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7 things to do that will make you happier today

7 things to do that will make you happier today

Science has proven that if you do at least some of these things each day, you will feel the positive vibrations.

Find something good that happened in your life. What if you hadn’t met that person who introduced you to your now best friend?  What if you hadn’t taken a chance on trying a different career?

7 things to do that will make you happier today

7 things to do that will make you happier today

Finding the upside to past events can make you more aware of positive results in your life. Such as “If I hadn’t crashed my car, I wouldn’t have met my best friend.”
Send a thankful message Gratitude is a powerful emotion that helps us enjoy what we have.
Send an email or letter to someone who has helped you in some way and you will evoke positive feelings for yourself. Thank them for what they have done no matter how small it is.
Spend money on someone else They say money can’t buy happiness, but it can make our lives a lot more comfortable. Spending on others makes us feel good about ourselves and makes us feel like responsible and giving people. So take a friend out for lunch or buy them a present, you’ll feel great about it.
Get some exercise Getting some exercise is a great way to feel better, increase energy levels and reduce tension. It doesn’t have be a marathon. Just a walk around the block or to the shops will do the trick.
List 3 good things that happened today At the end of the day, spend a few minutes finding three good things that happened. They don’t have to be amazing, just as long as they made you feel better. You will go to sleep feeling better about your day and yourself.
If you would like to take some positive action in your dating and social life, meet our members at dinner. Dating can be daunting…and our dinners are a delightful alternative. Good food, good company and genuine singles coordinated for you. Take the pressure off and enjoy the experience…

Find out about how you can meet genuine singles in a fun atmosphere at our dinner introductions

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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Dating getting you down? How to stay positive

Dating getting you down? How to stay positive.

Dating shouldn’t be too hard in 2018. There are so many apps and online dating sites, meet ups and singles bars.
Then why does it seem to be so challenging?

Dating getting you down? How to stay positive

Dating getting you down? How to stay positive

There is a French saying “Trop de choix tue le choix” (too much choice kills the choice). At a certain point as psychologist Barry Schwartz notes in his book The Paradox of Choice, “choice no longer liberates, but debilitates”.

You find someone nice looking. They seem to be pretty “normal” fun and bright. Your heart sings a little song. You exchange texts and messages. And then…silence!

You go on a first date and it goes well. There seems to be a connection. Conversation flows easily. You both agree to catch up again. And then…silence!

It’s only natural to feel disappointed and you might decide that dating is too hard and there are no decent, genuine singles out there.

Don’t hold on to that feeling. Let it go! It won’t serve you. There are plenty of wonderful quality people to date. And, you only need one. One that makes your heart sing.

As much as we don’t like to hear this, our state of mind and beliefs draw experiences to us. So, it’s crucial to hold on to positive beliefs about dating and every aspect of our lives.

Each date that you go on has something to teach us as well. If you do a little review after each date, looking for the positive that has come out of the experience, you will draw more positive into your next date.

Maybe the date helped you to determine things that are important to you. Maybe the date helped you to realise something you could do differently when choosing someone you would date.

Or maybe they just let you know about a great new restaurant, or a show that is coming up.

If you can stay open, curious and positive, you will always learn something and you will be well on your journey to true love.

Find out about how you can meet genuine singles in a fun atmosphere at our dinner introductions

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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There’s never a better time than now to let love in

There’s never a better time than now to let love in
For singles, every day represents a defining point. Your life can be astounding, or just another day. Life can be rich with adventure, love and experience. Or, it can be mundane and predictable. This drastic contrast is the end result of our thoughts, and life choices.

Singles who have an amazing life have worked to attain it. They have spent time developing their life in the direction they wish it to travel. They have expanded their mental and physical horizons. They have maintained an attitude of curiosity and wonder and they see the glass as half full. They have spent some time doing inner work and are consciously aware.

Singles who have an amazing life have worked to attain it

Singles who have an amazing life have worked to attain it

Singles may rationalise their inaction . Our inner voices may sound very reasonable when they try to talk you out of moving out of your comfort zone. Have you noticed any of these lurking in your mind? (from Let love In by Debra Bernt)

Procastinator. I’ll start dating next month, next year when I lose weight, when I fix myself, when my kids grow up.
Worrier. I’m afraid of rejection. Online dating is dangerous.
Skeptic. There is no use in trying. There is no one out there for me. I will never meet anyone.

