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What The Foxtel Guy Could Teach Us

What The Foxtel Guy Could Teach Us

 A random stranger can bring hope and a little ray of sunshine in sad times.
Friends and family have been visiting and checking on me since Reg’s passing. And in recent weeks, I needed to update some of my Foxtel equipment. One morning, Trev, The Foxtel Guy was updating and installing new equipment at the same time a friend was visiting.

Trev obviously overheard some conversation and when my friend left he asked if there was anything he could do to help. As we do, I assumed he was just being polite. After thanking him, I said  replied “no” and he left.

To my surprise, later that day, Trev was at my door with a cheerful smile and a small but very pretty bunch of flowers. He handed me the flowers and a card, saying “I just wanted to show you that a random act of kindness from a stranger can brighten you day. Everything will be alright.”

Trev could teach us about giving and receiving. The same qualities that stop us from happily giving, are the same ones that make us uncomfortable about receiving. Often it is our insecurities, lack of self esteem and self love that hold us back. If we don’t love ourselves, then we don’t trust why someone would be kind to us.

Since I have shared this with my family and friends, Trev’s story has touched everybody. He certainly made a difference to me and I’m sure he will be repaid in some form.

Remember there’s no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end. — Scott Adams

Contact us at A Table for Six to take a step in the right direction to meet other singles looking for genuine friendships and genuine relationships.

Checkout our upcoming dinners here

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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Some universal truths about relationships

Some universal truths about relationships

I find it difficult to write about myself and my journey through grief and learning to live in a whole new world with out my partner Reg. My own life was not a tropic I included very often in my blogs. But, everything changed recently.
And many have shared that they are following my journey. I would like to let you know that I am doing as well as can be expected.
Friends and family lovingly let me know that I have to go through this journey. I do understand that it can’t be avoided. And, I utilise any tool that could help me. The ones I have turned to so far are, meditation, listening to uplifting podcasts and audio-books, repeating affirmations out loud, making sure I eat healthy and getting quite a bit of exercise each day. Of course, surrounding myself with loved ones is one of the best treatments.
One of our members kindly drew my attention to a recent article in the newspapers written by Kerrie Sackville. She had started dating again after divorce and made some interesting pointers. I’m sure many of them will resonate with you.

You can’t heal a broken person with your love. They must heal themselves.
– You need to pay attention to your instincts. If something feels wrong to you it probably is.
– The most important thing you can do for your love life is to be okay with yourself.
– You need to really enjoy your partner’s company. If you don’t then there’s no point in staying together. And if you do, then most other things become bearable.
–  A wicked sense of humour can be a great aphrodisiac.
– The more interests and friends you have of your own, the more you will bring to your relationship.
– You can be perfectly happy with your partner and still be attracted to others.
– You never need to apologise for your partner’s bad behaviour. They are responsible for themselves.
– If someone goes cold on you, you can’t force them to fall back in love with you. It is out of your hands.
– Great sex can keep a relationship going long after its expiry date.
– It really helps if you like each other”s friends and family.
– If you find yourself physically repulsed by your partner, it’s all over.
-There is no painless way to end a relationship with someone who doesn’t want to go. They’re still going to be horribly hurt and you’re going to have to suck it up.
-You can’t be “friends” with an ex while still in love with them.
– The way you feel about yourself when you are with your partner will tell you everything you need to know about your relationship.
– Men can be such a pain in the arse. But gosh, they’re endearing.

 If you would like to read the full article, here is a link.


Margaret Newitt

www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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With courage, gratitude and acknowledging the beauty of each day

With courage, gratitude and acknowledging the beauty of each day

First of all, I would like to give my heartfelt thanks to everyone who has sent messages of condolence on the passing of my partner Reg on 20 April. Your personal messages have been a comfort during a time of great upheaval as I come to terms with Reg’s loss. The support of my family and friends has been wonderful. There has been so much love.

With courage, gratitude and acknowledging the beauty of each day

Many of you bravely shared your own stories of loss and grief. I know that my life is going through a huge change. I know that many of you have gone through this experience, or something different but no less challenging.

Thank you also for allowing me a little time to heal. Whilst the journey of grief can be long and unpredictable, I want to now focus on providing our dinners to you again. And now, with a new and deeper understanding of how it can feel to find yourself without a loving, life partner.

