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This one very important thing we can control

This one very important thing we can control

“Your future depends on many things, but mostly on you” ~Frank Tyger

That’s hard to hear isn’t it? We can’t really blame our parents, our upbringing, the economy or anyone else. It would be so much easier if we could. We’ve all heard people complaining that they didn’t  have the upbringing or the opportunities. Possibly we’ve even gone down that road ourselves at times.

But, you know, in reality, it’s a very good thing. The people I’ve observed who have overcome a situation, or become successful in any area of their life, have had one thing in common. They have been persistent in developing the skills they needed to  get there. They didn’t waste their energy blaming a lack of opportunity, or other people. They just kept going. Sure, they failed at times.

This one very important thing we can control

This one very important thing we can control

Remember when you see a man at the top of a mountain, he didn’t fall there.”~Unknown

I think it is pretty exciting when you think about it. There are a lot of things in life that we don’t have control over. But, this one very important thing we do. Our own future in in our own hands and it will take some patience, perspiration and mostly perseverance. And at least we know it’s possible.

Would you like to make a change in your Single/Social life? If you would, we are passionate providing opportunities for you to meet like-minded singles who would like to have genuine friendships and genuine relationships. Come on over to our website www.atableforsix.com.au and register interest. Or, email me on info@atableforsix.com.au

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Create the most wonderful luck you can dream of

Create the most wonderful luck you can dream of

Do you know someone who seems to be very lucky? They have met a wonderful partner and they are very happy and enjoying a close loving relationship.

Do you believe that they are just lucky? Most of the people I know who have had success in relationships (or in any other area of life) have not just been drawn out of a life lottery  to receive this blessing. It may appear to you that they just went out on their first evening as a single person and this perfect person just appeared. But behind every overnight success there is a lot of resilience.

Create the most wonderful luck you can dream of

Create the most wonderful luck you can dream of

You see, we all make our own luck.  Luck is about showing up in life with an open attitude. It’s about believing, connecting, seeing opportunities, showing up, being consistent, loyal, and living life fully open and boldly. Being lucky is about a whole lot of resilience and persistance.

So many people expect that they should have everything they desire straight away. We live in a quick fix society where many things are available at our fingertips. But the important things in life are worth waiting for and they don’t usually happen overnight. People don’t want to hear that a lot of preparation and persistence is needed to attain what they want.

If you go out and someone says something to upset you, you can choose how to react. You can choose to let them spoil your evening, or you can choose to let it go. You can even choose to be empathetic to them. What could have happened in their life today to make them act this way?

People who understand that they are working towards an outcome, know that we hold the power to create our own experiences and everything that happens to us. In any given moment we have the opportunity to experience a bad moment or to observe positive things and enjoy a great moment.

The person you know who seems so lucky because they went out and met their partner most likely went out on many occasions with an open, loving attitude to the people they met. They possibly didn’t always feel on top of the world. They possibly didn’t always feel like being positive and making an effort to ensure they engaged with everyone. But they know that how you act and react to to others is key to how happy you are in your life.

Create the most wonderful luck you can dream of. So go out and create the most wonderful luck you can dream of.

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Margaret Newitt
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Stop that attitude of procrastination

Stop that attitude of procrastination

No matter how much we have achieved in any area of our lives, true fulfilment can only be found in one thing: the emotional quality of our personal relationships. ~Tony Robbins

Stop that attitude of procrastination

Stop that attitude of procrastination

What do you think about that quote? It certainly rings true for me. Everyone wants to have financial security and to be able to enjoy the freedom of knowing they can have the possessions, experiences and creature comforts they desire. But have you ever noticed that plenty of people such as celebrities or the mega wealthy are among the most unhappy, screwed-up people on the planet?

And yet, so often, we forsake our personal relationships and the time and attention we could devote to making this area of lives much better. Instead, we work ridiculous hours or put our heads in the sand thinking that something will change by itself.

Here is just one of the ways you can create new or better relationships.

Have a warm and open attitude to new people.

Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.
Anais Nin

You are going to feel some nervousness and that voice in your head may tell you not to do it. But, being open to meeting new people and breaking through the inner resistance, will be much more rewarding.

Our members are amazing and awesome. They have that nervousness and resistance too. But they are proactive and know the rewards that follow when they make the effort to be friendly, open and accepting of the people they meet. That’s why it is my ultimate pleasure to be able to facilitate these experiences for them.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
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How important are shared values?

How important are shared values?

Some people believe that to find a perfect partner, they need to find someone who shares the same interests, hobbies, falls within a certain age group or looks a certain way.

How important are shared values?

How important are shared values?

Of course, nobody is perfect. Everyone has some flaws or baggage if they have lived a life. But to find someone who has the right attitude with a few flaws is more realistic. For a relationship to survive in the medium to long term, it is more important to share most of the same values.

When our members join A Table for Six, we do take information on these interests and also their values. Some people have spent more time on deciding what is important in a car than their relationship. So take some time to list your top ten values . Then when you meet someone, you have a gauge to go by. Don’t expect them to be 10’s on every single item on your list, at least a 6 and preferable an 8 or 9.

