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Single and out of practise

Single and out of practise
I speak with a lot of singles who are at different stages in their lives when it comes to relationships. They’ve had a variety of experiences in their lives, and they are working through dealing with them.

Single and out of practise

Single and out of practise

It makes no difference; I’m still going to be someone who doesn’t listen to the negativity. I’m not going to agree with you when you say that all the good ones are taken, or that everyone has too much baggage. Your mates/girlfriends might let you wallow in this line of thinking, but I won’t allow you to.

You won’t wow everyone, but that’s ok and perfectly normal
. All you will ever get from me is encouragement to step outside of your comfort zone. That comfort zone is your worst enemy, not me. I’m going to  encourage you to put on your best outfit, stand tall, get your attitude right and go out and wow some new people. You won’t wow everyone, but that’s ok and perfectly normal.

Don’t worry if some people don’t recognise your beautiful heart. They’re not meant to be in your life right now. The one or ones who do see your authentic beauty are the ones who have also lifted their spirit to the realms where you now dwell.
Our dinners and events are simply a vessel for you to use to facilitate your growth and to expand your social circle. They are designed just for you to use to learn how it feels to be a single person in a mixed group again.

There’s so much to learn when you’ve been out of the single scene for a long period of time. You’re out of practise. You’ll learn you’re not the only one who feels way out of their depth. Those who are very honest with themselves will admit they are frightened of being hurt, taken advantage of, made to feel inadequate, not good enough or invisible.

We all know the real truth. It is inside of us. You just need to listen. Your inner guide will protect you from being hurt if you stay quiet for long enough to hear what it is telling you.

There’s no better investment you can make than in yourself! So, if you want to change how your life is going around relationships, start investing your time, energy, focus and even some dollars to improve it.

Poor me, or there’s no great men/ladies out there, or I don’t have time, or I don’t know where to go, just isn’t acceptable anymore.

Checkout our upcoming dinners here

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

A Table for Six

Millions of people have happy relationships- why shouldn’t you?

Millions of people have happy relationships- why shouldn’t you?

If you have been single for a while, perhaps you have registered on an online dating site.

Or maybe you have been out with your girlfriends or mates hoping to meet someone. You got excited at first when you received a lot of messages on the online site. You even met a few people for coffee or a drink. But they weren’t anything like you were expecting them to be. Or you may have dated a couple of them for a while.

Millions of people have happy relationships- why shouldn’t you?

Millions of people have happy relationships- why shouldn’t you?

But after knowing them for a time, you found that the information they had given wasn’t exactly true. They said they were financially stable, but then you found out they had nothing but debts. They said they were ready for a real relationship, but they actually were still living with their ex.

So you decided:

Dating means disappointment
Dating means hurt
Dating is hard work

So you decide to take a well deserved break from dating.

You fill up your life with friends, family, work and travel. – another two years pass by.

You notice your friends are finding their special partner so you decide to dip your toe in the water of dating again.

But your previous experience tells you that relationships cause pain.

Don’t build your conclusions on a narrow field of experience. Millions of people have happy relationships. And if some people can be blissfully happy, why shouldn’t you be?

It’s true that dating involves some luck, timing, chemistry, similar goals and values. But people fall in love everyday. So if it hasn’t happened to you yet, it means that you need to meet more people.

If you were job hunting, you wouldn’t stop applying for positions because you hadn’t found the right position.

Our dinners will give you the opportunity to meet other singles in person in a relaxed, friendly environment. It’s time to step out, act confident and know you won’t fail.

Check out our upcoming dinners here

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

A little trick to get you started with dating

A little trick to get you started with dating

It’s Valentine’s day in just 9 days and what better motivation to be pro-active about meeting new singles?

Would you like to get back into dating and meeting other singles?
Are you feeling like you just can’t get started? I have A little trick to get you started with dating.

A little trick to get you started with dating

A little trick to get you started with dating

I often receive a phone call from someone I had spoken to 3, 6 or even 12 months ago about our singles dinners. They loved the concept and felt it was the best option for them to meet other singles. But something held them back from getting started. From my experience of helping singles for over 16 years, I believe they are feeling overwhelmed.

I know the feeling when I need to clean the entire house from top to toe, or when I’ve had a break from exercising and need to get started again. Or even when I want to write another one of my blog stories. It feels like a huge task and I want to procrastinate about it. The hardest part is getting started.

There is a little trick that instantly takes away the feeling of overwhelm and gets me to take action right away. Ask yourself the question, “Can I just…? and then insert an action that is so easy that you are guaranteed to be able to do it even if you have very little willpower at the time.

“Can I just write the first paragraph?” If that seems too much, “Can I just write the first sentence?” After that I’d ask, ” Can I just write a little more?” One more sentence? I can always stop when I feel as though I’ve done enough and still feel a sense of achievement.

