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ONLINE DATING vs Meeting at our Dinners. Meet the best singles at A Table for Six

ONLINE DATING vs Meeting at our Dinners. Meet the best singles at A Table for Six
Online dating has been tried by 51% of Australians. Or so, some recent statistics I read claimed.  Most of the people I speak to fall into one of two different camps. There are the people who just can’t bring themselves to put their photo and profile on the online dating sites. The thought of “advertising” themselves as available is just too unsavoury. And if they are in certain work positions, it makes it even more out of their comfort zone. The others are people who have tried online dating, but for one reason or another, it doesn’t suit them. Your membership with A Table for Six is discreet. No photos on the internet and we only pass on your contact details if you give permission for us to do so.

ONLINE DATING vs Meeting at our Dinners. Meet the best singles at A Table for Six

ONLINE DATING vs Meeting at our Dinners. Meet the best singles at A Table for Six

Would you enjoy having your dinners all organised for you?
Some people find the whole process of online dating very time consuming. Going through profiles, taking the time to contact people with varying results. But a very common story I hear is that if they do finally meet someone in person for coffee, they are very often nothing like the profile or photo displayed on the online dating sites. Or else, after communicating for quite some time, when meeting, there was just no chemistry. At A Table for Six, we do all the organising of the dinners, and send the confirmation details once we have a suitable group organised. You get to just go along and enjoy meeting like minded singles .

Avoid the scammers on online dating sites
Of course, unfortunately there are the stories of people who have been taken advantage of by people praying on vulnerable singles hoping to find a special someone on the Online Dating sites. One particular lady told me that even though she now knew that the person she had been communicating with for 18 months was a scammer, she was still missing his messages. He had groomed her for a long time,  knowing just the right things to say to her. Luckily, she eventually had some alarm bells ringing when he continued to ask her to send more money and she reported it to police. But she had already sent a substantial amount of money to him.

Meet singles who are looking for genuine relationships, just like you
The focus when attending our dinners is to go out and enjoy a fun, social evening in a relaxed environment. You should expect to enjoy chatting with other singles on a wide range of interesting topics while savouring delicious food and drinks.  Because of the more relaxed group situation, everyone can relax and be themselves. Many times people have told me they met someone at dinner and had a connection, but if they had looked at a profile and photo online, they would most likely have discarded them. So many things are not definable when viewing profiles on the online dating sites. The way someone speaks, their mannerisms, their kindness and concern for others, their quirky sense of humour are only apparent when meeting in person in a relaxed situation such as our singles dinners.

Here is my favourite after-dinner recent feedback
Can I start by saying thank you for the guidance and professional approach from membership right through to the days leading to the arranged dinner.
An exciting and nervous time pre dinner but it all felt very comfortable from the time I sat down and joined such a beautiful group of people. Though I did arrived late as the traffic was very heavy due to an accident , the group where happy to wait till I arrived to order.
The restaurant I’d rate a 7 , food was delicious and the atmosphere was fabulous, we all enjoyed the belly dancing.
I rate my whole dining experience an 8, we where all enjoying each others company and sharing in conversation. It really felt like we’ve known each other for long time.
I sat next to P and naturally engaged in more conversation as the night went on , we had so much to say and really enjoyed his company and sharing our common work industry.
I wasn’t sure what to expect but if this is an indication of what’s ahead I’m even more excited for what’s planned for future dinning experiences. It shows the careful selection and the quality of people that joins A table for Six .
I look forward to my next dinner .

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A Table for SixMargaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

Set yourself apart as a gentleman

Set yourself apart as a gentleman

The basic fundamentals of dating and courting a woman have not really changed over time. Your goal should be to set yourself apart from other men she has met and dated by showing a woman that you are genuinely interested in her, and that you will continue to  put in an effort to do so – not only on the first few weeks of dating, but for the long term (potentially forever).

