There are some attitudes that are proven to give us a higher likelihood of finding a long-term partner, or even to gain so much more enjoyment from our dinners. If we embrace these attitudes, it could very well mean that we will find a “Mr or Ms Right’ a lot sooner. The attitudes that are included in this category are:
When you meet someone with whom there is no chemistry, you adopt the attitude not to write them off straight away.
You know how to be charming, and you’re not just saving it up for the right person. You are generous and show it to everyone you meet.
You make an effort to be friendly with everyone you meet, regardless of whether they meet your expectations.
You look for the good qualities in every person you meet.
You know you can never have too many friends and you welcome new people into your life.
Attitude is everything in finding a partner
Take the pressure off yourself and commit to just having some fun along the way. It’s the type of attitude that men find very attractive – being happy, confident and not focused on whether they are marriage/partner material.
Commit to having fun, and I predict you will enjoy the process and have people standing in line to spend tine with you.
Thank you to our members who already know this. That’s what makes our A Table for Six dinners so successful.
It’s great to emphasise the positive things about being single, but having that special someone in our lives can make us feel a lot better in many ways. Family and friends are wonderful, but sometimes they just don’t fill the space that only a loving partner can fill.
Are you fantastic enough?
Having someone to share a special moment on a holiday, a sunset at the beach, to plan a special weekend away with, or to show off your cooking skills, is life at its best.
For some people it seems so easy. Do they know something you don’t? Are they a better catch than you? I doubt it, but maybe there are some skills that can be brushed up on to help you make a shift so as to become more attractive to a future partner. Meet him at our dinners here
There is only one you
Create and radiate your personal style and let it reflect exactly who you are. Wear the clothes that make you feel great and emphasise your best mental and physical attributes. Spend your time doing the things that make you feel excited and fulfilled.
Make people feel good
Everybody wants to feel loved and valued. Treating everyone you come into contact with in this way, makes you instantly attractive whether they are partner material or not. It isn’t that difficult to smile, look someone in the eye and say hi, listen to them and show an interest in what they think and how they feel.
Qualities are important
If you want to attract someone who is fit, energetic and lives a healthy lifestyle, reflect that yourself. If you want to attract a motivated, successful achiever, “radiate” that outlook on life.
Where do the people you want to attract spend their time?
If you want to meet a successful professional, then taking a golf membership at an exclusive club or attending our A Table for Six dinners is probably better than looking in personal columns.
Don’t be needy or insecure
Take a look at your behaviour and determine any issues you may have about trust. Neediness is often associated with a shortage of trust, and sometimes a fear of abandonment. If you are doubting someone’s feelings towards you or their loyalty, ask yourself why you don’t trust. Is it because of something they did, or is it because of something someone did in the past? If you really care for this person and they have earned your trust, give it to them. Meet him at our dinners here
It’s important to focus on what you would like and to take steps to accomplish it. But, someone who has a fun life doing the things that they love can be very attractive. If you don’t think that you are fantastic, there’s a good chance that others won’t either.
There’s never a better time than now to let love in
For singles, every day represents a defining point. Your life can be astounding, or just another day. Life can be rich with adventure, love and experience. Or, it can be mundane and predictable. This drastic contrast is the end result of our thoughts, and life choices. Singles who have an amazing life have worked to attain it. They have spent time developing their life in the direction they wish it to travel. They have expanded their mental and physical horizons. They have maintained an attitude of curiosity and wonder and they see the glass as half full. They have spent some time doing inner work and are consciously aware.
There’s never a better time than now to let love in
Singles may rationalise their inaction . Our inner voices may sound very reasonable when they try to talk you out of moving out of your comfort zone. Have you noticed any of these lurking in your mind? (from Let love In by Debra Bernt)
Procastinator. I’ll start dating next month, next year when I lose weight, when I fix myself, when my kids grow up.
Worrier. I’m afraid of rejection. Online dating is dangerous.
Skeptic. There is no use in trying. There is no one out there for me. I will never meet anyone.
Judgement. Men/women suck. They are not worth my time. Stay away!
