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Why some men almost always get the woman’s number

Why some men almost always get the woman’s number

I’m sure you have heard the dating advice about the “Fear of Failure”. Should you ask the woman for her number?

This traditional Chinese proverb offers some wisdom.
“He who asks is a fool for five minutes, but he who does not ask is a fool for ever.”

Maybe you’ve heard this quote by Wayne Gretzky, former National Hockey League superstar.
“One hundred percent of the shots you don’t take don’t go in.”

One guy decides to use this wisdom and asks and fails…over and again.

Guy number 2 decides not to ask for any woman’s number. Even though he meets women he finds attractive and have shown interest in him.

Why some men almost always get the woman’s number

Why some men almost always get the woman’s number

The moral of the story? You can’t win if you don’t try…true enough!
Or “Don’t let the fear of failure hold you back”.

Guy number one didn’t lose anything by asking. But he probably felt a bit deflated. He might have decided there was something wrong with the women he was meeting. However, if he continues to keep asking, he is certain to eventually get a number and a date.

Let me ask you a question!

Would you tackle a crocodile the same way more than once if it meant you came off worse?

Or borrow money from the mafia to pay your debts more than once?

There would be serious consequences!

People who try to do this, don’t live very much longer.

So, fear of failure is a very healthy thing!

But, there is another guy in this story… Guy number three.

Guy number three realises that attractive women get asked for their number or a date a lot. He needs to stand out. How to get the positive response he is looking for? He doesn’t want to waste his time. He wants to meet his special woman sooner.

There are many ways to stand out from the crowd (of men) and impress when asking for a contact number or date.

When you meet a woman you are attracted to…listen and observe! First, listen for her name. If you missed it, there is nothing wrong with asking her again. Call her by her name when you are speaking. It will help you remember it, and she will like it too.

Listen to the things she is interested in. There are a myriad of clues in there to help you in the future.

We have a standard “contact request” message we send. But, what if you asked us to send something special like this?

“Cassandra, I know you love Italian food. “I know this place..it’s not far from your area… they make  the absolute best beef ragu with the most delicious tomato and red wine sauce. The beef is so tender it melts in your mouth. And they have the coldest beer anywhere on earth. Would you like to go there with me sometime soon?”

OR

“Felicity, you mentioned you love jazz music! My favourite jazz band play a fantastic night of  soul soothing and booty-shaking tunes. Would you like to join me for an evening of toe-tapping and great music and atmosphere?”

There is no guarantee this will have the desired response, but maybe she will be very impressed that you took interest in her and what she had to say. It could be a refreshing change.

Why not try this next time you meet a single woman at dinner that you find attractive? We will be delighted to send your personalised contact request.

Our goal is that you have the best possible experience at our dinners and events and especially that you have the best possible chance of getting a contact number of that special woman you met.

Check out our upcoming dinners here

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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This one very important thing we can control

This one very important thing we can control

“Your future depends on many things, but mostly on you” ~Frank Tyger

That’s hard to hear isn’t it? We can’t really blame our parents, our upbringing, the economy or anyone else. It would be so much easier if we could. We’ve all heard people complaining that they didn’t  have the upbringing or the opportunities. Possibly we’ve even gone down that road ourselves at times.

But, you know, in reality, it’s a very good thing. The people I’ve observed who have overcome a situation, or become successful in any area of their life, have had one thing in common. They have been persistent in developing the skills they needed to  get there. They didn’t waste their energy blaming a lack of opportunity, or other people. They just kept going. Sure, they failed at times.

This one very important thing we can control

This one very important thing we can control

Remember when you see a man at the top of a mountain, he didn’t fall there.”~Unknown

I think it is pretty exciting when you think about it. There are a lot of things in life that we don’t have control over. But, this one very important thing we do. Our own future in in our own hands and it will take some patience, perspiration and mostly perseverance. And at least we know it’s possible.

Would you like to make a change in your Single/Social life? If you would, we are passionate providing opportunities for you to meet like-minded singles who would like to have genuine friendships and genuine relationships. Come on over to our website www.atableforsix.com.au and register interest. Or, email me on info@atableforsix.com.au

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www.atableforsix.com.au
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Top 5 first Date Ideas To Take a Special Woman

Top 5 first Date Ideas To Take a Special Woman

Once you have met a special woman at dinner and it’s time for a first date, here’s the top 5 first date ideas to take a special woman to help you stand out from the crowd (according to askmen.com)

5. A trip to the local art gallery (for the artsy girl)
4. Local music show – Conversation is important on a first date, but a combo of conversation and pleasant distraction and setting a fun relaxed mood is golden.