Set yourself apart as a gentleman

Set yourself apart as a gentleman

Does this sound like too much work and effort to you? Think about this: The right woman will love and care for you and will always exceed or match your efforts. Both of you making an effort together makes the dream work. It is far more rewarding and you will have much more fulfillment by putting an effort into one relationship with a special woman you truly love, than it is to put short term effort into always meeting a new woman a few months later because you didn’t put in the effort and attention your special woman deserved.

As a gentleman dating in the modern era, you can easily set yourself apart by how you carry yourself, your presentation, and very importantly, how you treat others. To make a good impression, hold higher standards for yourself than most of the male population. Being a male is a matter of birth, being a man is a matter of age, but being a gentleman is a matter of choice.

But let’s cut to the chase, what can you do, realistically, in today’s dating world to attract a mature woman who is tired of playing games?

Stay humble
If you want people to have a high opinion of you the key is not to tell them how brilliant you are.

Bragging to a woman on a first date about a recent promotion, or your brand new car, and how many properties you own, may seem like harmless ways to share good news.

However, self-promotion often backfires. Men often get the trade-off between self-promotion and modesty wrong. A man will mention his money as a means of winning a woman over. Unfortunately, sometimes this works. But most of the time, a woman requires so much more from a man than an impressive bank statement, and the kind of man who talks about his money at length, probably doesn’t have much else.

In modern times, women make their own money and have their own possessions. They  are not always impressed by yours. Sure, she will want to know you have some ambitions and want to match her efforts in life, but bragging about who you’ve met or what you drive or where you live, will send her running in the opposite direction.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

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Why she does not return your call

She gave you her number, you have phoned a couple of times and left a message…she isn’t returning your calls. Have you experienced this? What is going on?

Rest assured you are not the only man who met a woman, it felt like there was a spark there. She gave you her number to make contact, but now when you call or text, she never returns your call or responds in any way. Why is this happening?

Why she does not return your call

Why she does not return your call

The important thing to know is that it most probably isn’t anything about you. You should not take it personally. Once you understand this, it will set you free. You will simply move on and let her be.

Here are some of the reasons that could be the cause:

  1. You may have shared some laughs and had some things on common. She thought you were polite, but just didn’t see you as someone she would date. She wasn’t really interested in the first place.
  2. She got a bit caught up in the moment. It made her feel good to have someone interested in her. She felt something for you at the time, but now that the moment has passed, the interest isn’t there anymore. You were interesting, but she doesn’t want to take it further.
  3. You could be the right person, but the wrong time. She could have recently come out of another relationship. Her heart could have been broken, or she could still be holding a flame for someone else. She just is not ready.
  4.  A lot of women don’t like to hurt a man’s feelings. They are not sure and don’t want to lead you on. They worry about having to reject you down the track. They prefer to avoid the anxiety and decide not to go there and remain single.

Both men and women tend to take things personally. It is usually about something that is going on in their lives. It is not that you are uninteresting. If they decide not to respond to your calls, just move on to someone who thinks you are an amazing person.
No matter how good you are with women, you will ultimately come across this scenario. The more experience you have, the better you will become at recognising the warning signs. Don’t ever take it personally.

It is a numbers game. Anytime you are dealing with people, there is going to be unpredictable behaviour and outcomes. Dating makes your emotions vulnerable at anytime and if you are aware that these situations can happen, you will be better prepared. You can dust yourself off, pick yourself up and go out to meet new women.

As I look back on my life, I realise that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311
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5 secret things women look for at A Table for Six

5 secret things women look for at a Table for Six

Would you like to know what women are really checking out about the men at our A Table for Six singles dinners?

Some of the things that the women are taking note of when they meet you at dinner may surprise you. Or maybe you already know.

5 Things women Look For At a Table For Six

5 Things women Look For At a Table For Six

How you interact with everyone at the table including the other men.
It is an opportunity for them to gauge how you act in social situations. Are you considerate and inclusive in your conversations with everyone at the table?

How you interact with the restaurant staff.
Do you joke around in a “brighten their day and make their job easier way”? Do you treat them with respect and courtesy?

