Science has proven that if you do at least some of these things each day, you will feel the positive vibrations.
Find something good that happened in your life. What if you hadn’t met that person who introduced you to your now best friend? What if you hadn’t taken a chance on trying a different career?
7 things to do that will make you happier today
Finding the upside to past events can make you more aware of positive results in your life. Such as “If I hadn’t crashed my car, I wouldn’t have met my best friend.” Send a thankful message Gratitude is a powerful emotion that helps us enjoy what we have. Send an email or letter to someone who has helped you in some way and you will evoke positive feelings for yourself. Thank them for what they have done no matter how small it is. Spend money on someone else They say money can’t buy happiness, but it can make our lives a lot more comfortable. Spending on others makes us feel good about ourselves and makes us feel like responsible and giving people. So take a friend out for lunch or buy them a present, you’ll feel great about it. Get some exercise Getting some exercise is a great way to feel better, increase energy levels and reduce tension. It doesn’t have be a marathon. Just a walk around the block or to the shops will do the trick. List 3 good things that happened today At the end of the day, spend a few minutes finding three good things that happened. They don’t have to be amazing, just as long as they made you feel better. You will go to sleep feeling better about your day and yourself.
If you would like to take some positive action in your dating and social life, meet our members at dinner. Dating can be daunting…and our dinners are a delightful alternative. Good food, good company and genuine singles coordinated for you. Take the pressure off and enjoy the experience…
Dating shouldn’t be too hard in 2018. There are so many apps and online dating sites, meet ups and singles bars.
Then why does it seem to be so challenging?
Dating getting you down? How to stay positive
There is a French saying “Trop de choix tue le choix” (too much choice kills the choice). At a certain point as psychologist Barry Schwartz notes in his book The Paradox of Choice, “choice no longer liberates, but debilitates”.
You find someone nice looking. They seem to be pretty “normal” fun and bright. Your heart sings a little song. You exchange texts and messages. And then…silence!
You go on a first date and it goes well. There seems to be a connection. Conversation flows easily. You both agree to catch up again. And then…silence!
It’s only natural to feel disappointed and you might decide that dating is too hard and there are no decent, genuine singles out there.
Don’t hold on to that feeling. Let it go! It won’t serve you. There are plenty of wonderful quality people to date. And, you only need one. One that makes your heart sing.
As much as we don’t like to hear this, our state of mind and beliefs draw experiences to us. So, it’s crucial to hold on to positive beliefs about dating and every aspect of our lives.
Each date that you go on has something to teach us as well. If you do a little review after each date, looking for the positive that has come out of the experience, you will draw more positive into your next date.
Maybe the date helped you to determine things that are important to you. Maybe the date helped you to realise something you could do differently when choosing someone you would date.
Or maybe they just let you know about a great new restaurant, or a show that is coming up.
If you can stay open, curious and positive, you will always learn something and you will be well on your journey to true love.
Want a different dating result? Change your thoughts
Are you are holding on to negative beliefs about finding new friends, meeting a suitable partner and dating? Your mind is very powerful. The stories you tell yourself can either hold you back and prevent positive change in your life or they can allow new wonderful people to come into your life and new relationships to blossom. Even the most optimistic of us can be guilty of this at times.
Want a different dating result? Change your thoughts
It’s always interesting when speaking to new potential members. Many have reached a point where they know they need to be proactive and are ready and open to what (and whom) will come into their lives and where it may take them.
Others have created problems and scenarios in their own mind before they have even stepped out the door for their first dinner. YOUR beliefs can either help or hurt you!
For example, “I’m not good at meeting new people. ” or “I will never meet anyone as lovely as my late husband/wife.”
Limiting thoughts and beliefs create the same problems that repeat themselves in different relationships. Habitual negative thoughts run on autopilot, and if you believe them, you can’t change your life and solve the same problems that can keep arising in different relationships and situations.
Your thoughts determine your feelings, and your behaviours and actions are determined by your thoughts. With negative thoughts running unchecked in your mind, it’s difficult to feel good about yourself. When your behaviour and actions come from feeling bad about yourself, you won’t get good results.