Top 5 First Date Ideas To Take A Special Woman

Top 5 First Date Ideas To Take A Special Woman

3. Play tourist – Take your date on a touristy excursion around your hometown and see the city from a different perspective.
2. Ice skating – A great date for women who love to be active. No matter if she doesn’t know how to skate, a great opportunity for holding hands.
1. Try new cuisine – Sharing new experiences together is a great way to build a connection. Try something a little adventurous, a new ethnic cuisine, something neither of you have tried before.

 

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Are you a go getter who creates a life they love?

Are you a go getter who creates a life they love?

I had a question recently.

Question. Hi Margaret, I  need a change in my life. I’m 43 and I think I’ve missed the boat. I feel insecure about getting out there and meeting people again after a long relationship. It just seems easier to give my attention to my work, and spend my time with my family and friends. Any advice?

In one of my favourite books “The Artist’s Way” by Julia Cameron, she asks “Do you know how old I will be by the time I learn to really play the piano/ act/ paint/ change my social life, meet lots of like-minded singles and a loving partner?” By the way, I added the last bit about changing your life and meeting a partner etc!

Are you a go getter who creates a life they love?

Are you a go getter who creates a life they love?

The answer. The answer to this question….The same age you will be if you don’t.

Feedback -I’d happily do it again. Here’s some feedback that came in last week from a gorgeous lady who attended her first dinner. (And she made a new friend already)

“Hi Margaret,

I had a lovely night on Saturday and found all the group good company and
very pleasant to talk to and we had plenty to talk about. I have to admit I
was very nervous and walked past the restaurant several times before I went
in. My fears were quickly laid to rest and I would happily do this again. I
give the dinner enjoyment  10/10.
The restaurant and meal was alright. We
weren’t hurried and were able to stay until quite late.
Thank you again for organising a great group of people.”

Name withheld

If you believe it, you will see it. Don’t listen to the women who say “all the good men are taken” or the men who say “I can’t find any good women”. These are self-fulfilling beliefs. If you believe there is a shortage of good partners out there, that will be your experience. If you believe there are lots of interesting, classy, kind people for you to meet and choose from, your experience is going to be amazing!

This is your life and I’d love to help. Have you put off something else in your life and now you want to go back and tell your younger self to just do it? If so, I want to hear from you, so that you are congratulating yourself in twelve, six or three months time for being a go getter who creates a life they love. As Nike says “Just do it!”

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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Create the most wonderful luck you can dream of

Create the most wonderful luck you can dream of

Do you know someone who seems to be very lucky? They have met a wonderful partner and they are very happy and enjoying a close loving relationship.

Do you believe that they are just lucky? Most of the people I know who have had success in relationships (or in any other area of life) have not just been drawn out of a life lottery  to receive this blessing. It may appear to you that they just went out on their first evening as a single person and this perfect person just appeared. But behind every overnight success there is a lot of resilience.

Create the most wonderful luck you can dream of

Create the most wonderful luck you can dream of

You see, we all make our own luck.  Luck is about showing up in life with an open attitude. It’s about believing, connecting, seeing opportunities, showing up, being consistent, loyal, and living life fully open and boldly. Being lucky is about a whole lot of resilience and persistance.

So many people expect that they should have everything they desire straight away. We live in a quick fix society where many things are available at our fingertips. But the important things in life are worth waiting for and they don’t usually happen overnight. People don’t want to hear that a lot of preparation and persistence is needed to attain what they want.

If you go out and someone says something to upset you, you can choose how to react. You can choose to let them spoil your evening, or you can choose to let it go. You can even choose to be empathetic to them. What could have happened in their life today to make them act this way?

People who understand that they are working towards an outcome, know that we hold the power to create our own experiences and everything that happens to us. In any given moment we have the opportunity to experience a bad moment or to observe positive things and enjoy a great moment.

The person you know who seems so lucky because they went out and met their partner most likely went out on many occasions with an open, loving attitude to the people they met. They possibly didn’t always feel on top of the world. They possibly didn’t always feel like being positive and making an effort to ensure they engaged with everyone. But they know that how you act and react to to others is key to how happy you are in your life.

