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Want a different dating result? Change your thoughts

Want a different dating result? Change your thoughts

Are you are holding on to negative beliefs about finding new friends, meeting a suitable partner and dating? Your mind is very powerful. The stories you tell yourself can either hold you back and prevent positive change in your life or they can allow new wonderful people to come into your life and new relationships to blossom. Even the most optimistic of us can be guilty of this at times.

Want a different dating result? Change your thoughts

Want a different dating result? Change your thoughts

It’s always interesting when speaking to new potential members. Many have reached a point where they know they need to be proactive and are ready and open to what (and whom) will come into their lives and where it may take them.

Others have created problems and scenarios in their own mind before they have even stepped out the door for their first dinner. YOUR beliefs can either help or hurt you!
For example,  “I’m not good at meeting new people. ” or “I will never meet anyone as lovely as my late husband/wife.”

Limiting thoughts and beliefs create the same problems that repeat themselves in different relationships. Habitual negative thoughts run on autopilot,  and if you believe them, you can’t change your life and solve the same problems that can keep arising in different relationships and situations.

Your thoughts determine your feelings, and your behaviours and actions are determined by your thoughts. With negative thoughts running unchecked in your mind, it’s difficult to feel good about yourself. When your behaviour and actions come from feeling bad about yourself, you won’t get good results.

In order to achieve a different result, stop and check those negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones that are just as true or even more true.
An example would be, if you believe there are no good men/women out there, you’ll continue attracting men/women who are not good for you. When you stop this negative thought and replace it with one that serves you,  you’ll open up the possibility to attract  a wealth of new friends and even a partner to share your life.

Start meeting new people and expect to have an enjoyable time, meeting interesting people and don’t quit on yourself.
If you don’t like how things are, change it! You’re not a tree.” ~Ji Rohn

Replace your thoughts with positive ones this week

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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Are you too busy to prioritise your dating life?

Are you too busy to prioritise your dating life?

Each day is a new opportunity. I chose to make this day a great one.

Wise words from the inspirational Louise Hay. I’m always interested to hear the excuses that people use for not taking positive action to live their life at their highest level.

Are you too busy to prioritise your dating life?

Are you too busy to prioritise your dating life?

If you’re happy in your life and fulfilled in all areas, then you are living your best life. But if you are “too busy” then that is a choice you have made.
All the activities you engage in, are the result of your choices. You’ve copped out on living your life on purpose. Difficult family relationships, lots of small details that only you can take care of, a way too busy work schedule are eating away at your life and stealing your opportunity every day to live a life where you are fulfilling your destiny.

Take a little time to think about how you would really prioritise your life. Think about saying “no” sometimes – it’s allowed. You and your house/car/appearance/ don’t have to be perfect all the time. And who decided what is perfect anyway? Practise asking for help, delegating and taking time for yourself.

Fear is often what is holding us back from really living a life where we feel fulfilled. If you would like to look fear in the eye and see what’s really possible for you, decide today that you intend to take time for yourself to live the life that you came here to live, and to do it without ignoring your responsibilities are a parent, spouse or employee.

When you join, I take a lot of information about you, including your age group, occupation, how you like to spend your spare time and more. For our members, we co-ordinate the dinner group for you each time you attend a dinner. We ensure you will have some new people to meet, with members around your own age. Our goal is to put you with a group you will relate to, feel comfortable with, and people you can enjoy some laughs around the table. That has been a proven successful formula.

Contact us at A Table for Six to take a step in the right direction to meet other singles looking for genuine friendships and genuine relationships.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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Dating worries?…not if you follow this simple plan

Dating worries?…not if you follow this simple plan

You are setting out of your house on an evening out. Are you excited and looking forward to having some fun and connecting with new interesting people?

Or, does the little voice in your head sabotage you before you even arrive by whispering that you won’t meet anyone you like?

Are you prioritising your dating life?

Dating worries?…not if you follow this simple plan

If:
you set your intention before you arrive at your destination,
you decide that you are looking forward to meeting people with interesting stories to tell,
you see yourself having a great time,
you are setting yourself up to succeed. You will be laying the groundwork for making new friends, dating and even falling in love to happen.