Beginner. I don’t know the first thing about dating, and I am not ready to put myself out there.
When singles are lazy about improving their dating life, nothing happens. You have the ability to draw the right person to you, but this won’t happen if you don’t leave the house. Your opportunities to meet someone greatly increase when you go places that other singles frequent.
Break the cycle, there is never a better time than now to make changes in your life. Be open to new opportunities.
Find a partner who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on them, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep… wait for the one who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of their friends, who thinks you’re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much they care and how lucky they are to have you…. The one who turns to their friends and say, ‘that’s her.’ ~ Unknown
The art of love is largely the art of persistence
Do you feel like you are always dating the wrong people? I often hear from Singles who contact us that they are tired of dating the wrong people and repeating a pattern that ends in a bad relationship.
Sometimes they choose people who just aren’t available for a genuine relationship. It may be that they have not moved on from a previous relationship, or they are just not emotionally capable of a healthy relationship.
Sometimes they date people who have lied to them and falsely represented themselves. Only after dating them for a while they discover that this person has a addiction, or isn’t as financially secure as they claimed.
If you recognise that you are continually choosing the wrong people to date, then stop and think about your pattern of behaviour. Try to understand where those choices come from, recognise them, and make different choices next time.
Your friends or family may be able to help you with this process as sometimes they can see a pattern of behaviour easier than we can ourselves. You could even seek the help of a therapist.
Most importantly, if finding a loving partner is high on your list, treat it as a priority. If you were looking for a suitable job, you wouldn’t stop applying for suitable positions. What could be more important than finding a partner who compliments you and your life? So be proactive and make smart choices that will have you out meeting potential partners.
Here is a quote that says it all…
The art of love… is largely the art of persistence.
10 things that shouldn’t be repeated in relationships
We have all made mistakes in relationships. Sometimes our mistakes have a catastrophic effect on our lives. And sometimes we can see with clarity what went wrong quiet quickly.
10 things that shouldn’t be repeated in relationships
But to have successful relationships, the important thing is to recognise our destructive patterns, make different choices, and then keep our awareness focused so that we don’t go back to making bad choices.
In his book “Never Go Back”, author Dr Henry Cloud lists ten insights that will keep us from sabotaging our lives in a repeating pattern. His method is based on grace, instead of making ourselves feel guilty for past mistakes.
Dr Cloud lists these insights as things never to return to;
Return to what has worked. We should never go back to something that ended and expect different results.
Do anything that requires them to be someone they are not. We should ask ourselves questions. Does this suit me? Is this sustainable? Why am I really doing this?
Try to change another person. We can only ever change ourselves, never another person. People will learn their own lessons in their own time as part of their journey.
Believe you can please everyone. When we chase the goals of others instead of pursuing our own dreams, we are not being guided by our instinct. Whatever you do, it should come from who you are and your unique gifts and talents.
Choose short-term comfort over long-term benefit. Successful people understand that they may need to step outside their comfort zone and experience some “pain”. They understand it will give them a long-term benefit and follow through.
Trust someone or something that appears flawless. We are all attracted to perfection, exceptional or high performing people. But life and people are rarely perfect. If someone or something appears to have no flaws, proceed with caution.
Take their eyes off the big picture. There will always be days when we loose sight of our overall aims and goals. Move on and refocus. The whole story is written over weeks, months and years, not a single day.
Neglect to do due diligence. Always take the time to take a look into the background and find out the details. You owe it to yourself.
Fail to ask why they are where they find themselves. To regularly ask themselves what part they are playing in the current situations in their lives, is one of the most important characteristics of successful people. They understand they are not victims, but create their own circumstances.
Forget their inner life determines their outer success. Who we are on the inside and the beliefs we hold about ourselves largely contribute to our external circumstances.
Achievers recognise the mistakes they are making and to decide to never repeat them. Don’t worry; there are always more lessons to learn.