How you deal with settling the bill at the end of the evening.
Are you generous by including a small tip? Are you organised by bringing along cash to put in your share?

Your general attitude to life in your conversations.
Are you upbeat and mostly positive in your conversations? Do you speak negatively about ex-partners or women in general?

Your appearance
Are your fingernails clean? Are your clothes clean, appropriate and fairly up to date in fashion. Do you put in some effort to keep some sense of fitness and health?

I’m sure these are the things that you are taking note of when you meet women at dinner as well. It works both ways. Either way, we appreciate that you have dressed up nicely and come to dinner to meet our lovely female members.

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Are you preparing yourself for new love and friendship?

Are you preparing yourself for new love and friendship?

When we were children , we had big dreams. We believed we could be anything  we wished and could have anything we desired.
What happened to those dreams?
Life inevitably sends us knocks. And then fear and doubt chip away at our dreams until they’re reduced to memories and wishes that might have been.
There are always choices. Every day we are sent opportunities, but we don’t always recognise them.
There is always a choice of which path to take. Take the same path you are familiar with and know what to expect. Or another path that is unknown and may be uncomfortable.
There’s no right or wrong. But  to never try something new or different is to play small and to rob life of the excitement of changes and challenges.
Are you preparing yourself for love and friendship?
Anything that we do for the first time can be scary or difficult. It can never be as scary once you have faced your fears. One thing that we don’t think about is that there is only one first time.
Every time we take a step out of our comfort zone to do something we haven’t done before, we always learn more than we expected to.

How do I know if I am taking the easy road? How do I know if I am preparing myself for new love and friendships?

Are you preparing for new love and friendship?

Are you preparing for new love and friendship?

Do you regularly do any of these activities to meet singles?

1. Go to the niche places where you could meet singles. Join clubs, take classes, volunteer or do any of the things that would put singles in front of you?
2. Start conversations or say a friendly “Hi” to people you meet as you go about your daily life?
3. Attend social events to increase your chances of meeting someone new?
4. Plan some social events with your friends and see who shows up. Make it clear new people are welcome?
5. Accept every invitation to a party, wedding or gathering you are given?
6. Attend community groups that services other people with a similar interests?
7. Talk to people in your local coffee shop or when you are out and about?

Without trying some new places to meet singles, you are not preparing for new love or friendships.

When we venture to places we have never been before, doing something we haven’t done before, our experience of the world expands. Usually we learn a lot more about ourselves and how we have been holding ourselves back.

Our A Table for Six dinners are a great way to meet singles, make friends or meet a partner. Explore new opportunities and make your dreams come true.

Opportunity dances with those on the dance floor.” — Anonymous

See the human perfection and love in every encounter this weekA Table for Six
Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311
Lic no 3338670

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Share your irresistible side

Share your irresistible side

Maybe I’m a glass half full person…. But I read a lot of feedback emails every week. There is something I have noticed that is very interesting. There are people who always find good things to say about their experience at dinner. The meal was delicious. The atmosphere was quiet or buzzing or the view was fantastic. They enjoyed meeting the other people, they were interesting or they were funny or maybe they were intriguing.

Share your irresistible side

Share your irresistible side

But, the most fascinating thing that I have noticed is these people are the ones who are the most popular with their fellow diners! Requests for their number always appear after they go to dinner. Or if they request contact details, they nearly always receive a “Yes Please!” reply. They never miss out on asking for the contact numbers of some of the people they meet at dinners. They know that each new single, like minded person they add to their network adds infinite possibilities for new connections, experiences and could be one step closer to meeting that special someone. (Six degrees of separation)

I think we all enjoy being around people who are mostly happy and genuinely interested in us and the world around us. There is a choice to focus on other people shortcomings, or to see the perfection and opportunity in every encounter.

So share your irresistible, positive side at dinners and in your feedback. And try to avoid falling into the trap of seeing what you don’t like in people you meet. From my experience of observing the outcomes, it will bring endless possibilities into your life.

See the human perfection and love in every encounter this weekA Table for Six
Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311
Lic no 3338670

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Are your friends holding you back from a great relationship?

