If you asked your female friends who are married or in long term successful relationships if they were immediately attracted to their partner, what would they say? There's a good chance they would tell you that there was no immediate attraction.

When I have spoken to ladies who are married or long term successful relationships, they have mostly said they didn't like him that much when they first met. But as they spent time with him, he became an acquired taste.

If a man behaves in a way that makes you feel good, he will begin to look attractive to you. As you get to know him and appreciate his positive qualities, he will look more and more attractive. A man who doesn't initially make your heart skip a beat, can end up making you deliriously happy!

Some qualities you can only discover as you spend time with him, such as kindness, generosity, humor. He understands the things that are important and really matter.-Calling you when he said he would, being understanding when you are tired or busy, being faithful.

Granted, there needs to be at least a little bit of physical attraction. But even if it is a tiny bit, it can grow into something  huge.

So don't watch too many of those  romantic movies where the hero is tall, dark and handsome. That isn't what will make you happy. You can find happiness in an unexpected package. Just allow the package an opportunity to reveal it's hidden gifts.

Blessings

Margaret Newitt

www.atableforsix.com.au