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The one question singles hate the most at Xmas

The one question singles hate the most at Xmas

The one question singles hate the most! It’s the question that can turn any calm, confident, rational single into a rage and knock your confidence for six. And Christmas gatherings are the perfect opportunity for your Aunt, Uncle or distant cousin to toss that question at you.

Why are you still single?”

The one question singles hate the most at Xmas

It can make you feel as though you  are not a complete person because you are solo.

Perhaps there are some reasons. If you want to close one eye and peep at them to make sure they are not true about you-(of course they are not!), here are some possibilities.

You haven’t moved on from your Ex. You could be holding on to an ex-partner and comparing new people to them.

Are you taking care of yourself? It’s not about the label on your clothes or the brand of your shoes. But, making the most of your appearance by dressing with pride in your appearance, having a healthy body and an up to date hairdo can make a huge difference to your appeal.

You have become cynical about dating. Anyone who has been involved in relationships has had their share of disappointments. Learn to look a it this way; a failed relationship can teach you to notice red flags next time around. It can teach you to avoid someone with personality traits that drove you crazy in your previous relationship so you don’t waste your time with another partner who acts the same way. And remember, an open heart is very attractive.

Desperation is written on your forehead. It is an energy frequency that is very easy to recognise and isn’t at all attractive. Just take a step back, enjoy whatever you are doing and whoever you are meeting. You’ll be much more attractive.

Do you have too many things on your list of requirements? Everyone is entitled to have their own list of things that are absolutely vital in a partner. I’m sure everyone expects love and respect and to be treated with consideration. Honesty, decency and a feeling of being valued should be a given in a healthy relationship.
The type of car they drive, the job they have and the size of their clothes won’t make you happy in the long run.
Having common values and goals will make any relationship work better especially during times of stress.

Do you really want a relationship? Whether consciously or subconsciously, you may not want a relationship. It could be a time of recovery and renewal after the breakup of a past relationship. Or maybe, you just prefer not to have the attachment of a serious relationship. Sometimes, being single is exactly what you want.

Next time you are asked the one question that singles hate the most, tap into your highest energy, smile and say “Just lucky, I guess!”
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How to stay positive until Mr/Ms Right comes along

“I’ve been single for a few years now. My friends have set me up a few times. I’ve tried dating all sorts of people. I’m starting to think that my ideal partner doesn’t exist. Who would want to date me anyway?” Does this sound like you?

How to stay positive

It’s easy for people to say to you “Just stay positive and believe.” But that’s not always so easy. Especially when you’ve put yourself out there to ask someone out and they knocked you back or they decide they want to be just friends.

A good way to think about it is “Would you date yourself?”  To keep yourself going and to stay positive, list all of your best qualities. Don’t be stingy! Include everything you can possibility think of. Little children love me…..I’m a great cook……..I make people feel at ease…My ears are very cute……

List as many things as you can possibly think of. Be lavish in your praise for yourself. Once you realise what a good catch you are, you’ll become more attractive to others. Write your list and add to it every time you think of something else to add. Ask your friends to contribute as well. You’ll be surprised what they will say that you hadn’t even thought of. Keep the list somewhere you can see it everyday to remind you that anyone would be lucky to have you as a partner.

How to stay positive

You can also use this opportunity to recognise anything about yourself that could do with some tweaking. If you have some true friends who can be straight with you, they may point out some behaviour that could be holding you back in this quest. If their intentions are for your betterment, listen and take on board their comments.

It’s never about the girls or guys out there. It’s always about you and where your focus is. Be certain about your value and others will recognise it too.

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Margaret Newitt
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A new partner or friends before Christmas? 62 sleeps to go

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 62 sleeps to go

Like to meet a new partner or friends before Christmas? I know you probably don’t really want to hear that it is only 62 days to Christmas (about 5,356,800 seconds). Has another year really gone so quickly? Can it really be so close to another Christmas?

