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Are you the mystery man?

Are you the mystery man?

Want to know one of the things that makes women shy away from you?

They feel as though you are talking about yourself too much! I know that you are probably thinking “That’s crazy. Women never stop talking.” But there is a difference. Women tend to dramatise, ramble and complain etc. However, the subjects they talk about and share too much of, tend to be their jobs, relationships and other people. That’s when men tune out.

It is better to be “interested” than “interesting”
On the other hand, men tend to talk about themselves and this causes women to tune out. When you feel the need to be witty, and captivating, remember it is better to be “interested” than “interesting’.

Are you the mystery man?

Are you the mystery man?

The ideal conversation is an equal exchange by both parties with conversation bouncing back and forth. If you go overboard trying to entertain a woman, it usually shows up as insecurity. Don’t try too hard to be the life of the party. It is a sign of attention seeking.

Ask questions and listen more than you talk
Better to take on the role of the investigator. Ask questions and listen more than you talk and try to find out as much as possible about her. Nothing too intrusive to start with. Remember that some people are touchy about disclosing  information about themselves. Ask questions like “Where were you born?” and “Where did you go to school?” After a few dates, you can ask about more personal subjects like religion, family situations and past relationships. You could also then touch on short and long term goals.

Women are intrigued by a mysterious man
Don’t tell her everything about yourself too soon. Keep a little mystery about yourself. If she asks a question, answer, but not tool much information. Keep some things to tell her later. Then ask her another question. Only disclose information about yourself little by little. Focus on getting to know her first. Women are intrigued by a mysterious man and will be more interested in you in the long term if they have to probe to find out about you.

Remember to stop talking about yourself, ask open ended questions to encourage her to talk about herself and Listen. You will have an advantage on the competition and your relationship will be off to a good start.

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Margaret Newitt
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Are your friends holding you back from a great relationship?

Are your friends holding you back from a great relationship?

6 ways to move from single to lots of possible relationships

Do you love to get together with your friends and complain about how hard it is to meet a partner?

Are your friends holding you back from a great relationship?

Are your friends holding you back from a great relationship?

Does it regularly turn into a whinge session when you and your friends are relaxing and should be having a good time? Does the conversation almost always turns to “Where are all the decent, intelligent guys who aren’t married” or  “Why aren’t there any outgoing, fun loving, attractive ladies out there?” It’s a perfect opportunity to share stories of the strange people you met with online dating. You can compete for the best horror story about how you fell for a sweet, interesting girl/guy who seemed like real relationship material, only to find out they were married or a drug addict.

In no time at all you can work yourselves up  into a state of misery and start singing “Poor, poor pitiful me.”  Misery loves company and it is a coping strategy. But do you really think this is going to help your situation?

Why not be an example to your friends and change the dynamics next time you are together? Here are some suggestions that will put a different slant on the situation and maybe gain a different outcome.

If you say something enough times, it becomes true. If you constantly say that it’s too hard to meet suitable partners, that will be your truth because you won’t even see them when they are staring you in the face.

Challenge your friends to adopt a more positive attitude. Show your friends that having the right attitude will bring a different outcome – Knowing that your partner is out there and will arrive at the right time.

There is usually a leader in any group who takes the first step in a different direction. You can be that leader and be an inspiration to them. You can inspire your friends to dream more, learn more, do more and become more.

If there is a need to vent and get something off your chest, set a time limit. Two minutes should be the limit and then move the conversation on to the fun activities you have planned.

You can stick with “I’m picky”, “The best ones are all married” or “There’s not enough single men/women in my area”. But that isn’t leading you to your desired outcome.

Do you or your friends really make an effort to change things. Many singles say they do, but one of the biggest things keeping them in the same place is lack of action. Are you going to singles events and our fabulous dinners?

An ancient native proverb goes:

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two “wolves” inside us all.

One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?” The old Cherokee simply replied,

“The one you feed.”

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Margaret Newitt
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A new partner or friends before Christmas? 42 sleeps to go.

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 42 sleeps to go.

Like to meet a new partner or friends before Christmas? I know you probably don’t really want to hear that it is only 42 days to Christmas (about 3628800 seconds). Has another year really gone so quickly? Can it really be so close to another Christmas?

Did you make a resolution at New Year that you would meet a new partner and make some changes in your social life this year? Somehow work and other commitments always take a lot of our time. We have the best intentions to be proactive and take steps to go out and meet some new people whose company we enjoy….but didn’t quite take the steps needed to do so.

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 73 Days to go.

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 42 Days to go.

The good news is that there is still enough time to meet some wonderful new people before Christmas at our A Table for Six dinners! And there will be lots of other singles with the same intention.

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 73 Days to go.

