“In Sickness And In Health”
Have you said those words? If so, when you did, I’m sure you said them with the very best of intentions.
When considering if you are interested in dating, getting to know and perhaps marrying a partner, do you really think about what those words mean?
Some of the more common considerations made are if they could bring offspring into the reunion. Or, what is their extended family like.? Perhaps their financial situation and their temperament.
Yet, few people really consider something that is a vital question – can I suffer with this person?
Suffering is an inevitable part of life. No one escapes it in the long run. As we get older we come to know that suffering is not a rare occurrence. It is a common aspect of life.
Sorrow comes in many forms, yet it is guaranteed to come. Something that is important to consider is that not everyone suffers well.
Some people are unable to face the realities of life that are difficult. Some are easily overcome by life’s difficulties and are unable to cope at all.
Those who are able to put these difficulties into perspective, know they can count on themselves to deal with it, and simply put one foot in front of the other are an inspiration.
Who do you want beside you when the doctor says “I’m sorry there is nothing we can do.”
On whose shoulder do you want to lean when you tragically lose a family member?
With whom do you want to lay beside when you don’t know whether your child will ever come home?
When the world seems a crazy place, in whose eyes do you want to look?
Find someone who suffers well. You may be more attracted to a beautiful smile than someone who shows quiet determination. You may think it is more important to have interests in common than to have a quiet internal strength.
When challenges appear, you will appreciate someone by your side who believes in you, someone who encourages you and continues to have hope no matter what is put in front of you.
Having someone beside you who knows that suffering will come and go will make a huge difference. The best partner to have will confront sorrows with you. They will be able to laugh and cry with you. And, most importantly, they will offer support and hope in all of life’s challenges.
“The best possible thing you can get out of a relationship is that you’re with someone who encourages you to be the best version of yourself every day.” ~Nishan Panwar
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