Your beliefs about dating can help you or hurt you
Are you are holding on to negative beliefs about finding new friends, meeting a suitable partner and dating? Your mind is very powerful. The stories you tell yourself can either hold you back and prevent positive change in your life or they can allow new wonderful people to come into your life and new relationships to blossom. Even the most optimistic of us can be guilty of this at times.
It’s always interesting when speaking to new potential members. Many have reached a point where they know they need to be proactive and are ready and open to what (and whom) will come into their lives and where it may take them.
Others have created problems and scenarios in their own mind before they have even stepped out the door for their first dinner. YOUR beliefs can either help or hurt you!
For example, “I’m not good at meeting new people. ” or “I will never meet anyone as lovely as my late husband/wife.”
Limiting thoughts and beliefs create the same problems that repeat themselves in different relationships. Habitual negative thoughts run on autopilot, and if you believe them, you can’t change your life and solve the same problems that can keep arising in different relationships and situations.
Your thoughts determine your feelings, and your behaviours and actions are determined by your thoughts. With negative thoughts running unchecked in your mind, it’s difficult to feel good about yourself. When your behaviour and actions come from feeling bad about yourself, you won’t get good results.
In order to achieve a different result, stop and check those negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones that are just as true or even more true.
An example would be, if you believe there are no good men/women out there, you’ll continue attracting men/women who are not good for you. When you stop this negative thought and replace it with one that serves you, you’ll open up the possibility to attract a wealth of new friends and even a partner to share your life.
Start meeting new people and expect to have an enjoyable time, meeting interesting people and don’t quit on yourself.
“If you don’t like how things are, change it! You’re not a tree.” ~Ji Rohn