Create the most wonderful luck you can dream of. So go out and create the most wonderful luck you can dream of.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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Do you find these things confusing about women?

Do you find these things confusing about women?

There are plenty of things that men find confusing about women. There are the mood swings, mixed messages and nightmare shopping trips.

Do you find these things confusing about women?

Do you find these things confusing about women?

Here are some things that men told me they find mysterious and totally confusing about women.  Have you experienced any of these?

1. They can go to the shops all day and look at things they have no intention of buying. Why do they do this? Men go directly to the shop to buy what they need and then go home.

2. When a woman holds up two dresses, maybe a black dress and a red dress and asks: “Which dress should I wear this evening?” You reply the red one and then she says she thinks she would prefer the black one, so you say: “Ok, wear the black one,” and then she says obviously you don’t like it. It’s like banging your head up against a brick wall! I think she looks great in either and don’t really care which dress she wears. And, why did she ask me when she made up her own mind anyway?

3. When they go to the toilet together as a group. Why do they do that? What are they talking about?

4. They want you to be around then all the time and they don’t like it if you go out with your mates or spend too much tine at the gym. but it’s OK for them to go out or on holidays with their girlfriends.

5. The amount of makeup they put on their faces, when they look naturally gorgeous without any. And why does it take so long for women to get ready?

6. Why is she upset when I say she “looks nice”? Why are they attracted to bad guys? And why are my shoes so important? Why can’t a guy go out in his comfortable footwear?

7. I don’t understand it when she says “I’m fine” while she is crying. Either tell me what’s wrong or get on with it.

8. Why do women say one thing and mean the complete opposite? Why do they talk so much? How can they have so much to say – and it’s always about the same stuff?

9. Why do they need to decode and analyse everything you say and every text message? Such as how long it is and how many kisses there are. It doesn’t mean anything!

10. Their whole thought processes. How do women get to their decisions? The way they deal with their emotions is confusing to me. As a man, if I’m angry, I’m angry, and I know I’m angry and what I’m angry at. Women can be angry and have no reason why. They don’t even know what they are angry or emotional at. They can start out at the beginning of the day angry because they are running late and at the end of the day it is because you left the toilet seat up. Not the best analogy, but I think it makes the point. Men think in mostly black and white. Women have a thousand shades of grey. I love women…Mothers, sisters, friends…but a lot of the time, I have absolutely no idea what is going on in their heads.

The last point perfectly sums up what many men are confused about. They find it very difficult to work out what and how women are thinking.

Interestingly, men seem to think that women are playing games. Women often think that men are the ones playing games.

I have to admit as a woman myself, I do sympathise after hearing the answers and can understand how the female of the species can seem confusing to men. We often say one thing and mean another. Hopefully, it is worth the confusion.

Men and women communicate in different ways. We will always find each other frustrating and fascinating. But, that is what makes life exciting.

Check out our upcoming dinners here

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

Are people meeting the best version of you at dinner?

Are people meeting the best version of you at dinner?

You never get a second chance to make a great first impression. That’s certainly the case when meeting singles for friendship or a potential partner at our dinners. Research shows that within a few seconds, with just a glance, people have judged your level of success.
Within minutes they have even decided about your level of intelligence, trustfulness, worthiness, competence, friendliness and confidence.
Make sure that when someone meets you at dinner, they are seeing you at your best.

Are people meeting the best version of you at dinner?

Are people meeting the best version of you at dinner?

What does the way you present yourself say about you?
If you aren’t sure how to assess your own presentation, a great way to help you to think objectively, is to look at people of your own gender and age group (your competition) and also people who could be possible friends or partners. Looking at others is easier to help us clarify our own likes and dislikes.
Think about why you like this trait and why you dislike the traits of others. What is it that attracts you to them or turns you off? Is there something similar you could incorporate into the way you present yourself, or something you could eliminate from the way you are presenting yourself?
This little exercise is useful for the way we present ourselves physically, but also could be used to think about the way we present ourselves in our behaviour and our demeanour.