“Use what talents you posses. The woods would be very silent if no birds sang except those that sang best.” ~Henry Van Dyke
Tonight when you lay your head on your pillow, will you feel good about the extra overtime you did? Will you feel pleased about the getting to work a little earlier and staying later to complete those extra tasks? There are 231 days until Valentine’s day 2017. When you look back, will you feel extra happiness because you were the highest achiever in your office? OR will you wish you had made time to create more pleasure in your life? Will you wonder who could have been by your side enjoying Valentine’s day with you?
231 Days until Valentine’s Day 2017
Recently, I have been aware that for many people taking the step to join our dinner groups, or for that matter any new group of people, can be a frightening thought. People who are successful and confident in most areas of their lives can feel daunted and self conscious when it comes to taking a step to meet new friends or a partner.
Our expertise is in aiding people to get what they really want in what is the most important area of their lives. We have the vehicle and can help you with the tools to find your new set of friends or partner. The people we work with make permanent changes in their lives.
Here are some tips to help you enjoy meeting new singles.
1. Have an open mind and focus on the positive possibilities when meeting new people.Suspend your judgements and concerns and especially don’t read negative things into them or the situation. Be positive, open and notice the laughs and interesting opinions.
2. Put your focus on them and really listen to what they are saying. Notice their body language, eye contact and smiles. Don’t; get stuck on your own thoughts and concerns.
3. Everyone has an interesting story to tell. Have a curiosity about their lives and try to find their unique perspective.
4. When meeting new people, keep the conversation on positive and fun topics. Asking about dramatic, Traumatic and negative events will bring the conversation and mood down.
5. Share your good stuff too. Share a little about yourself that you particularly like too.Teach them something about yourself as well. Let them be curious about you too and share some fun and interesting information.
Here is a review written by a lady who regretted waiting so long to join in on our dinners.
Don’t let your nerves hold you back for 2 years like mine did……...
5 out of 5, reviewed on Feb 09, 2016 Margaret this is a wonderful business, its only my second dinner but for me to ‘get out’ there was nothing short of a miracle.
I must say how delighted I am to have found people in the same boat, its amazing we all think we are the odd one out and no one else is out there ……well Table for 6 surely has provided opportunities and ‘safety’. Nothing quite like it, I really did not believe there was anything that I would feel comfortable at so thank you so very much.
It took me about two years to actually work up to joining………. Laughing out loud now at hesitating.
People really are so similar with the most basic of needs to have wonderful friends and maybe find that special ‘one’.
Cannot thank you enough
We want our members to overcome their fears. Try something new and different, so you can have the results you desire. And a different result when you lay your head on your pillow in the near future.
Who will I meet at dinner? Before you attend our dinners, remind yourself that you may meet the man/woman of your dreams. But, even if you don’t, he/she may live next door to them. Or, you never know, he/she may invite you along to meet a group of their friends with lots of interesting singles. Someone at dinner may just inspire you to get involved with a hobby or interest you have been putting off for so long. They may inspire you to book that trip to Europe you have been dreaming of.
It’s important to be pro-active in going out to meet at dinner, but it’s not possible to know how a partner may appear to you. The most important thing is to remember that even if you don’t meet a partner at a particular dinner, it will lead to new, diverse, interesting experiences you would never have enjoyed and discovered if you hadn’t attended. This is who you will meet at dinner.
They are tired of Singles who lie about wanting a real, long term relationship.
They need opportunities for Singles to meet at dinner where there’s no pressure and it’s all about having fun and making new connections first.
They crave meeting people and having that feeling of “Ah, these people really get me.”
They haven’t been able to figure out where to find all the decent Singles who have dealt with their baggage and have an open heart.
They struggle to deal with Singles who just want to be able to tick off their list of requirements.
They secretly yearn to meet someone who makes the journey seem like the time is right, the place is right and the connection is definitely right.
They are looking for their new best friend.
They want to have that special connection with a partner who treats them with love and kindness, expressed through kind thoughts, loving words and kind actions.
“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”
— A.A. Milne
Do any of these resonate with you?
Are there any others you would add to our list?
Is that the sort of person you are?