Judgement. .All the good men/ women are taken. It is not worth my time to try. Stay away!
Beginner. I don’t know the first thing about dating, and I am not ready to put myself out there.

When singles are lazy about improving their dating life, nothing happens. You have the ability to draw the right person to you, but this won’t happen if you don’t leave the house. Your opportunities to meet someone greatly increase when you go places that other singles frequent.
Break the cycle, there is never a better time than now to make changes in your life. Be open to new opportunities this week.

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
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Choose a new empowering perspective

Choose a new empowering perspective

Many of our members have found themselves unexpectedly single.  Perhaps, like me, they lost someone through illness. Or their relationship ended because they grew apart. In any of these situations, there is a period of grief.

The end of any relationship means the end of a whole phase of your life. The end of shared happiness, fears and plans for the future. Every relationship has its own story and every ending is hard in its own way.

This week, I am going to focus on my perspective about the loss of my relationship. I am going to ask myself this question, “Does my perspective serve me and who I am becoming?”

In my case, it is very reasonable to feel disbelief, sadness and anger. But does that empower me to become more peaceful and accepting? I can be sad and angry about the sudden loss of Reg. I can ask why and what if, but will that help me create acceptance and a peaceful mindset?

So, I’m going to as myself, “How can I see this differently?

I was lucky to have such a wonderful relationship. We had a lot of good times. He taught me a lot about what is really important in relationships.

The important thing is not to come up with a rose-coloured glasses interpretation that feels too unrealistic. A new perspective that feels empowering will help you move forward to how you would like your life to be.

If you had a  relationship break up and you didn’t want to, it can be a bitter pill to swallow. You wonder how they could so easily turn their back on you and all that you shared. Getting stuck in  the “how could they? ” and the “they didn’t realise what they had” will stop you from seeing the big picture.

Change your thinking from “If only we had done this differently” to “What can I learn from this and take with me into a future relationship?”

Maybe you stopped getting to know each other and spending special time together. Maybe you both forgot to prioritise each other and to being a team. There will be a lesson in the ending of the relationship that you can apply in your life and future relationships.

I know I won’t achieve that mindset all of the time. If I can change my perspective even for  a little while, I know I am headed in the right direction.

“It’s not only moving that creates new starting points. Sometimes all it takes is a subtle shift in perspective, an opening of the mind, an intentional pause and reset, or a new route to start to see new options and new possibilities.” — Kristin Armstrong

I hope you can adopt an empowering mindset about relationships this week.

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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What The Foxtel Guy Could Teach Us

What The Foxtel Guy Could Teach Us

 A random stranger can bring hope and a little ray of sunshine in sad times.
Friends and family have been visiting and checking on me since Reg’s passing. And in recent weeks, I needed to update some of my Foxtel equipment. One morning, Trev, The Foxtel Guy was updating and installing new equipment at the same time a friend was visiting.

Trev obviously overheard some conversation and when my friend left he asked if there was anything he could do to help. As we do, I assumed he was just being polite. After thanking him, I said  replied “no” and he left.

To my surprise, later that day, Trev was at my door with a cheerful smile and a small but very pretty bunch of flowers. He handed me the flowers and a card, saying “I just wanted to show you that a random act of kindness from a stranger can brighten you day. Everything will be alright.”

Trev could teach us about giving and receiving. The same qualities that stop us from happily giving, are the same ones that make us uncomfortable about receiving. Often it is our insecurities, lack of self esteem and self love that hold us back. If we don’t love ourselves, then we don’t trust why someone would be kind to us.

Since I have shared this with my family and friends, Trev’s story has touched everybody. He certainly made a difference to me and I’m sure he will be repaid in some form.

Remember there’s no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end. — Scott Adams

Contact us at A Table for Six to take a step in the right direction to meet other singles looking for genuine friendships and genuine relationships.