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 42 Days to go.

It’s perfect timing to join our Spring dinners. You’ll have a great time, meet singles and make new connections. You may just even meet the one you will introduce to your family and friends on Christmas day.

Here’s what Rosie said:

I’ve met a wonderful man

5 out of 5, reviewed on Nov 08, 2016
The concept of A Table for Six is fantastic. For me the fact I get to dine in lovely Sydney restaurants and meet new people outside my network was enough to have me join.

Before I started I was certain it was time for me to start dating but with a hectic schedule, two children and not at all interested in online dating I knew A Table for Six was for me.

Margaret is lovely and made me feel very comfortable and calmed any nerves I had about trying this new idea.

After attending four dinners, I can confidently say, I thoroughly enjoyed every dinner. It was always a respectful and fun environment, everyone was so happy to be meeting. Although we were all meeting for the first time it often felt like we were old friends coming together.

On my fourth dinner was when I met a wonderful man. I knew from the moment I met him there was something special between us. He has a far more elaborate and romantic story.

After a few weeks Margaret connected us and we went on our first date, that was in June 2016.

We are now in a healthy, happy relationship. I am with a man I feel connected to on so many levels. Truly wonderful. I’ve recommended Table of Six to many friends in fact a friend who I had recommended to before I began ATFS, met her man on the second dinner and that was two years ago, they are still going strong!

This works and it will for you too.

Thank you Margaret. I’m grateful to say I found a wonderful man and I couldn’t be happier.

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Margaret Newitt
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10 things that shouldn’t be repeated in relationships

10 things that shouldn’t be repeated in relationships

We have all made mistakes in relationships. Sometimes our mistakes have a catastrophic effect on our lives. And sometimes we can see with clarity what went wrong quiet quickly.

10 things that shouldn't be repeated in relationships

10 things that shouldn’t be repeated in relationships

But to have successful relationships, the important thing is to recognise our destructive patterns, make different choices, and then keep our awareness focused so that we don’t go back to making bad choices.

In his book “Never Go Back”, author Dr Henry Cloud lists ten insights that will keep us from sabotaging our lives in a repeating pattern. His method is based on grace, instead of making ourselves feel guilty for past mistakes.

Dr Cloud lists these insights as things never to return to;

Return to what has worked. We should never go back to something that ended and expect different results.

Do anything that requires them to be someone they are not. We should ask ourselves questions. Does this suit me? Is this sustainable? Why am I really doing this?

Try to change another person. We can only ever change ourselves, never another person. People will learn their own lessons in their own time as part of their journey.

Believe you can please everyone. When we chase the goals of others instead of pursuing our own dreams, we are not being guided by our instinct. Whatever you do, it should come from who you are and your unique gifts and talents.

Choose short-term comfort over long-term benefit. Successful people understand that they may need to step outside their comfort zone and experience some “pain”. They understand it will give them a long-term benefit and follow through.

Trust someone or something that appears flawless. We are all attracted to perfection, exceptional or high performing people. But life and people are rarely perfect. If someone or something appears to have no flaws, proceed with caution.

Take their eyes off the big picture. There will always be days when we loose sight of our overall aims and goals. Move on and refocus. The whole story is written over weeks, months and years, not a single day.

Neglect to do due diligence. Always take the time to take a look into the background and find out the details. You owe it to yourself.

Fail to ask why they are where they find themselves. To regularly ask themselves what part they are playing in the current situations in their lives, is one of the most important characteristics of successful people. They understand they are not victims, but create their own circumstances.

Forget their inner life determines their outer success. Who we are on the inside and the beliefs we hold about ourselves largely contribute to our external circumstances.

Achievers recognise the mistakes they are making and to decide to never repeat them. Don’t worry; there are always more lessons to learn.

Use what talents you posses.
The woods would be very silent
if no birds sang except those that sang best.”
~Henry Van Dyke

Let your unique gifts and talents shine this week,
Margaret Newitt
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Your beliefs about dating can help you or hurt you

Your beliefs about dating can help you or hurt you

Are you are holding on to negative beliefs about finding new friends, meeting a suitable partner and dating? Your mind is very powerful. The stories you tell yourself can either hold you back and prevent positive change in your life or they can allow new wonderful people to come into your life and new relationships to blossom. Even the most optimistic of us can be guilty of this at times.

Your beliefs about dating can help you or hurt you

Your beliefs about dating can help you or hurt you

It’s always interesting when speaking to new potential members. Many have reached a point where they know they need to be proactive and are ready and open to what (and whom) will come into their lives and where it may take them.

Others have created problems and scenarios in their own mind before they have even stepped out the door for their first dinner. YOUR beliefs can either help or hurt you!