All current memberships periods will be extended by two months. Dinners are now on the events pages again for you to register your interest.

I am looking forward to getting back to what I do best…providing opportunities for you to meet like, minded singles. Not only that, but making new friendships and love connections.

with courage, gratitude and acknowledging the beauty of each day,

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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Want a different dating result? Change your thoughts

Want a different dating result? Change your thoughts

Are you are holding on to negative beliefs about finding new friends, meeting a suitable partner and dating? Your mind is very powerful. The stories you tell yourself can either hold you back and prevent positive change in your life or they can allow new wonderful people to come into your life and new relationships to blossom. Even the most optimistic of us can be guilty of this at times.

Want a different dating result? Change your thoughts

Want a different dating result? Change your thoughts

It’s always interesting when speaking to new potential members. Many have reached a point where they know they need to be proactive and are ready and open to what (and whom) will come into their lives and where it may take them.

Others have created problems and scenarios in their own mind before they have even stepped out the door for their first dinner. YOUR beliefs can either help or hurt you!
For example,  “I’m not good at meeting new people. ” or “I will never meet anyone as lovely as my late husband/wife.”

Limiting thoughts and beliefs create the same problems that repeat themselves in different relationships. Habitual negative thoughts run on autopilot,  and if you believe them, you can’t change your life and solve the same problems that can keep arising in different relationships and situations.

Your thoughts determine your feelings, and your behaviours and actions are determined by your thoughts. With negative thoughts running unchecked in your mind, it’s difficult to feel good about yourself. When your behaviour and actions come from feeling bad about yourself, you won’t get good results.

In order to achieve a different result, stop and check those negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones that are just as true or even more true.
An example would be, if you believe there are no good men/women out there, you’ll continue attracting men/women who are not good for you. When you stop this negative thought and replace it with one that serves you,  you’ll open up the possibility to attract  a wealth of new friends and even a partner to share your life.

Start meeting new people and expect to have an enjoyable time, meeting interesting people and don’t quit on yourself.
If you don’t like how things are, change it! You’re not a tree.” ~Ji Rohn

Replace your thoughts with positive ones this week

Checkout our upcoming dinners here

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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Single and out of practise

Single and out of practise
I speak with a lot of singles who are at different stages in their lives when it comes to relationships. They’ve had a variety of experiences in their lives, and they are working through dealing with them.

Single and out of practise

Single and out of practise

It makes no difference; I’m still going to be someone who doesn’t listen to the negativity. I’m not going to agree with you when you say that all the good ones are taken, or that everyone has too much baggage. Your mates/girlfriends might let you wallow in this line of thinking, but I won’t allow you to.

You won’t wow everyone, but that’s ok and perfectly normal
. All you will ever get from me is encouragement to step outside of your comfort zone. That comfort zone is your worst enemy, not me. I’m going to  encourage you to put on your best outfit, stand tall, get your attitude right and go out and wow some new people. You won’t wow everyone, but that’s ok and perfectly normal.

Don’t worry if some people don’t recognise your beautiful heart. They’re not meant to be in your life right now. The one or ones who do see your authentic beauty are the ones who have also lifted their spirit to the realms where you now dwell.
Our dinners and events are simply a vessel for you to use to facilitate your growth and to expand your social circle. They are designed just for you to use to learn how it feels to be a single person in a mixed group again.

There’s so much to learn when you’ve been out of the single scene for a long period of time. You’re out of practise. You’ll learn you’re not the only one who feels way out of their depth. Those who are very honest with themselves will admit they are frightened of being hurt, taken advantage of, made to feel inadequate, not good enough or invisible.

We all know the real truth. It is inside of us. You just need to listen. Your inner guide will protect you from being hurt if you stay quiet for long enough to hear what it is telling you.

There’s no better investment you can make than in yourself! So, if you want to change how your life is going around relationships, start investing your time, energy, focus and even some dollars to improve it.

Poor me, or there’s no great men/ladies out there, or I don’t have time, or I don’t know where to go, just isn’t acceptable anymore.

Checkout our upcoming dinners here

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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Men- you need to know this

Men- you need to  know this

Do you want that woman to give you her number and actually catch up with you again? Well, you need to get her permission before you even ask.
Talk with her about the things you are passionate about. Find out hers, and find ones that you both share.

