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How important is a woman to a man?

Having a successful relationship means relating to the other gender. If you are a man that means relating to women and if you are a woman that means relating to men. Male/female differences and similarities are very complicated.

Most of us don’t really have a very good understanding of why and how the other gender behave the way they do. We judge them by how our gender thinks.

How often have we girls been involved in or overheard a group of girls complaining about their men? I’m not so sure that men do this as often as we girls do. The main reason that this is such a common topic of conversation is that they feel like their behaviour doesn’t match the fairytale image they had in their head.

Speaking with so many single people who become members of a Table for Six prompted me to do some study on male/female behaviour. What I have learned is fascinating and great news for both genders.

We think that men are a certain way and their behaviour is set and always the same. But what if men were responding to women? What if what women are doing is causing a man to fall in love with them or keep a distance?

A man’s motivation (the ones we should trust) are duty, obligation and honour. If that isn’t their motivation then steer clear of them. Most women don’t know how much a man is compelled to make a woman happy. He judges himself by his ability to make a woman happy. It is more important to him than a promotion at work or any sporting achievement. The approval of his woman is better than anything for a man.

Women don’t know how much we mean to men – Our beauty, admiration, love and our willingness to let men give us pleasure. We need to let them know they made us happy. Our receptiveness to his contributions to us will make him feel valued. But our culture has changed women to concentrate on productivity because that is what is valued by society. We find it harder to be in tune with being receptive to a man’s contributions. Society has changed women to a certain extent in their ability to to receive gifts, pleasure, compliments, care and attention. Women being receptive allows men to be men.

The most attractive quality in a woman to a man is self-confidence. The more confident you are the more attractive you are to him and the more he will want to please you. You don’t need to change yourself. He will love your curves.

Notice the men who are charmed and enchanted by you. Then consciously set them up to succeed. Then relax and most importantly appreciate his efforts.

Could you do with some dating optimism?

Could you do with some dating optimism? Well the best news is that you are enough just as you are.

If you are clumsy, cheeky, uncertain, crazy, single, gorgeous, unorganised, super tidy, untidy or always late, you are unique and one of a kind. There is no one quite like you.

If you are ever dating someone who makes you feel like you are not good enough, remember that you wouldn’t want to spend time with that sort of person anyway. A life partner should make you feel like you are special just the way you are.

The best news is that once you know that for certain, others will too.

“Be yourself and I promise people will enjoy it. And if they don’t…forget them.”~Mitchell Davis

Margaret Newitt

Franchisor

www.atableforsix.com.au