Are your friends holding you back from a great relationship?

6 ways to move from single to lots of possible relationships

Do you love to get together with your friends and complain about how hard it is to meet a partner?

Are your friends holding you back from a great relationship?

Are your friends holding you back from a great relationship?

Does it regularly turn into a whinge session when you and your friends are relaxing and should be having a good time? Does the conversation almost always turns to “Where are all the decent, intelligent guys who aren’t married” or  “Why aren’t there any outgoing, fun loving, attractive ladies out there?” It’s a perfect opportunity to share stories of the strange people you met with online dating. You can compete for the best horror story about how you fell for a sweet, interesting girl/guy who seemed like real relationship material, only to find out they were married or a drug addict.

In no time at all you can work yourselves up  into a state of misery and start singing “Poor, poor pitiful me.”  Misery loves company and it is a coping strategy. But do you really think this is going to help your situation?

Why not be an example to your friends and change the dynamics next time you are together? Here are some suggestions that will put a different slant on the situation and maybe gain a different outcome.

If you say something enough times, it becomes true. If you constantly say that it’s too hard to meet suitable partners, that will be your truth because you won’t even see them when they are staring you in the face.

Challenge your friends to adopt a more positive attitude. Show your friends that having the right attitude will bring a different outcome – Knowing that your partner is out there and will arrive at the right time.

There is usually a leader in any group who takes the first step in a different direction. You can be that leader and be an inspiration to them. You can inspire your friends to dream more, learn more, do more and become more.

If there is a need to vent and get something off your chest, set a time limit. Two minutes should be the limit and then move the conversation on to the fun activities you have planned.

You can stick with “I’m picky”, “The best ones are all married” or “There’s not enough single men/women in my area”. But that isn’t leading you to your desired outcome.

Do you or your friends really make an effort to change things. Many singles say they do, but one of the biggest things keeping them in the same place is lack of action. Are you going to singles events and our fabulous dinners?

An ancient native proverb goes:

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two “wolves” inside us all.

One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?” The old Cherokee simply replied,

“The one you feed.”

Meet our genuine singles at our relaxed, fun dinners this week.A Table for Six
Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311
Lic no 3338670

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Surround yourself with the kind of people you want to meet

Surround yourself with the kind of people you want to meet

“Just have patience, the perfect person will come along when the time is right.”

If you’ve been single for a while, I’m sure you have heard this many times. You probably don’t enjoy hearing it. We have all become accustomed to having what we want, when we want it.

Surround yourself with the kind of people you want to meet

Surround yourself with the kind of people you want to meet

If you  find yourself at a green light with a driver in front who is day dreaming, how many seconds do you wait before you toot the horn? And waiting for someone to answer a phone call when you’re kept waiting is another top frustration.

But when it comes to finding a partner, they are absolutely right -when the time is right, your person will come into your life.

The best plan is to lead your day-to-day life in a way where you’re enjoying yourself, surrounding yourself with and meeting the kinds of singles you want to meet so that you’re not always ‘on the hunt.’ Then you won’t have that desperate vibe of being at a venue only to meet your next date.”

Surround yourself with the kind of people you would like to meet

Surround yourself with the kind of people you would like to meet

Are you living your dream life? I’m not talking about material possessions you wish you had. Take time to think about your decisions and where  you’re headed in the important areas of life, such as your social life. If there is even a single thing you could do right now to make your life better, go for it. Take control of your life and actively design it as you go along.

Being single and having friends who are a happily dating or married can leave you feeling like a 3rd wheel. It can make you want love more than anything in the world, and it’s natural to feel lonely or sad if you can’t find it. But love yourself and love spending time solo, and finding ways to stay interested and excited about life without a significant other. This will make you feel even better when that special person comes along!

Never say someone completes you.
You have to feel complete all on your own.
Instead, look for someone to complement your completeness

Decide to love yourself this week,
Margaret Newitt
Franchisor
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311
lic no 3338670

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New relationships bring new experiences

New relationships bring new experiences

When a relationship breaks down, it allows a space for new ones that are fundamentally better for us in our current situation in life, to develop.

