…if you follow this simple plan

When you are setting out of your house on an evening out, are you excited and looking forward to having some fun and connecting with new interesting people? Or, does the little voice in your head sabotage you before you even arrive by whispering that you won’t meet anyone you like?

Are you doing your part to maximise your own happiness?

Are you doing your part to maximise your own happiness?

If you set your intention before you arrive at your destination – if you decide that you are looking forward to meeting people with interesting stories to tell – if you see yourself having a great time – you are setting yourself up to succeed. You will be laying the groundwork for making new friends, dating and even falling in love to happen.

But if you set out expecting that the man or woman of your dreams will be there with outstretched arms waiting for you, you are setting yourself up to be disappointed and also missing out on a real gem.

Are you doing your part to maximise your own happiness?

Are you doing your part to maximise your own happiness?

We have all been guilty of judging. It’s a natural human trait. But it is self sabotaging behaviour. You meet some new people and make a judgement about them because of their hairstyle or the colour of their shoes. This moment of judgement could stop you from getting to know them and you could be missing out on a wonderful friendship.

Judging others is really only hurting ourselves. It’s no reflection on the other person.

When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself. ” ~ Wayne dyer

If you find yourself slipping into that mode of noticing negative things, be committed to looking for opportunities that bring you pleasure. The delicious food, a spectacular view or the person you just met who gave you a tip about real estate. Notice the lovely smile on the person with the purple shoes.

And that person with the very different hairstyle, could be the most interesting person in the room. (There’s only a week between a bad and a good haircut)

Be committed to looking for opportunities this week
Margaret Newitt
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231 Days until Valentine’s Day 2017

231 Days until Valentine’s Day 2017

Tonight when you lay your head on your pillow, will you feel good about the extra overtime you did? Will you feel pleased about the getting to work a little earlier and staying later to complete those extra tasks? There are 231 days until Valentine’s day 2017. When you look back, will you feel extra happiness because you were the highest achiever in your office? OR will you wish you had made time to create more pleasure in your life? Will you wonder who could have been by your side enjoying Valentine’s day with you?

231 Days until Valentine’s Day 2017

231 Days until Valentine’s Day 2017

Recently, I have been aware that for many people taking the step to join our dinner groups, or for that matter any new group of people, can be a frightening thought. People who are successful and confident in most areas of their lives can feel daunted and self conscious when it comes to taking a step to meet new friends or a partner.

Our expertise is in aiding people to get what they really want in what is the most important area of their lives. We have the vehicle and can  help you with the tools to find your new set of friends or partner. The people we work with make permanent changes in their lives.

Here are some tips to help you enjoy meeting new singles.

1. Have an open mind and focus on the positive possibilities when meeting new people.Suspend your judgements and concerns and especially don’t read negative things into them or the situation. Be positive, open and notice the laughs and interesting opinions.

2. Put your focus on them and really listen to what they are saying. Notice their body language, eye contact and smiles. Don’t; get stuck on your own thoughts and concerns.

3. Everyone has an interesting story to tell. Have a curiosity about their lives and try to find their unique perspective.

4. When meeting new people, keep the conversation on positive and fun topics. Asking about dramatic, Traumatic and negative events will bring the conversation and mood down.

5. Share your good stuff too. Share a little about yourself that you particularly like too.Teach them something about yourself as well. Let them be curious about you too and share some fun and interesting information.

Here is a review written by a lady who regretted waiting so long to join in on our dinners.

Don’t let your nerves hold you back for 2 years like mine did……...

5 out of 5, reviewed on Feb 09, 2016
Margaret this is a wonderful business, its only my second dinner but for me to ‘get out’ there was nothing short of a miracle.

I must say how delighted I am to have found people in the same boat, its amazing we all think we are the odd one out and no one else is out there ……well Table for 6 surely has provided opportunities and ‘safety’. Nothing quite like it, I really did not believe there was anything that I would feel comfortable at so thank you so very much.

It took me about two years to actually work up to joining………. Laughing out loud now at hesitating.

People really are so similar with the most basic of needs to have wonderful friends and maybe find that special ‘one’.

Cannot thank you enough 

Cathie Bayliss

We want our members to overcome their fears. Try something new and different, so you can have the results you desire. And a different result when you lay your head on your pillow in the near future.

There are 231 days until Valentine’s day 2017.

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
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Discover the love & the kind of relationship you dream of

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Discover the love & the kind of relationship you dream of.