In order to achieve a different result, stop and check those negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones that are just as true or even more true.
An example would be, if you believe there are no good men/women out there, you’ll continue attracting men/women who are not good for you. When you stop this negative thought and replace it with one that serves you, you’ll open up the possibility to attract a wealth of new friends and even a partner to share your life.
Start meeting new people and expect to have an enjoyable time, meeting interesting people and don’t quit on yourself.
“If you don’t like how things are, change it! You’re not a tree.” ~Ji Rohn
Replace your thoughts with positive ones this week
Single and out of practise
I speak with a lot of singles who are at different stages in their lives when it comes to relationships. They’ve had a variety of experiences in their lives, and they are working through dealing with them.
Single and out of practise
It makes no difference; I’m still going to be someone who doesn’t listen to the negativity. I’m not going to agree with you when you say that all the good ones are taken, or that everyone has too much baggage. Your mates/girlfriends might let you wallow in this line of thinking, but I won’t allow you to.
You won’t wow everyone, but that’s ok and perfectly normal . All you will ever get from me is encouragement to step outside of your comfort zone. That comfort zone is your worst enemy, not me. I’m going to encourage you to put on your best outfit, stand tall, get your attitude right and go out and wow some new people. You won’t wow everyone, but that’s ok and perfectly normal.
Don’t worry if some people don’t recognise your beautiful heart. They’re not meant to be in your life right now. The one or ones who do see your authentic beauty are the ones who have also lifted their spirit to the realms where you now dwell.
Our dinners and events are simply a vessel for you to use to facilitate your growth and to expand your social circle. They are designed just for you to use to learn how it feels to be a single person in a mixed group again.
There’s so much to learn when you’ve been out of the single scene for a long period of time. You’re out of practise. You’ll learn you’re not the only one who feels way out of their depth. Those who are very honest with themselves will admit they are frightened of being hurt, taken advantage of, made to feel inadequate, not good enough or invisible.
We all know the real truth. It is inside of us. You just need to listen. Your inner guide will protect you from being hurt if you stay quiet for long enough to hear what it is telling you.
There’s no better investment you can make than in yourself! So, if you want to change how your life is going around relationships, start investing your time, energy, focus and even some dollars to improve it.
Poor me, or there’s no great men/ladies out there, or I don’t have time, or I don’t know where to go, just isn’t acceptable anymore.
“Each day is a new opportunity. I chose to make this day a great one.”
Wise words from the inspirational Louise Hay. I’m always interested to hear the excuses that people use for not taking positive action to live their life at their highest level.
Are you too busy to prioritise your dating life?
If you’re happy in your life and fulfilled in all areas, then you are living your best life. But if you are “too busy” then that is a choice you have made. All the activities you engage in, are the result of your choices. You’ve copped out on living your life on purpose. Difficult family relationships, lots of small details that only you can take care of, a way too busy work schedule are eating away at your life and stealing your opportunity every day to live a life where you are fulfilling your destiny.
Take a little time to think about how you would really prioritise your life. Think about saying “no” sometimes – it’s allowed. You and your house/car/appearance/ don’t have to be perfect all the time. And who decided what is perfect anyway? Practise asking for help, delegating and taking time for yourself.
Fear is often what is holding us back from really living a life where we feel fulfilled. If you would like to look fear in the eye and see what’s really possible for you, decide today that you intend to take time for yourself to live the life that you came here to live, and to do it without ignoring your responsibilities are a parent, spouse or employee.
When you join, I take a lot of information about you, including your age group, occupation, how you like to spend your spare time and more. For our members, we co-ordinate the dinner group for you each time you attend a dinner. We ensure you will have some new people to meet, with members around your own age. Our goal is to put you with a group you will relate to, feel comfortable with, and people you can enjoy some laughs around the table. That has been a proven successful formula.
Contact us at A Table for Six to take a step in the right direction to meet other singles looking for genuine friendships and genuine relationships.
Dating worries?…not if you follow this simple plan
You are setting out of your house on an evening out. Are you excited and looking forward to having some fun and connecting with new interesting people?