Even though they will never take the place of someone who holds a very special place in your heart, they will bring new experiences and will be good for you in new and different ways.

New relationships bring new experiences

New relationships bring new experiences

You may feel as though you will  never feel that way about someone again, but I promise you will fall in love again (probably more than once).

Relationships are such a great vehicle for learning. Our partners can teach us about what we need and want in a relationship. They can also show us what we definitely do not want. I’ve spoken to many people who have learned that one – I don’t want to be with someone who works long hours, or I don’t want to meet anyone who is too religious. It’s amazing how we seem to know what we don’t want.

A healthy and loving relationship can show us what we want and deserve. In a relationship that is not so healthy, we quickly learn  which flaws we can deal with, and which flaws we can’t.

Everyone you enter into a relationship with will come with their own set of baggage and flaws, just as you do. Undoubtedly, some of these flaws will get under your skin more than others. Even a similar flaw may not bother you in one partner, but combined with other flaws in another, it may be too much to handle.

Some of your own flaws might make a certain partnership basically incompatible. That doesn’t mean that you or your mismatched partners are broken or unlovable; it just means that it probably isn’t going to be a blissful relationship.

All of our previous relationships have lessons for us and we can look back on our experiences and notice the good and the bad with them. Hopefully we can make better decisions with these things in mind.

A quote I found recently

“Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by mean of good luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness & sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without this small test, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. It would be safe & comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.
The people that you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience, help to create who you are and who you will become Even the bad experiences are learned from. In fact, they are the most poignant ones.
If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious when you open your heart. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love & how to open your heart & eyes to things.

So, there’s a moral here: People come into our lives to teach us something. People come and people go and people make a difference. And it’s okay that they’re not in our lives anymore.

Be grateful for all of your relationships this week
Margaret Newitt
Franchisor
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311
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How to attract the prefect Person for YOU!

How to attract the prefect Person for YOU

Some people believe that to find a perfect partner, they need to find someone who shares the same interests, hobbies, falls within a certain age group or looks a certain way.

How to attract the perfect person for YOU

How to attract the perfect person for YOU

How to attract the perfect person for YOU

How to attract the perfect person for YOU

Of course, nobody is perfect. Everyone has some flaws or baggage if they have lived a life. But to find someone who has the right attitude with a few flaws is more realistic. For a relationship to survive in the medium to long term, it is more important to share most of the same values.

When our members join A Table for Six, we do take information on these interests and also their values. Some people have spent more time on deciding what is important in a car than their relationship. So take some time to list your top ten values . Then when you meet someone, you have a gauge to go by. Don’t expect them to be 10’s on every single item on your list, at least a 6 and preferable an 8 or 9.

Some of the more common core values might be;

  • They believe that family is very important.
  • They believe that maintaining a healthy work/life balance is important.
  • They believe that honesty is of utmost important and trust must be earned.
  • They believe, or don’t believe in God or have an affiliation with a religious institution.
  • They believe in maintaining a healthy body.
  • They have a belief in being responsible in handling finances.

These are also values you might list as important to you;
Loving, nurturing, fit, inspiring, positive, motivated, fun-loving humorous, creative, honest, consistent, open-minded, committed, loyal, dependable, adventurous, passionate, respectful, athletic, educated, respected.

To really know if someone you meet has these values may take time. It is very well if they say they have them, but  a core value is only a core value if the person lives by them, at least most of the time.

So what do you want? It’s good to have high standards, but who do you need to become to attract the person with these qualities you have listed? Is it time to look within yourself and ask if you are someone a person with these values would be attracted to? This is the real question and where the biggest opportunity of change lies! It can also be hardest. Start putting a plan together for your life. Contact us for a no obligation chat about your social/dating future.

“For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.”
— Audrey Hepburn

Become the person you want to attract this week
Margaret Newitt
Franchisor
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311
lic no 3338670

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