Have you ever reached out to someone you’d like to catch up with again, or someone you admire and would love to get to know? You called and left a phone message or sent off a text or email. You checked for a response….and waited…and waited, but nothing.
Who do they think they are? You start to think that they don’t think you are insert…. cool/ good looking/ slim/wealthy/ important…enough. You go into all of those insecurities that are hiding just beneath the surface ready to emerge. Soon your thoughts replay in your mind the story that “Well who do they think they are anyway?” If they don’t want to be in touch with me, I certainly don’t want anything to do with them!
Hold that thought. Don Miguel in his book “The Four Agreements” his second agreement says, “Don’t take anything personally – Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.”
Don’t take anything personally. Don Miguel tells us not to take anything personally. Not criticism, not rejection, not even praise. “Taking things personally is the maximum expression of selfishness. It makes the assumption everything is about me.”
They have busy lives too. In our busy lives many of us are drowning in email, overloaded at work, and struggling to keep up at home. Just maybe, your message was overlooked by mistake. Or, it may not have reached them.
Have you been guilty of this too? You probably have overlooked responding to someone yourself. In my own life, one of my girlfriends left a phone message last week, and I haven’t had a chance to call her back yet. It doesn’t mean that I no longer value her friendship or care about her. It’s just that time hasn’t allowed that call yet. So, I’d better make sure I call her later today.
Reach out again. You’ve got nothing to lose. If there is someone on your mind that you reached out to, but didn’t hear back from, why not send another message? You’ve got nothing to lose. If you send a friendly follow up message something like this “I know you are really busy and may have forgotten about my message. So I am just following up with you again.”
Don’t make them wrong or feel guilty. Saying that you contacted them and hadn’t heard back and that you are upset won’t produce the desired outcome.
So try reaching out to someone you have tried to contact one more time. You might be delighted with the response.