Some of the more common core values might be;

1. They believe that family is very important.

2. They believe that maintaining a healthy work/life balance is important.

3. They believe that honesty is of utmost importance and trust must be earned.

4. They believe, or don’t believe in God or have an affiliation with a religious institution.

5. They believe in maintaining a healthy body.

6. They have a belief in being responsible in handling finances.

These are also values you might list as important to you;

Loving, nurturing, fit, inspiring, positive, motivated, fun-loving humorous, creative, honest, consistent, open-minded, committed, loyal, dependable, adventurous, passionate, respectful, athletic, educated, respected.

To really know if someone you meet has these values may take time. It is very well if they say they have them, but  a core value is only a core value if the person lives by them, at least most of the time.

So what do you want? It’s good to have high standards, but who do you need to become to attract the person with these qualities you have listed? Is it time to look within yourself and ask if you are someone a person with these values would be attracted to? This is the real question and where the biggest opportunity of change lies! It can also be hardest. Start putting a plan together for your life.

Are you ready for a new relationship?

Are you ready for a new relationship?

Relationships are not black and white. Is the old relationship really dead? Should I be going out to meet someone else? Or should I just wait to see how my old relationship pans out? Sometimes we struggle to know when is the time to take the step to see who else is out there for us.

Are you ready for a new relationship?

Are you ready for a new relationship?

You may be missing the companionship of the opposite sex and would like to take the plunge and start meeting new people. It is important that you have dealt with any relationship baggage before you return to the dating scene. Perhaps you could ask yourself the following questions to learn if you are ready to move on, or are still dealing with a past relationship.

Are you able to speak of the past relationship without feeling angry or bitter about the way it ended. This kind of reaction may be a turn-off to potential new love interests and may indicate you are still grieving.

If your ex contacted you to rekindle the relationship how would you respond? If your immediate response is to take him/her back, you might not be ready to participate in a new healthy relationship.

Do you talk about the relationship or your ex a lot? If you find yourself in conversations with your friends or family that lead to a story involving your ex, the situation is still very much  at the forefront of your mind and you may need to take more time to heal any hurt caused by the breakup.

Can you speak of the relationship in a positive way? Recounting stories, accepting the relationship for what it was, realising what you may have learnt from this relationship is a strong sign that you are moving on. If you still get anxious or upset when you see your ex or look at a photo, you might need more time to heal.

Everyone’s journey is different and we all take different amounts of time to grieve. But do encourage yourself to let go and move on. Once you feel you are ready, try going out and having fun without it needing to result in a relationship straight away. Give yourself positive self talk and remember that good things still await you and you will find that someone special at the right time.

Our A Table for Six dinners are a great way to ease yourself back into the singles social scene. There’s no pressure and you will be able to practise enjoying the company of a lot of different people. We’re here to serve you and to help ease you back into dating.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
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A Second meeting?

A second meeting?

Do you have friends who are in happy relationships and all coupled up? Most of us do.

Instant attraction?
They usually have an interesting story to tell about how they came to be together. If they haven’t shared their story with you, ask them to do so. Very often you will find that they didn’t have an instant attraction. They may have met a few times before there were any sparks flying.

Although most men appear to be playing it cool, some are genuinely unsure of themselves. Many men need a little encouragement from a woman to know that you are interested.

A second meeting?

A second meeting?

Friends first
We receive requests for contact numbers after our dinners as you know. It’s a fantastic gauge that the dinner was a success and people made connections. There’s the obvious ones where a man requests a lady’s number or a lady requests a man’s number. But also many times it is for friendship as well. When single, it’s very important to have single friends to spend time with.

Once we receive  a reply we pass the contact number on to the person who asked for it. But sometimes the answer is a no.

Why not catch up for a drink?
All of our members have an interesting story to tell. Why not at least catch up for a coffee or a drink? It’s a good idea to meet for a brief catchup the first time. That way if there isn’t a connection you can go your own ways. But, you may find that you have more in common that you first thought.

If your happily coupled up friends hadn’t gotten together after their first meeting they wouldn’t be together today. Say yes to another catch up.

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Margaret Newitt
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Are you fantastic enough?

Are you fantastic enough?

It’s great to emphasise the positive things about being single, but having that special someone in our lives can make us feel a lot better in many ways. Family and friends are wonderful, but sometimes they just don’t fill the space that only a loving partner can fill.

Are you fantastic enough?

Are you fantastic enough?

Having someone to share a special moment on a holiday, a sunset at the beach, to plan a special weekend away with, or to show off your cooking skills, is life at its best.

For some people it seems so easy. Do they know something you don’t? Are they a better catch than you? I doubt it, but maybe there are some  skills that can be brushed up on to help you make a shift so as to become more attractive to a future partner.
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There is only one you
Create and radiate your personal style and let it reflect exactly who you are. Wear the clothes that make you feel great and emphasise your best mental and physical attributes. Spend your time doing the things that make you feel excited and fulfilled.