Men you need to know this

Men you need to know this

This will get her excited to share new experiences with you. It’s much easier for a woman to say ‘yes’ to catch up with you again when there is a clear reason. She needs to be able to justify to herself (and her friends) why she wants to see you again. She wants to know that she is making a good choice.
Meet her at our dinners here

If you have already talked about a great cycling spot with a beautiful view along the way, your antique MG car you love to take for drives, or a fantastic band who have a show coming up, you are painting a picture in her mind. Then, it’s much easier to say:
I’d love you to see my car, come for a drive next weekend, or ‘So, we are definitely seeing that show next week.’ and then pullout your phone.
Instead of…
“Do you want to catch up some time? or “I would like your number to meet up again sometime.”
Which invitation do you think she is more likely to agree to? Which one makes it more difficult to say no to”?
She is no fool, she knows what’s at stake. She just needs a reason to say yes. So, plant the seed of excitement and anticipation early on, you won’t need to try so hard to sell her on the idea of spending time together – she will do it herself.
Meet her at our dinners here

If you would like some more insight into how this could work for you, call me on 1300 885 311 and I will be happy to encourage, and inspire you.

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

Dating worries?…not if you follow this simple plan

Dating worries?…not if you follow this simple plan

You are setting out of your house on an evening out. Are you excited and looking forward to having some fun and connecting with new interesting people?

Or, does the little voice in your head sabotage you before you even arrive by whispering that you won’t meet anyone you like?

Are you prioritising your dating life?

Dating worries?…not if you follow this simple plan

If:
you set your intention before you arrive at your destination,
you decide that you are looking forward to meeting people with interesting stories to tell,
you see yourself having a great time,
you are setting yourself up to succeed. You will be laying the groundwork for making new friends, dating and even falling in love to happen.

Expecting that the man or woman of your dreams will be there with outstretched arms waiting for you? You are setting yourself up to be disappointed and also missing out on a real gem.

We have all been guilty of judging. It’s a natural human trait. But it is self sabotaging behaviour. You meet some new people and make a judgement about them because of their hairstyle or the colour of their shoes. This moment of judgement could stop you from getting to know them and you could be missing out on a wonderful friendship.

Judging others is really only hurting ourselves. It’s no reflection on the other person.
“When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself. ” ~ Wayne Dyer

Do you notice negative things? Be committed to looking for opportunities that bring you pleasure. The delicious food, a spectacular view or the person you just met who gave you a tip about real estate. Notice the lovely smile on the person with the purple shoes.

And that person with the very different hairstyle, could be the most interesting person in the room. (There’s only a week between a bad and a good haircut)

Be committed to looking for opportunities this week

Check out our upcoming dinners here

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

Millions of people have happy relationships- why shouldn’t you?

Millions of people have happy relationships- why shouldn’t you?

If you have been single for a while, perhaps you have registered on an online dating site.

Or maybe you have been out with your girlfriends or mates hoping to meet someone. You got excited at first when you received a lot of messages on the online site. You even met a few people for coffee or a drink. But they weren’t anything like you were expecting them to be. Or you may have dated a couple of them for a while.

Millions of people have happy relationships- why shouldn’t you?

Millions of people have happy relationships- why shouldn’t you?

But after knowing them for a time, you found that the information they had given wasn’t exactly true. They said they were financially stable, but then you found out they had nothing but debts. They said they were ready for a real relationship, but they actually were still living with their ex.

So you decided:

Dating means disappointment
Dating means hurt
Dating is hard work

So you decide to take a well deserved break from dating.

You fill up your life with friends, family, work and travel. – another two years pass by.

You notice your friends are finding their special partner so you decide to dip your toe in the water of dating again.

But your previous experience tells you that relationships cause pain.

Don’t build your conclusions on a narrow field of experience. Millions of people have happy relationships. And if some people can be blissfully happy, why shouldn’t you be?

It’s true that dating involves some luck, timing, chemistry, similar goals and values. But people fall in love everyday. So if it hasn’t happened to you yet, it means that you need to meet more people.

If you were job hunting, you wouldn’t stop applying for positions because you hadn’t found the right position.