Remember, when people meet you at dinner, they are deciding if they would like to follow up and request your number to see you again. The way you present yourself at dinner provides them with clues to whether you would make a great friend or partner.
Make sure they didn’t miss out on seeing the very best version of you by looking your very best physically and also by presenting your best behaviour.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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5 secret things women look for at A Table for Six

5 secret things women look for at A Table for Six

5 secret things women look for at A Table for Six

5 secret things women look for at A Table for Six

Would you like to know what women are really checking out about the men at our A Table for Six singles dinners?

Some of the things that the women are taking note of when they meet you at dinner may surprise you. Or maybe you already know.

How you interact with everyone at the table including the other men.
It is an opportunity for them to gauge how you act in social situations. Are you considerate and inclusive in your conversations with everyone at the table?

How you interact with the restaurant staff.
Do you joke around in a “brighten their day and make their job easier way”? Do you treat them with respect and courtesy?

How you deal with settling the bill at the end of the evening.
Are you generous by including a small tip? Are you organised by bringing along cash to put in your share?

Your general attitude to life in your conversations.
Are you upbeat and mostly positive in your conversations? Do you speak negatively about ex-partners or women in general?

Your appearance
Are your fingernails clean? Are your clothes clean, appropriate and fairly up to date in fashion. Do you put in some effort to keep some sense of fitness and health?

I’m sure these are the things that you are taking note of when you meet women at dinner as well. It works both ways. Either way, we appreciate that you have dressed up nicely and come to dinner to meet our lovely female members.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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Attitude is everything in finding a partner

Attitude is everything in finding a partner

There are some attitudes that are proven to give us a higher likelihood of finding a long-term partner, or even to gain so much more enjoyment from our dinners.  If we embrace these attitudes, it could very well mean that we will find a “Mr or Ms Right’ a lot sooner. The attitudes that are included in this category are:

  •     When you meet someone with whom there is no chemistry, you adopt the attitude not to write them off straight away.
  •     You know how to be charming, and you’re not just saving it up for the right person. You are generous and show it to everyone you meet.
  •     You make an effort to be friendly with everyone you meet, regardless of whether they meet your expectations.
  •     You look for the good qualities in every person you meet.
  •     You know you can never have too many friends and you welcome new people into your life.
    Attitude is everything

    Attitude is everything in finding a partner

    Take the pressure off yourself and commit to just having some fun along the way. It’s the type of attitude that men find very attractive – being happy, confident and not focused on whether they are marriage/partner material.

    Commit to having fun, and I predict you will enjoy the process and have people standing in line to spend tine with you.

    Thank you to our members who already know this. That’s what makes our A Table for Six dinners so successful.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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Set yourself apart as a gentleman

Set yourself apart as a gentleman

The basic fundamentals of dating and courting a woman have not really changed over time. Your goal should be to set yourself apart from other men she has met and dated by showing a woman that you are genuinely interested in her, and that you will continue to  put in an effort to do so – not only on the first few weeks of dating, but for the long term (potentially forever).

Set yourself apart as a gentleman

Set yourself apart as a gentleman

Does this sound like too much work and effort to you? Think about this: The right woman will love and care for you and will always exceed or match your efforts. Both of you making an effort together makes the dream work. It is far more rewarding and you will have much more fulfillment by putting an effort into one relationship with a special woman you truly love, than it is to put short term effort into always meeting a new woman a few months later because you didn’t put in the effort and attention your special woman deserved.

As a gentleman dating in the modern era, you can easily set yourself apart by how you carry yourself, your presentation, and very importantly, how you treat others. To make a good impression, hold higher standards for yourself than most of the male population. Being a male is a matter of birth, being a man is a matter of age, but being a gentleman is a matter of choice.

But let’s cut to the chase, what can you do, realistically, in today’s dating world to attract a mature woman who is tired of playing games?

Stay humble
If you want people to have a high opinion of you the key is not to tell them how brilliant you are.

Bragging to a woman on a first date about a recent promotion, or your brand new car, and how many properties you own, may seem like harmless ways to share good news.

However, self-promotion often backfires. Men often get the trade-off between self-promotion and modesty wrong. A man will mention his money as a means of winning a woman over. Unfortunately, sometimes this works. But most of the time, a woman requires so much more from a man than an impressive bank statement, and the kind of man who talks about his money at length, probably doesn’t have much else.

In modern times, women make their own money and have their own possessions. They  are not always impressed by yours. Sure, she will want to know you have some ambitions and want to match her efforts in life, but bragging about who you’ve met or what you drive or where you live, will send her running in the opposite direction.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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