It’s a matter of getting some momentum going. Once I get started with something, the motivation usually goes up. I may not feel like cleaning or exercising or writing, but once I get started, my desire to keep going goes up immensely.

You can always continue and do much more than you started out to do. But, you will feel as though you are succeeding by starting out small.

To get back into dating and meeting singles, “Can you just…Phone or email me to chat about how it works? With 16 years of experience of helping Singles to enjoy socialising and dating again, I have a wealth of information and encouragement to share with you.

Or “Can you just….Go to your first dinner and enjoy the company of other like-minded singles?”
As long as you break it down into something small and achievable,  you can’t fail. You’ll achieve much more than if you do nothing at all. I know you will benefit from A little trick to get you started with dating.

Complete the enquiry form to put us to work on your dating life

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

Starting over after a breakup or a long relationship

Starting over after a breakup or a long relationship

Not sure if they are ready to go out?
I often speak to singles who have come out of a long relationship. Sometimes it is quite recently and other times it has been some years. They are not sure if they are ready to go out to our singles dinners to meet people again.

Starting over
Starting over after a long relationship or a breakup can be a very tough thing to do. But most of us have to face this in our lives in one way or another. Taking control of new circumstances such as the death of a loved one or the estrangement of a partner is important in turning your life around.

Starting over after a breakup or a long relationship

Starting over after a breakup or a long relationship

Most important things to do
One of the most important things to do is to give yourself new things to do to keep your mind busy. Your mind is a beautiful tool, so don’t allow it to dwell on the past too much as that will stop you enjoying the present. You don’t need to destroy the past, but to put it away until we are healthy enough to deal with what happened.

Friends and family
Surround yourself with your friends and family. If they haven’t already surrounded you with their love and support, go and see them yourself. They will provide comfort and remind you how wonderful you are.

Starting to date again
Starting to date again and meeting new singles after a breakup could be a little like getting back into the job market. Waiting too long can have people wondering if there’s something wrong with you. But the longer you wait, the harder it can be to get back into the world of meeting new people.

Meet in a friendly pressure free environment.
The healthiest thing to do when starting over after a breakup or a long relationship is to go out and meet other singles. It’s perfectly fine to be honest and let people know you are testing the waters. Many others have been through something similar and will understand how you are feeling. Our A Table for Six singles dinners are designed to give you the opportunity to go out and meet in a friendly pressure free environment.

The decision to date again
The decision to date again is a deeply personal one that only you can make. But rest assured that love walks on earth in many forms, and this may be an opportunity to teach another human being what it means to be truly loved.

Complete the enquiry form to put us to work on your dating life

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

Meet the best singles OFFLINE at A Table for Six

Meet the best singles OFFLINE at A Table for Six

Online dating has been tried by 51% of Australians. Or so, some recent statistics I read claimed.  Most of the people I speak to fall into one of two different camps. There are the people who just can’t bring themselves to put their photo and profile on the online dating sites. The thought of “advertising” themselves as available is just too unsavoury. And if they are in certain work positions, it makes it even more out of their comfort zone. You will Meet the best singles OFFLINE at a Table for Six.

The others are people who have tried online dating,
but for one reason or another, it doesn’t suit them. Your membership with A Table for Six is discreet. No photos on the internet and we only pass on your contact details if you give permission for us to do so.

Meet the best singles OFFLINE at A Table for Six

Meet the best singles OFFLINE at A Table for Six

Would you enjoy having your dinners all organised for you?

Some people find the whole process of online dating very time consuming. Going through profiles, taking the time to contact people with varying results. But a very common story I hear is that if they do finally meet someone in person for coffee, they are very often nothing like the profile or photo displayed on the online dating sites. Or else, after communicating for quite some time, when meeting, there was just no chemistry.

At A Table for Six, we do all the organising of the dinners, and send the confirmation details once we have a suitable group organised. You get to just go along and enjoy meeting like minded singles .

Avoid the scammers on online dating sites

Of course, unfortunately there are the stories of people who have been taken advantage of by people praying on vulnerable singles hoping to find a special someone on the Online Dating sites. One particular lady told me that even though she now knew that the person she had been communicating with for 18 months was a scammer, she was still missing his messages. He had groomed her for a long time,  knowing just the right things to say to her. Luckily, she eventually had some alarm bells ringing when he continued to ask her to send more money and she reported it to police. But she had already sent a substantial amount of money to him.

Meet singles who are looking for genuine relationships, just like you

The focus when attending our dinners is to go out and enjoy a fun, social evening in a relaxed environment. You should expect to enjoy chatting with other singles on a wide range of interesting topics while savouring delicious food and drinks.  Because of the more relaxed group situation, everyone can relax and be themselves.