Make people feel good
Everybody wants to feel loved and valued. Treating everyone you come into contact with in this way, makes you instantly attractive whether they are partner material or not. It isn’t that difficult to smile, look someone in the eye and say hi, listen to them and show an interest in what they think and how they feel.

Qualities are important
If you want to attract someone who is fit, energetic and lives a healthy lifestyle, reflect that yourself. If you want to attract a motivated, successful achiever, “radiate” that outlook on life.

Where do the people you want to attract spend their time?
If you want to meet a successful professional, then taking a golf membership at an exclusive club or attending our A Table for Six dinners is probably better than looking in personal columns.

Don’t be needy or insecure
Take a look at your behaviour and determine any issues you may have about trust. Neediness is often associated with a shortage of trust, and sometimes a fear of abandonment. If you are doubting someone’s feelings towards you or their loyalty, ask yourself why you don’t trust. Is it because of something they did, or is it because of something someone did in the past? If you really care for this person and they have earned your trust, give it to them.
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It’s important to focus on what you would like and to take steps to accomplish it. But, someone who has a fun life doing the things that they love can be very attractive. If you don’t think that you are fantastic, there’s a good chance that others won’t either.

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Be warm and friendly this week, A Table for Six
Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311
info@atableforsix.com.au
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Ask for his number. It is easy

“No” is just a word. It doesn’t mean anything else about you!

If you asked someone for a contact to catch up again and they said “No,” don’t make it mean anything about you. There are many reasons why they may have declined. Most often it is because of something in their life. Perhaps they lack the self-confidence to put themselves in a position where they could become vulnerable. By vulnerable I mean letting someone close to them. Their ex-partner may have come back into the scene. Or they may be still healing from a past relationship.

Ask for his number. It is easy

Ask for his number. It is easy

The important thing is that you remain optimistic and open to possibility. I’d like to extend an invitation to you to ask more often when you meet someone appealing. 100% of the people you don’t ask will not say “Yes.” So ask, and if they say “No,” it doesn’t mean anything about you.

Remember that we will do the asking for you as part of our personal service to you. When we send our request for feedback, just let us know who you would like to see again and we will follow up for you.

Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311
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The art of love is largely the art of persistence

The art of love is largely the art of persistence

Find a partner who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on them, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep… wait for the one who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of their friends, who thinks you’re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much they care and how lucky they are to have you…. The one who turns to their friends and say, ‘that’s her.’ ~ Unknown

The art of love is largely the art of persistence

The art of love is largely the art of persistence

Do you feel like you are always dating the wrong people? I often hear from Singles who contact us that they are tired of dating the wrong people and repeating a pattern that ends in a bad relationship.

Sometimes they choose people who just aren’t available for a genuine relationship. It may be that they have not moved on from a previous relationship, or they are just not emotionally capable of a healthy relationship.

Sometimes they date people who have lied to them and falsely represented themselves. Only after dating them  for a while they discover that this person has a addiction, or isn’t as financially secure as they claimed.

If you recognise that you are continually choosing the wrong people to date, then stop and think about your pattern of behaviour. Try to understand where those choices come from, recognise them, and make different choices next time.

Your friends or family may be able to help you with this process as sometimes they can see a pattern of behaviour easier than we can ourselves. You could even seek the help of a therapist.

Most importantly, if finding a loving partner is high on your list, treat it as a priority. If you were looking for a suitable job, you wouldn’t stop applying for suitable positions. What could be more important than finding a partner who compliments you and your life? So be proactive and make smart choices that will have you out meeting potential partners.

Here is a quote that says it all…

Albert Ellis
The art of love… is largely the art of persistence.

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Don’t forget to celebrate your dating progress

Don’t forget to celebrate your dating progress.

So often we have a big goal in mind. We know exactly what we want.

“I want a husband/wife who I adore and who adores me.”

Maybe they are nowhere in sight just yet. However, It’s important to remember and acknowledge the progress you have made towards your big goal.

Don’t forget to celebrate your dating progress

Don’t forget to celebrate your dating progress

Six months ago, you were newly single. Not a thing planned for the weekend, except feeling sorry for yourself. All of your friends are married or in relationships, so no  possibility of a fun night out there.
But look at you now! You’ve updated your wardrobe and hairstyle. You’re feeling much more confident. You have met some new single friends at those fitness classes you’ve joined. Maybe you’ve joined A Table for Six where you’ve had some very enjoyable evenings meeting new singles over dinner. The new friends you’ve made enjoy going out for dinner, or the movies, or to that sporting game as much as you do, so your weekends are filling up quickly now.

Don’t downplay your progress. Feelings of guilt or unworthiness can take the wind out of your sails. Charles Duhigg, author of acclaimed book The Power of Habit states: “A huge body of research has shown that small wins have enormous power, and influence disproportionate to the accomplishments of the victories themselves.”

Your confidence has grown a lot because you know there are other interesting singles who are single too.

So, track your progress. Your life is a little better every day and you are making progress. Your social life is so much better than it was six months ago.  Rather than complaining that you haven’t arrived at the big goal yet, embrace your evolution.

Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” ~Martin Luther King Jr
Encourage and acknowledge yourself this week,

A Table for SixMargaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
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