Checkout our upcoming dinners here

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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Some universal truths about relationships

Some universal truths about relationships

I find it difficult to write about myself and my journey through grief and learning to live in a whole new world with out my partner Reg. My own life was not a tropic I included very often in my blogs. But, everything changed recently.
And many have shared that they are following my journey. I would like to let you know that I am doing as well as can be expected.
Friends and family lovingly let me know that I have to go through this journey. I do understand that it can’t be avoided. And, I utilise any tool that could help me. The ones I have turned to so far are, meditation, listening to uplifting podcasts and audio-books, repeating affirmations out loud, making sure I eat healthy and getting quite a bit of exercise each day. Of course, surrounding myself with loved ones is one of the best treatments.
One of our members kindly drew my attention to a recent article in the newspapers written by Kerrie Sackville. She had started dating again after divorce and made some interesting pointers. I’m sure many of them will resonate with you.

You can’t heal a broken person with your love. They must heal themselves.
– You need to pay attention to your instincts. If something feels wrong to you it probably is.
– The most important thing you can do for your love life is to be okay with yourself.
– You need to really enjoy your partner’s company. If you don’t then there’s no point in staying together. And if you do, then most other things become bearable.
–  A wicked sense of humour can be a great aphrodisiac.
– The more interests and friends you have of your own, the more you will bring to your relationship.
– You can be perfectly happy with your partner and still be attracted to others.
– You never need to apologise for your partner’s bad behaviour. They are responsible for themselves.
– If someone goes cold on you, you can’t force them to fall back in love with you. It is out of your hands.
– Great sex can keep a relationship going long after its expiry date.
– It really helps if you like each other”s friends and family.
– If you find yourself physically repulsed by your partner, it’s all over.
-There is no painless way to end a relationship with someone who doesn’t want to go. They’re still going to be horribly hurt and you’re going to have to suck it up.
-You can’t be “friends” with an ex while still in love with them.
– The way you feel about yourself when you are with your partner will tell you everything you need to know about your relationship.
– Men can be such a pain in the arse. But gosh, they’re endearing.

 If you would like to read the full article, here is a link.


Margaret Newitt

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With courage, gratitude and acknowledging the beauty of each day

With courage, gratitude and acknowledging the beauty of each day

First of all, I would like to give my heartfelt thanks to everyone who has sent messages of condolence on the passing of my partner Reg on 20 April. Your personal messages have been a comfort during a time of great upheaval as I come to terms with Reg’s loss. The support of my family and friends has been wonderful. There has been so much love.

With courage, gratitude and acknowledging the beauty of each day

Many of you bravely shared your own stories of loss and grief. I know that my life is going through a huge change. I know that many of you have gone through this experience, or something different but no less challenging.

Thank you also for allowing me a little time to heal. Whilst the journey of grief can be long and unpredictable, I want to now focus on providing our dinners to you again. And now, with a new and deeper understanding of how it can feel to find yourself without a loving, life partner.

All current memberships periods will be extended by two months. Dinners are now on the events pages again for you to register your interest.

I am looking forward to getting back to what I do best…providing opportunities for you to meet like, minded singles. Not only that, but making new friendships and love connections.

with courage, gratitude and acknowledging the beauty of each day,

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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Want a different dating result? Change your thoughts

Want a different dating result? Change your thoughts

Are you are holding on to negative beliefs about finding new friends, meeting a suitable partner and dating? Your mind is very powerful. The stories you tell yourself can either hold you back and prevent positive change in your life or they can allow new wonderful people to come into your life and new relationships to blossom. Even the most optimistic of us can be guilty of this at times.

Want a different dating result? Change your thoughts

Want a different dating result? Change your thoughts

It’s always interesting when speaking to new potential members. Many have reached a point where they know they need to be proactive and are ready and open to what (and whom) will come into their lives and where it may take them.

Others have created problems and scenarios in their own mind before they have even stepped out the door for their first dinner. YOUR beliefs can either help or hurt you!
For example,  “I’m not good at meeting new people. ” or “I will never meet anyone as lovely as my late husband/wife.”

Limiting thoughts and beliefs create the same problems that repeat themselves in different relationships. Habitual negative thoughts run on autopilot,  and if you believe them, you can’t change your life and solve the same problems that can keep arising in different relationships and situations.

Your thoughts determine your feelings, and your behaviours and actions are determined by your thoughts. With negative thoughts running unchecked in your mind, it’s difficult to feel good about yourself. When your behaviour and actions come from feeling bad about yourself, you won’t get good results.