“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” ~Anais Nin

Take one person (let’s call him Al) as seen by two different people (let’s call them Sandy and Lisa). Sandy has a suspicious nature, so she expects that people always have something up their sleeves-an agenda. After an hour at dinner with Al, she notices him checking his watch and figures he probably has a rendezvous with another woman and is trying to cut short their time together. Seeing him as sneaky and untrustworthy, she stops engaging in the conversation, and begins giving very short responses. Sandy has braced herself against Al, thinking he is a man who wants to use her or take her for granted.

Discover the love the kind of relationship you dream of

Discover the love the kind of relationship you dream of

When Lisa is at dinner with Al and he checks his watch, she hardly notices, but the sight reminds her to check her watch too. She realises it’s getting late. They decide to pay for the meals and walk home, laughing at the fact that both of them are early birds. Lisa is reassured by Al’s directness and finds she has enjoyed herself and the evening immensely.

Sandy because of her suspicious nature, distanced herself from someone who could have been fun and interesting. Lisa, because of her assumption of Al’s goodness, felt connected and found a potential mate.

The truth is that what we believe is usually what we see.

From “The One” by Kathy Freston

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What is the most necessary trait for a happy relationship?

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What is the  most necessary trait for a  happy relationship?

Good looks and money?
A new relationship guide by Dr Tashiro, a psychology professor, writes that singles looking for long-lasting love should limit their list on their checklist to only three. He writes that good looks and money should not be included in that list.

Dr Ty Tashiro writes in his book “The Science of Happily Ever After”, that the problem is that singles want everything in a potential partner and that results in them ending up with nothing.

What is the most necessary trait for a happy relationship?
He says that personality traits should be concentrated on and that the “agreeable” trait is the key to sustainable love and desire. Being agreeable will show up as someone who is forgiving, cooperative, good-natured, flexible, trusting, soft-hearted and tolerant.

The quality that is the worst for relationship sustainability
Alternatively, a partner who has a quality of “Neuroticism” is someone who is prone to anxiety, depression, embarrassment, emotional instability and insecurity. Dr Tashiro says that people with this trait are the worst for relationship sustainability.

What is the single most necessary trait for a long term happy relationship?

What is the single most necessary trait for a long term happy relationship?

From his own research Dr Tashiro reiterates that good looks are not a a predictor of satisfying relationships, nor do they correlate to happier marriages. In fact, there is “no reliable association between physical attractiveness and relationship satisfaction,” he writes.

Does money help?
In regard to money, his research has shown that it does not keep a relationship buoyant, at least over a certain point.

Money does make a difference on the lower end of the scale, but for those above $75,000 there seems to be diminishing returns on happiness in marriage. “Once this threshold is crossed, there is no significant association between more wealth and higher levels of psychological well-being”, Dr Tashiro writes.

Only 1 in 3 will find long lasting love
He encourages singles to be more realistic in their expectations to improve the odds of finding a compatible mate. Dr Tashiro states that society’s fairy-tale view of romance where 88% of adults believe in “soul mates” – has contributed to the fact that although 90% of people will marry in their lifetimes, only one in three will find long-lasting love.

He says that many women will search for a man who is handsome, tall and makes good money, but only about one percent of the suitors they are likely to meet will fit into this category.

Time to rethink our views?
Dr Tashiro states that his book is about making smarter choices and learning to weed out the undesirable traits and rethinking our views about what really matters in a romantic partner.

Our A Table for Six dinners are a great tool to use to meet singles face to face in a relaxed environment. You’ll have an opportunity to interact and also observe other singles interacting in a social situation with no pressure. They are also a lot of fun.

Here’s another story I wrote on this topic –

What is most important in a partner?

4 Things that will damage a relationship

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Margaret Newitt
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Men are hit hard by relationship breakups

Men are hit hard by relationship breakups.

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Men are hit hard by relationship breakups.

Men are hit hard by relationship breakups. Relationship breakups are never easy. The end of a relationship with someone you really care about can cause more pain than most events in your life.
Even if you were the one to instigate the breakup, you will most likely feel a whole range of emotions during the coming weeks and months.
Maybe you can look back now and clearly see the signs that trouble was coming. Or maybe, you still can’t work out how this happened.
Men don’t tend to acknowledge their emotions and feelings and are even less likely to discuss them. So there’s a lot less written about about their side of the situation.
But they certainly feel the range of emotions from disbelief, anger, sadness, loss, depression but sometimes relief.
Studies show that men  might even be affected more by breakups than women.
There are a lot of different variations of breakups. And every relationship is unique. Here are some coping strategies to help single men through those bleak, dark days after a breakup.

