Some universal truths about relationships
I find it difficult to write about myself and my journey through grief and learning to live in a whole new world with out my partner Reg. My own life was not a tropic I included very often in my blogs. But, everything changed recently.
And many have shared that they are following my journey. I would like to let you know that I am doing as well as can be expected.
Friends and family lovingly let me know that I have to go through this journey. I do understand that it can’t be avoided. And, I utilise any tool that could help me. The ones I have turned to so far are, meditation, listening to uplifting podcasts and audio-books, repeating affirmations out loud, making sure I eat healthy and getting quite a bit of exercise each day. Of course, surrounding myself with loved ones is one of the best treatments.
One of our members kindly drew my attention to a recent article in the newspapers written by Kerrie Sackville. She had started dating again after divorce and made some interesting pointers. I’m sure many of them will resonate with you.
– You need to pay attention to your instincts. If something feels wrong to you it probably is.
– The most important thing you can do for your love life is to be okay with yourself.
– You need to really enjoy your partner’s company. If you don’t then there’s no point in staying together. And if you do, then most other things become bearable.
– A wicked sense of humour can be a great aphrodisiac.
– The more interests and friends you have of your own, the more you will bring to your relationship.
– You can be perfectly happy with your partner and still be attracted to others.
– You never need to apologise for your partner’s bad behaviour. They are responsible for themselves.
– If someone goes cold on you, you can’t force them to fall back in love with you. It is out of your hands.
– Great sex can keep a relationship going long after its expiry date.
– It really helps if you like each other”s friends and family.
– If you find yourself physically repulsed by your partner, it’s all over.
-There is no painless way to end a relationship with someone who doesn’t want to go. They’re still going to be horribly hurt and you’re going to have to suck it up.
-You can’t be “friends” with an ex while still in love with them.
– The way you feel about yourself when you are with your partner will tell you everything you need to know about your relationship.
– Men can be such a pain in the arse. But gosh, they’re endearing. If you would like to read the full article, here is a link.
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