The first person you go on a date with most probably won’t be The One. And the sixth one probably won’t be either. That’s why it’s good to keep your options open and date as many new people as possible.
To know if someone is right for you, you need to have dated a number of people and to be able to recognise when someone is “wrong” for you. You can’t make informed decisions unless you have something to compare your experience to.
It doesn’t hurt to say “yes” when your contact details are requested from someone you met at dinner. You are not leading them on when you say “yes” to catching up for a coffee or drink. It is purely giving yourself the opportunity to spend time with them and get to know them a little better.
Meeting, spending time with and dating a number of people will help you to bring your A Game when you do meet someone who can be a suitable partner for you.
After all, there are many facets of richness to be found in love. Whether you are falling in live, finding comfort in long-term love with a person, having your heart broken, grieving the loss of a relationship, there is always value to be found in every level of love and all our experiences with it. Some of the feelings will be wonderful and some may even be horrendous, but it’s all good for us and all helps us to learn, grow and change.
We are never guaranteed of being protected from emotional pain or loss forever. “The practice of love offers no place of safety. We risk loss, hurt, pain. We risk being acted upon by forces outside our control.” ~ Bell Hooks from All about love:New visions-