Dr Wayne Dyer is a well known author and speaker in the area of self-development. In his book “10 secrets of Success” he lists 10 powerful ideas for changing your life (and mine too).
The 10 secrets are listed below. But, my favourite at the moment is number 8: Treat yourself as if you already are what you’d like to be.
If you’re single or dating and would like to be in a loving relationship, act as if you already have a loving relationship. If you focus your thoughts, visualize and feel as if this is already your reality, the universe will conspire to bring you what you believe is your reality.. The more you see yourself in a loving relationship, the more inspired you are, which sets the momentum in your favor.
In your relationship with your partner, act as if what you would like to have is already here. If you want loving interactions, clearly visualize this and expect loving interactions to take place
The Ideal Approach
In a romantic relationship, love the person enough by allowing him/her to be exactly who he/she is and what he/she chooses to be, without expecting anything and being attached to an outcome. If you can do this, you’ll find lasting love and inner peace. True love is about loving a person for who they are, not for what you think they should be.
Which secrets will you practice in your love life? Have a mind that is open to everything and attached to nothing.
Don’t die with your music still in you.
You can’t give away what you don’t have.
Give up your personal history.
You can’t solve a problem with the same mind that created it.
There are no justified resentments.
Treat yourself as if you already are what you’d like to be.
Dating goals-The 5 best questions to ask-When our members first join A Table for Six, I always ask them “What would you like to gain from your membership?”
The purpose of this question is firstly so that I can note what their goals are in regard to attending our dinners and meeting our members. But even more importantly, it gives our members the opportunity to become clear on their goals for themselves.In every area of our lives, It is important to define your goals. Would you set out on a holiday with no clear plan or destination to guide you? Most probably not. Having some goals is an important method of deciding what you want to achieve in your life, keeping yourself motivated and on track and building your self-confidence as you notice you have successfully achieved some goals.
No pressure, Just fun relaxed dinners with quality, like, minded Singles
You may want to simply expand your social circle to include three new friends this year. (That would be great, wouldn’t it?) Or a high goal may be to meet your potential life partner in six weeks.
Here are some questions you could ask yourself to help you become clear on your goals:
♥Do I want to meet single people for friendship, or focus on meeting a partner?
♥What activities do I enjoy where I could potentially meet other Singles I would enjoy meeting?
♥How much time do I have to spend sourcing potential singles before I meet them?
♥How much time do I want to spend attending events etc. meeting Singles?
♥What could I do to give myself a better chance of meet desirable Singles? Such as a new hairdo or loosing some weight.
It’s true that dating involves some luck, timing, chemistry, similar goals and values. But people fall in love everyday. So if it hasn’t happened to you yet, it means that you need to meet more people.
Life comes to you when you declare who you are and what you want!
It’s your energy that is continually letting life, the cosmic angels (and other singles) know what you want for yourself. They are continually scanning for hearts that are hungry, intense enthusiasm, a willingness to take bold risks, a brilliant shining light that shimmers with sincerity and boldness.
That’s how it works! You need to be visible, turn up and make an audacious appearance to be found!
Life is continually picking up on the signals you are sending out.
If you’d love to meet a new amazing partner, or ramp up your single social life, boldly declare it to yourself and your friends. Then, in your everyday life, be your true self. Say what you believe, contact that old friend you’ve often thought about, wear that shirt/dress, dance as though no one’s watching! Go along to that singles dinner. Do whatever it is that makes you feel authentically you and how you most want to feel. Let life (and that amazing single woman or man) know that you are here and this is exactly who you are.
Now life can find you. Instead of searching for you amidst the restraint and suppression. How can the cosmos find you amongst all the complaining, negative thoughts, unnecessary shopping, drinking and excuses?
Boldly declare you are a worthy person who deserves an extraordinary relationship and life. Then trust with certainty that the universe has recognised your valour. The cosmic angels are going to alert the universe once they notice you have claimed the life you desire. Once you boldly asked with an open heart for what you truly want. Once you speak up, all the helpful forces of the universe move into action to help you move closer to what you want.
“Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson.