You’re living in a beautiful apartment in the French quarter in Paris. You’re waking up with the man/woman of your dreams. Around the walls of the apartment, are paintings in various stages of completion. The aroma of freshly baked pastries from the local boulongerie is wafting through the window. Today, together you’ll be exploring a new part of Paris you haven’t yet discovered. You’ll be taking your easels and brushes to spend time painting, only interrupted for coffee and Beef Bourguignon.
Is it possible to make this life, or your own version of your dream life a reality?
Here’s my top tips for singles who are on the brink and want to build a better social/dating life? They’ve gotten to the point where they know they have to make a change. What are the best action items?
- The first and most important thing is to believe that you can make that change. Our subconscious beliefs are driving our decisions all day every day even though we aren’t always conscious of it. Your thoughts and beliefs are precious. So guard them very carefully. Make sure that you are feeding them with examples of others who have achieved what you desire. Find the best role models (not just average, but extraordinary ones) you possibly can and put their photos and stories everywhere you will see them several times a day.
2. Another great tool is to have a great mantra. Something you can repeat to yourself every time you interact with people who are potential friends or partners. We all have a “chatter box” who incessantly talks to us in our own head. Why not train that “chatterbox” to work in our favour? An example may be “With my head up and an open heart, my life and love are revealing to me.”
Ask yourself what you would like to create. What is your friendship/love intention? Would you like to have a new circle of friends who share your interests? Would you like to meet a new best friend to share your holidays, movies, dinners with? Would you like to meet a partner who wants to move to Paris with you to spend your lives painting the romantic scenery?
3. Don’t limit yourself. Your mantra should come from a place of pure possibility. Even if you may think it’s not possible. Remember your brain doesn’t know the difference between reality and something that we clearly, strongly imagine. Adding clear images, sounds and even smells to your imagined new life will assist in drawing it to you sooner. This allows the brain to rehearse the situation we want to create. Top sports people use this technique to mentally see themselves getting a hole in one, or making that high jump.
Changing your life may not be easy, but after going through a huge change in my own life, I can tell you, it’s worth the effort. You need to be brave and to guard your thoughts and who you listen to.
One of the reasons I love being able to offer singles the opportunities to meet, is to be a witness to so many brave people who step up and take a stand for themselves and their lives. I can tell you, most have never regretted following the voice of hope in their hearts.
“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”
— A.A. Milne
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