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Are you ready for a new relationship?

Are you ready for a new relationship?

Relationships are not black and white. Is the old relationship really dead? Should I be going out to meet someone else? Or should I just wait to see how my old relationship pans out? Sometimes we struggle to know when is the time to take the step to see who else is out there for us.

Are you ready for a new relationship?

Are you ready for a new relationship?

You may be missing the companionship of the opposite sex and would like to take the plunge and start meeting new people. It is important that you have dealt with any relationship baggage before you return to the dating scene. Perhaps you could ask yourself the following questions to learn if you are ready to move on, or are still dealing with a past relationship.

Are you able to speak of the past relationship without feeling angry or bitter about the way it ended. This kind of reaction may be a turn-off to potential new love interests and may indicate you are still grieving.

If your ex contacted you to rekindle the relationship how would you respond? If your immediate response is to take him/her back, you might not be ready to participate in a new healthy relationship.

Do you talk about the relationship or your ex a lot? If you find yourself in conversations with your friends or family that lead to a story involving your ex, the situation is still very much  at the forefront of your mind and you may need to take more time to heal any hurt caused by the breakup.

Can you speak of the relationship in a positive way? Recounting stories, accepting the relationship for what it was, realising what you may have learnt from this relationship is a strong sign that you are moving on. If you still get anxious or upset when you see your ex or look at a photo, you might need more time to heal.

Everyone’s journey is different and we all take different amounts of time to grieve. But do encourage yourself to let go and move on. Once you feel you are ready, try going out and having fun without it needing to result in a relationship straight away. Give yourself positive self talk and remember that good things still await you and you will find that someone special at the right time.

Our A Table for Six dinners are a great way to ease yourself back into the singles social scene. There’s no pressure and you will be able to practise enjoying the company of a lot of different people. We’re here to serve you and to help ease you back into dating.

Check out our upcoming dinners here

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

 

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She is attracted to you when…

She is attracted to you when…

You may be meeting her for the first time, or you could have been on a few dates already, but how do you know if she is into you? Here are a few simple things you can watch out for that will give you some hints.

Is she responding or ignoring?
When you send a text, or leave a voicemail, does she respond to your attempts at communication? If she does, that a good sign. With modern technology, it’s easier than ever to filter out people that we don’t want in our lives. If she wants to avoid you, it isn’t very hard. However, if she replies, responds and even initiates communication with you, it’s a clear sign that there is interest and attraction.

She is attracted to you when...

She is attracted to you when…

Who has her attention?
If a woman is into you, she won’t be spending a lot of time texting, checking or talking on her mobile phone while on a date with you. If there is an important call she needs to take, she will excuse herself and explain it is family, work or something that can’t be put off.
Otherwise, if she spends any time throughout the date being distracted by her phone, there’s a good chance she isn’t really attracted to you.

Does she see the funny side of it?
This one is probably the biggest, clearest sign that she is attracted to you. Humour doesn’t lie. It’s also one of the biggest attractors for women. If she laughs at your jokes, it is a clear sign that there is a connection between the two of you, because humour is a very personal thing. It also shows that she can relax around you a bit.

Is she chasing you?
Our aim is to get her to be as proactive in attracting you. Getting her to chase you a little too by phoning you, or suggesting a next outing is a step up from her responding to your calls. If she does, you don’t need to wonder if she is into you. She definitely is.

What does her body tell you?
Our body language doesn’t lie. A large part of our communication is nothing to do with the words we say. Rather, body language and tonality say far more than words ever could. When you are together, is she angled toward you a lot of the time? Or is her body turned away from you? Does she ever touch you? How does she react when you touch her? Analysing her body language is one of the surest ways for you to tell if she is into you.

She may not be doing all of these things, but if she is ticking some of these boxes, it’s a good sign that she likes you a lot.

Want to meet genuine, attractive single women in a small, relaxed group at dinner? We can help you meet the right women and have an opportunity to get to know them a little  at dinner. You can let them see how great you are, and amazing outcomes will happen.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

 

 

 

 

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A Second meeting?