Did you make a resolution at New Year that you would meet a new partner and make some changes in your social life this year? Somehow work and other commitments always take a lot of our time. We have the best intentions to be proactive and take steps to go out and meet some new people whose company we enjoy….but didn’t quite take the steps needed to do so.

The good news is that there is still enough time to meet some wonderful new people before Christmas at our A Table for Six dinners! And there will be lots of other singles with the same intention.

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 62 sleeps to go

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 62 sleeps to go

Even if you are not quite ready for a relationship, don’t just hope and wait that something will change before Christmas. Get provactive, take charge of the situation. Come along to our dinner introductions.

It’s perfect timing to join our Spring dinners. You’ll have a great time, meet singles and make new connections. You may just even meet the one you will introduce to your family and friends on Christmas day.

Here’s what Rosie said:
“I’ve met a wonderful man
5 out of 5, reviewed on Nov 08, 2016
The concept of A Table for Six is fantastic. For me the fact I get to dine in lovely restaurants and meet new people outside my network was enough to have me join.

Before I started I was certain it was time for me to start dating but with a hectic schedule, two children and not at all interested in online dating I knew A Table for Six was for me.
Margaret is lovely and made me feel very comfortable and calmed any nerves I had about trying this new idea.
After attending four dinners, I can confidently say, I thoroughly enjoyed every dinner. It was always a respectful and fun environment, everyone was so happy to be meeting. Although we were all meeting for the first time it often felt like we were old friends coming together.
On my fourth dinner was when I met a wonderful man. I knew from the moment I met him there was something special between us. He has a far more elaborate and romantic story.
After a few weeks Margaret connected us and we went on our first date, that was in June 2016.
We are now in a healthy, happy relationship. I am with a man I feel connected to on so many levels. Truly wonderful. I’ve recommended Table of Six to many friends in fact a friend who I had recommended to before I began ATFS, met her man on the second dinner and that was two years ago, they are still going strong!
This works and it will for you too.
Thank you Margaret. I’m grateful to say I found a wonderful man and I couldn’t be happier. ”

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Margaret Newitt
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Nervous about a first dinner? Keep reading!

Nervous about a first dinner? Keep reading!

Nervous about a first dinner? Keep reading!

Nervous about a first dinner? Keep reading!

There are few things as exciting as your first dinner with A Table for Six. The newness, the uncertainty, and the possibilities are huge. This could be the night you meet a prospective partner, or your new best friend. It can be enough to make even a very confident person feel a little rattled. What should you wear? What should you talk about?

Meeting face to face over a meal is a tried and tested successful way of meeting. And you know that the people you are meeting at our dinners enjoy it too. Conversation will normally flow continuously and if you run out of things to talk about, there are enough people in the group to ensure you don’t have to feel under pressure to talk all the time.

Don’t hesitate to ask questions, as long as they are not too personal. Personal questions are best left until you know someone a little better. Remember to share your experiences as well, it is a two-way game. It’s good to find something you have in common, even if it is the brand of toothpaste you use or the type of music you enjoy. It’s good to find a connection.

Topics that are always suitable are any recent movies you have viewed, the latest app you have on your iphone or places you have traveled to recently. While the weather is good to fall back on, it is a bit overused.

Wondering what to wear to our dinners? I’m sure you would like to make a good impression. It is important to dress appropriately for the venue you are attending. Wear something you really love and that makes you feel good too. Girls don’t overdue the makeup or show too much flesh (a little bit is a good thing). Guys no jeans or tee shirts. A button up shirt and dress pants make a much better impression.

Your first dinner, and every dinner after that is always exciting. Mixed with the right amount of  good attitude and realism, it will be a fabulous experience. Make you dinners more enjoyable and fun using the tips and suggestions mentioned here.

Other recent blogs you may enjoy:

My #1 Most Important Ever Dating Tip

Forgive yourself, you’re smarter now

This one very important thing we can control

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

 

Dating life not working?

Dating life not working?

