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Meet at dinner? 8 good reasons

  • Who will I meet at dinner? Before you attend our dinners, remind yourself that you may meet the man/woman of your dreams. But, even if you don’t, he/she may live next door to them. Or, you never know, he/she may invite you along to meet a group of their friends with lots of interesting singles. Someone at dinner may just inspire you to get involved with a hobby or interest you have been putting off for so long. They may inspire you to book that trip to Europe you have been dreaming of.
    It’s important to be pro-active in  going out to meet at dinner, but it’s not possible to know how a partner may appear to you. The most important thing is to remember that even if you don’t meet a partner at a particular dinner, it will lead to new, diverse, interesting experiences you would never have enjoyed and discovered if you hadn’t attended.Mid age couples enjoying meal
    This is who you will meet at dinner.

    They are tired of Singles who lie about wanting a real, long term relationship.

    They need opportunities for Singles to meet at dinner where there’s no pressure and it’s all about having fun and making new connections first.

    They crave meeting people and having that feeling of “Ah, these people really get me.”

    They haven’t been able to figure out where to find all the decent Singles who have dealt with their baggage and have an open heart.

    They struggle to deal with Singles who just want to be able to tick off their list of requirements.

    They secretly yearn to meet someone who makes the journey seem like the time is right, the place is right and the connection is definitely right.

    They are looking for their new best friend.

    They want to have that special connection with a partner who treats them with love and kindness, expressed through kind thoughts, loving words and kind actions.

    “Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”
    — A.A. Milne
    Do any of these resonate with you?
    Are there any others you would add to our list?
    Is that the sort of person you are?

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    Margaret Newitt
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5 things to do that will make you happier today

Science has proven that if you do at least some of these things each day, you will feel the positive vibrations.

Find something good that happened in your life What if you hadn’t met that person who introduced you to your now best friend?  What if you hadn’t taken a chance on trying a different career? Finding the upside to past events can make you more aware of positive results in your life. Such as “If I hadn’t crashed my car, I wouldn’t have met my best friend.”

Send a thankful message Gratitude is a powerful emotion that helps us enjoy what we have. Send an email or letter to someone who has helped you in some way and you will evoke positive feelings for yourself. thank them for what they have done no matter how small it is.

Spend money on someone else They say money can’t buy happiness, but it can make our lives a lot more comfortable. spending on others makes us feel good about ourselves and makes us feel like responsible and giving people. so take a friend out for lunch or buy them a present, you’ll feel great about it.

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Get some exercise Getting some exercise is a great way to feel better, increase energy levels and reduce tension. It doesn’t have be a marathon. Just a walk around the block or to the shops will do the trick.

List 3 good things that happened today At the end of the day, spend a few minutes finding three good things that happened. They don’t have to be amazing, just as long as they made you feel better. You will go to sleep feeling better about your day and yourself.

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Margaret Newitt
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You are smarter than the celebrities & mega-wealthy

“No matter how much we have achieved in any area of our lives, true fulfilment can only be found in one thing: the emotional quality of our personal relationships. ~Tony Robbins

What do you think about that quote? It certainly rings true for me. Everyone wants to have financial security and to be able to enjoy the freedom of knowing they can have the possessions, experiences and creature comforts they desire. But have you ever noticed that plenty of people such as celebrities or the mega wealthy are among the most unhappy, screwed-up people on the planet?

And yet, so often, we forsake our personal relationships and the time and attention we could devote to making this area of lives much better. Instead, we work ridiculous hours or put our heads in the sand thinking that something will change by itself.

Here is just one of the ways you can create new or better relationships.

Have a warm and open attitude to new people.

“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”
Anais Nin

You are going to feel some nervousness and that voice in your head may tell you not to do it. But, being open to meeting new people and breaking through the inner resistance, will be much more rewarding.

Our members are amazing and awesome. They have that nervousness and resistance too. But they are proactive and know the rewards that follow when they make the effort to be friendly, open and accepting of the people they meet. That’s why it is my ultimate pleasure to be able to facilitate these experiences for them.

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Give attention and time to your relationships this week.
Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
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1300 885 311
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Would you like to meet someone who really gets you?

Do you ever feel as though you would like to meet someone who gets you? You know the feeling when you meet someone new and you really have the feeling that this person is listening and actually hearing what you are saying. You feel as though they are, if even for a moment, stepping into your shoes and experiencing your journey.

Or, would you like to meet people or a partner who appreciates what you do for them? People who acknowledge what you bring to their life? They value the time you set aside to help you move house, or even the time they happily took you out when you were feeling a little low.

Neale Donald Walsch, the author of the “Conversations with God” series of books, has this message for us: Be the source. In his “conversations”, he received this message: “I was advised by God to no longer be the Seeker, but to be the Source in the life of another of that which I had been seeking in my own life. “What flows through you, sticks to you.”