A second meeting?

Do you have friends who are in happy relationships and all coupled up? Most of us do.

Instant attraction?
They usually have an interesting story to tell about how they came to be together. If they haven’t shared their story with you, ask them to do so. Very often you will find that they didn’t have an instant attraction. They may have met a few times before there were any sparks flying.

Although most men appear to be playing it cool, some are genuinely unsure of themselves. Many men need a little encouragement from a woman to know that you are interested.

A second meeting?

A second meeting?

Friends first
We receive requests for contact numbers after our dinners as you know. It’s a fantastic gauge that the dinner was a success and people made connections. There’s the obvious ones where a man requests a lady’s number or a lady requests a man’s number. But also many times it is for friendship as well. When single, it’s very important to have single friends to spend time with.

Once we receive  a reply we pass the contact number on to the person who asked for it. But sometimes the answer is a no.

Why not catch up for a drink?
All of our members have an interesting story to tell. Why not at least catch up for a coffee or a drink? It’s a good idea to meet for a brief catchup the first time. That way if there isn’t a connection you can go your own ways. But, you may find that you have more in common that you first thought.

If your happily coupled up friends hadn’t gotten together after their first meeting they wouldn’t be together today. Say yes to another catch up.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311A Table for Six

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Men- you need to know this

Men- you need to  know this
Do you want that woman to give you her number and actually catch up with you again? Well, you need to get her permission before you even ask.
Talk with her about the things you are passionate about. Find out hers, and find ones that you both share.

Men- you need to know this

Men- you need to know this

This will get her excited to share new experiences with you. It’s much easier for a woman to say ‘yes’ to catch up with you again when there is a clear reason. She needs to be able to justify to herself (and her friends) why she wants to see you again and to know that she is making a good choice.
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If you have already talked about a great cycling spot with a beautiful view along the way, your antique MG car you love to take for drives, or a fantastic band who have a show coming up, you are painting a picture in her mind. Then, it’s much easier to say:

‘I’d love you to see my car, come for a drive next weekend, or ‘So, we are definitely seeing that show next week.’ and then pullout your phone.

Instead of…

“Do you want to catch up some time? or “I would like your number to meet up again sometime.”

Which invitation do you think she is more likely to agree to? Which one makes it more difficult to say no to”?

She is no fool, she knows what’s at stake. She just needs a reason to say yes. So, plant the seed of excitement and anticipation early on, you won’t need to try so hard to sell her on the idea of spending time together – she will do it herself.
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If you would like some more insight into how this could work for you, call me on 1300 885 311 and I will be happy to encourage, and inspire you.

 

 

There’s never a better time than now to let love in

There’s never a better time than now to let love in

For singles, every day represents a defining point. Your life can be astounding, or just another day. Life can be rich with adventure, love and experience. Or, it can be mundane and predictable. This drastic contrast is the end result of our thoughts, and life choices. Singles who have an amazing life have worked to attain it. They have spent time developing their life in the direction they wish it to travel. They have expanded their mental and physical horizons. They have maintained an attitude of curiosity and wonder and they see the glass as half full. They have spent some time doing inner work and are consciously aware.

There’s never a better time than now to let love in

There’s never a better time than now to let love in

Singles may rationalise their inaction . Our inner voices may sound very reasonable when they try to talk you out of moving out of your comfort zone. Have you noticed any of these lurking in your mind? (from Let love In by Debra Bernt)

Procastinator. I’ll start dating next month, next year when I lose weight, when I fix myself, when my kids grow up.
Worrier. I’m afraid of rejection. Online dating is dangerous.
Skeptic. There is no use in trying. There is no one out there for me. I will never meet anyone.
Judgement. Men/women suck. They are not worth my time. Stay away!
Beginner. I don’t know the first thing about dating, and I am not ready to put myself out there.

When singles are lazy about improving their dating life, nothing happens. You have the ability to draw the right person to you, but this won’t happen if you don’t leave the house. Your opportunities to meet someone greatly increase when you go places that other singles frequent.