Expecting that the man or woman of your dreams will be there with outstretched arms waiting for you? You are setting yourself up to be disappointed and also missing out on a real gem.

We have all been guilty of judging. It’s a natural human trait. But it is self sabotaging behaviour. You meet some new people and make a judgement about them because of their hairstyle or the colour of their shoes. This moment of judgement could stop you from getting to know them and you could be missing out on a wonderful friendship.

Judging others is really only hurting ourselves. It’s no reflection on the other person.
“When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself. ” ~ Wayne Dyer

Do you notice negative things? Be committed to looking for opportunities that bring you pleasure. The delicious food, a spectacular view or the person you just met who gave you a tip about real estate. Notice the lovely smile on the person with the purple shoes.

And that person with the very different hairstyle, could be the most interesting person in the room. (There’s only a week between a bad and a good haircut)

Be committed to looking for opportunities this week

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

Millions of people have happy relationships- why shouldn’t you?

Millions of people have happy relationships- why shouldn’t you?

If you have been single for a while, perhaps you have registered on an online dating site.

Or maybe you have been out with your girlfriends or mates hoping to meet someone. You got excited at first when you received a lot of messages on the online site. You even met a few people for coffee or a drink. But they weren’t anything like you were expecting them to be. Or you may have dated a couple of them for a while.

Millions of people have happy relationships- why shouldn’t you?

Millions of people have happy relationships- why shouldn’t you?

But after knowing them for a time, you found that the information they had given wasn’t exactly true. They said they were financially stable, but then you found out they had nothing but debts. They said they were ready for a real relationship, but they actually were still living with their ex.

So you decided:

Dating means disappointment
Dating means hurt
Dating is hard work

So you decide to take a well deserved break from dating.

You fill up your life with friends, family, work and travel. – another two years pass by.

You notice your friends are finding their special partner so you decide to dip your toe in the water of dating again.

But your previous experience tells you that relationships cause pain.

Don’t build your conclusions on a narrow field of experience. Millions of people have happy relationships. And if some people can be blissfully happy, why shouldn’t you be?

It’s true that dating involves some luck, timing, chemistry, similar goals and values. But people fall in love everyday. So if it hasn’t happened to you yet, it means that you need to meet more people.

If you were job hunting, you wouldn’t stop applying for positions because you hadn’t found the right position.

Our dinners will give you the opportunity to meet other singles in person in a relaxed, friendly environment. It’s time to step out, act confident and know you won’t fail.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

Like to catch up? It’s a big ask

Like to catch up? It’s a big ask

Have you ever been asked out for a meal or a drink and found yourself having a dialogue in your head about what could happen if you say yes? Would they fit in with my friends? Will they really “get” me? Would they make a good mother/father?

Oops, I think we’re a bit ahead of ourselves here. We are almost asking them to validate our very existence. Like to catch up? It’s a big ask

Sometimes it’s all tied up in other things. What most of us haven’t learned is not to make it mean anymore than it is.

It’s fun when you keep it simple. Life is a contact sport. If you are asked to catch-up with someone again, say yes to a drink or a quick meeting.

Here’s a quote I read this week-“If you think a person is boring, you don’t know them well enough.”

have fun this week…

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

Attract the Perfect Partner for YOU!

Attract The Perfect Partner For YOU!

Some people believe that to find a perfect partner, they need to find someone who shares the same interests, hobbies, falls within a certain age group or looks a certain way.

Of course, nobody is perfect. Everyone has some flaws or baggage if they have lived a life. But to find someone who has the right attitude with a few flaws is more realistic. For a relationship to survive in the medium to long term, it is more important to share most of the same values.

Attract The Perfect Partner For YOU!

Attract The Perfect Partner For YOU!

When our members join A Table for Six, we do take information on these interests and also their values. Some people have spent more time on deciding what is important in a car than their relationship. So take some time to list your top ten values . Then when you meet someone, you have a gauge to go by. Don’t expect them to be 10’s on every single item on your list, at least a 6 and preferable an 8 or 9.