Or, does the little voice in your head sabotage you before you even arrive by whispering that you won’t meet anyone you like?
Dating worries?…not if you follow this simple plan
you set your intention before you arrive at your destination,
you decide that you are looking forward to meeting people with interesting stories to tell,
you see yourself having a great time,
you are setting yourself up to succeed. You will be laying the groundwork for making new friends, dating and even falling in love to happen.
Expecting that the man or woman of your dreams will be there with outstretched arms waiting for you? You are setting yourself up to be disappointed and also missing out on a real gem.
We have all been guilty of judging. It’s a natural human trait. But it is self sabotaging behaviour. You meet some new people and make a judgement about them because of their hairstyle or the colour of their shoes. This moment of judgement could stop you from getting to know them and you could be missing out on a wonderful friendship.
Judging others is really only hurting ourselves. It’s no reflection on the other person. “When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself. ” ~ Wayne Dyer
Do you notice negative things? Be committed to looking for opportunities that bring you pleasure. The delicious food, a spectacular view or the person you just met who gave you a tip about real estate. Notice the lovely smile on the person with the purple shoes.
And that person with the very different hairstyle, could be the most interesting person in the room. (There’s only a week between a bad and a good haircut)
Be committed to looking for opportunities this week
Have you ever been asked out for a meal or a drink and found yourself having a dialogue in your head about what could happen if you say yes? Would they fit in with my friends? Will they really “get” me? Would they make a good mother/father?
Oops, I think we’re a bit ahead of ourselves here. We are almost asking them to validate our very existence. Like to catch up? It’s a big ask
Sometimes it’s all tied up in other things. What most of us haven’t learned is not to make it mean anymore than it is.
It’s Valentine’s day in just 9 days and what better motivation to be pro-active about meeting new singles?
Would you like to get back into dating and meeting other singles?
Are you feeling like you just can’t get started? I have A little trick to get you started with dating.
A little trick to get you started with dating
I often receive a phone call from someone I had spoken to 3, 6 or even 12 months ago about our singles dinners. They loved the concept and felt it was the best option for them to meet other singles. But something held them back from getting started. From my experience of helping singles for over 16 years, I believe they are feeling overwhelmed.
I know the feeling when I need to clean the entire house from top to toe, or when I’ve had a break from exercising and need to get started again. Or even when I want to write another one of my blog stories. It feels like a huge task and I want to procrastinate about it. The hardest part is getting started.
There is a little trick that instantly takes away the feeling of overwhelm and gets me to take action right away. Ask yourself the question, “Can I just…? and then insert an action that is so easy that you are guaranteed to be able to do it even if you have very little willpower at the time.
“Can I just write the first paragraph?” If that seems too much, “Can I just write the first sentence?” After that I’d ask, ” Can I just write a little more?” One more sentence? I can always stop when I feel as though I’ve done enough and still feel a sense of achievement.
It’s a matter of getting some momentum going. Once I get started with something, the motivation usually goes up. I may not feel like cleaning or exercising or writing, but once I get started, my desire to keep going goes up immensely.
You can always continue and do much more than you started out to do. But, you will feel as though you are succeeding by starting out small.
Or “Can you just….Go to your first dinner and enjoy the company of other like-minded singles?”
As long as you break it down into something small and achievable, you can’t fail. You’ll achieve much more than if you do nothing at all. I know you will benefit from A little trick to get you started with dating.
Starting over after a breakup or a long relationship
Not sure if they are ready to go out?
I often speak to singles who have come out of a long relationship. Sometimes it is quite recently and other times it has been some years. They are not sure if they are ready to go out to our singles dinners to meet people again.
Starting over after a long relationship or a breakup can be a very tough thing to do. But most of us have to face this in our lives in one way or another. Taking control of new circumstances such as the death of a loved one or the estrangement of a partner is important in turning your life around.
Starting over after a breakup or a long relationship
Most important things to do
One of the most important things to do is to give yourself new things to do to keep your mind busy. Your mind is a beautiful tool, so don’t allow it to dwell on the past too much as that will stop you enjoying the present. You don’t need to destroy the past, but to put it away until we are healthy enough to deal with what happened.
