Don’t forget to celebrate your dating progress.
So often we have a big goal in mind. We know exactly what we want.
“I want a husband/wife who I adore and who adores me.”
Maybe they are nowhere in sight just yet. However, It’s important to remember and acknowledge the progress you have made towards your big goal.
Six months ago, you were newly single. Not a thing planned for the weekend, except feeling sorry for yourself. All of your friends are married or in relationships, so no possibility of a fun night out there.
But look at you now! You’ve updated your wardrobe and hairstyle. You’re feeling much more confident. You have met some new single friends at those fitness classes you’ve joined. Maybe you’ve joined A Table for Six where you’ve had some very enjoyable evenings meeting new singles over dinner. The new friends you’ve made enjoy going out for dinner, or the movies, or to that sporting game as much as you do, so your weekends are filling up quickly now.
Don’t downplay your progress. Feelings of guilt or unworthiness can take the wind out of your sails. Charles Duhigg, author of acclaimed book The Power of Habit states: “A huge body of research has shown that small wins have enormous power, and influence disproportionate to the accomplishments of the victories themselves.”
Your confidence has grown a lot because you know there are other interesting singles who are single too.
So, track your progress. Your life is a little better every day and you are making progress. Your social life is so much better than it was six months ago. Rather than complaining that you haven’t arrived at the big goal yet, embrace your evolution.
“Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” ~Martin Luther King Jr