Most of us have heard the message: Do unto others, as you would have it done unto you. I think most of us interpret this as meaning that if you wish to be treated well, you should treat others well. But, Walsch interprets this to have a further meaning. “When you cause others to have the experience that you wish to have, you, too, must eventually have it.”

We have most probably read that you cannot give away that which you do not have. But it turns out that the act of giving something to another causes you to notice that you have it to give- and that you had it all along.

Walsch says that once he got this message, everything began to make sense- including the teaching that none of us is really “creating” anything, but merely noticing that is already there.

If you would like to experience a grander, more loving, more fulfilled version of yourself, this will come back to you. See the best version of another and let them know that you see it. Help them to see the grandest version of themselves by being a mirror and showing them their reflection.

Many people have listened to people who have told them they are not good enough. They have told themselves the same story and now believe it is true. If you are someone who gives others a rich experience of who they really are, you will be enriched as well.

Blessings

Margaret Newitt

www.atableforsix.com.au

1300 885 311

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What if everyone was interesting and attractive?

I received an email today from one of our lovely members. She (let’s name her Sally) has noticed how much I love to send inspiring messages to our members. My motivation in sending these messages, is that someone reading may hear something they needed to hear at that time. Something that could make a difference in their lives and their experience at our A Table for Six dinners. Sometimes, it’s just a matter of timing and being open to getting a different result.

Sally was kind enough to share with me a short UTube video called “What if everyone was interesting and attractive” by English writer and life coach John-Paul Flintoff. In Sally’s own words ” This UTube movie is a wonderful reminder, I feel, that our biases affect the experience we have of the people we meet.  Before I left home for the dinner on Saturday evening I replayed ‘What if everyone was interesting and attractive’ to help me have uppermost in my mind that, in fact, that is true – each person you meet has wonderful things to share with you that you can enjoy and learn from, if your mindset is positive and open.”

As Sally said, “You can have a great evening out and be ‘in the moment’ and fully present to each person – without necessarily leaping from that to decisions about ‘partner’. I think if people are willing to put such decisions and judgements to one side, they can enjoy your service more than if they arrive at the table out to assess everyone, don’t you think!”

Please take 15 minutes to listen to this video. Oh, and did Sally enjoy the dinner? Yes, and in fact everyone at the table has responded that they had a very enjoyable evening.

Blessings

Margaret Newitt

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What does “War” have in common with successfully dating?

What does “War” have in common with successfully dating, meeting new friends and finding a relationship?
Very little it would seem at first! But while reading “The art of war” a book written over 2000 years ago, I could not help but think of how the strategies written by Sun Tzu could be applied today to have a plan for your life.
Tzu was an ancient Chinese warrior and philosopher and his books have been studied by soldiers and warlords in Asia for many centuries. In more recent times it has also been studied by business leaders and entrepreneurs. His basic message is “To win without fighting is best.” He believed you could accomplish the most by doing the least. In other words, plan things out carefully, put things in place and there won’t be so much to worry about along the way.

The first chapter of his book is devoted to strategy. It is described as “having a plan, method or series of manoeuvres…for obtaining a specific goal or result.” History has shown that not every battle is won by the strongest opponent. A better strategy can defeat a larger army that has more men or better equipment.
To apply his wisdom in our modern world, we could translate this to mean that having a plan in place is the best strategy. One that is going to give us the best opportunity to meet the people we enjoy spending time with. Here’s the formula to meeting a loving partner.

The very next chapter in “The art of war” is called “Doing battle”. This is not to suggest you should have to go through a fight to accomplish your goal. It means you can’t stay in your room doing all that planning and designing your strategy forever and expect your plan to come to you. There comes a day when it’s time to take action.
“To be always intending to make a new and better life but never finding time to set about it is as….to put off eating and drinking and sleeping from one day to next until you’re dead.” ~Dr Robert Anthony
Planning, preparation and developing skills are important, but if you never take any action, it will all be wasted. Don’t let your inner voice talk you out of moving out of your comfort zone.Let love in!

That’s the time to remember your plan and strategies. Focus on what you are looking to achieve, know that you are on your way to your goals, and most importantly relax and enjoy yourself on your journey.
If you would like to include our dinners in your plan for success, contact me today. Did you make a resolution to date this year?

Blessings

Margaret Newitt

www.atableforsix.com.au

1300 885 311

Lic no 3338670

5 things to do that will make you happier today

Science has proven that if you do at least some of these things each day, you will feel the positive vibrations.

Find something good that happened in your life What if you hadn’t met that person who introduced you to your now best friend?  What if you hadn’t taken a chance on trying a different career? Finding the upside to past events can make you more aware of positive results in your life. Such as “If I hadn’t crashed my car, I wouldn’t have met my best friend.”