Many times people have told me they met someone at dinner and had a connection, but if they had looked at a profile and photo online, they would most likely have discarded them. So many things are not definable when viewing profiles on the online dating sites. The way someone speaks, their mannerisms, their kindness and concern for others, their quirky sense of humour are only apparent when meeting in person in a relaxed situation such as our singles dinners.

Here is my favourite after-dinner recent feedback


“Can I start by saying thank you for the guidance and professional approach from membership right through to the days leading to the arranged dinner.
An exciting and nervous time pre dinner but it all felt very comfortable from the time I sat down and joined such a beautiful group of people. Though I did arrived late as the traffic was very heavy due to an accident , the group where happy to wait till I arrived to order.
The restaurant I’d rate a 7 , food was delicious and the atmosphere was fabulous, we all enjoyed the belly dancing.
I rate my whole dining experience an 8, we where all enjoying each others company and sharing in conversation. It really felt like we’ve known each other for long time.
I sat next to P and naturally engaged in more conversation as the night went on , we had so much to say and really enjoyed his company and sharing our common work industry.
I wasn’t sure what to expect but if this is an indication of what’s ahead I’m even more excited for what’s planned for future dinning experiences. It shows the careful selection and the quality of people that joins A table for Six .
I look forward to my next dinner .

Complete the enquiry form to put us to work on your dating life

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

Attract the Perfect Partner for YOU!

Attract The Perfect Partner For YOU!

Some people believe that to find a perfect partner, they need to find someone who shares the same interests, hobbies, falls within a certain age group or looks a certain way.

Of course, nobody is perfect. Everyone has some flaws or baggage if they have lived a life. But to find someone who has the right attitude with a few flaws is more realistic. For a relationship to survive in the medium to long term, it is more important to share most of the same values.

Attract The Perfect Partner For YOU!

Attract The Perfect Partner For YOU!

When our members join A Table for Six, we do take information on these interests and also their values. Some people have spent more time on deciding what is important in a car than their relationship. So take some time to list your top ten values . Then when you meet someone, you have a gauge to go by. Don’t expect them to be 10’s on every single item on your list, at least a 6 and preferable an 8 or 9.

Some of the more common core values in a perfect partner might be;

**Family is very important.
**Maintaining a healthy work/life balance is important.
**Honesty is of utmost importance and trust must be earned.
**They believe, or don’t believe in God or have an affiliation with a religious institution.
**Maintaining a healthy body.
**A belief in being responsible in handling finances.

These are also values you might list as important to you;

Loving, nurturing, fit, inspiring, positive, motivated, fun-loving humorous, creative, honest, consistent, open-minded, committed, loyal, dependable, adventurous, passionate, respectful, athletic, educated, respected.

To really know if someone you meet has these values may take time. It is very well if they say they have them, but  a core value is only a core value if the person lives by them, at least most of the time.

So what do you want? It’s good to have high standards, but who do you need to become to attract the person with these qualities you have listed? Is it time to look within yourself and ask if you are someone a person with these values would be attracted to? This is the real question and where the biggest opportunity of change lies! It can also be hardest.
Are you ready for a new relationship?

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Start putting a plan together for your life this week.

Complete the enquiry form to put us to work on your dating life

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

Stop cheating yourself out of love

Stop cheating yourself out of love

“A year from now you may wish you had started today”
Today you woke up with the desire to finally make a change in your social and dating life. You felt motivated, inspired and ready to take the first step.
You decided to take yourself out to where you could meet some likely singles for a new relationship.
Suddenly you found out that things seem a bit more complicated, confusing and unfeasible.
You start to realise that it may not be easy or fast to meet people you relate to, have the same values as you, or want the same commitment in a relationship.
Eventually, you arrive at the point when you don’t feel like “conquering your dating life” today. However, you are sure that you’ll be ready to nail it in a while. Some day soon you will sort it out. Just not today…
Sound familiar?

Stop cheating yourself out of love

Stop cheating yourself out of love

Committing to big goals is hard and it’s no wonder why.  Putting off decisions to take a situation in hand is a common frailty of the human condition.
We are all bad at committing to the activities that require major, effort time and talent.
When it is hard to see the finish line, our desire to take action gradually vanishes. Then, procrastination comes into play.
Embrace the truth. You can achieve anything you desire. The only thing that is stopping you are your laziness, reluctance, and the lack of discipline. And, the major obstacle is the tendency to procrastinate.
Do you have a goal to meet genuine singles who would like a long term relationship?