Our dinners will give you the opportunity to meet other singles in person in a relaxed, friendly environment. It’s time to step out, act confident and know you won’t fail.

Check out our upcoming dinners here

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

5 secret things women look for at A Table for Six

5 secret things women look for at A Table for Six

Would you like to know what women are really checking out about the men at our A Table for Six singles dinners? There are 5 secret things women look for at A Table for Six dinners.

5 secret things women look for at A Table for Six

5 secret things women look for at A Table for Six

Some of the things that the women are taking note of when they meet you at dinner may surprise you. Or maybe you already know.

How you interact with everyone at the table including the other men.
It is an opportunity for them to gauge how you act in social situations. Are you considerate and inclusive in your conversations with everyone at the table?

How you interact with the restaurant staff.
Do you joke around in a “brighten their day and make their job easier way”? Do you treat them with respect and courtesy?

How you deal with settling the bill at the end of the evening.
Are you generous by including a small tip? Are you organised by bringing along cash to put in your share?

Your general attitude to life in your conversations.
Are you upbeat and mostly positive in your conversations? Do you speak negatively about ex-partners or women in general?

Your appearance
Are your fingernails clean? Are your clothes clean, appropriate and fairly up to date in fashion. Do you put in some effort to keep some sense of fitness and health?

I’m sure these are the things that you are taking note of when you meet women at dinner as well. It works both ways. Either way, we appreciate that you have dressed up nicely and come to dinner to meet our lovely female members.

Check out our upcoming dinners here

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

Why are women so confusing?

Why are women so confusing?

There are plenty of things that men find confusing about women. There are the mood swings, mixed messages and nightmare shopping trips.

Here are some things that men told me they find mysterious and totally confusing about women.  Have you experienced any of these? Why are women so confusing?

Do you find these things confusing about women?

Do you find these things confusing about women?

1. They can go to the shops all day and look at things they have no intention of buying. Why do they do this? Men go directly to the shop to buy what they need and then go home.

2. When a woman holds up two dresses, maybe a black dress and a red dress and asks: “Which dress should I wear this evening?” You reply the red one and then she says she thinks she would prefer the black one, so you say: “Ok, wear the black one,” and then she says obviously you don’t like it. It’s like banging your head up against a brick wall! I think she looks great in either and don’t really care which dress she wears. And, why did she ask me when she made up her own mind anyway? Why are women so confusing?

3. When they go to the toilet together as a group. Why do they do that? What are they talking about?

4. They want you to be around then all the time and they don’t like it if you go out with your mates or spend too much tine at the gym. but it’s OK for them to go out or on holidays with their girlfriends.

5. The amount of makeup they put on their faces, when they look naturally gorgeous without any. And why does it take so long for women to get ready?

6. Why is she upset when I say she “looks nice”? Why are they attracted to bad guys? And why are my shoes so important? Why can’t a guy go out in his comfortable footwear?

7. I don’t understand it when she says “I’m fine” while she is crying. Either tell me what’s wrong or get on with it.

8. Why do women say one thing and mean the complete opposite? Why do they talk so much? How can they have so much to say – and it’s always about the same stuff?

9. Why do they need to decode and analyse everything you say and every text message? Such as how long it is and how many kisses there are. It doesn’t mean anything!

10. Their whole thought processes. How do women get to their decisions? The way they deal with their emotions is confusing to me. As a man, if I’m angry, I’m angry, and I know I’m angry and what I’m angry at. Women can be angry and have no reason why. They don’t even know what they are angry or emotional at. They can start out at the beginning of the day angry because they are running late and at the end of the day it is because you left the toilet seat up. Not the best analogy, but I think it makes the point. Men think in mostly black and white. Women have a thousand shades of grey. I love women…Mothers, sisters, friends…but a lot of the time, I have absolutely no idea what is going on in their heads.

The last point perfectly sums up what many men are confused about. They find it very difficult to work out what and how women are thinking.

Interestingly, men seem to think that women are playing games. Women often think that men are the ones playing games.

I have to admit as a woman myself, I do sympathise after hearing the answers and can understand how the female of the species can seem confusing to men. We often say one thing and mean another. Hopefully, it is worth the confusion.

Men and women communicate in different ways. We will always find each other frustrating and fascinating. But, that is what makes life exciting.

Check out our upcoming dinners here

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311