Friends and family
Surround yourself with your friends and family. If they haven’t already surrounded you with their love and support, go and see them yourself. They will provide comfort and remind you how wonderful you are.
Starting to date again
Starting to date again and meeting new singles after a breakup could be a little like getting back into the job market. Waiting too long can have people wondering if there’s something wrong with you. But the longer you wait, the harder it can be to get back into the world of meeting new people.
Meet in a friendly pressure free environment.
The healthiest thing to do when starting over after a breakup or a long relationship is to go out and meet other singles. It’s perfectly fine to be honest and let people know you are testing the waters. Many others have been through something similar and will understand how you are feeling. Our A Table for Six singles dinners are designed to give you the opportunity to go out and meet in a friendly pressure free environment.
The decision to date again
The decision to date again is a deeply personal one that only you can make. But rest assured that love walks on earth in many forms, and this may be an opportunity to teach another human being what it means to be truly loved.
Online dating has been tried by 51% of Australians. Or so, some recent statistics I read claimed. Most of the people I speak to fall into one of two different camps. There are the people who just can’t bring themselves to put their photo and profile on the online dating sites. The thought of “advertising” themselves as available is just too unsavoury. And if they are in certain work positions, it makes it even more out of their comfort zone. You will Meet the best singles OFFLINE at a Table for Six.
The others are people who have tried online dating,
but for one reason or another, it doesn’t suit them. Your membership with A Table for Six is discreet. No photos on the internet and we only pass on your contact details if you give permission for us to do so.
Meet the best singles OFFLINE at A Table for Six
Would you enjoy having your dinners all organised for you?
Some people find the whole process of online dating very time consuming. Going through profiles, taking the time to contact people with varying results. But a very common story I hear is that if they do finally meet someone in person for coffee, they are very often nothing like the profile or photo displayed on the online dating sites. Or else, after communicating for quite some time, when meeting, there was just no chemistry.
At A Table for Six, we do all the organising of the dinners, and send the confirmation details once we have a suitable group organised. You get to just go along and enjoy meeting like minded singles .
Avoid the scammers on online dating sites
Of course, unfortunately there are the stories of people who have been taken advantage of by people praying on vulnerable singles hoping to find a special someone on the Online Dating sites. One particular lady told me that even though she now knew that the person she had been communicating with for 18 months was a scammer, she was still missing his messages. He had groomed her for a long time, knowing just the right things to say to her. Luckily, she eventually had some alarm bells ringing when he continued to ask her to send more money and she reported it to police. But she had already sent a substantial amount of money to him.
Meet singles who are looking for genuine relationships, just like you
The focus when attending our dinners is to go out and enjoy a fun, social evening in a relaxed environment. You should expect to enjoy chatting with other singles on a wide range of interesting topics while savouring delicious food and drinks. Because of the more relaxed group situation, everyone can relax and be themselves.
Many times people have told me they met someone at dinner and had a connection, but if they had looked at a profile and photo online, they would most likely have discarded them. So many things are not definable when viewing profiles on the online dating sites. The way someone speaks, their mannerisms, their kindness and concern for others, their quirky sense of humour are only apparent when meeting in person in a relaxed situation such as our singles dinners.
Here is my favourite after-dinner recent feedback
“Can I start by saying thank you for the guidance and professional approach from membership right through to the days leading to the arranged dinner. An exciting and nervous time pre dinner but it all felt very comfortable from the time I sat down and joined such a beautiful group of people. Though I did arrived late as the traffic was very heavy due to an accident , the group where happy to wait till I arrived to order. The restaurant I’d rate a 7 , food was delicious and the atmosphere was fabulous, we all enjoyed the belly dancing. I rate my whole dining experience an 8, we where all enjoying each others company and sharing in conversation. It really felt like we’ve known each other for long time. I sat next to P and naturally engaged in more conversation as the night went on , we had so much to say and really enjoyed his company and sharing our common work industry. I wasn’t sure what to expect but if this is an indication of what’s ahead I’m even more excited for what’s planned for future dinning experiences. It shows the careful selection and the quality of people that joins A table for Six . I look forward to my next dinner .