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How to stay positive until Mr/Ms Right comes along

“I’ve been single for a few years now. My friends have set me up a few times. I’ve tried dating all sorts of people. I’m starting to think that my ideal partner doesn’t exist. Who would want to date me anyway?” Does this sound like you?

How to stay positive

It’s easy for people to say to you “Just stay positive and believe.” But that’s not always so easy. Especially when you’ve put yourself out there to ask someone out and they knocked you back or they decide they want to be just friends.

A good way to think about it is “Would you date yourself?”  To keep yourself going and to stay positive, list all of your best qualities. Don’t be stingy! Include everything you can possibility think of. Little children love me…..I’m a great cook……..I make people feel at ease…My ears are very cute……

List as many things as you can possibly think of. Be lavish in your praise for yourself. Once you realise what a good catch you are, you’ll become more attractive to others. Write your list and add to it every time you think of something else to add. Ask your friends to contribute as well. You’ll be surprised what they will say that you hadn’t even thought of. Keep the list somewhere you can see it everyday to remind you that anyone would be lucky to have you as a partner.

How to stay positive

You can also use this opportunity to recognise anything about yourself that could do with some tweaking. If you have some true friends who can be straight with you, they may point out some behaviour that could be holding you back in this quest. If their intentions are for your betterment, listen and take on board their comments.

It’s never about the girls or guys out there. It’s always about you and where your focus is. Be certain about your value and others will recognise it too.

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Margaret Newitt
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A new partner or friends before Christmas? 62 sleeps to go

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 62 sleeps to go

Like to meet a new partner or friends before Christmas? I know you probably don’t really want to hear that it is only 62 days to Christmas (about 5,356,800 seconds). Has another year really gone so quickly? Can it really be so close to another Christmas?

Did you make a resolution at New Year that you would meet a new partner and make some changes in your social life this year? Somehow work and other commitments always take a lot of our time. We have the best intentions to be proactive and take steps to go out and meet some new people whose company we enjoy….but didn’t quite take the steps needed to do so.

The good news is that there is still enough time to meet some wonderful new people before Christmas at our A Table for Six dinners! And there will be lots of other singles with the same intention.

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 62 sleeps to go

A new partner or friends before Christmas? 62 sleeps to go

Even if you are not quite ready for a relationship, don’t just hope and wait that something will change before Christmas. Get provactive, take charge of the situation. Come along to our dinner introductions.

It’s perfect timing to join our Spring dinners. You’ll have a great time, meet singles and make new connections. You may just even meet the one you will introduce to your family and friends on Christmas day.

Here’s what Rosie said:
“I’ve met a wonderful man
5 out of 5, reviewed on Nov 08, 2016
The concept of A Table for Six is fantastic. For me the fact I get to dine in lovely restaurants and meet new people outside my network was enough to have me join.

Before I started I was certain it was time for me to start dating but with a hectic schedule, two children and not at all interested in online dating I knew A Table for Six was for me.
Margaret is lovely and made me feel very comfortable and calmed any nerves I had about trying this new idea.
After attending four dinners, I can confidently say, I thoroughly enjoyed every dinner. It was always a respectful and fun environment, everyone was so happy to be meeting. Although we were all meeting for the first time it often felt like we were old friends coming together.
On my fourth dinner was when I met a wonderful man. I knew from the moment I met him there was something special between us. He has a far more elaborate and romantic story.
After a few weeks Margaret connected us and we went on our first date, that was in June 2016.
We are now in a healthy, happy relationship. I am with a man I feel connected to on so many levels. Truly wonderful. I’ve recommended Table of Six to many friends in fact a friend who I had recommended to before I began ATFS, met her man on the second dinner and that was two years ago, they are still going strong!
This works and it will for you too.
Thank you Margaret. I’m grateful to say I found a wonderful man and I couldn’t be happier. ”

Meet our genuine singles at our relaxed, fun dinners this week.

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A Table for Six
Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

Are you prioritising your dating life?

Are you prioritising your dating life?

What is the most important area of your life? Is your love life as important as watching your favourite show on TV or your 40-50 hour a week job? Sometimes I think it must not be. I know you’re busy and have your priorities.

Are you prioritising your Dating Life?

Are you prioritising your Dating Life?

If you were at the end of your life and looking back, would you wish you had worked more hours or would you regret not making your personal life a priority?

Any goal you set for yourself has a formula for success. Failure is never that you don’t know how to achieve the goal. It’s that you won’t take the necessary steps to make it happen.

Dating isn’t that intricate or difficult. There’s a basic formula that will lead to meeting a loving partner.