Break the cycle, there is never a better time than now to make changes in your life. Be open to new opportunities.

Why she does not return your call

She gave you her number, you have phoned a couple of times and left a message…she isn’t returning your calls. Have you experienced this? What is going on?

Rest assured you are not the only man who met a woman, it felt like there was a spark there. She gave you her number to make contact, but now when you call or text, she never returns your call or responds in any way. Why is this happening?

Why she does not return your call

Why she does not return your call

The important thing to know is that it most probably isn’t anything about you. You should not take it personally. Once you understand this, it will set you free. You will simply move on and let her be.

Here are some of the reasons that could be the cause:

  1. You may have shared some laughs and had some things on common. She thought you were polite, but just didn’t see you as someone she would date. She wasn’t really interested in the first place.
  2. She got a bit caught up in the moment. It made her feel good to have someone interested in her. She felt something for you at the time, but now that the moment has passed, the interest isn’t there anymore. You were interesting, but she doesn’t want to take it further.
  3. You could be the right person, but the wrong time. She could have recently come out of another relationship. Her heart could have been broken, or she could still be holding a flame for someone else. She just is not ready.
  4.  A lot of women don’t like to hurt a man’s feelings. They are not sure and don’t want to lead you on. They worry about having to reject you down the track. They prefer to avoid the anxiety and decide not to go there and remain single.

Both men and women tend to take things personally. It is usually about something that is going on in their lives. It is not that you are uninteresting. If they decide not to respond to your calls, just move on to someone who thinks you are an amazing person.
No matter how good you are with women, you will ultimately come across this scenario. The more experience you have, the better you will become at recognising the warning signs. Don’t ever take it personally.

It is a numbers game. Anytime you are dealing with people, there is going to be unpredictable behaviour and outcomes. Dating makes your emotions vulnerable at anytime and if you are aware that these situations can happen, you will be better prepared. You can dust yourself off, pick yourself up and go out to meet new women.

As I look back on my life, I realise that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311
Lic no 3338670

 

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Ask for his number. It is easy

“No” is just a word. It doesn’t mean anything else about you!

If you asked someone for a contact to catch up again and they said “No,” don’t make it mean anything about you. There are many reasons why they may have declined. Most often it is because of something in their life. Perhaps they lack the self-confidence to put themselves in a position where they could become vulnerable. By vulnerable I mean letting someone close to them. Their ex-partner may have come back into the scene. Or they may be still healing from a past relationship.

Ask for his number. It is easy

Ask for his number. It is easy

The important thing is that you remain optimistic and open to possibility. I’d like to extend an invitation to you to ask more often when you meet someone appealing. 100% of the people you don’t ask will not say “Yes.” So ask, and if they say “No,” it doesn’t mean anything about you.

Remember that we will do the asking for you as part of our personal service to you. When we send our request for feedback, just let us know who you would like to see again and we will follow up for you.

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311
Lic no 3338670

Are you the mystery man?

Are you the mystery man?

Want to know one of the things that makes women shy away from you?

They feel as though you are talking about yourself too much! I know that you are probably thinking “That’s crazy. Women never stop talking.” But there is a difference. Women tend to dramatise, ramble and complain etc. However, the subjects they talk about and share too much of, tend to be their jobs, relationships and other people. That’s when men tune out.

It is better to be “interested” than “interesting”
On the other hand, men tend to talk about themselves and this causes women to tune out. When you feel the need to be witty, and captivating, remember it is better to be “interested” than “interesting’.

Are you the mystery man?

Are you the mystery man?

The ideal conversation is an equal exchange by both parties with conversation bouncing back and forth. If you go overboard trying to entertain a woman, it usually shows up as insecurity. Don’t try too hard to be the life of the party. It is a sign of attention seeking.