Some of the more common core values in a perfect partner might be;

**Family is very important.
**Maintaining a healthy work/life balance is important.
**Honesty is of utmost importance and trust must be earned.
**They believe, or don’t believe in God or have an affiliation with a religious institution.
**Maintaining a healthy body.
**A belief in being responsible in handling finances.

These are also values you might list as important to you;

Loving, nurturing, fit, inspiring, positive, motivated, fun-loving humorous, creative, honest, consistent, open-minded, committed, loyal, dependable, adventurous, passionate, respectful, athletic, educated, respected.

To really know if someone you meet has these values may take time. It is very well if they say they have them, but  a core value is only a core value if the person lives by them, at least most of the time.

So what do you want? It’s good to have high standards, but who do you need to become to attract the person with these qualities you have listed? Is it time to look within yourself and ask if you are someone a person with these values would be attracted to? This is the real question and where the biggest opportunity of change lies! It can also be hardest.
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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

To risk, to find love

To risk, to find love
Do you believe you are a risk taker?
Below is a beautiful poem I  read again this week. I keep a copy of it and look at it often. It always reminds me listen to myself. To connect with the part of me that is trying very hard to get out, but fear of embarrassment, failure or rejection is holding back. To listen to my inner voice that is telling me to be, or do something more.
All of us have a part that is begging to get out. We have a message to share, a unique skill or talent that isn’t being shared with the world. They are not being expressed because we have chosen a less risky pursuit and so they are lying dormant.
Letting this part of you shine through will guide you towards good risk.

To risk, to find love

To risk, to find love

Is it time to risk, to find love?
 Take some good risk in the area of your social or dating life. Contact us now to connect with other singles for fun, relaxed dinners and lasting genuine relationships.
“To Risk”
by William Arthur Ward
To laugh is to risk appearing a fool,
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out to another is to risk involvement,
To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.
To place your ideas and dreams before a crowd is to risk their loss.
To love is to risk not being loved in return,
To live is to risk dying,
To hope is to risk despair,
To try is to risk failure.

But risks must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing.
He may avoid suffering and sorrow,
But he cannot learn, feel, change, grow or live.
Chained by his servitude he is a slave who has forfeited all freedom.

Only a person who risks is free.
The pessimist complains about the wind;
The optimist expects it to change;
And the realist adjusts the sails.

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Take some good risk this week for your dating life.

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

Are you prioritising your dating life?

Are you prioritising your dating life?

What is the most important area of your life? Is your love life as important as watching your favourite show on TV or your 40-50 hour a week job? Sometimes I think it must not be. I know you’re busy and have your priorities.

Are you prioritising your Dating Life?

Are you prioritising your Dating Life?

If you were at the end of your life and looking back, would you wish you had worked more hours or would you regret not making your personal life a priority?

Any goal you set for yourself has a formula for success. Failure is never that you don’t know how to achieve the goal. It’s that you won’t take the necessary steps to make it happen.

Dating isn’t that intricate or difficult. There’s a basic formula that will lead to meeting a loving partner.

1. Choose an avenue for meeting suitable singles (find something you enjoy along the way)
2.  Ask as many questions as possible about how other singles have achieved dating success through the service.
3. Ask for  advice from the singles organisation or study up on the best dating tips and behaviour.
4. Spend some time and a little money on making the most of your appearance. (Everyone has attractive qualities. It’s a matter of drawing attention to them)
5. Know what your boundaries are that are non-negotiable.
6. Outside of your non-negotiables, be open to whom you date.
7. Be open to catching up with a potential partner a 2nd (or 3rd) time.
8. Date your potential partners and give them a real chance (Don’t dismiss them without seeing the possible gem)
9. Continue dating until you find someone who’s worthy of your love and life.
That’s it!
If you’re ready for this approach to meeting singles and finding one of the good gals/guys, click on the link to our Membership Enquiry Form and I will call you to talk about how we can help you.