1. Choose an avenue for meeting suitable singles (find something you enjoy along the way)
2.  Ask as many questions as possible about how other singles have achieved dating success through the service.
3. Ask for  advice from the singles organisation or study up on the best dating tips and behaviour.
4. Spend some time and a little money on making the most of your appearance. (Everyone has attractive qualities. It’s a matter of drawing attention to them)
5. Know what your boundaries are that are non-negotiable.
6. Outside of your non-negotiables, be open to whom you date.
7. Be open to catching up with a potential partner a 2nd (or 3rd) time.
8. Date your potential partners and give them a real chance (Don’t dismiss them without seeing the possible gem)
9. Continue dating until you find someone who’s worthy of your love and life.
That’s it!
If you’re ready for this approach to meeting singles and finding one of the good gals/guys, click on the link to our Membership Enquiry Form and I will call you to talk about how we can help you.

“Looking back, I have this to regret, that too often when I loved, I did not say so.”
~ David Grayson

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Margaret Newitt
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Nervous about a first dinner? Keep reading!

Nervous about a first dinner? Keep reading!

Nervous about a first dinner? Keep reading!

Nervous about a first dinner? Keep reading!

There are few things as exciting as your first dinner with A Table for Six. The newness, the uncertainty, and the possibilities are huge. This could be the night you meet a prospective partner, or your new best friend. It can be enough to make even a very confident person feel a little rattled. What should you wear? What should you talk about?

Meeting face to face over a meal is a tried and tested successful way of meeting. And you know that the people you are meeting at our dinners enjoy it too. Conversation will normally flow continuously and if you run out of things to talk about, there are enough people in the group to ensure you don’t have to feel under pressure to talk all the time.

Don’t hesitate to ask questions, as long as they are not too personal. Personal questions are best left until you know someone a little better. Remember to share your experiences as well, it is a two-way game. It’s good to find something you have in common, even if it is the brand of toothpaste you use or the type of music you enjoy. It’s good to find a connection.

Topics that are always suitable are any recent movies you have viewed, the latest app you have on your iphone or places you have traveled to recently. While the weather is good to fall back on, it is a bit overused.

Wondering what to wear to our dinners? I’m sure you would like to make a good impression. It is important to dress appropriately for the venue you are attending. Wear something you really love and that makes you feel good too. Girls don’t overdue the makeup or show too much flesh (a little bit is a good thing). Guys no jeans or tee shirts. A button up shirt and dress pants make a much better impression.

Your first dinner, and every dinner after that is always exciting. Mixed with the right amount of  good attitude and realism, it will be a fabulous experience. Make you dinners more enjoyable and fun using the tips and suggestions mentioned here.

Other recent blogs you may enjoy:

My #1 Most Important Ever Dating Tip

Forgive yourself, you’re smarter now

This one very important thing we can control

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six
info@atableforsix.com.au
1300 885 311

 

Why are Singles getting hurt badly?

Why are Singles getting hurt badly?

Why are Singles getting hurt badly?

Why are Singles getting hurt badly?

There seems to be quite a number of people who don’t like the dating game anymore. Every now and again they decide they should be doing something about meeting people. They subscribe to an internet dating site again. Even though they don’t like the process and know the number of scammers, married people and players that are using it. They are not excited about it at all.

They feel frustrated and disappointed about the situation. Unfortunately, it’s a vicious circle. Anytime you feel negative and defensive, the likelihood of a positive, happy outcome is slim. Each time, they become more resigned and cynical about the process.

To have a different outcome and experience, you need to take personal responsibility to make the journey more enjoyable of yourself.

Find a different way to meet suitable singles. Go out to singles events and places where likeminded singles go and enjoy yourself. Our A Table for Six dinners will take the pressure off. Go with the mindset that you will have a great time, even if you don’t meet a possible partner.
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Be your authentic self. The way you speak, act and express yourself should be congruent with how you live your life. This will be rewarding to you. If you are always adapting yourself in an attempt to impress the people you are meeting, you will feel exhausted and unappreciated.

Here’s something else that in today’s society is mega important! The way people treat each other!

How you treat other people and the way they treat you will have a huge effect on the outcome of your happiness and relationships.

I hear a lot of stories of experiences that singles have had with online dating interactions. There are a lot of people out there treating each other poorly. Surely they don’t realise the gravity of their actions, or they would not do it…but the result is still the same.

People are getting badly hurt. This results in people loosing trust. Next time they meet someone they want to protect themselves from being hurt again. They are defensive, hold back their feelings and misinterpret the actions of others…this, in turn, hurts someone else.

It’s a cycle where men and women mistreat each other. Awareness is the key. Communication and honesty will mean that even if a relationship doesn’t work out, you will be able to move on from it without bringing hurt and mistrust with you.

Dating should be a beautiful process. Meeting and getting to know people with basic courtesy and respect.