In order to achieve a different result, stop and check those negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones that are just as true or even more true.
An example would be, if you believe there are no good men/women out there, you’ll continue attracting men/women who are not good for you. When you stop this negative thought and replace it with one that serves you,  you’ll open up the possibility to attract  a wealth of new friends and even a partner to share your life.

Start meeting new people and expect to have an enjoyable time, meeting interesting people and don’t quit on yourself.
If you don’t like how things are, change it! You’re not a tree.” ~Ji Rohn

Replace your thoughts with positive ones this week

Checkout our upcoming dinners here

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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Single and out of practise

Single and out of practise
I speak with a lot of singles who are at different stages in their lives when it comes to relationships. They’ve had a variety of experiences in their lives, and they are working through dealing with them.

Single and out of practise

Single and out of practise

It makes no difference; I’m still going to be someone who doesn’t listen to the negativity. I’m not going to agree with you when you say that all the good ones are taken, or that everyone has too much baggage. Your mates/girlfriends might let you wallow in this line of thinking, but I won’t allow you to.

You won’t wow everyone, but that’s ok and perfectly normal
. All you will ever get from me is encouragement to step outside of your comfort zone. That comfort zone is your worst enemy, not me. I’m going to  encourage you to put on your best outfit, stand tall, get your attitude right and go out and wow some new people. You won’t wow everyone, but that’s ok and perfectly normal.

Don’t worry if some people don’t recognise your beautiful heart. They’re not meant to be in your life right now. The one or ones who do see your authentic beauty are the ones who have also lifted their spirit to the realms where you now dwell.
Our dinners and events are simply a vessel for you to use to facilitate your growth and to expand your social circle. They are designed just for you to use to learn how it feels to be a single person in a mixed group again.

There’s so much to learn when you’ve been out of the single scene for a long period of time. You’re out of practise. You’ll learn you’re not the only one who feels way out of their depth. Those who are very honest with themselves will admit they are frightened of being hurt, taken advantage of, made to feel inadequate, not good enough or invisible.

We all know the real truth. It is inside of us. You just need to listen. Your inner guide will protect you from being hurt if you stay quiet for long enough to hear what it is telling you.

There’s no better investment you can make than in yourself! So, if you want to change how your life is going around relationships, start investing your time, energy, focus and even some dollars to improve it.

Poor me, or there’s no great men/ladies out there, or I don’t have time, or I don’t know where to go, just isn’t acceptable anymore.

Checkout our upcoming dinners here

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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Are you too busy to prioritise your dating life?

Are you too busy to prioritise your dating life?

Each day is a new opportunity. I chose to make this day a great one.

Wise words from the inspirational Louise Hay. I’m always interested to hear the excuses that people use for not taking positive action to live their life at their highest level.

Are you too busy to prioritise your dating life?

Are you too busy to prioritise your dating life?

If you’re happy in your life and fulfilled in all areas, then you are living your best life. But if you are “too busy” then that is a choice you have made.
All the activities you engage in, are the result of your choices. You’ve copped out on living your life on purpose. Difficult family relationships, lots of small details that only you can take care of, a way too busy work schedule are eating away at your life and stealing your opportunity every day to live a life where you are fulfilling your destiny.

Take a little time to think about how you would really prioritise your life. Think about saying “no” sometimes – it’s allowed. You and your house/car/appearance/ don’t have to be perfect all the time. And who decided what is perfect anyway? Practise asking for help, delegating and taking time for yourself.

Fear is often what is holding us back from really living a life where we feel fulfilled. If you would like to look fear in the eye and see what’s really possible for you, decide today that you intend to take time for yourself to live the life that you came here to live, and to do it without ignoring your responsibilities are a parent, spouse or employee.

When you join, I take a lot of information about you, including your age group, occupation, how you like to spend your spare time and more. For our members, we co-ordinate the dinner group for you each time you attend a dinner. We ensure you will have some new people to meet, with members around your own age. Our goal is to put you with a group you will relate to, feel comfortable with, and people you can enjoy some laughs around the table. That has been a proven successful formula.

Contact us at A Table for Six to take a step in the right direction to meet other singles looking for genuine friendships and genuine relationships.

Checkout our upcoming dinners here

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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