Your beliefs about dating can help you or hurt you

Your beliefs about dating can help you or hurt you

For example,  “I’m not good at meeting new people. ” or “I will never meet anyone as lovely as my late husband/wife.”

Limiting thoughts and beliefs create the same problems that repeat themselves in different relationships. Habitual negative thoughts run on autopilot,  and if you believe them, you can’t change your life and solve the same problems that can keep arising in different relationships and situations.

Your thoughts determine your feelings, and your behaviours and actions are determined by your thoughts. With negative thoughts running unchecked in your mind, it’s difficult to feel good about yourself. When your behaviour and actions come from feeling bad about yourself, you won’t get good results.

In order to achieve a different result, stop and check those negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones that are just as true or even more true.

An example would be, if you believe there are no good men/women out there, you’ll continue attracting men/women who are not good for you. When you stop this negative thought and replace it with one that serves you,  you’ll open up the possibility to attract  a wealth of new friends and even a partner to share your life.

Start meeting new people and expect to have an enjoyable time, meeting interesting people and don’t quit on yourself.

If you don’t like how things are, change it! You’re not a tree.” ~Ji Rohn

Fill your mind with thoughts and beliefs that serve you this week
Margaret Newitt
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www.atableforsix.com.au
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What sort of people will I meet at dinner?

What sort of people will I meet at dinner?

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It’s a famous question and it’s asked often.

It is exactly the same I question I would ask if I was inquiring about becoming a member of a Singles group!

What exactly is it that they are looking for? We all know there’s plenty of singles out there who we wouldn’t want to spend out time with. Lately, I’ve been asking more questions of the people who do join our members. What exactly is it that they are looking for?

What sort of people will I meet at dinner?

What sort of people will I meet at dinner?

Here are some of the answers they have given.
They hate Singles who lie about wanting a real, long term relationship.

They need opportunities to meet Singles in an environment where there’s no pressure and it’s all about having fun and making new connections first.

They crave meeting people and having that feeling of “Ah, these people really get me.”

They haven’t been able to figure out where to find all the decent Singles who have dealt with their baggage and have an open heart.

They struggle to deal with Singles who just want to be able to tick off their list of requirements.

They secretly yearn to meet someone who makes the journey seem like the time is right, the place is right and the connection is definitely right.

They are looking for their new best friend.

They want to have that special connection with a partner who treats them with love and kindness, expressed through kind thoughts, loving words and kind actions.

They are totally over spending weekends alone, going to bars, internet dating or meeting people with no manners or consideration.

They are totally into positive, pro-active people and having lots of amazing stories to tell when they are 90.

They are ready right now for new beginnings in dating, creating new friendships and opportunities for romance and love.

These are the answers I will give from now on when new Singles inquiring, ask me that famous question “What sort of people will I meet at dinner?

Do any of these resonate with you? Are there any others you would add to our list?

Is that the sort of person you are?

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Try reaching out again. You might be delighted.

Have you ever reached out to someone you’d like to catch up with again, or someone you admire and would love to get to know? You called and left a phone message or sent off a text or email. You checked for a response….and waited…and waited, but nothing.

Laughing woman talking on the phone and looking up at home

Who do they think they are? You start to think that they don’t think you are insert…. cool/ good looking/ slim/wealthy/ important…enough. You go into all of those insecurities that are hiding just beneath the surface ready to emerge. Soon your thoughts replay in your mind the story that “Well who do they think they are anyway?” If they don’t want to be in touch with me, I certainly don’t want anything to do with them!

Hold that thought. Don Miguel in his book “The Four Agreements” his second agreement says, “Don’t take anything personally – Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.”

Don’t take anything personally. Don Miguel tells us not to take anything personally. Not criticism, not rejection, not even praise. “Taking things personally is the maximum expression of selfishness. It makes the assumption everything is about me.”

They have busy lives too. In our busy lives many of us are drowning in email, overloaded at work, and struggling to keep up at home. Just maybe, your message was overlooked by mistake. Or, it may not have reached them.

Have you been guilty of this too? You probably have overlooked responding to someone yourself. In my own life, one of my girlfriends left a phone message last week, and I haven’t had a chance to call her back yet. It doesn’t mean that I no longer value her friendship or care about her. It’s just that time hasn’t allowed that call yet. So, I’d better make sure I call her later today.

Reach out again. You’ve got nothing to lose. If there is someone on your mind that you reached out to, but didn’t hear back from, why not send another message? You’ve got nothing to lose. If you send a friendly follow up message something like this “I know you are really busy and may have forgotten about my message. So I am just following up with you again.”

Don’t make them wrong or feel guilty. Saying that you contacted them and hadn’t heard back and that you are upset won’t produce the desired outcome.