I’m sure you have a goal to meet interesting, inquiring, engaging single people.
However, just like millions of people, you decide it is too hard and put off doing anything about it. You postpone the beginning till “someday” trying to convince yourself that there will be a better time. The weather will be better. I will have finished my studies. My children will have left home.
For many people, later often means never.
There is no doubt, you might still get there one day. However, it’s going to happen much later. The secret to meeting your new friends and partner is ridiculously simple: start now.
It’s ok to be a little slow. Because being slow is better then being stagnant. Take a look back and think how much of your precious time you have wasted over the last few years by not taking some action.
Now think how much different your life could be now if you hadn’t been procrastinating, having negative thoughts, complaining to our friends and family and feeling sorry for yourself.
Stop cheating yourself now. There will never be a better time to start. The best time is now.
Here is a powerful quote by Karen Lamb.
“A year from now you may wish you had started today”
Meet her/him at our dinners here
If you would like some more insight into how you can meet genuine, attractive singles  at our A Table for Six, call me on 1300 885 311 and I will be happy to encourage, and inspire you.
Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

 

How Singles have the Best time at Christmas

How Singles have the Best time at Christmas

If you notice that you are not really looking forward to the Christmas season, then something is trying to tell you to make a shift and reclaim this time of year.

Your life might not exactly look like the TV ads of happy families…most of them don’t. But you can decide you are going to have a happy holiday season by focusing on the positive and appreciating the good things in your life.

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Dr Wayne Dyer has the following suggestions to gain the most out of the Christmas season:

I’ll let the holidays flow, rather than trying to make them fit into a fixed schedule.
I’ll remember that people are more important than things.

I’ll relax my expectations for myself and others this year.

I’m going to live in the present moment and enjoy each activity for itself instead of always thinking about what is ahead of me.

I’m going to approach the holidays with a sense of joyful anticipation and wonder, just like I did when I was a child.

There are always many things to be grateful for. Sometimes it is a matter of being deliberate in your thinking to discover appreciation, excitement, joy and peace. Decide to have the happiest holiday season this year.
The lyrics to Leonard Cohen’s anthem remind us that light magically comes through the cracks of imperfection “Ring the bell that still can ring. Forget your perfect offering. There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.”

Check out our upcoming singles dinners here

You may not be single by Valentine’s Day if you set our matchmakers to work.
Merry Christmas Greetings

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

 

 

Last chance for Singles dinners this year

Last chance for Singles dinners this year

The dinners this weekend are the last ones for this year. I hope you’ll join in on a dinner this Saturday. We will be on leave for two weeks 10 to 27 December for a much anticipated break.

Last chance for dinners this year

Last chance for dinners this year

We are truly grateful to you for choosing us to go on your (singles) journey with. You are  our  highly valued customers and it has been a sincere pleasure serving you this year.

We hope that you have enjoyed the dinners and learned a little about being single, and about yourself as well. We will continue our efforts to meet your expectations in the future as well. Meanwhile, your unwavering support and patronage is what gets us out of bed in the morning. Each one of you is to be congratulated for being pro-active, positive and for stepping outside of your comfort zone to make a difference in your lives.

Your honest suggestions and feedback on restaurants has helped us shape our service to best fit our members.

The first dinners in the New Year will be 6 January and we will be adding quite a few new restaurants for you to enjoy. We look forward to having you out to dinner meeting our fabulous members again in the New Year.
Checkout our upcoming dinner introductions here

We send you the warmest wishes your way for this Christmas season.

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

Dating luck? Create your own

Dating luck? Create your own

Do you know someone who seems to be very lucky? They have met a wonderful partner and they are very happy and enjoying a close loving relationship.

Do you believe that they are just lucky? Most of the people I know who have had success in relationships (or in any other area of life) have not just been drawn out of a life lottery  to receive this blessing. It may appear to you that they just went out on their first evening as a single person and this perfect person just appeared. But behind every overnight success there is a lot of resilience.

Dating luck? Create your own

Dating luck? Create your own

You see, we all make our own luck.  Luck is about showing up in life with an open attitude. It’s about believing, connecting, seeing opportunities, showing up, being consistent, loyal, and living life fully open and boldly. Being lucky is about a whole lot of resilience and persistance.

So many people expect that they should have everything they desire straight away. We live in a quick fix society where many things are available at our fingertips. But the important things in life are worth waiting for and they don’t usually happen overnight. People don’t want to hear that a lot of preparation and persistence is needed to attain what they want.

If you go out and someone says something to upset you, you can choose how to react. You can choose to let them spoil your evening, or you can choose to let it go. You can even choose to be empathetic to them. What could have happened in their life today to make them act this way?

People who understand that they are working towards an outcome, know that we hold the power to create our own experiences and everything that happens to us. In any given moment we have the opportunity to experience a bad moment or to observe positive things and enjoy a great moment.

The person you know who seems so lucky because they went out and met their partner most likely went out on many occasions with an open, loving attitude to the people they met. They possibly didn’t always feel on top of the world. They possibly didn’t always feel like being positive and making an effort to ensure they engaged with everyone. But they know that how you act and react to others is key to how happy you are in your life.

So go out and create the most wonderful luck you can dream of.
Checkout our upcoming dinner introductions here
Take some good risk this week for your dating life.

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311