Face what isn’t working in your dating life
Our lives improve only when we take chances…and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves.”
~Walter Anderson

Is your dating life not working and you wish to be more successful, you have got to stop, take a deep breath, and have a think about what is really going on here. If you continue going to the same places or meeting up with the same people, will you have a different more positive result? Most likely not! If you spend most of your time at work and only go out with your old friends occasionally, are you going to meet  new interesting singles? Most likely not!

Dating life not working?

Dating life not working?

The first step is to get out of denial and face up to what isn’t working in your life. Are you resigned to the fact that most of your friends are married or in relationships and too busy to go out with you? Are you in denial about the lack of fulfilment in the area of your relationships in your life?

I have worked with thousands of singles, and I have noticed those that have the most success share a similar attitude and take certain actions. They face their circumstances squarely and often realise that they are the ones holding themselves back from what they really want. They have a look at what is and isn’t working and take appropriate action, no matter how uncomfortable or challenging it may be.

Doing more of what doesn’t work won’t make it work any better.”
~Charles J Givens

Time to take action
Make a list of what isn’t working in your social and dating life. Ask your close friends and family what they believe is not working for you. It’s amazing how we can see so clearly what isn’t working for others, and yet remain totally blind to our own situations.
What action steps can I take to get my relationships to work the way I would like?

Do you need to end an old relationships that isn’t working? Update your image with a new hairdo or outfits? Free up some more time for social outings? Organise your finances so that you can participate in events and outings? Adjust your expectations and judgements of others? Or, most importantly, give yourself permission to love and be loved?

It’s time to take one action and follow through with it. then take another action and another until you gain the social and dating life you dream of.

If you would like to meet genuine, fun-loving singles over dinner, you will love our A Table for Six dinners.

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Margaret Newitt
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Ghosting in dating. Why not be kind?

Ghosting in dating. Why not be kind?

For those of you, like me, who are not familiar with it, here is a definition

Ghosting is stopping all communication after:

You have organised a first date by setting the time and place, then you hear nothing again.

You have been on a number of dates.

You have been in an exclusive relationship. Whether it be for weeks, months or years.

You have been referring to each other as girlfriend/boyfriend or similar.

You have ever had a conversation about getting engaged, getting married.

You have talked about moving in together.

You have been planning your next holiday together.

Internet dating has certainly provided a medium to reach and communicate with huge numbers of singles. Sadly, it has also created a culture of not caring or considering other singles.

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Of course there are times when you have been seeing someone and it becomes clear to you that this relationship isn’t working for you. The important thing is to treat the other person with kindness and respect.

If you don’t feel that you can speak to them face to face, at least write them a letter (old school, I know), or send them an email letting them know that you are not continuing the relationship.

Ghosting in dating. Why not be kind?

Ghosting in dating. Why not be kind?

It doesn’t need to be long winded or drawn out. It just needs to be kind.

“HI …, It was good to meet you and to get to know you, but I don’t think we are a match after all. I wish you all the best”

If you simply disappear, they will be left wondering why you disappeared. They will wonder you are ill, or even dead. It will also quite likely have a negative affect on their self confidence and opinion of women/men.

Something I don’t understand is why are people so afraid to be kind?

If you want to cool the relationship and take it back a notch, let them know and explain the way you feel.

If you want to end the relationship altogether, be upfront and let them know.

Think about this, If you don’t give them some sort of explanation, they will be consumed with trying to figure out what went wrong. That’s the way we are programmed. Not knowing what happened can drive them crazy and also cause them damage.

How about encouraging yourself and your single friends to always make sure they give a “kind goodbye”.

Remember, that if you have had someone “ghost” you, it isn’t any reflection on you and your worth. It means they didn’t have the courage to be upfront and honest in leaving the relationship.

Showing up honestly, letting others know your needs, being open to learning about their needs, is communicating authentically and honestly. Even if you are “ghosted”, you will have the satisfaction of knowing you are an amazing person to be in a relationship with.