So try reaching out to someone you have tried to contact one more time. You might be delighted with the response.

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5 things to do that will make you happier today

Science has proven that if you do at least some of these things each day, you will feel the positive vibrations.

Find something good that happened in your life What if you hadn’t met that person who introduced you to your now best friend?  What if you hadn’t taken a chance on trying a different career? Finding the upside to past events can make you more aware of positive results in your life. Such as “If I hadn’t crashed my car, I wouldn’t have met my best friend.”

Send a thankful message Gratitude is a powerful emotion that helps us enjoy what we have. Send an email or letter to someone who has helped you in some way and you will evoke positive feelings for yourself. thank them for what they have done no matter how small it is.

Spend money on someone else They say money can’t buy happiness, but it can make our lives a lot more comfortable. spending on others makes us feel good about ourselves and makes us feel like responsible and giving people. so take a friend out for lunch or buy them a present, you’ll feel great about it.

happy young couple have fun and romantic moments on beach at summer season and representing happynes and travel concept

Get some exercise Getting some exercise is a great way to feel better, increase energy levels and reduce tension. It doesn’t have be a marathon. Just a walk around the block or to the shops will do the trick.

List 3 good things that happened today At the end of the day, spend a few minutes finding three good things that happened. They don’t have to be amazing, just as long as they made you feel better. You will go to sleep feeling better about your day and yourself.

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Margaret Newitt
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Be true to you, they will be delighted

A little maturity is a good thing because hopefully we have gained some wisdom and learned from life experiences. Like most of us, I wish I could go back and tell my younger self that there is nothing wrong with the way I am and it’s ok if some people don’t like me or “get me”.

Today, in my business life, I believe that A Table for Six provides a service that can help all singles improve their social lives, meet new friends or a partner. But I have learned that not everyone will be a good fit for our dinners, may not see the value in them, or it could just be a matter of not being the right timing for them. Understanding this makes it easier to wish them well and invite them to contact us again if or when they are ready.

In our personal lives, seeking the approval of others can become a top priority. We can all relate at least a little to the desire to be well-liked. Most of us want to feel accepted, respected, and appreciated.

I’ve learned it’s actually a good sign if there are some people who don’t accept or agree with me. It’s not ok to be rude, inconsiderate or disrespectful. It’s about releasing our stress about other people’s opinions.

Once we are comfortable not being liked by everyone, it allows us to be true to ourselves. It also gives us the power to say no. Though people are basically good at heart, it is human nature to test other people’s boundaries. When you’re willing to risk being disliked, you’re able to say no when you need to. Your yeses and nos shape your future, so chose them wisely.

It teaches us to be kind and compassionate without having any expectations from others. It’s easy to offer compassion to someone who treats you with respect and kindness. It can be much more difficult to do and say what you know is right when people strongly oppose your views.

Trying to be liked by everyone will have you spreading yourself very thin by trying to keep them all happy. It is much better to spend our time enriching our own and other’s lives  instead of constantly worrying about other’s perceptions.

If you really want to be liked, then stop trying to be liked and start being you. Surround yourself with people who love and support you. They enjoy you most when you are being you and doing what you do best. Appreciate them and give them lots of love. Around them, you’ll feel a warm, fuzzy sense of belonging.

“What other people think of you is not our business. If you start to make that business your business, you will be offended for the rest of your life.” Deepak Chopra

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Margaret Newitt
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Let your best light shine and get the date

Portrait of amorous dates looking at one another outside

Whether you’re just dipping your toes into the meeting singles pond for fun or you want to find the right person to spend your life with, be honest about who you  are. The advice is exactly the same for men and women. Smile, open your mind and listen just as much as you talk. Try to focus on what you could gain from interacting with people, rather than what might be missing. The more you seek out the positive elements in people, the more you will find them. Our A Table for Six dinners are a fantastic took to use to practice your dating skills and to learn about being single again. But most importantly, you will meet singles who are interested in genuine friendships and relationships.

If you are a little shyer or more introverted, here are some tips to make yourself more approachable and to increase the number of dates you get.

Have an open posture, face the people or person and make sure your arms are uncrossed.

Smile and make eye contact with people. Especially those you are interested in.

Try to ensure you are in the middle of any groups and not stuck in a corner.

Ensure you speak to people with at least a “Hello.”

The most important thing to remember is to focus on making others feel comfortable. I always remind myself that they may be more nervous or uncomfortable than I am. This helps to forget about your own anxiousness and they will really appreciate your interest in them.

If you are a little shy, remember that people can’t get to know who you are unless you let them. Know you are fantastic and others will too.

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Smile, connect, listen and engage this week.A Table for Six
Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
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1300 885 311
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