The expectation of our A Table for Six members is that they always treat each other in a courteous, respectful manner. Fortunately, the feedback I receive is that they are also very supportive of each other…how refreshing!

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six

Ghosting in dating. Why not be kind?

Ghosting in dating. Why not be kind?

For those of you, like me, who are not familiar with it, here is a definition

Ghosting is stopping all communication after:

You have organised a first date by setting the time and place, then you hear nothing again.

You have been on a number of dates.

You have been in an exclusive relationship. Whether it be for weeks, months or years.

You have been referring to each other as girlfriend/boyfriend or similar.

You have ever had a conversation about getting engaged, getting married.

You have talked about moving in together.

You have been planning your next holiday together.

Internet dating has certainly provided a medium to reach and communicate with huge numbers of singles. Sadly, it has also created a culture of not caring or considering other singles.

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Of course there are times when you have been seeing someone and it becomes clear to you that this relationship isn’t working for you. The important thing is to treat the other person with kindness and respect.

If you don’t feel that you can speak to them face to face, at least write them a letter (old school, I know), or send them an email letting them know that you are not continuing the relationship.

Ghosting in dating. Why not be kind?

Ghosting in dating. Why not be kind?

It doesn’t need to be long winded or drawn out. It just needs to be kind.

“HI …, It was good to meet you and to get to know you, but I don’t think we are a match after all. I wish you all the best”

If you simply disappear, they will be left wondering why you disappeared. They will wonder you are ill, or even dead. It will also quite likely have a negative affect on their self confidence and opinion of women/men.

Something I don’t understand is why are people so afraid to be kind?

If you want to cool the relationship and take it back a notch, let them know and explain the way you feel.

If you want to end the relationship altogether, be upfront and let them know.

Think about this, If you don’t give them some sort of explanation, they will be consumed with trying to figure out what went wrong. That’s the way we are programmed. Not knowing what happened can drive them crazy and also cause them damage.

How about encouraging yourself and your single friends to always make sure they give a “kind goodbye”.

Remember, that if you have had someone “ghost” you, it isn’t any reflection on you and your worth. It means they didn’t have the courage to be upfront and honest in leaving the relationship.

Showing up honestly, letting others know your needs, being open to learning about their needs, is communicating authentically and honestly. Even if you are “ghosted”, you will have the satisfaction of knowing you are an amazing person to be in a relationship with.

I am sorry if you have been the victim of being “ghosted”.  The reality is that they have “ghosted” themselves. They couldn’t or wouldn’t be a kind grownup and say “Hi …, we’ve had a great time, but I am going in a different direction.”

Now there is an opening for a new beginning.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.au

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You’ve met her, now to keep her

You’ve met her, now to keep her

You’ve met a great woman that you really like and are attracted to. She is interested in you too. Now comes the challenge of keeping her for the long term.

You've met her, now to keep her

You’ve met her, now to keep her

Society today is focused on immediate gratification. It’s a throw away society. But if you want that elusive long term, stable, loving relationship, then it’s going to take some effort, dedication,  being humble and at times it’s going to be very challenging.

A lot of singles want to know how to get over being shy or anxious when talking to single women. They want to know how to feel confident and be able to have amazing conversations with women they are attracted to. They think this will be the one secret that will solve all of their dating / relationship problems.

Think of the advertisements you see “How to lose weight without trying” and “Get rich quick by buying this”. They are preying on people’s desperation who don’t want to put in any hard work.

A better question to ask would be “What steps can I take to become a person that would be attractive to the woman I want to meet and keep for the longterm? It often only occurs to them when there has been something go wrong in their relationships. They are in a bad place and it is a knee jerk reaction when it’s too late.

This type of reactive attitude is not an effective strategy for longterm happy relationships.

You may be good at meeting and having someone attracted to you in the short term. You can portray yourself as confident and having your life on track. But, soon the cracks will show. There will be a situation that brings out your insecurity and the real you will be revealed.

If it happens enough, you may very well lose the woman you care for.

For longterm healthy relationships to flourish, it requires constant effort by both parties. They prioritise each other and their love. They laugh, touch and are very connected. You know when you are with a couple who have made a commitment to each other and continue to ensure it is not only healthy and happy, but thriving.

If you would like to have a relationship like that, you need to be in it through thick and thin. Start now by checking out our upcoming dinners where you will be introduced to women who are equally invested in long term happy relationships.

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Margaret Newitt
www.atableforsix.com.auA Table for Six

Inexperience can be dangerous

Inexperience can be dangerous

To give yourself the best chance of meeting someone suitable, it’s important to meet lots of people. If you don’t put in the ground work to ensure that you meet plenty of single people, you may desperately grab onto the first person who shows interest in you. This has a high probability that you will end up with someone who isn’t right of you…(could be why the divorce rate is so high)

Inexperience can be dangerous

Inexperience can be dangerous

If you haven’t met and spent time with with a number of singles who fall into your general age group, demographic etc, you don’t have the breadth experience to evaluate them objectively.