Ask questions and listen more than you talk
Better to take on the role of the investigator. Ask questions and listen more than you talk and try to find out as much as possible about her. Nothing too intrusive to start with. Remember that some people are touchy about disclosing  information about themselves. Ask questions like “Where were you born?” and “Where did you go to school?” After a few dates, you can ask about more personal subjects like religion, family situations and past relationships. You could also then touch on short and long term goals.

Women are intrigued by a mysterious man
Don’t tell her everything about yourself too soon. Keep a little mystery about yourself. If she asks a question, answer, but not tool much information. Keep some things to tell her later. Then ask her another question. Only disclose information about yourself little by little. Focus on getting to know her first. Women are intrigued by a mysterious man and will be more interested in you in the long term if they have to probe to find out about you.

Remember to stop talking about yourself, ask open ended questions to encourage her to talk about herself and Listen. You will have an advantage on the competition and your relationship will be off to a good start.

Be interested this weekA Table for Six
Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311
Lic no 3338670

 

 

 

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The art of love is largely the art of persistence

The art of love is largely the art of persistence

Find a partner who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on them, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep… wait for the one who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of their friends, who thinks you’re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much they care and how lucky they are to have you…. The one who turns to their friends and say, ‘that’s her.’ ~ Unknown

The art of love is largely the art of persistence

The art of love is largely the art of persistence

Do you feel like you are always dating the wrong people? I often hear from Singles who contact us that they are tired of dating the wrong people and repeating a pattern that ends in a bad relationship.

Sometimes they choose people who just aren’t available for a genuine relationship. It may be that they have not moved on from a previous relationship, or they are just not emotionally capable of a healthy relationship.

Sometimes they date people who have lied to them and falsely represented themselves. Only after dating them  for a while they discover that this person has a addiction, or isn’t as financially secure as they claimed.

If you recognise that you are continually choosing the wrong people to date, then stop and think about your pattern of behaviour. Try to understand where those choices come from, recognise them, and make different choices next time.

Your friends or family may be able to help you with this process as sometimes they can see a pattern of behaviour easier than we can ourselves. You could even seek the help of a therapist.

Most importantly, if finding a loving partner is high on your list, treat it as a priority. If you were looking for a suitable job, you wouldn’t stop applying for suitable positions. What could be more important than finding a partner who compliments you and your life? So be proactive and make smart choices that will have you out meeting potential partners.

Here is a quote that says it all…

Albert Ellis
The art of love… is largely the art of persistence.

A Table for SixMargaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311
Lic no 3338670

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Don’t forget to celebrate your dating progress

Don’t forget to celebrate your dating progress.

So often we have a big goal in mind. We know exactly what we want.

“I want a husband/wife who I adore and who adores me.”

Maybe they are nowhere in sight just yet. However, It’s important to remember and acknowledge the progress you have made towards your big goal.

Don’t forget to celebrate your dating progress

Don’t forget to celebrate your dating progress

Six months ago, you were newly single. Not a thing planned for the weekend, except feeling sorry for yourself. All of your friends are married or in relationships, so no  possibility of a fun night out there.
But look at you now! You’ve updated your wardrobe and hairstyle. You’re feeling much more confident. You have met some new single friends at those fitness classes you’ve joined. Maybe you’ve joined A Table for Six where you’ve had some very enjoyable evenings meeting new singles over dinner. The new friends you’ve made enjoy going out for dinner, or the movies, or to that sporting game as much as you do, so your weekends are filling up quickly now.

Don’t downplay your progress. Feelings of guilt or unworthiness can take the wind out of your sails. Charles Duhigg, author of acclaimed book The Power of Habit states: “A huge body of research has shown that small wins have enormous power, and influence disproportionate to the accomplishments of the victories themselves.”

Your confidence has grown a lot because you know there are other interesting singles who are single too.

So, track your progress. Your life is a little better every day and you are making progress. Your social life is so much better than it was six months ago.  Rather than complaining that you haven’t arrived at the big goal yet, embrace your evolution.

Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” ~Martin Luther King Jr
Encourage and acknowledge yourself this week,

A Table for SixMargaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311
Lic no 3338670

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