Starting over after a breakup or a long relationship
I often speak to singles who have come out of a long relationship. Sometimes it is quite recently and other times it has been some years. They are not sure if they are ready to go out to our singles dinners to meet people again.
Starting over can be a very tough thing to do. But most of us have to face this in our lives in one way or another. Taking control of new circumstances such as the death of a loved one or the estrangement of a partner is important in turning your life around.
One of the most important things to do is to give yourself new things to do to keep your mind busy. Your mind is a beautiful tool, so don’t allow it to dwell on the past too much as that will stop you enjoying the present. You don’t need to destroy the past, but to put it away until we are healthy enough to deal with what happened.
Surround yourself with your friends and family. If they haven’t already surrounded you with their love and support, go and see them yourself. They will provide comfort and remind you how wonderful you are.
Starting to date again and meeting new singles after a breakup could be a little like getting back into the job market. Waiting too long can have people wondering if there’s something wrong with you. But the longer you wait, the harder it can be to get back into the world of meeting new people.
The healthiest thing to do is to go out and meet other singles. It’s perfectly fine to be honest and let people know you are testing the waters. Many others have been through something similar and will understand how you are feeling. Our A Table for Six singles dinners are designed to give you the opportunity to go out and meet in a friendly pressure free environment.
The decision to date again is a deeply personal one that only you can make. But rest assured that love walks on earth in many forms, and this may be an opportunity to teach another human being what it means to be truly loved.