“Looking back, I have this to regret, that too often when I loved, I did not say so.”
~ David Grayson

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

Nervous about a first dinner? Keep reading!

Nervous about a first dinner? Keep reading!

Nervous about a first dinner? Keep reading!

Nervous about a first dinner? Keep reading!

There are few things as exciting as your first dinner with A Table for Six. The newness, the uncertainty, and the possibilities are huge. This could be the night you meet a prospective partner, or your new best friend. It can be enough to make even a very confident person feel a little rattled. What should you wear? What should you talk about?

Meeting face to face over a meal is a tried and tested successful way of meeting. And you know that the people you are meeting at our dinners enjoy it too. Conversation will normally flow continuously and if you run out of things to talk about, there are enough people in the group to ensure you don’t have to feel under pressure to talk all the time.

Don’t hesitate to ask questions, as long as they are not too personal. Personal questions are best left until you know someone a little better. Remember to share your experiences as well, it is a two-way game. It’s good to find something you have in common, even if it is the brand of toothpaste you use or the type of music you enjoy. It’s good to find a connection.

Topics that are always suitable are any recent movies you have viewed, the latest app you have on your iphone or places you have traveled to recently. While the weather is good to fall back on, it is a bit overused.

Wondering what to wear to our dinners? I’m sure you would like to make a good impression. It is important to dress appropriately for the venue you are attending. Wear something you really love and that makes you feel good too. Girls don’t overdue the makeup or show too much flesh (a little bit is a good thing). Guys no jeans or tee shirts. A button up shirt and dress pants make a much better impression.

Your first dinner, and every dinner after that is always exciting. Mixed with the right amount of  good attitude and realism, it will be a fabulous experience. Make you dinners more enjoyable and fun using the tips and suggestions mentioned here.

Other recent blogs you may enjoy:

My #1 Most Important Ever Dating Tip

Forgive yourself, you’re smarter now

This one very important thing we can control

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

 

Why are Singles getting hurt badly?

Why are Singles getting hurt badly?

Why are Singles getting hurt badly?

Why are Singles getting hurt badly?

There seems to be quite a number of people who don’t like the dating game anymore. Every now and again they decide they should be doing something about meeting people. They subscribe to an internet dating site again. Even though they don’t like the process and know the number of scammers, married people and players that are using it. They are not excited about it at all.

They feel frustrated and disappointed about the situation. Unfortunately, it’s a vicious circle. Anytime you feel negative and defensive, the likelihood of a positive, happy outcome is slim. Each time, they become more resigned and cynical about the process.

To have a different outcome and experience, you need to take personal responsibility to make the journey more enjoyable of yourself.

Find a different way to meet suitable singles. Go out to singles events and places where likeminded singles go and enjoy yourself. Our A Table for Six dinners will take the pressure off. Go with the mindset that you will have a great time, even if you don’t meet a possible partner.
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Be your authentic self. The way you speak, act and express yourself should be congruent with how you live your life. This will be rewarding to you. If you are always adapting yourself in an attempt to impress the people you are meeting, you will feel exhausted and unappreciated.

Here’s something else that in today’s society is mega important! The way people treat each other!

How you treat other people and the way they treat you will have a huge effect on the outcome of your happiness and relationships.

I hear a lot of stories of experiences that singles have had with online dating interactions. There are a lot of people out there treating each other poorly. Surely they don’t realise the gravity of their actions, or they would not do it…but the result is still the same.

People are getting badly hurt. This results in people loosing trust. Next time they meet someone they want to protect themselves from being hurt again. They are defensive, hold back their feelings and misinterpret the actions of others…this, in turn, hurts someone else.

It’s a cycle where men and women mistreat each other. Awareness is the key. Communication and honesty will mean that even if a relationship doesn’t work out, you will be able to move on from it without bringing hurt and mistrust with you.

Dating should be a beautiful process. Meeting and getting to know people with basic courtesy and respect.

The expectation of our A Table for Six members is that they always treat each other in a courteous, respectful manner. Fortunately, the feedback I receive is that they are also very supportive of each other…how refreshing!

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six