Know your own worth and value. It’s not about finding a “someone”. It’s important that they are compatible. Each of us is an individual with our own interests, values, goals and personalities. The likelihood of the first person you meet who is interested in you, being someone who is highly compatible is pretty slim.

Would you like to meet someone who looks after themselves physically and keeps fit? Would you like to meet someone who values education and knowledge? Is financial security important to you? Do you believe that social skills, good friends, close family are important? Then the best thing to do is to make sure that you have those qualities yourself. Like attracts like. They are not going to be interested in you if you don’t have your act together.

Our A Table for Six dinners are the perfect way to be introduced to a number of people who are more likely to have your desired qualities.

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Margaret Newitt
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Stop cheating yourself of love

Stop cheating yourself of love

A year from now you may wish you had started today

Today you woke up with the desire to finally make a change in your social and dating life. You felt motivated, inspired and ready to take the first step.

You decided to take yourself out to where you could meet some likely singles for a new relationship.

Stop cheating yourself of love

Stop cheating yourself of love

Suddenly you found out that things seem a bit more complicated, confusing and unfeasible.

You start to realise that it’s going to be neither easy or fast to meet people you relate to, have the same values as you, or want the same commitment in a relationship.

Eventually, you arrive at the point when you don’t feel like “conquering your dating life” today. However, you are sure that you’ll be ready to nail it in a while. Some day soon you will sort it out. Just not today…

Sound familiar?

Committing to big goals is hard and it’s no wonder why.  Putting off decisions to take a situation in hand is a common frailty of the human condition.

We are all bad at committing to the activities that require major, effort time and talent.

When it is hard to see the finish line, our desire to take action gradually vanishes. Then, procrastination comes into play.

Embrace the truth. You can achieve anything you desire. The only thing that is stopping you are your laziness, reluctance, and the lack of discipline. And, the major obstacle is the tendency to procrastinate.

I’m sure you have a goal to meet interesting, inquiring, engaging single people.

However, just like millions of people, you decide it is too hard and put off doing anything about it. You postpone the beginning till “someday” trying to convince yourself that there will be a better time. The weather will be better. I will have finished my studies. My children will have left home.

For many people, later often means never.

There is no doubt, you might still get there one day. However, it’s going to happen much later. The secret to meeting your new friends and partner is ridiculously simple: start now.

It’s ok to be a little slow. Because being slow is better then being stagnant. Take a look back and think how much of your precious time you have wasted over the last few years by not taking some action.

Now think how much different your life could be now if you hadn’t been procrastinating, having negative thoughts, complaining to our friends and family and feeling sorry for yourself.

Stop cheating yourself now. There will never be a better time to start. The best time is now.

Here is a powerful quote by Karen Lamb.

A year from now you may wish you had started today

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If you would like some more insight into how you can meet genuine, attractive single women at our A Table for Six, call me on 1300 885 311 and I will be happy to encourage, and inspire you.

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Margaret Newitt
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1300 885 311

Why can’t my love find me?

Why can’t my love find me?

When it comes to finding a beautiful relationship, there is something that we can easily forget.

You see what you give to yourself, you can give to another and what you don’t give to yourself, you can’t give to another. The best thing you can do is to develop your relationship with yourself.

Why can't my love find me?

Why can’t my love find me?

Your thought pattern should NOT be, “Please send the perfect man or women to me,” but rather, “How can I develop myself to make me the man or woman who my life partner would quickly find and deeply love.”

The way forward is not to long for the perfect love that might come to us in the future, but rather love, respect and care for the people who are around us right now.  Everyone we meet, is special and has value. Our ability to recognise the unique qualities and gifts in everyone we meet is key to our ability to both attract and keep a more intimate partner.

One of the ways to do this is to be genuinely curious and engaged in conversation with others. To give others our attention and interest is a gift that they will feel. It is quite rare to find someone who will give their undivided attention and listen. Most people are not really listening. They are deciding what they will say as soon as the other has finished speaking.

To build loving relationships, shift the focus from what you will get out of it. Focus on giving care and attention to those around you and and how they will receive value from what you offer.

To transform your life and enjoy loving relationships, focus on empathy, careful listening, curiosity and love. These are the gifts we can offer to others and the gift we can receive in warmth and gratitude.

Offer those gifts to others and also tap into your unique talents and skills to determine how you can add value to the lives of others. Soon you will see that the more you give, the more you receive in return.

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Margaret Newitt
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