Feel the emotions and move through the pain

From childhood, men are discouraged from showing their emotions. “Be a man” and “big boys don’t cry” are phrases meant to hold those feelings in and don’t dare show them. During a relationship breakup, a man may have such strong emotions it overwhelms the instinct to suppress them. Instead of trying to hold them in, just allow them to wash over you. Feel them and know that you are going to feel bad for some time. It is better to really feel those emotions and work through them. To push them down will mean that they will manifest in a different (worse) way.
It may be tempting to cover up your feelings in temporary distractions such as drinking, drugs or working too much. This may help to distract you from the pain temporarily, but it may prolong the healing process that is necessary to move forward.

Men are hit hard by relationship breakups

Men are hit hard by relationship breakups.

Don’t go all out to try to get her back

If your partner did the breaking up, you may feel tempted to go all out to win her back with flowers, poems and gifts. Unfortunately this may just come across as desperate. They could just need some space and showering them with over the top gestures will just make them feel pressured. If they are truly the one for you, no such huge gestures will be needed. You can’t force someone to want to spend their life with you or love you.

Quality sleep helps in moving forward

Sleep can be affected. Your mind is going crazy and can be out of control going over what went wrong. Those conversation you had or wished you had. And what you wish you had done differently. iTunes have a lot of recordings that are effective in helping to replace that mind chatter with peaceful sounds to help you drift off and to get some quality sleep.

Do something for yourself

The temptation to wallow in self pity or sadness can be strong. You are going to have to really take strong positive steps to use this time to your own long term advantage. It’s a good time to take up a new interest. Perhaps something you always wanted to do but couldn’t while you were in the relationship. Doing something creative, like playing a musical Instrument can be therapeutic. Even if you are not normally the creative type. If you would prefer to be more active, it is a good time to be more focussed on fitness. Being active has proven positive effects on mental and emotional well being.

Enjoy being single
There is a positive side to being single. There will come a time when you move from being miserable to realising some of the sacrifices you made in the relationship to keep the harmony. Make the decision to do something you wouldn’t have done when you were in the relationship. Go out with your mates to an all you can eat bar b que meat meal, go and watch some of the fight championships or stay in and watch Batman films.  It’s about enjoying your new single status. It’s making the most of an otherwise painful situation.You may even feel empowered when you realise that you now have the freedom to do the things that make you happy.

Buy a gift for yourself

Spoil yourself by purchasing something that makes you happy. No need to empty your savings account, but sometimes when you are feeling low a hit of retail therapy can give you a boost. Maybe you have put off upgrading your golf clubs, or buying that motorbike you’ve dreamed of owning. Recognise and acknowledge that you can make you own choices to do what makes you happy.

Get away

Taking a holiday away after a relationship breakup is truly expressing your new freedom. It will be different for each man, but the beauty is that you alone can choose. You don’t need to take anyone else’s wishes  into consideration. Take a road trip with no bookings or definite plans. Take a hiking holiday in the wilderness to reconnect with nature. Take some time to find the real you who could be a little wiser now.

Take a step back to look at the failed relationship objectively. Try not to blame anyone. I’m sure you can recognise there were things you could have done differently too. We are all just doing the best we can with what we know at the time. One day you may look back and recognise that the things you have learned from this failed relationship have enabled you to learn and grow and to enjoy a new amazing relationship. When you know more, you can do better.

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Here’s the formula for meeting a loving partner

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What is the most important area of your life? Is your love life as important as watching your favourite show on TV or your 40-50 hour a week job? Sometimes I think it must not be. I know you’re busy and have your priorities. But if you were at the end of your life and looking back, would you wish you had worked more hours or would you regret not making your personal life a priority?

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Any goal you set for yourself has a formula for success. Failure is never that you don’t know how to achieve the goal. It’s that you won’t take the necessary steps to make it happen.

Dating isn’t that intricate or difficult. There’s a basic formula that will lead to meeting a loving partner.

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  • Choose an avenue for meeting suitable singles (find something you enjoy along the way)
  • Ask as many questions as possible about how other singles have achieved dating success through the service.
  • Ask for  advice from the singles organisation or study up on the best dating tips and behaviour.
  • Spend some time and a little money on making the most of your appearance. (Everyone has attractive qualities. It’s a matter of drawing attention to them)
  • Know what your boundaries are that are non-negotiable.
  • Outside of your non-negotiables, be open to whom you date.
  • Date your potential partners and give them a real chance (Don’t dismiss them without seeing the possible gem)