Send a thankful message Gratitude is a powerful emotion that helps us enjoy what we have. Send an email or letter to someone who has helped you in some way and you will evoke positive feelings for yourself. thank them for what they have done no matter how small it is.

Spend money on someone else They say money can’t buy happiness, but it can make our lives a lot more comfortable. spending on others makes us feel good about ourselves and makes us feel like responsible and giving people. so take a friend out for lunch or buy them a present, you’ll feel great about it.

Get some exercise Getting some exercise is a great way to feel better, increase energy levels and reduce tension. It doesn’t have be a marathon. Just a walk around the block or to the shops will do the trick.

List 3 good things that happened today At the end of the day, spend a few minutes finding three good things that happened. They don’t have to be amazing, just as long as they made you feel better. You will go to sleep feeling better about your day and yourself.

Blessings

Margaret Newitt

www.atableforsix.com.au

1300 88 53 11

 

If you manage a relationship with the inspiration to improve, appreciate, connect, or protect, it will florish.

We are continuing on with exploring  how male and females are wired differently in relation to how they react in their significant relationships. The interesting information is from a book called “Why women talk and men walk.”

The differences are present at birth with baby girls, from day one being more sensitive to isolation and lack of contact. This could have evolved as an important survival skill so that females kept in contact with their offspring and also with others in the group who could protect her. A woman could have fallen prey if left alone, so over the millennia, females developed an internal GPS that keeps them aware of closeness and distance in  all of their relationships.

When a woman feels close, she can relax, when she feels distant, she feels anxious. This heightened sensitivity to isolation makes a female react strongly to another person’s anger, withdrawal, silence, or other sign of unavailability. To be out of contact can be frightening.

Men have a hard time understanding a woman’s fear and the pain associated with it. One reason is that a woman’s fear provokes shame in a man: “You shouldn’t be afraid with me as your protector!” This is why he gets angry when she gets anxious or upset. But men also just don’t know what a woman’s fear feels like.

It is not our innate differences in fear and shame that drive us apart: it is how we manage the differences. If you manage them with criticism, defensiveness, withdrawal, or blame, your relationship will fail: it’s as simple as that. If you manage them with the inspiration to improve, appreciate, connect, or protect, your relationship will flourish. But it takes some conscious attention to overcome the force of habits that began forming very early in your life.

 

Men and women want the same closeness in a relationship-so why is it often lost?

Last week I wrote about how men and women are wired differently and how fear and shame can cause a loving close relationship to become disconnected. This interesting information is from a book called “Why women talk and men walk” by Patricia Love and Steven Stosny.

Research and clinical experiences show that men and women clearly want the same closeness and connection from a relationship. So why do many couples end up feeling like they have lost that closeness they felt early in their relationship?

The male – female disconnection is the biggest factor in the soaring divorce rate. Some 80% of divorcees say they “grew apart” – tragic and unnecessary.

Female orientated attempts are often aimed at “talking” to her man. But this is often a huge failure. Because their problem is not about “communication.” It’s about disconnection. They are disconnected because they have poor communication; they have poor communication because they are disconnected. In a new relationship, when they felt connected, they talked for hours on end. She exposed vulnerable feelings to him, he responded with protectiveness and support. She fell in love because she felt emotionally connected to him, and her belief that he would be there for her quelled all her fears.

He fell in love because he felt emotionally connected to her. She made him feel important and successful as a lover, protector and provider, which reduced any threat of feeling inadequate.

The best chance of saving a disconnected relationship is to return to this state of mutually soothing and empowering connection.

My next newsletter will talk about how to regain a deep connection and perhaps even at a deeper level.

Create your own results

I have a single friend who watches too many current affairs TV shows. She talks a lot about how it’s so difficult to meet a partner today. Even talks about how people are being conned by unscrupulous people who pretend to be something they are not and take unsuspecting single’s money.

Her whole attitude oozes, “Why even try to go out and meet a partner? It’s too hard. If I go to bars, there are only losers there. Or they end up being married.”

While I understand how she feels (we’ve all felt that way at times), it’s important to take a moment to put things into perspective.

We all create our own outcomes. And while we should be aware of what is going on in the singles world, you should put your focus on creating your own results.

Why not shift your mindset from one of “it’s too hard” and fixing what’s wrong, to one of focusing on what you really want. Decide that this is the year you create a life of supportive friends and or a loving partner.

But you can’t just talk about it. You’ve got to move your body and take action.

I invite you to turn off the TV, contact us and find out about how you can take advantage of our dinners and events to meet singles just like you.

If you contact me, I will discuss what it takes to make changes in your life, how to tame those fears that may surface along the way, and how to ensure you stay in the positive mindset. Otherwise, you may fall back into thinking it’s all too hard.