I am sorry if you have been the victim of being “ghosted”.  The reality is that they have “ghosted” themselves. They couldn’t or wouldn’t be a kind grownup and say “Hi …, we’ve had a great time, but I am going in a different direction.”

Now there is an opening for a new beginning.

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Margaret Newitt
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Hayley missed out on someone special

Hayley missed out on someone special

As you probably know, we follow up with our members after they attend a dinner to ask “Is there anyone you met that you would like to catch up with again?”

Recently, a new female member (let’s call her Hayley) attended her first dinner, had a wonderful time and met people whose company she enjoyed very much. (that was her feedback to me)

One of the gentlemen (let’s call him Cory) she met at that dinner sent a contact request for her phone number to make contact and perhaps see each other again soon. He said they had enjoyed chatting a lot at the dinner and seemed to have an easy flow of conversation and similar outlook about many topics.

Hayley missed out on someone special

Hayley missed out on someone special

Hayley responded to the contact request and said “I also found Cory great company, I enjoyed our conversation and was even surprised that I felt an attraction to him. I didn’t expect that to happen. However, I don’t wish to pass my number to him. It was my FIRST dinner. I have many more men to meet and check out.”

When on this journey we call life, we are always on the move forward.  I have noticed that this has happened quite a few times before.  Not surprisingingly, Hayley most probably won’t meet Corey again. She will meet many other men at dinner, but may never meet another one where the attraction and connection is the same.

When something feels good, here and now, give it a chance. Don’t wait for something better to come along. Sometimes amazing things evolve, sometimes they don’t. But what I know for sure is that good things don’t wait for us. They too have a life of their own, and while we’re busy trying to make up our mind and/or waiting for the perfect thing to come along, they move on.

“Opportunity dances with those already on the dance floor.” by H. Jackson Brown Jr

Why can’t my love find me?

Why can’t my love find me?

When it comes to finding a beautiful relationship, there is something that we can easily forget.

You see what you give to yourself, you can give to another and what you don’t give to yourself, you can’t give to another. The best thing you can do is to develop your relationship with yourself.

Why can't my love find me?

Why can’t my love find me?

Your thought pattern should NOT be, “Please send the perfect man or women to me,” but rather, “How can I develop myself to make me the man or woman who my life partner would quickly find and deeply love.”

The way forward is not to long for the perfect love that might come to us in the future, but rather love, respect and care for the people who are around us right now.  Everyone we meet, is special and has value. Our ability to recognise the unique qualities and gifts in everyone we meet is key to our ability to both attract and keep a more intimate partner.

One of the ways to do this is to be genuinely curious and engaged in conversation with others. To give others our attention and interest is a gift that they will feel. It is quite rare to find someone who will give their undivided attention and listen. Most people are not really listening. They are deciding what they will say as soon as the other has finished speaking.

To build loving relationships, shift the focus from what you will get out of it. Focus on giving care and attention to those around you and and how they will receive value from what you offer.

To transform your life and enjoy loving relationships, focus on empathy, careful listening, curiosity and love. These are the gifts we can offer to others and the gift we can receive in warmth and gratitude.

Offer those gifts to others and also tap into your unique talents and skills to determine how you can add value to the lives of others. Soon you will see that the more you give, the more you receive in return.

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How do you react to “kind”?

How do you react to “kind”?

A lot of the focus on dating is steering us away from true intimacy. There is a lot of importance placed on superficial things like looks, playing games and gimmicks to attract the best looking people.

This advice leads us to feeling insecure ourselves and encourages us to be unkind towards others and also ourselves.

But there has always been a wiser and more effective path to finding love. And it doesn’t involve supermodel looks or playing games.

How do you react to “kind”?

How do you react to “kind”?

There is a lot of focus put on the belief that immediate physical attraction is the be all and end all of finding enduring love. An extensive study conducted in 1985 by evolutionary psychologist David Buss explored the most important traits people rate in finding a mate.  His finding was clear.The quality people valued most in a potential mate was not physical attractiveness. Neither was it their wealth, youthful appearance, strength or self-confidence. People valued kindness and understanding the most.

Everywhere we are bombarded by advertisements and articles on building a better body, dressing better, or a new secret way to attract a mate. I’m guessing that you haven’t read any articles lately that give importance to kindness in dating?

There is no denying that physical attraction is tremendously important in our choice of a mate. Yet, have you ever met a man or woman who looks great, and when they open their mouth to criticise their friends, your opinion of them changes dramatically?

Someone who is physically attractive, well dressed and well groomed becomes very unattractive when they treat a waiter poorly or speak badly about someone when they leave the table.

Physical attraction has been proven to be much more complex and open to interpretation than we’ve been led to believe. Instant attraction is overemphasised in finding healthy, long lasting love. And, very attractive people struggle just as much to find true happiness in their relationships.

How can we use this information to have a better outcome in dating ourselves? There are two skills that are essential that we can use to form our guidelines for wiser dating. Firstly, we need to ensure we are operating from a foundation of kindness and understanding ourselves. The second is to be discriminating and only choose people who live by these same values. This will change your experience of dating and finding long lasting love.

Next time you are dating, try practising a little more kindness and understanding. I’m sure you will change the quality of your dates.

Require the same treatment from the people you date. Be discriminating about who you date. Choose those who have a kind and understanding nature. It will make your life happier.

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Margaret Newitt
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The Real Reason Relationships Fail

The Real Reason Relationships Fail

It is a common belief that the most common causes of the breakdown of a relationship are adultery, financial problems or irreconcilable difference.

They are really symptoms of a deeper problem. There’s no denying those problems are real, but if we dig a little deeper we will find the real issue.

No matter what we are aiming to be successful at, there is a need to be intentional about it. To have a successful long term relationship we need to have that intention and invest in it.

It is a fair debate to question which comes first-did someone lose interest so they lost intention, or did someone lose intention so they lost interest-either way there is a key to this.

The Real Reason Relationships Fail

The Real Reason Relationships Fail

We can influence our feelings by intentionally investing in our relationship.

Wherever we invest our time, money and energy also ends up receiving our passion, interest and affection. And our affections grow towards this as well.

For a relationship, this means you will generally feel for your partner to the extent in which you invest in them.

Of course, there are exceptions. Some relationships have been a bad choice, but a lot of the time, we love our partner to the extent we invest in our partner.

What does this mean? If a relationship is not doing so well, it can be saved. With some effort, intention and energy, love can grow.

A good assignment in these circumstances could be: spend some time retelling the stories of your first date and how you met, how you felt and how you fell in love, what was it that you found so attractive in each other, what you love the most about each other, and what were your dreams of the future together.

In retelling these stories, it will unearth feelings and memories from the past and you will more likely feel love again. With a little intention, our emotions can drastically change.

If you would like to reconnect with a partner, here are things we can do every day which will reconnect us.

1. Have at least 5 minutes of uninterrupted conversation. Turn off the mobile phones, TV and other distractions and really connect every day.

2. Check at least once a day by email or phone call. Ask how their day is going.

3. Always kiss goodbye and hello. It is a physical and emotional connection that reminds us of the special commitment of the relationship.

4. Act in a way that shows your partner that they are important to you. Small actions that demonstrate that they are more important than work, sports or friends reinforces the relationship.

5. Make sure you hug every day for at least 30 seconds. An extended physical embrace reminds your body, soul and mind of your deep connection with this other person. Studies have shown that hugging reduces blood pressure, but it also connects you with the person you are hugging. By truly embracing every day, each partner will feel more valued and loved.

Next time you are in a relationship you would like to survive for the long term, remember it requires intention-by both parties. If both parties are intentional about keeping the relationship healthy, the relationship will thrive. Apathy will slowly kill a relationship, but intention will cause it to continually grow.

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